WholenessPrayer
(Restoration and
Discipleship)Session 4©2014, 2007, 2006 Freedom for the
Captive Ministries
Basic steps (Ҝ) in wholeness prayer:
•Recognize•Recent•Root•Receive•Renew
If our joy is stolen or if we have unhealthy thoughts or are acting in unhealthy ways, these
are signs that there is something we need to take captive and pray through.
Basic steps (Ҝ) in praying through
emotional wounds based on false beliefs :
•Recognize•Recent, root
–Feelings –Memory –False beliefs
•Receive•Renew
Key wholeness prayer paradigm shifts and
basic principles:•Hearing God speak directly to us•Helping others to grow in hearing God speak directly to them•Taking our thoughts captive and praying through any root issues
Key wholeness prayer paradigm shifts and
basic principles:•3-way prayer
God
Person Praying Person being Prayed for
Key wholeness prayer paradigm shifts and
basic principles:•God leads the process •We partner with God•Humility: ↔ (same level) not ↓ (one person higher than another)•Keep confidentiality!
Paradigms that don’t fit with wholeness prayer
principles:•Immediately offering advice•Immediately giving direction•Immediately teaching biblical principles•The usual pattern of intercessory prayer
More wholeness prayer principles:
•All followers of Christ•Feelings aren’t “stuffed”, hidden or addressed alone•Empower the person being prayed for
Basic steps for inviting God to carry unpleasant emotions
based on truth:
•Feel as much of the pain as God wants you to feel now, in His presence•Ask God to carry this burden.
Keys (Ҝ) for working through anger:
• Anger is not a root emotion• Work through the root emotion together with God. This is usually:
•Frustration•Fear•Shame and/or•Hurt.
Keys (Ҝ) regarding seeking healing from trauma:
• Pray through each event in the trauma• God carry the burden(s)• Bind and cast out all evil spirits connected with the trauma
Keys (Ҝ) regarding working through grief and loss:
• Working through grief is a process• Pray through stuck places• God wants to walk alongside the person and carry their burden• A good listener can be of great help to the process
We must forgive others from our hearts.
(Matthew 18:21-35)
Forgiving someone means releasing the offenses and the results of those offenses to God.
It doesn’t mean that what the person did was right, or that they should be trusted.
Keys (Ҝ) regarding forgiving someone:
•Bind and cast out (evil spirits)•Forgive (pray through any ”rubber
bands”)•Receive (the person)•Bless
Keys (Ҝ) regarding forgiving your parents:
• Differentiate between the person God created your parent to be (receive) and their sin (forgive)
• Pray through any negative vows• Take responsibility for your reactions• Bless
Ҝ [key] to working through negative vows:
• Pray through why chosen (root)• Ask God to nullify
Ҝ (keys) regarding feeling cursed:
• Pray through root and related issues• God break and replace with a blessing• God protect
Ҝ (keys) regarding sin issues:
•Pray through anything that contributed to the decision to sin in this way (why chosen)
• Ask God to reveal to you any unhealthy patterns presently operating in you life
• Ask God to show you what triggered this unhealthy pattern
• Ask God to show you a healthy way to get back to joy from the first negative emotion
• Ask God to show you what a healthy response would have been to the initial situation
• Understand and apply the new pattern
Highlighted steps regarding replacing unhealthy patterns with healthy patterns:
Ҝ (keys) regarding replacing unhealthy patterns:
• Identify unhealthy pattern, including ”first” emotion and trigger
• Get God’s perspective at the root(s)• Identify healthy pattern for responding to ”first” emotion
and trigger• Practice
• Identifying people who have healthy patterns– Seeing those patterns modeled– Asking questions– Talking through case studies (while
guarding confidentiality– Role-playing
Ways to learn healthy patterns include:
• Learning through books• God directly helping you create
and implement a healthy pattern
Ways to learn healthy patterns include:
Replacing unhealthy patterns with healthy patterns facilitates building healthy relationships with others–Spouses–Parents
Basic steps in working through sexual sin:•Recognize:
– Any unhealthy one-flesh bonds•Recent, root
– Break, restore, cleanse– Ask God to show you anything within
your that contributed to your decision to sin in this way. Work through these issues.
•Receive His perspective•Renew : Commit, decide, ask
Ҝ (keys) regarding working through sexual sin:
• Pray through anything that contributed to the decision to sin in this way (why chosen)
• Break, restore, cleanse• Develop healthy boundaries
(Sample prayer)
Steps in developing healthy boundaries (Overview):
(Develop healthy boundaries before you are involved in the situation.)
• Find appropriate healthy boundaries • Apply the healthy boundaries Ҝ: Find, Apply
• Find appropriate healthy boundaries:– Search God’s Word for relevant
principles– Ask mature followers of Christ who
understand your context– Ask God to help you have healthy
boundaries for your context – Submit the results of the above
interactions to God and test the potential boundaries by His Word.
•Apply the healthy boundaries– Ask God to help you.– If anything within yourself is
hindering you from applying these healthy boundaries, work through those issues.
– If someone else is hindering you from applying these healthy boundaries, seek wisdom on how to proceed.
– Share with someone. Ask to be held accountable.
• Examples– Balance of work and rest – Holiness– Knowing what is your job (and what
is someone else’s) – Holding on to what you know is true– Not following “the crowd” – Healthy interdependent
relationships
Addictions (Overview)• Explanation• A common progression• Four kinds of experiences• Three parts to address• Overcoming an addiction is a process
•Four kinds of such experience:–Creating a feeling of elation or excitement
–Relieving anxiety or some other emotional distress
–Creating a feeling of power or confidence
–Creating a feeling of connection or unity
• Three parts to address in breaking free from addictions:
– Painful underlying emotions•Family dysfunction•Personal trauma
– Chemical dependence– Pressure of society
Ҝ (keys) regarding overcoming addictions:
• Root emotions, Family patterns, Social pressure
• Mindset, Lifestyle, Root, Cloak• Process. Practice and pray through
with God until total victory is reached.
Highlighted steps for working through an addiction to pornography (overview):
• Ask God to reveal anything within yourself that contributed to your decision to sin in this way. Work through these issues.
• Ask God to show you if you’ve chosen to follow after any counterfeit desires. Work through these issues.
Highlighted steps for working through an addiction to pornography (overview):
• Work through feelings of shame • Develop a healthy, intimate relationship
with God• Develop healthy relationships with others• Build healthy patterns• Share your story with someone. Ask to be
held accountable
Ask God about your relationship with Him:
• Is there anything hindering you from having a healthy, intimate relationship with God?
• Is your relationship with God healthy and intimate?
• Do you know that God hears and answers your prayers?
• Work through any issues together with God.
Ask God about your relationships with
others:• Do you know how to have healthy
relationships with other people?• A question for males only: Do
you know how to have a healthy relationship with a woman?
Ҝ (keys) regarding overcoming sexual addictions:
• Addiction• Counterfeit desires• Shame• Relationships• Healthy patterns• Accountability
• Ask God to reveal to you significant times in your life:– When you felt blessed by your parents or other
significant family members. • Receive these blessings in the name of Jesus.
– When you felt either a curse of a lack of blessing from your parents or other significant family members. • Ask God to replace these with a blessing.
Ҝ: Receive blessings, Curses replaced with blessings
Highlighted steps regarding replacing family curses with God’s
blessings :