Parents in Parents in TransitionTransition
Adapted from Britt Andreatta, Ph.D.,Adapted from Britt Andreatta, Ph.D.,Peter Russell, Ph.D., and Jeanne Stanford, Ph.D.Peter Russell, Ph.D., and Jeanne Stanford, Ph.D.
University of California at Santa BarbaraUniversity of California at Santa Barbara
Presented by: Rochelle Ament, Parent Services Coordinator
Parent Program GoalsParent Program Goals Learn about the Universities Learn about the Universities
expectations and resourcesexpectations and resources Become acquainted with parent Become acquainted with parent
resourcesresources Parent Services Web site and E-NewsletterParent Services Web site and E-Newsletter Family AssociationFamily Association Family Weekend Family Weekend
Learn more about student and parent Learn more about student and parent transition transition
Support your studentSupport your student
ExpectationsExpectations
Data PrivacyData Privacy Illegal for an institution of higher education Illegal for an institution of higher education
to release private information of educational to release private information of educational records without written consent of the records without written consent of the student.student.
Develop a system of open Develop a system of open communication with your studentcommunication with your student
Authorization for Release Authorization for Release of Informationof Information Ask your studentAsk your student
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
Family Connections E-Family Connections E-NewsletterNewsletter
5 times each year; Sept., Nov., 5 times each year; Sept., Nov., Jan., March, and once in the Jan., March, and once in the summersummer
Sign-up card in Family FolderSign-up card in Family Folder
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
Family AssociationFamily Association Inaugural year! Inaugural year! Opportunity to stay Opportunity to stay
connected to student connected to student and campusand campus
All families are All families are considered members considered members and there are no fees and there are no fees or dues requiredor dues required
Sign-up card in Family Sign-up card in Family FolderFolder
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
Online Family Online Family GuidebookGuidebook
Tips for parents and Tips for parents and families regarding their families regarding their student’s academic student’s academic success, academic success, academic policies, residence hall policies, residence hall move-in, various campus move-in, various campus resources, and Mankato resources, and Mankato area lodging and area lodging and restaurant informationrestaurant information
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
October 17-19October 17-19
College ShowcasesCollege Showcases 5K Fun Run/Walk5K Fun Run/Walk Legacy BreakfastLegacy Breakfast Open Game RoomOpen Game Room Theatre and MoviesTheatre and Movies
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
Parent Services Web siteParent Services Web site
www.mnsu.edu/fye/parents
Parent Services Parent Services ResourcesResources
Parent Services CoordinatorParent Services Coordinator Available to assist families with Available to assist families with
questions, concerns, and navigating questions, concerns, and navigating MSUMSU
Rochelle AmentRochelle Ament
10 Gage Complex10 Gage Complex
(507) 389-6601(507) 389-6601
[email protected]@mnsu.edu
Students, their Parents and Students, their Parents and the College Transitionthe College Transition
Stage I: AmbivalenceStage I: Ambivalence
Stage II: Cognitive SeparationStage II: Cognitive Separation
Stage III: Emotional SeparationStage III: Emotional Separation
Stage IV: Values ClarificationStage IV: Values Clarification
Stage V: New RelationshipStage V: New Relationship
Stage I: AmbivalenceStage I: Ambivalence
Struggle to maintain relationship as Struggle to maintain relationship as it was or move toward adult-adult it was or move toward adult-adult relationshiprelationship
Inconsistent behaviorInconsistent behavior
Parents try to control behavior with Parents try to control behavior with rulesrules
Stage II: Cognitive Stage II: Cognitive SeparationSeparation
Rational and unemotional conversationsRational and unemotional conversations
Parents need to intellectually separate Parents need to intellectually separate to let goto let go
Students may be arguing excessively Students may be arguing excessively with parents to develop a sense of selfwith parents to develop a sense of self
Stage III: Emotional Stage III: Emotional SeparationSeparation
Nostalgia, loss, anger, and guilt Nostalgia, loss, anger, and guilt accompany the transitionaccompany the transition
Parents tend to be here prior to Parents tend to be here prior to the student leaving homethe student leaving home
Student typically experiences this Student typically experiences this stage after moved awaystage after moved away
Parents realize the significanceParents realize the significance Parents may question the quality Parents may question the quality
of their parenting and may offer of their parenting and may offer advice or guidanceadvice or guidance
Stage IV: Values Stage IV: Values ClarificationClarification
Student goes through this stage and parents Student goes through this stage and parents reactreact
Student explores new values, beliefs, and Student explores new values, beliefs, and experiences.experiences.
Patience is key for parentsPatience is key for parents
Student formulates new valuesStudent formulates new values
Stage V: New RelationshipStage V: New Relationship
Successfully create new adult-Successfully create new adult-adult relationshipadult relationship
Student looks to parent as mentor Student looks to parent as mentor and friendand friend