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Privacy Management
When and when not to say what is on your mind
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This Week
0Chapter 120 Privacy management0 Obsessive Relational Intrusions (Stalking!)
0Presenters – Friday0 Bryan0 Brooklyn0 Sarah
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Why do we value our privacy?
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CPMCommunication Privacy Management Theory
How individuals maintain privacy by setting up
boundary structures to control the risks inherent
in disclosing private information.
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Boundary Structures
0Boundary structures are based on two elements:0 Ownership: who has the right to control the information0 Permeability: rules govern who can access the information
that we own
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How do we determine what information we disclose to others?0 Culture0 Personality0 The Relationship0 Sex/Gender0 Needs/Motivation
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1 Minute Writing:
List the general topics you believe most people keep private
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0State of the Relationship0Conflict Issues0Negative Experiences / Failures0Romantic Relationship Experiences (Exes)0Sexual Experiences0Friendships and Family Members0Dangerous Behaviors (drinking, drugs)0Everyday Activities 0Money0Deep Conversations0Religion
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What happens when our privacy is violated?
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Responses to Privacy Violations
Verbal assertion: communicating in a direct and cooperative manner telling the invader not to do it again asking the invader to respect one’s privacy in the
future
Passive Aggression and Retaliation: trying to retaliate against a person through behaviors such as: making the person feel guilty getting revenge by violating their privacy
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Tempered Tolerance: outwardly accepting the privacy violation through responses such as:
grinning and bearing it acting like the incident never happened
Boundary Restructuration: adjusting public boundaries to prevent future privacy violations
putting a lock on a drawer going into another room when talking on the phone
Responses to Privacy Violations
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Get into Four Groups0Using the four responses to privacy violations, come
up with two scenarios:0 When your response may be appropriate0 When it would be in appropriate
0Act out a scene for each one.0Group A - Verbal Assertion0Group B - Passive Aggression 0Groups C - Tempered Tolerance0Group D - Boundary Restructuration
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Obsessive Relational Intrusion (ORI)
0ORI occurs when someone uses intrusive tactics to try to get closer to someone else.
0Common ORI situations involve unrequited love between:0 Friends0 Exs0 Acquaintances
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What does ORI look like?
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Obsessive Relational Intrusion
• Common Forms: • Calling and arguing, • Calling and hanging up, • Repeatedly asking for another chance, • Watching from a distance, • Making exaggerated claims of affection
• Severe Forms: • Invading one’s home,• Damaging property, • Causing physical harm
• Problem: The “Playing-Hard-To-Get” Phenomenon.
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Why do people engage in ORI?
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Four Reasons for Continued Pursuit
cultural scripts the ambiguity of communication rumination a shift in motivation
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Responses to ORI
0Passive: waiting for the pursuer to tire of you, lose interest, or give up
0Avoidant: not answering phone calls and staying away from the pursuer
0Aggressive: being mean or rude, threatening to harm the pursuer if she or he doesn’t leave you alone
0 Integrative: communicating disinterest directly, negotiating relationship rules and boundaries
0 Help Seeking: asking others for assistance in preventing ORI behavior
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Responses to ORI0Passive0Avoidant0Aggressive0 Integrative 0Help Seeking
0Which response strategy is the most effective?0Which response strategy is the least effective?