dealing with: challenging coworker or student situations
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Dealing with: CHALLENGING COWORKER OR STUDENT SITUATIONS. Sandra Rhoten Associate Dean of Students Judicial Affairs. “Without difficulties, life would be like a stream without rocks and curves – about as interesting as concrete.”. Benjamin Hoff: The Te of Piglet. Overview of Session. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Sandra RhotenAssociate Dean of Students
Judicial Affairs
Dealing with:
CHALLENGING COWORKER OR STUDENT SITUATIONS
“Without difficulties, life would be like a stream without rocks and curves – about as interesting as concrete.”
Benjamin Hoff: The Te of Piglet
Overview of Session
Overview of Issues
• Who is a difficult person?
• How do you feel when you encounter a difficult
person?
POLL:What would you do if you had
to deal with a difficult person?
Fight ‘em
Charm ‘em
Forget ‘em
rob you of your dignity
destroy your self confidence
increase your stress levels
destroy your moraleerode your self esteem
foster negativitydecrease productivitymake life hellish
Difficult people can:
Brainstorm examples of situations in work setting
Understanding more about
anger
Managing your own anger
Dealing with other people’s
anger
Managing Anger
Listen to them without defensivenessTry to restate the issue from your point-of-
viewExplain your point-of-view with care – make
it easy for them to understand you. This is the skill of assertion: being able to express your point-of- view without alienating them. Use “I” statements instead of “You” statements
Don’t rushDon’t be a difficult person for them
Handling a difficult person:angry / upset
Difficult People
BULLS come out charging, always on the offensive, may believe others to be inferior
OSTRICHES bury their heads in the sand, trying to avoid problems rather than deal with them
HYENAS create a negative atmosphere by being sarcastic and casting doubt on everything
DISCUSSION
DISCUSSION
DISCUSSION
Group discussion on effective
strategies for responding to difficult people
Set standards / clarify expectations / notify students
Develop office protocol for dealing with issues
Establish consequences including conditions under which a student would be asked to leave the office
Train staff
Strategies for preventingdifficult behavior in an office
setting
Early interventionProgressiveConsistentConsult with supervisorMeet with studentWhen appropriate, report student to Judicial Affairs
When appropriate, report student to University Police
Strategies for respondingto difficult behavior
Meeting with the difficult studenta.Remain calmb.Be specific about the inappropriate behavior the student has exhibited. Describe the behavior, don’t focus on the person. Explain why the behavior is a problem.c.Ask questions and summarized.Conclude by summarizing any resolution and articulating
expectations for the future. Be clear that continued inappropriate behavior may result in a referral to the
Dean of Students Office, Judicial Affairs for disciplinary action and possible loss of the opportunity to attend the lab.e.Maintain written documentation of the interactionf.Terminate the conversation if it becomes apparent that the
student is unwilling or unable to listen to your concerns and requests.These recommendations are based on the expectation that students can and will be reasonable if they have adequate information, clearly understand parameters, and are treated with respect. The expectation is that students can change their behavior. However, if they demonstrate unwillingness or inability to change, then additional interventions, including removal from the office, may be necessary.
University Resources University Police
Emergency 911 Non-emergency 2515
Counseling and 3040 Psychological Services
Dean of Students Office 3211 Judicial Affairs 4436
Consultations Disciplinary process Sanctions Record
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