PARENTING FROM THE INSIDE-OUT“Empowering your child to create sustainable change.”
February 3, 2015
Mike Sissel
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Who is Mike Sissel?
▪ Born and raised in Albany, Oregon
▪ Attended Oregon State University
▪ Followed my wallet into business in 1994
▪ Followed my heart into education in 1998
▪ Received Masters in Education from Willamette University
▪ 10 years as a 4th/5th grade teacher
▪ Trained with Erin Gruwell (Freedom Writers) in 2006
▪ Started AZ YELP in 2008
▪ Changed business name to KaleidoEye in 2012
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KaleidoEye’s core beliefs
1. Positive, sustainable change occurs from the inside-out.
2. Leadership development is a critical component of one’s success.
3. Students learn best when they have an opportunity to “own” what they’ve learned.
4. The accumulation of knowledge is not enough. True growth occurs when students are given an opportunity to transform knowledge into wisdom.
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Your child’s SMART Car
IQ“school smarts”SAT, GPA, AIMS
gets you through schoolEQ
“self and people smarts”choices you make every
daygets you through life
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Parent Takeaway
Nurture a “growth mindset” in your child.
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What is leadership?
Reflection questions…
1. What words or thoughts come to mind when you hear the word leadership?
2. Who are leaders in your life?
Leadership myths…
1. You must be in charge of someone in order to be a leader.
2. You must be popular or vocal.3. You are either born a leader or not.
Leadership =
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Driver Zone vs. Passenger Zone
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PASSENGER ZONE
DRIVER ZONE
Bedtime What others
say about me
HomeworkPast mistakes
Thoughts FeelingsActions
Weather Teachers
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Parent Takeaway
Be a coach for your child with regard to self-awareness.
When you attempt to modify your child’s behavior, you are addressing the symptoms.
• Why did you do that?• You need to make a
better choice.• You know better than
that.
When you help your child modify their own heart, you are addressing the cause.
• What are your thoughts about that situation?
• How did that make you feel?
• It’s okay to feel that way.
OUTSIDE-IN INSIDE-OUTCONTROL EMPOWER
VS.
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Change your lens, change your life.
HEAD (thoughts)
HEART(feelings)
FEET (actions)
My
“The lens through which you view the world will greatly affect the quality of your life.”
-Mike Sissel
Circumstances
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What do you see?
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Are you sure?
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What is the right way to see things?
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The KaleidoEye lenses
Owner – I am the driver of my life and therefore take full responsibility for my current circumstances. I choose “what is”.
Curious/Creative – My imagination is my greatest gift.
Gratitude – I can be grateful in any circumstance.
Empathic – I can attempt to “see” life through his/her eyes.
iLens – Who I am is…
Powerless – I blame, complain, or make excuses about my circumstances. I give my power away.
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Parent Takeaway
Be a coach for your child with regard to self-management.
“How can I
help you get
your power
back?”
“Let’s choose a different lens.”
“It’s okay to
feel that way.”
“No one has the power to ‘rent space’ in your mind.”
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The $10 million question
Who are you?
WHAT – name, age, and material things
WHO – your values and character
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Thank You
Website: www.kaleidoeye.com
Blog: www.kaleidoeye.com/blog
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