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GUIDELINESFORMARRIAGECELEBRATIONS2018Version7.5.18
EXHORATIONBEFOREMARRIAGE
MyBrotherandSister:Youhavebegunpreparingtoenteruponaunion,whichismostsacredandmostserious.ItismostsacredbecauseitwasestablishedbyGodHimself.Byit,hegavetomanashareinthegreatestworkofcreation,theworkofcontinuationofthehumanrace.Andinthisway,hesanctifiedhumanloveandenabledmanandwomantohelpeachotherliveaschildrenofGod,bysharingacommonlifeunderhisfatherlycare.
BecauseGodhimselfisthusitsauthor,marriageisofitsverynatureaholyinstitution,requiringofthosewhoenterintoitacompleteandunreservedgivingofself.ButChristourLordaddedtotheholinessofmarriageanevendeepermeaningandahigherbeauty.HereferredtotheloveofmarriagetodescribehisownloveforHisChurch,thatis,forthepeopleofGodwhomheredeemedbyhisownblood.Andso,hegavetoChristiansanewvisionofwhatmarriedlifeoughttobe,alifeofself-sacrificinglovelikehisown.ItisforthisreasonthatHisapostle,St.Paul,clearlystatesthatmarriageisnowandforalltimetobeconsideredagreatmystery,intimatelyboundupwiththesupernaturalunionofChristandtheChurch,whichunionisalsotobeitspattern.
Thisunion, then, ismost serious, because itwill bind you together for life in a relationship so closeand sointimate,thatitwillprofoundlyinfluenceyourwholefuture.Thatfuture,withitshopesanddisappointments,itssuccessesanditsfailures,itspleasuresanditspains,itsjoysanditssorrows,ishiddenfromyoureyes.Youknowthattheseelementsaremingledineverylifeandaretobeexpectedinyourown.Andsonotknowingwhatisbeforeyou,youtakeeachotherforbetterorforworse,forricherorforpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeath.
Trulythen,thesewordsaremostserious.Itisabeautifultributetoyourundoubtedfaithineachother,thatrecognizingtheirfullimport,youare,nevertheless,sowillingandreadytopronouncethem.Andbecausethesewordsinvolvesuchsolemnobligations,itismostfittingthatyourestthesecurityofourweddedlifeuponthegreatprincipleofself-sacrifice.Andso,youbeginyourmarriedlifebythevoluntaryandcompletesurrenderofyourindividuallivesintheinterestofthatdeeperandwiderlifewhichyouaretohaveincommon.Henceforthyouwillbelongentirelytoeachother;youwillbeoneinmind,oneinheartandoneinaffections.Andwhateversacrificesyoumayhereafterberequiredtomaketopreservethismutuallife,alwaysmakethemgenerously.Sacrificeisusuallydifficultandirksome.Onlylovecanmakeiteasy,andperfectlovecanmakeitajoy.Wearewillingtogiveinproportionaswelove.Andwhenloveisperfect,thesacrificeiscomplete.GodsolovedthewordthathegavehisonlybegottenSon,andtheSonsolovedusthatHegaveHimselfforoursalvation.“Greaterlovethanthisnomanhath,thatamanlaydownhislifeforhisfriends.”
Nogreaterblessingcancometoyourmarriedlifethanpureconjugallove,loyalandtruetotheend.May,then,thislovewithwhichyoujoinyourhandsandheartstodayneverfail,butgrowdeeperandstrongerastheyearsgoon.Andiftrueloveandtheunselfishspiritofperfectsacrificeguideyoureveryaction,youcanexpectthegreatestmeasureofearthlyhappinessthatmaybeallottedtomaninthisvaleoftears.TherestisinthehandsofGod.
NorwillGodbewantedtoyourneeds;hewillpledgeyouthelifelongsupportofhisgracesintheHolySacrament,whichyouarenowgoingtoreceive.
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Planning for your marriage ceremony involves numerous details. These guidelines are designed to expedite thesacramental, musical and practical areas of your marriage ceremony for you, for the priest or deacon, and for themusicianswhowillbeinvolved.Pleasereviewcarefullyfortimesensitiveinformationalpurposes.
SCHEDULING
CouplesshouldcontactthePastoratleastsix(6)months(oneyearisideal)inadvanceofanyanticipateddateforthewedding.ThechurchweddingdatecanonlybesetuponmeetingwiththePastorandpayingthedepositfee.
TheDirectorofMusicandOrganistatSt.JohnNepomuceneandSt.FrancesX.Cabrinioverseesallinstrumentalandvocalmusicformarriagecelebrations.ArrangementsforaconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusicshouldbemadeaftertheinitialmeetingwiththePastorandatleasttwo(2)monthspriortothescheduledweddingdate.TheDirectorofMusicoftheparishwillapproveorappointmusiciansandmusicselectionsfortheweddingceremonywhileretaininga‘benchfee’orpaymentforservices.
PRE-CANA–SPIRITUAL,MORAL&PRACTICALPREPARATION
AllcouplesmarringintheCatholicChurcharerequiredtotakeamarriagepreparationprogram,oftenreferredtoasPre-Cana. Pre-Cana is offered in two formats: small group and private. The small group classes are held in midtownManhattan,northofthecity,oronlineviainternetvideochat.Allcouples,regardlessofwhichformattheyoptfor,musttaketheFOCCUScouplecommunicationtestandaclassinfertilitycare.
TheFOCCUStestisanexcellenttoolforhelpingcouplesmakesuretheyhavecommunicatedonalltheimportantissuesaffectingtheirrelationship. Couplestakethistestontheirowntime,andthenmeetwithafacilitatortodiscusstheirresults.Thetestcanbetakenonlineormailedtocouples.
IntheFertilityCareclass,womenaretaughthowtoobservetheirfertilitysigns.Thisgiveswomentheabilitytoidentifywhentheyarefertileand,importantly,tomonitortheirhealth.Severalclassesinfertilitycareareofferedeverymonth.It’simportantthatmenalsoattendthisclass.KnowledgeofFertilityCarehasbeenshowntofacilitategreaterintimacybetweenhusbandandwife.
ThefeeforPre-Canais$250percouple. Thisfeemaybenegotiatedwithdemonstratedneed. Formoreinformationabouttheprogram,ortoregister,pleasecontactPeterMcFaddenat646-341-088orviaemailatmcfadden@mac.com.
PAPERWORK
AllpaperworkmustbesubmittedbyhanddirectlytothePastor.Photocopiesarenotacceptable.
ThepersonresponsibleforthecompilingofmarriagepapersisthepriestoftheparishwheretheCatholicpartyorbothofthepartiesareinresident.Ifthemarriageistotakeplaceoutsidethatparish,theparishpriestwillsendthecompletedpaperstothediocesanchanceryforapprovalbeforeforwardingthefiletotheDioceseorChurchwherethemarriageistotakeplace.
PROOFOFBAPTISM–AllCatholicpartiesarerequiredtoobtainabaptismcertificatefromthechurchwheretheywerebaptized.Thismustbedatedwithinsixmonthsofthedateoftheproposedwedding. Thiscertificatewillgiveevidenceofbaptism,butiffullyannotatedwillalsogivedetailsofConfirmationandofanynotesregardingmarriagewithintheCatholicChurch.WhenyoucontactthechurchwhereyourBaptismtookplace,giveyourfullname,dateofbirthanddateofbaptism.Ifyoucannotconfirmtheexactdateofbaptism,pleaseindicatethedateascloselyaspossible.Theremaybeasmallprocessingfee.
BaptizedNon-Catholics–Newlyissued(copyisacceptable)certificateindicatingthatyouhavebeenbaptized“IntheNameoftheFatherandtheSonandoftheHolySpirit”
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PROOFOFCONFIRMATION–CatholicswhohavebeenconfirmedshouldprovideacertificateonConfirmation.Asnoted,detailsofConfirmationwillgenerallybeincludedonthenewcertificateofBaptism.Iftheyarenot,contacttheChurchwheretheConfirmationtookplaceforthecertificate.
AFFIDAVITCONCERNINGTHEFREEDOMTOMARRY–Thisisatestimonialbyaparent,closerelativeorlife-longfriendthathaveneverattemptedmarriage,CivillyorReligious,withanotherperson.TheoutlinefortheAffidavitcanbefoundonpage14ofthisdocument.PleasehaveitMAILEDorEMAILEDdirectlytothePastor.
PRE-CANACERTIFICATE–IssuedattheendofthePre-Canacourse.
DISPENSATIONS–Ifoneofthepartiesisanon-Catholicoranon-Baptizedperson,arequestmustbemadetotheArchbishoptodispensethelawthatrequiresaCatholictomarryaCatholic.TheCatholicpartywillreaffirmtheirfaithinGodandHisHolyChurchandpromisetodoeverythingintheirpowertoraiseanychildrenintheCatholicfaithbyhavingthembaptizedandteachingthemtopracticethefaithinwordanddeed.
Ifoneoftheparties is JewishtheWeddingCeremonywillmost likelytakeplaceatthereceptionvenue. ThisrequestispartoftheDispensationtomarryanon-Baptizedperson.
AProcessingFeeof$50isrequested.PleasemakethecheckpayabletoTHEARCHDIOCESEOFNEWYORK.IfyouresideinBrooklynorQueens,makethecheckpayabletoTHEARCHDIOCESEOFBROOKLYN.
PRE-MARITAL INVESTIGATION – Once you complete the Pre-Cana course and gather all paperwork, anappointmentmustbescheduledwiththePastor. Atthismeetingthisquestionnairewillbecompletedunderoath. ItofficiallyrecordsyourabilityandintentiontoenterintoaTrueCatholicMarriage.
CIVILLICENSE–AMarriageCANNOTbewitnessedwithoutaCivilLicense.Itisyourresponsibilitytoobtainthelicense.BringtheLicenseandreturnenvelopetotheChurchrehearsalandgiveittothePriestorcoordinatorBEFOREtherehearsalbegins.OncetheWeddinghastakenplaceitwillbemailedfromtheRectory.
DESTINATIONWEDDINGS–Fornon-parishionerswhowishtobemarriedinourParish,aLetterofPermissionfromthePastorofyourhomeparishgivingpermissionforyourWeddingtobewitnessedatSt.JohnNepomuceneorSt.FrancesX.CabriniisrequiredstatingthatallpreparationsfortheSacramentwillbecompletedbyhim.Ifyourpreparationsarebeingcompletedhere,yourPastorneedsonlytosendaletterindicatingthatpermissionisgrantedfortheWeddingtotakeplaceatSt.JohnNepomuceneorSt.FrancesX.Cabrini.Untilthisletterisreceived,yourdatecannotbeconfirmed.
THEMARRIAGECEREMONY
TheMarriage Ceremony in the Roman Catholic Church celebrates the Christian faith of the couple that isnourishedbytheWordofGodproclaimedintheScripturesand,fortwoCatholics,theBodyandBloodofChristsharedintheEucharist.ItcelebratesGod’sgraceatworkinthelifeofthecoupleunitingthemintheself-givinglove that Christ has called us all to have for one another. For this reason, the music, the clothing, thedecorations, and any activities that have come to be part of the ChurchWedding Ceremony are to drawattentiontoandhighlightthespiritualdimensionsoftheceremony,neverovershadowordistractfromit.
Goodtasteandmoderationarekeyprinciples.
TheChurchallowscertainculturaladaptationswithin theceremonyas longas theyare inkeepingwiththenatureandspiritof the liturgy. Suchadaptationsshouldnotbeoverpowering. Becarefulnot toduplicatesymbols thatmight have similarmeanings: for example, the lasso and the unity candle are both culturaladaptationsthatemphasizetheunionoftwopersonsintoanewlifeinChrist.
Anyonewhohasaliturgicalrole(i.e.,lectororreader)intheweddingisexpectedtohaveasenseofreverenceforthatroleandreasonablecompetenceinfulfillingit,andmustbeapracticingCatholic,apracticingChristianoramemberoftheJewishfaith.
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Photographs at awedding ceremony are very important. All effortswill bemade by the parish priests toaccommodatethephotographers’needswithinthelimitationsofwhatissacredandholy.AllphotographersandvideographersmustfollowthesetupguidelinesoftheParish.Absolutelynopicturescanbetakenfrombehindorwithinthesanctuary.
Thephotographer/videographermustmeetwiththepriestbeforetheceremony.Thechoirloftandcenteraisleareaccessibleduringpartsoftheliturgy.Bodymicrophonesareallowedforaudio/videopurposes.
IfMass iscelebratedadisclosureprovidedby theParishmustbe included in theweddingprogrambookletexplainingwhommayreceivetheHolyEucharistandunderwhatcircumstance.
VISTINGPRIEST,DEACONSORCLERGYOFOTHERDENOMINATIONS
Visitingpriestsandecumenicalclergyarewelcometotakepartintheweddingceremony.IfapriestordeaconotherthantheoneassignedtoSt.JohnandSt.Franceswouldliketopresideattheweddingceremony,thisneedstobeapprovedbythePastor.PriestsordeaconsfromoutsidetheArchdioceseofNewYorkmustprovidealetterofgoodstanding(knownascelebrant)tothePastor.MinistersofotherfaithsmustcontactthePastortodiscusstheirpossibleroleintheceremony.
TheDomesticRelationsLawoftheCityofNewYorkrequiresthatallvisitingpriestsberegisteredwiththeCityClerk’sOfficeinordertolegallyperformweddingsanywherewithintheCityofNewYork. Todownloadtheregistrationform,pleasegoto:
http://nycmarriagebureau.com/about/officiantregistrationinfo.html
MUSICFORTHECHURCH
Inplanningmusicforthechurchcelebration,pleasekeepinmindthattheliturgicalcelebrationisareligiousandsacredevent.Anymusicthatmaybeheardinthecontextofsacredliturgythroughoutthechurchyearaswellas Sunday Mass would typically be appropriate. While this places restriction on some music, there arenumerouspossibilitiesforappropriatemusic–seesuggestionsonpage11.Whatmaynotbeappropriateforthechurchceremonyismanytimesquitesuitableattheweddingreception.
St.John/St.FrancesChurchprovidesitsownprofessionalOrganistandastaffCantorforallweddingceremoniesthatadheretotheplanningguidelines.Aguestvocalist,throughauditionandwithnecessarycredentials,maysinganappropriateaccompaniedsoloduringtheceremonyorMassbyapprovaloftheDirectorofMusic.GuestinstrumentalistsarewelcometoperformlivemusicduringthePrelude(whiletheguestsarearriving),duringtheOffertory,afterCommunion,and/orduringtheRecessionaluponapprovaloftheDirectorofMusic.Theparishchoiroraprofessionalvocalensemblemayberequested(twomonthsinadvance)fortheweddingatanadditionalfeemutuallyagreeduponwiththeDirectorofMusicwhichwillsupportthevolunteermusicministry.
Under no circumstances are electric guitars, electronic keyboards or any pre-recordedmusic permitted inreligiousandsacredeventsatSt.John/St.Frances.Theorganistheonlyliturgicalkeyboardinstrumentthatmaybeusedduringtheweddingliturgy.
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DETAILSANDLOGISTICS
THECHURCHBUILDING
1. Themainaisleis66feetlong,fromthefootofthestepattheSanctuaryinthefronttothemainchurchdoorsintheback.Thereare16pewsoneithersideofthemainaisle.
2. Noconfetti,rice,birdseed,flowerpetals,etc.,maybethrownonchurchproperty.3. Theuseofawhiterunnerisprohibited.4. The responsibility fordisposingof theboxes inwhich the flowers come,aswell asall plastic
wrappers,pewbows,etc.,isthatofthefloristorthepersoninchargeofflowers.Pleaseconveythisinstruction.
5. Flowersforthechurcharetheresponsibilityofthecouple. Flowersarenotphysicallyplaceduponthealtartable.Itisappropriatetohavetwoarrangementsonthehighaltar.
6. Ifyouwishtousepewbowsorpewflowers,youmayattachthemonlybyarubberband,stringorspecialclip.Notapeistobeaffixedtothepews,asthiswouldtakethefinishoffthewood.
7. IfyouwishtouseaUnityandIndividualcandles,youoryourfloristshouldprovidethecandlesandtheirprotectiveholders.Candlesmaynotbeplacedonthealtaritself.
OFFERINGS&FEES(Established2018)
Theofferingofthemarriageceremonyfornon-parishionersis$1200.Thereducedofferingforthemarriageceremonyis$750forregisteredparishionersortheCzech/Slovakcommunity.Thesefeesincludetheofferingstothechurch,thepriest,thesacristan,server,weddingcoordinator(rehearsalandceremony),theorganistandthecantor.PleaseremitpaymenttotheParishManagerattheparish.Cashandcheckareacceptableformsofpayment.PleasemakecheckspayabletoSt.JohnNepomucene.
Anon-refundabledepositof$150isdueuponreservingyourweddingdate.
Ifyouwishtoinviteanadditionalvocalistorinstrumentalists(stringquartet,harpist,trumpeter,etc.),themusictheywillperformmustbeapprovedbytheDirectorofMusicaheadoftime.Anyadditionalagreed-uponfeeswouldbepaidbyyoudirectlytothoseadditionalmusiciansincludingtheDirectorofMusicforcontracting.IfanyofthemweretobeaccompaniedbyourOrganist,therewouldbeanadditional$50feepayabledirectlytotheOrganistforamandatoryhalf-hourrehearsalatorbeforethetimeofservice.
Allbalancesmustbepaidfour(4)weekspriortotheweddingcelebrationorbyapreviouslyagreedtermsetinwriting.
St.JohnNepomuceneoffersaprintedweddingprogram(worshipaid)uponrequestandforanadditionalfeecoveringformattingandprinting.Thesedetailsarediscussedinthein-personconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusic.
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SEQUENCEOFEVENTS
1. EmailthePastororParochialVicar.Sendinyournon-refundabledepositwiththesignedformonpage15.YourdatewillnotbereserveduntilthedeposithasbeenreceivedandapprovedbythePastor.
2. RegisterforandattendthePre-Canasessions.3. ScheduleaninitialconversationwiththePastor.4. CollectanddeliverallnecessarypaperworktoPastor.5. ScheduleameetingwiththeparishpriestinordertofilloutaPre-MaritalInvestigationFormanddiscuss
thedetailsoftheMarriageCeremony.6. Utilize theLiturgicalOutlineSheet thatcorresponds toyourceremony, foundonpage13. Youmay
choosetohaveuptotworeaders. ReadersmustbeapracticingCatholicorapracticingChristian.ApersonwhoisoftheJewishfaith,maybeinvitedtodothefirstreadingfromtheHebrewscriptures(OldTestament).Refertowww.catholicweddinghelp.comfordetailedinformationandplanningsuggestionsforallaspectsofthesacredweddingceremony.
7. Arrangea30-minuteconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusictobeattendedbytheBrideandGroomonlyinordertofinalizetheselectionoftheweddingmusic,accordingtotheguidelinesfoundonpage11,atleasttwomonthspriortotheweddingdate.
8. Catholicspreparingformarriageshouldmake itapointtocelebratetheSacramentofReconciliation(confession)sometimepriortotheweddingdate.Checktheparishbulletinforscheduleorscheduleanappointment.
WEDDINGREHEARSAL
1. Thetimefortheweddingrehearsalisarrangedbeforehandandreservedwiththepriest.2. Ontheafternoonoreveningoftheweddingrehearsal,pleasebringyourNYSMarriageLicenseandany
othernecessarypapers.
Note: There isnomusicatweddingrehearsals. AnyrehearsalbetweentheOrganistandguestvocalistsorinstrumentalists(ifany)istobescheduledatanothertimemutuallyagreeabletothem.
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PLANNINGTHEMASSorCEREMONY
LITURGICALOUTLINEFORMARRIAGEWITHNUPTIALMASS
ORDEROFPROCESSION
Suggestionsforprocessionalmusiccanbefoundonpage11
BeforeProcession–SeatingofParents
ParentsofGroom–seatedinfirstpewonright
ParentsofBride–seatedinfirstpewonleft
ProcessionofWeddingParty–whoandwhatorderisuptotheBrideandGroom
Please–nochildrenunderfour(4)yearsofage
THENUPTIALMASS
GatheringHymn(optional–seesuggestionsonpage11)
Introit–sungbycantororchoir
Gloria–sung
Openingprayer
LITURGYOFTHEWORD
NOTE:AfamilymemberorfriendmaydothereadingsONLYiftheyhavealetterfromtheirPastorstatingthattheyareanactivememberoftheMinistryofLectorsintheirhomeparish.
***DuringtheOctaveofChristmasandEaster,SundaysorMajorFeastDays,thereadingsforthosedaysMUSTbeused.Seeusccb.orgforthosereadings***
FirstReading–fromtheOldTestament(seeoptionsonpage12)
ResponsorialPsalm–sung(selectedinconsultationwiththeMusicDirector)
SecondReading–fromtheNewTestament(seeoptionsonpage12)
GospelAcclamation–sung(Alleluia–selectedinconsultationwiththeMusicDirector)
GospelReading–chosenbythepriest
Homily
RITEOFMARRIAGE
DeclarationofIntention
IntroductionandQuestions
“(Name)and(name),haveyoucomeherefreelyandwithoutreservationtogiveyourselvestoeachotherinmarriage?”
RESPONSE:Wehave.
“Willyouhonoreachotherasmanandwifefortherestofyourlives?”
RESPONSE:Wewill.
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“WillyouacceptchildrenlovinglyfromGod,andbringthemupaccordingtothelawofChristandhischurch?”
RESPONSE:Wewill.
Vows
IntheUnitedStates,couplescanchoosefromtwodifferentversionsoftheCatholicweddingvows.
VersionI
Priest(ordeacon):Sinceitisyourintentiontoenterintomarriage,joinyourrighthands,anddeclareyourconsentbeforeGodandHischurch.
Groom:I,(name),takeyou,(name),tobemywife.Ipromisetobetruetoyouingoodtimesandinbad,insicknessandinhealth.Iwillloveyouandhonoryouallthedaysofmylife.
Bride:I,(name),takeyou,(name),tobemyhusband.Ipromisetobetruetoyouingoodtimesandinbad,insicknessandinhealth.Iwillloveyouandhonoryouallthedaysofmylife.
VersionII
Groom:I,(name),takeyou,(name),formylawfulwife,tohaveandtohold,fromthisdayforward,forbetter,forworse,forricher,forpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeathdouspart.
Bride:I,(name),takeyou,(name),formylawfulhusband,tohaveandtohold,fromthisdayforward,forbetter,forworse,forricher,forpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeathdouspart.
Blessingandexchangeoftherings
PrayeroftheFaithful–sungbycantor
Priest:Inpeace,letuspraytotheLord
Response:(sungbyall)Lordhearourprayer
1. ForourHolyFather,PopeFrancis,ourBishopTimothy,andallclergyandreligious,thattheymayalwaysremainfaithfultoChristandguidetheChurchtodothesame.LetuspraytotheLord.
2. ForourPresidentandforallleaders,thattheymayalwaysworkforpeaceandthewell-beingofallpeople.LetuspraytotheLord.
3. For (name)and (name),untied in theHolyBondofMarriage, that thegraceofGodmaysustain themto licefaithfullyasonewitheachotherandwithGod.LetuspraytotheLord.
4. Forarestoreddignityandrespectofhumanlife,thatwemayalwayslookoutfortherightsofourbrothersandsisters,fromthesmallesttothegreatest.LetuspraytotheLord.
5. Forthesafetyofallthosewhoselflesslyputthemselvesindangerswaytoprotectothers.LetuspraytotheLord.6. Forallthosediscerningtheirvocation,thattheymayhearthevoiceofGodandputtheirtrustinHim.Letuspray
totheLord.7. Forallmarriedcouples,thattheymayalwaysserveeachotherwithlove,trustinginGod’sprovidence.Letuspray
totheLord.8. Forallthoseheretoday,inthanksgivingforthemandrememberingtheirpersonalneedsandprayers.Letuspray
totheLord.
Priest:OLord,ourGod,whosemightisbeyonddescription,whoseglorysurpassesallunderstanding,whosemercyiswithoutlimits,whoseloveformankindisbeyondexpression,now,OMasterinyourkindness,lookdownuponusandthisholychurch,andbestowonusanduponthoseprayingwithusyourabundantmerciesandyourbenefits.FortoYouisdueallglory,honorandworship,Father,SonandHolySpirit,nowandforever.Amen
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LITURGYOFTHEEUCHARIST
*PreparationoftheGifts–Giftbearersmaybeselectedbycouple
*Holy,Holy,Holy–sung(selectedinconsultationwithMusicDirector)
*MemorialAcclamation–sung
*TheGreatAmen–sung
*Lord’sPrayer
*LambofGod–sung
*Communion–musicduringHolyCommunionselectedinconsultationwithMusicDirector)
*PrayerafterCommunion
*NuptialBlessing
CONCLUDINGRITE
BlessedMotherofGod–PresentationofflowerstoBlessedVirgin(optional)
SolemnBlessing
Recessional–suggestionsforrecessionalmusiccanbefoundonpage11
Bride&Groom,Weddingparty,parents
*DenotespartsthatareomittediftheWeddingceremonyoccursoutsidethecontextofMass.
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PARISHSTAFFPastor DirectorofMusic
Rev.RichardD.Baker MarkPacoe
212-734-4613 212-734-4613ext.116
[email protected] [email protected]
Pre-Cana ParishSecretary
PeterMcFadden JenniferRockers
646-341-0848 212-734-4613
[email protected] [email protected]
ParochialVicar ParochialVicar
Rev.AntonioFerrer Rev.MartinKertys
212-734-4613 212-734-4613
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RECOMMEDATIONSFORWEDDINGMUSIC
PROCESSIONAL&RECESSIONALMUSIC
TrumpetVoluntary J.Clarke TrumpetTune H.Purcell VoluntaryinC H.Purcell Rondeau J.Mouret ProcesiónAlegre GaryCornell Rigaudon A.Campra Hornpipe(AllegroMaestoso) G.F.Handel Toccata(SymphonyV) C.M.Widor WeddingMarch F.MendelssohnOtherselectionsmaybeconsidereduponrequest.
NOTE:The“BridalChorus”fromLohengrinandtheWeddingMarchfromAMidsummerNight’sDreamareselectionsfromasecularoperaandballetrespectively.InthecaseoftheBridalChorus,thebrideisdeliveredtoherhusbandaschattelandnotofherfreewill.InthecaseoftheWeddingMarch,themusicisplayedatthemarriageofadonkeyandtheQueenofFairies.TheBridalChorusisnotpermittedatSt.John/St.Frances.
GATHERINGHYMN(optional–sungafterprocessional)
GodInthePlanning LoveDive,AllLovesExcelling
Joyful,JoyfulWeAdoreYou WithinYourHouse,OGod,Today
OFather,All-creating
FAVOREDVOCALSOLOS(including,butnotlimitedtothefollowing)
AveMaria Schubert/Gounod/Saint-Saëns
PanisAngelicus C.Franck
JesuJoyofMan’sDesiring J.S.Bach
LaudateDominum(PraisebetoGod) W.A.Mozart
AveVerumCorpus W.A.Mozart
NotforTonguesofAngels MichaelJoncas
InappropriateVocalSolos(including,butnotlimitedtothefollowing)
TheWeddingSong:ThereisLove BeautifulinMyEyes
TheWindBeneathMyWings Sunrise,Sunset
LoveThemefromIceCastles ThroughtheEyesofLove
AllIAskofYou(andotherselectionsfromPhantomoftheOpera)
Anyselectionfromcurrentmusicalsorpopradio.
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READINGSELECTIONS
OLDTESTAMENTREADINGS Fullreadingscanbefoundatwww.foryourmarriage.org
1. Maleandfemalehecreatedthem.(Genesis1:23-28,31)2. Thetwoofthembecomeonebody.(Genesis2:18-24)3. InhisloveforRebekah,Isaacfoundsolaceafterthedeathofhismother.(Genesis24:48-51,58-67)4. MaytheLordofheavenprosperyouboth.Mayhegrantyoumercyandpeace.(Tobit7:9-10,11-15)5. Allowustolivetogethertoahappyoldage.(Tobit8:5-7)6. ThewomanwhofearstheLordistobepraised.(Proverbs31:10-13,19-20,30-31)7. Sternasdeathislove.(SongofSongs2:8-10,14,16;8:6-7)8. LikethesunrisingintheLord’sheavens,thebeautyofavirtuouswideistheradianceofherhome.
(Sirach26:1-4,13-16)9. IwillmakeanewcovenantwiththehouseofIsraelandthehouseofJudah.(Jeremiah31:31-32a,33-
34a)
NEWTESTAMENTREADINGS Fullreadingscanbefoundatwww.foryourmarriage.org
1. WhatwillseparateusfromtheloveofChrist?(Romans8:31-35,37-39)2. Offeryourbodiesasalivingsacrifice,holyandpleasingtoGod.(Romans12:1-2,9-18[longform]or
Romans12:1-2,9-13[shortform])3. WelcomeoneanotherasChristwelcomedyou.(Romans15:1b-3a.5-7,13)4. YourbodyisatempleoftheSpirit.(1Corinthians6:13-15,17-20)5. IfIdonothavelove,Igainnothing.(1Corinthians12:31,13:8)6. Thisisagreatmystery,butIspeakinreferencetoChristandtheChurch.(Ephesians5:2,21-33[long
form]orEphesians5:2,25-32[shortform])7. TheGodofpeacewillbewithyou.(Philippians4:4-9)8. Andoveralltheseputonlove,thatis,thebondofperfection.(Colossians3:12-17)9. Letmarriagebeheldinhonorbyall.(Hebrews13:1-4a,5-6b)10. Beofonemind,sympathetic,lovingtowardoneanother.(1Peter3:1-9)11. Loveindeedandintruth.(1John3:18-24)12. Godislove.(1John4:7-12)13. BlessedarethosewhohavebeencalledtotheweddingfeastoftheLamb.(Revelation19:1,5-9)
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LITURGICALOUTLINEFORMARRIAGEWITHNUPTIALMASS Marriageof & WeekdayandDate: Time: HomeAddress: City/State/Zip Phone: E-mail:
INTRODUCTORYRITE Prelude WeddingProcessional composer: GatheringHymn(optional) Hymnal# IntroitandGloria OpeningPrayer
LITURGYOFTHEWORD OldTestamentReading: (thereaderischosenbythecouple) ResponsorialPsalm,inconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusic NewTestamentReading: (thereaderischosenbythecouple) GospelAcclamation GospelReading: Homily:Father
RITEOFMARRIAGE Exhortation ExchangeofVows&ExchangeofRings (thereaderischosenbythecouple) (Inceremonyonly,avocalselectionmaybesunghere) GeneralIntercessions:“Lord,hearourPrayer”
LITURGYOFTHEEUCHARIST *PreparationoftheGifts: composer: *EucharisticPrayer *(Holy,Holy,Holy–Christhasdied–theGreatAmen Lord’sPrayer(spoken) NuptialBlessing *BreakingoftheBread:LambofGod *Communion: composer:
CONCLUDINGRITE SolemnBlessingandDismissal WeddingRecessional: composer: _ Optional: FlowerstotheBlessedMother(AveMaria) LightingoftheUnityCandle(shortinstrumental) *-denotespartsthatareomittediftheWeddingCeremonyoccursoutsideofthecontextofMass
TOBEFILLEDOUTBYTHECOUPLEBEFOREMEETINGWITHDIRECTOROFMUSIC refertowww.catholicweddinghelp.comorTogetherforLife(fromPre-Cana)formoredetails.
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AFFIDAVITOFFREEDOMTOMARRYTOBECOMPLETEDANDRETURNEDTOST.MALACHY’SCHURCH,Attn:Pastor
I,_____________________,givewitnessfor(Bride/Groom)________________________whowillbemarriedto(Bride/Groom)________________________.
YourFullName:(Pleaseprintallinformation) Name:_______________________________________________________ FullAddress:_________________________________________________ PhoneNumbers:(H)___________________(Work)__________________
1. Whatisyourrelationshiptothepersonwhosenameappearsabove?2. _____________________________________________3. Howlonghaveyouknownthisperson?___________________4. Howwell?______________________________________5. Hasthispersonevergonethroughanytypeofmarriageceremonywithsomeoneotherthanhis/herintendedspouse?(Circle)YESorNO
6. Howmanytimes?___________Withwhom?_______________________________7. Does/dothis/thesemarriage(s)stillexist?___________________________________________________________
8. Isthispersonrelatedtotheotherpartytothisintendedmarriage?YesorNo IfYes,inwhatway? ___________________________________________________________ 9. Tothebestofyourknowledge,isthispersonenteringthismarriagefreely?YesNo10. Toyourknowledge,doesthispersonintendtoenteralifelongunion?YesNo11. Toyourknowledge,doesthispersonintendtobefaithfulforlifetohis/herpartnerinthismarriage?YesNo12. Toyourknowledgedoesthispersonintendtohavechildrenwithhis/herpartnerinthismarriage?YesNo13. ***Ifyouhaveanswered“No”toanypartabove6-9pleaseexplain._______________________________________________________ Doyouknowofanyreasonwhythispersonshouldnotbemarried?YesNo IfYes,pleaseexplain. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ WitnessSignature(Pleaseprint)______________________________(date)__________________
Pleasereturnthiscompletedandsignedformto: St.JohnNepomuceneChurch
Attn:Pastor 411East66thStreet NewYork,NY10065
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AGREEMENT (to be returned to St. John Nepomucene Church)
We, the undersigned, understand and accept all the terms and conditions
explained in these Guidelines for Marriage Celebrations. Wedding Date: / / Time: : AM/PM
Bride’s Signature:
Groom’s Signature:
Today’s Date: / / _
DEPOSIT
Enclosed is our payment of $
in the form of CASH / CHECK
