dr. marquita byrd communication studies department san jose state university [email protected]
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Dr. Marquita ByrdCommunication Studies Department
San Jose State [email protected]
What’s Love Got to Do with It?
What’s Love, but a Second Hand Emotion? Tina Turner, 1993
Human Can Respond to the Environment in Four WaysCognitive :ThinkAffective: FeelBehave: ActSpiritual: Immaterial world, Other reality, Inner Life
Emotions are often Absent from Academic DiscussionsConsidered inferior to intellectUncontrollableWeakCauses ConfusionTry to control , ignore or removeImpossible because emotions are a central
part of our psychological filters
Four Components of EmotionsPhysiological changes in autonomic systems: hormones, respiratory, cardiovascularNonverbal face, gestures, posture, movement, eyesCognitive: labelingVerbal expression: what is said
Six Factors Influencing EmotionsPersonalityCultureGender: anger, vulnerability, crying,
expression ofSocial Conventions: how to interpret, what to feel, when to
expressRisks in Self-DisclosureEmotional Contagion
Emotions Exist on a ContinuumNo good or bad emotionsContinuum from Facilitative to Debilitative Facilitative
Debilitative• All emotions can be used in facilitative or
debilitative manners Love, hate, fear, happiness
Fallacious ThinkingErroneous conclusions based upon faulty
information or logicIrrational ThinkingCause us to use emotions in negative ways
Irrational Thinking• Approval• Perfection: self and others• Catastrophic expectations• Helplessness• Control • Wrongness of difficulty• Overgeneralization• Past is inescapable• You do not matter
Rational Emotive ResponsesDoes it do harm: self or othersWhy should it changeMust you always be rightIs it within your power to change itIs it your responsibility or right to change itAre you perfect enough to cast a stoneIs it still relevant todayCan you ignore the small stuff
Guidelines for Expressing EmotionsRecognize themDifference between thinking, feeling and actingExpand emotional vocabularyShare multipleRight time, place, person, and motiveTake responsibility: use “I” language not “You” language• Mindful of how you communicate it• Take a deep breath before you start
ConclusionEmotions are integral to the human
experienceRecognition and management of them is
essential for good livingIncrease your Emotional Quotient