You’re Never Too Old to Die Young

In a world that tempts you to chase happiness through self-centeredness, Hayley and Michael DiMarco shoot straight with you. Living for yourself will destroy you, and the only path to real life is through death to self. Here, the DiMarcos give you the rewarding (and sometimes counterintuitive) reasons for choosing to live for Jesus as you dig deep and bury yourself in Christ.

Others Who Decided to Die Young:

“When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die.”D I E T R I C H B O N H O E F F E R

“I have now concentrated all my prayers into one, and that one prayer is this, that I may die to self, and live wholly to Him.”

C . H . S P U R G E O N

“Realize that you must lead a dying life; the more a man dies to himself, the more he begins to live unto God.”

T H O M A S À K E M P I S

“Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.”

A U G U S T I N E

“Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

J E S U S

HayleY & Michael DiMarco are the best-selling authors of a combined total of over 30 books, including God Girl, God Guy, Devotions for the God Girl, Devotions for the God Guy, and Over It. Their Nashville-based company, Hungry Planet, is focused on producing books that com-bine hard-hitting biblical truth with cutting-edge design.

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Contents

Prologue 12

Introduction: To Die Young Is to Live 16

1 Death Is the New Life 20

2 Down Is the New Up 42

3 Less Is the New More 74

4 Weak Is the New Strong 98

5 Slavery Is the New Freedom 118

6 Confession Is the New Innocence 138

7 Red Is the New White 158

About the Authors 175

Sources 177

Prologue

Lord, hast Thou declared that no man shall see Thy face and live?

Then let me die, that I may see Thee.

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here liesHAYLEY

At the moment that I died my life changed forever. It was a

slow, painful death—one that I didn’t see coming but felt

with a persistent, gnawing pain—kind of like undiagnosed

cancer. Sure I felt yucky, I was tired, worn out, and exas-

perated, but I didn’t see death coming. But when it came,

boy, did my life change. Suddenly I could see more clearly.

I could understand things I couldn’t understand before.

All my fear, worry, doubt, and even stress were all gone.

I was finally at peace, finally dead to this world and living

for Christ.

I’m not talking about my physical death here; that hasn’t

come yet, and I expect it to be even better than this, but

I’m talking about the death to self that I experienced not

long ago and can’t quit returning to. Die Young is about that

kind of death, the dying-to-self kind of death, the “living

sacrifice” that Paul wrote about to the Romans in Romans

12. This ability to deny yourself so that you don’t serve your

desires over his—this is what dying young is all about.

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michael

The majority of my life has been me living for me. Even

when I identified myself as a Christian, it was about the

social aspects of my life or the fire insurance involved. My

faith was all about keeping me alive and keeping Christ bur-

ied. It’s like Freddy Krueger or some other horror movie vil-

lain; every time you think I’m dead, my hand comes up out

of the ground to dig my way out of the grave, looking to re-

sume living my life on my terms (and usually to a grisly end).

My die young moment came when I started focusing on Je-

sus’s two great commands: love God with my all, plus love

others, even the unlovable, as much as I love myself. This

second command was masterful because Jesus knows

just how capable we are of loving ourselves and how that’s

not something that we need to be taught. Jesus didn’t say

“love yourself so you can love others.” So to die young for

me was to remove me as the center of my world and to put

God and others in my place—loving and serving them as

much, if not more, than I do myself.

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E“If I only knew then what I know now” is something every-

one who has done any degree of living can say. Why

must it take us so long to learn, so long to die? If we could

only trust God and die young, die to our lusts, our idols,

our obsessions, then we could see the fruit of that death

so much earlier and find great gain. But when we put off

the death that leads to life, we live with regret. Regret is

a sad thing; it speaks of a life of mistakes, of failures, and

of sin. But regret can be a thing of the past. It no longer

has to be your condition, because today, no matter how

old you are, you can die young. In fact, you are never too

old to die young. If you think that you are, then you’re

continuing to do what you’ve always done and assuming

somehow things are going to change. Brilliant!

God wants you to die young today. He wants you to

take up your cross and follow him. He wants you to deny

yourself, to say no to the promptings of your flesh and of

this world and yes to the promptings of his Spirit. To die

young is to do all those things. It is to give up your right

to yourself so that no one can be your master but God

himself. A life that refuses to die to self is a life that

refuses the very words of God: “Then Jesus told his dis-

ciples, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny

himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever

would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life

for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he

gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? ’”

(Matt. 16:24–26).

Introduction

To Die Young Is to Live

When God calls a man, he bids him come and die.

D I E T R I C H B O N H O E F F E R

Identification with the death of Jesus Christ means identification with Him to the death of everything that never was in Him.

O S W A L D C H A M B E R S

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To die young is to live for Christ and nothing else, to

be set free from the bondage of sin and self, and

to live a new kind of life. Those who die young are emo-

tionally bulletproof (or close to it), because they have

already died to everything in them that another person

could damage or break. In the 1800s, missionary James

Calvert left for the Fiji Islands to share Jesus with the

cannibals living there. The captain of the ship that

brought him tried to dissuade his going by saying,

“You will lose your life and the lives of those with

you if you go among such savages.” To which

Calvert replied, “We died before we came here!”1

Jim Calvert knew what it was to die young, and

because of that he could do what other men were too

afraid to do. His confidence was built on the fact that he

had already given his life away, so no one else could

harm him. His life, and the lives of those like him, are a

shining example of the beauty of the death and burial

of self.

When you die young, you give all of your needs,

fears, worries, wants, hopes, dreams, and failures over to

the One who can handle them. And you learn now, while

your youth is fresh and your days are bright (if you’ve got

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nany days left at all), to start living like you mean it—to live

out of the center of your faith, giving up your rights and

your demands so that his will is all you see. When you

live a life bent on dying to yourself and living for the

Father, you live a life of purpose and passion, a life of

hope and peace, and nothing can ever shake you or break

you that isn’t the very hand of God himself molding you

and shaping you into his own precious image.

When you die young you bury yourself fully in Christ.

It’s the stuff of horror movies to be buried alive—scratch-

ing and clawing at the casket lid, gasping for air. “Buried”

and “alive” do not go well together. The only good buried

person is a dead one. So when we speak of burying your-

self in Christ, we are talking about your “self” death. To

remain fully devoted to your self-interests, your self-

respect, your self-importance, and your selfishness is to

remain alive in yourself and to serve yourself. But when

you die young, you are able to bury yourself and live

in Christ.

Think about it like this: When a man buries himself in

his work, he puts all his energy into it and has little left

for anything else. People bury themselves in things they

hope will save them, but the only one who can truly be

saved is the one who is buried in Christ. That is the gos-

pel—the saving truth that Christ’s love was so compel-

ling, so complete that he would give his own life for yours

that you might have eternal life with him.

God wants you to die young. He wants you to die

today to those things that promise to set you free but

really keep you in bondage. He wants you to die to that

obsessive need to please yourself, to comfort yourself,

and to enjoy yourself so that you can live only to please

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Nhim. The idea of dying young is not an easy one. In fact,

when the world thinks of dying young, they think of trag-

edy, of a life that was cut too short—and they are right.

But dying young isn’t about ending your physical life but

rather your self-life, and in that process discovering a

more real life than you had ever imagined. Jesus prom-

ises an abundant life to all who turn from themselves and

bury themselves in him (John 10:10). And that can be

yours today if only you are willing to die young.

So as you work your way through this book, consider

the idea that the life of faith is going to change you—

because that’s what it must do. Many have said it, and let

us join the crowd, “If God isn’t changing you, then he

hasn’t saved you.” Let God start changing you today.

Don’t let the status quo be acceptable to you; want more

of what Jesus has to give, and let your life change today

so that you may die young and live your life for Jesus.

You’re Never Too Old to Die Young

In a world that tempts you to chase happiness through self-centeredness, Hayley and Michael DiMarco shoot straight with you. Living for yourself will destroy you, and the only path to real life is through death to self. Here, the DiMarcos give you the rewarding (and sometimes counterintuitive) reasons for choosing to live for Jesus as you dig deep and bury yourself in Christ.

Others Who Decided to Die Young:

“When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die.”D I E T R I C H B O N H O E F F E R

“I have now concentrated all my prayers into one, and that one prayer is this, that I may die to self, and live wholly to Him.”

C . H . S P U R G E O N

“Realize that you must lead a dying life; the more a man dies to himself, the more he begins to live unto God.”

T H O M A S À K E M P I S

“Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.”

A U G U S T I N E

“Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

J E S U S

HayleY & Michael DiMarco are the best-selling authors of a combined total of over 30 books, including God Girl, God Guy, Devotions for the God Girl, Devotions for the God Guy, and Over It. Their Nashville-based company, Hungry Planet, is focused on producing books that com-bine hard-hitting biblical truth with cutting-edge design.

Die

Yo

un

gH

ay

leY

& M

ich

ae

l DiM

ar

co

CHRISTIAN LIVING