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by Douglas Eby
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This is a widely used - and fun - image
for "self-esteem" programs. Wanting
to be a "better" version of who we are
can be inspiring - but is it helpful to
view ourselves unrealistically?
"The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life."
Psychologist Nathaniel Branden
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Comparing ourselves to others may erode how we appreciate our own qualities.
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Winning sports, art or academic awards can help boost our
self-esteem.
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But saying "Everyone will win a trophy just for entering” !
or !“The valedictorian will be chosen
by lottery” !!
and similar strategies to boost self-esteem that discount real merits and differences do not
enhance a healthy self concept.
A true Valedictorian: Bianca Phillips
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We all need a healthy self-concept, but self-esteem may be challenging
for many creative people.
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John Lennon once said: "Part of me suspects
that I’m a loser, and the other part of me thinks
I’m God Almighty."
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“You think, ‘Why would anyone want to see me again in a
movie? And I don’t know how to act anyway...’”
Meryl Streep
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Jonathan Safran Foer about his novel "Everything Is Illuminated,"
which made The New York Times best-seller list:
"I convince myself I’m fooling people or they like the book for
the wrong reasons.”
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Those fraud or impostor feelings are one form of unhealthy self-esteem. Valerie Young, Ed.D. is an
expert on it and commented: !
“Millions of people, from entrepreneurs to celebrities, have a hard time internalizing their accomplishments.”
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Valerie Young suggests steps for matching perceptions to reality, including: !
"Enjoy your successes and acknowledge praise when it comes your way." !
"Resist the impulse to deny and deflect compliments."
Learn more about her program: Overcome the Impostor Syndrome
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Kate Winslet has admitted that before going off to a movie shoot, she
sometimes thinks “I’m a fraud, and they’re going to fire me… I’m fat; I’m ugly.”
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Highly creative and talented people are, according to research on giftedness, often
susceptible to perfectionism and unreasonably high standards and expectations that can lead to exaggerated criticism, and unhealthy self-esteem.
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Tama J. Kieves, an honors grad from Harvard Law School, now author and coach, writes:
!"When I was anorexic, I'd look in the mirror, and while I was a tiny slip of a thing, I'd see a huge
woman, a woman who had blown up overnight because she'd had five french fries.
"When it comes to success, I have reverse anorexia. I look at substantial accomplishments and see thin, flimsy achievements, sure
to vanish if you blink."
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For links and more material, see related article :
Nurturing Our Self-Esteem - Part 1
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Publication by: !Douglas Eby, M.A./Psychology -
writer, researcher and online publisher on creativity and
personal growth. !
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