Download - Intimacy 2
7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 1
Evan Barker
7/23/2012
The New
Relationship
• Relationships are changing
• Texting
• Skype
• IM
• FaceTime
• Alice and Jesse
• Have a relationship and their parents do not even know
• Constantly text, and IM
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Evolution of Dating
• Men you call on women at their homes
• Women lacked space so couples would go somewhere together (dating)
• “Going Steady,” shown by matching sweaters, women wearing letter jackets, etc…
• 70’s and 80’s dating became different forms of social contact (hanging out)
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Intimacy Tools
• Three intimacy tools • Cell Phones
• Instant Messaging
• Social Media
• Skype
• These tools eliminated the strain of long-term relationships
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• Social Media plays key role in casual relationships turning into serious ones
• Social Media, less vulnerable than face-to-face communication
• Give people chance to introduce themselves to people they don’t know well
• Example • Male in Chicago stated that instead of making a phone call, he will “Facebook stalk”
to learn more
• Facebook relationship status now makes relationships official
Breaking Up
• Social Media good for starting relationship, not good for ending
• Teens interviewed acknowledged that breaking up over social media is disrespectful
• Facebook pages begin to slowly change when couples going through troubles (Ex: Michael p.134)
• Despite what teens say breakups take place online (Ex: old pictures deleted, angry status updates, removal of ex as a friend)
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Over, but not really
• Even when relationship is over usually ex’s have mutual social media friends
• Ex’s can still see status updates and messages sent
• These communications can be caring, respectful, hurtful, or angry
• The book uses Bob from Northern California as an example
• You monitor your ex, check Facebook statuses, see who’s writing on their wall, and if the relationship status changes
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Social Media
Jealousy
• Ono used Facebook to make her ex jealous
• Pictures of them removed
• Put in another person
• Flirt with other guys on Facebook
• Use an Ex’s friend to try and make Ex angry on Facebook
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Privacy from Others
• Teens agreed that communication privacy from parents is important
• Social Media can give them this
• The book uses Joan as an example
• Her and her boyfriend would talk on the phone and IM at the same time, so their parents could not hear everything
• Teens have ability to be in relationships that parents may not approve of
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Monitoring and
Boundaries
• People can monitor each other on Facebook
• Anything from • Researching potential love
interests
• Using a shared password to check one’s significant other
• Restrict significant others contact with their friends
• Check significant others wall to see who writes on it
• Example • Gabriela a 15 year old from
LA always logs into her boyfriends
• Facebook after looking at her own
• DO NOT SHARE PASSWORDS!!!
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Vulnerability
• New media increases teens vulnerability and control over emotional exposure
• This could lead to them being victimized by friends and others
• Media can also be a good thing
• Leaving a message on Facebook can be more comfortable than calling a girl and stumbling over words
• Easier to flirt digitally than in person
• Predators • What parents worry about
most • Be careful of groups you join
and individuals you talk with
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Ito, Mizuko. “Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out.” The MIT Press 2010.
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