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Human Intimacy, 10/e
Frank D. Cox
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Chapter 1
Human Intimacy in the Brave NewWorld of Family Diversity
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Chapter Outline• Building Successful Relationships• Qualities of Strong and Resilient
Families: An Overview• Can We Study Intimacy?
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Chapter Outline• Making Decisions That Lead to a
Fulfilling Life• Theoretical Approaches to Family
Study• Methods of Study• Strengthening the Family
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Defining Intimate Relationships• Being intimate means experiencing
intense intellectual, emotional, andphysical communion with another humanbeing.
• Intimate relationships give meaning tolife, and give us a sense of identity, well-being, security and of being needed.
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Family as the Origin of Intimacy• It is within families that all of us learn the
most about intimate relationships.• Our family of origin, the family in which
we were born and grew up, is the firstseat of all of our learning, and humanrelationships are the essence of thefamily.
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8 Qualities Shared by Strong,Healthy Families1. Commitment
• Family members are deeplycommitted to promoting each other’shappiness and welfare.
• Members are committed to the familyand invest much of their time andenergy to it.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families2. Appreciation
• Family members appreciate each otherand make each other feel good aboutthemselves.
• Appreciation increases a person’s goodbehavior by rewarding it, thus makingit more common, which, leads togreater appreciation from others.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families3. Good communication patterns.
§ Talking - Rumor, assumption,guesswork, and innuendo are poorcommunication techniques, while directdiscussion is a good one.
§ Listening - By good listening, familymembers show respect for each other.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families3. Good Communication Patterns
§ Fighting fairly means getting conflictout into the open. discussing theproblem, and selecting solutions thatare best for everybody.
§ Empathy may be defined as the abilityto put oneself in the other’s place.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families4. Desire to spend time together.
§ Families actively structure theirlifestyles so that they can spend timetogether.
§ Rituals and routines maintain a senseof continuity over time, linking past,present, and future through sharedtraditions and expectations.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families5. A strong value system.
• A value system allows individuals tohave a wider vision of life than personalsuccess alone and enables them toreach beyond themselves.
• Families that share a strong valuesystem experience spiritual wellness.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families6. Ability to deal with crises and stress in a
positive manner.• In a crisis, families may rely to a
greater extent on each other and thetrust they have developed in eachother.
• Confronted by a crisis, they unite todeal with it instead of being fragmentedby it.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families7. Resilience:
§ The capacity to rebound fromadversity, having become strengthenedand more resourceful.
§ An active process of endurance, self-righting, and growth in response tochallenge and crisis.
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8 Qualities Shared by AllStrong, Healthy Families8. Self-efficacy
• Self-efficacy beliefs determine howpeople feel, think, motivate themselves,and behave.
• A strong sense of self-efficacyenhances human accomplishment andpersonal well-being.
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The Study of Intimacy:Family Science
Family Science is the study ofmarriage and family combining alldisciplines that can shed light onmarriage and family functioning.
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Family Science
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Marital Status, by Race andHispanic Origin
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Decision-Making Steps1. Define what you need or want.2. Look carefully at your resources.3. Gather information on all your choices.
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Decision-Making Steps1. Identify, evaluate, and compare your
choices.2. Make your decision, develop a plan,
and get started.3. As time passes, evaluate your decision
and readjust it if necessary.
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Key Terms in Decision-Making• Intuition: the immediate understanding of
something without conscious reasoningor thinking about it.
• Common sense: practical intelligence, orordinary good sense.
• Connotative: The personal or emotionalmeaning of a word.
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Theoretical Approaches1. Exchange theory focuses on the
individual level.2. Symbolic interaction theory tends to
see the relationships between people asthe ultimate determinant of behavior.
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Theoretical Approaches1. Family development theory focuses
on the family rather than the individual.2. Systems theory focuses on
interconnectedness.
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Theoretical Approaches1. Conflict theory finds the normal state
of the family, and of general society, tobe one of conflict and change ratherthan harmony and status quo.
2. Ecological theory places emphasison adaptation and considers pressuresfrom within and without the family.
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Methods of Study• The Experiment• The Survey• The Clinical Method• Natural or Field Observation• Group versus Individual Data
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Experimental Method
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Proposals to Strengthen the Family§ A return to the structure of the traditional
nuclear family characteristic of the 1950s.§ The development of extensive government
policies (welfare).§ Reinvigorate the cultural ideals of family,
parents, and children within the changedcircumstances of our time.
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Quick Quiz
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1. The capacity to rebound fromadversity is:
a) Empathyb) Intuitionc) Self-Efficacyd) Resilience
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Answer: d• Resilience is the capacity to rebound
from adversity.
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2. Which theory focuses oninterconnectedness?
a) Systems Theoryb) Conflict Theoryc) Exchange Theoryd) Ecological Theory
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Answer: a• Systems theory focuses on
interconnectedness.
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3. The immediate understanding ofsomething without conscious reasoningor thinking about it is
a) Empathyb) Intuitionc) Self-Efficacyd) Resilience
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Answer: b• Intuition is the immediate understanding
of something without consciousreasoning or thinking about it.