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Conversations with Rebecca Quave

Compiled by Norah Hudson

Introduction ............................................................................................... 1

Chapter 1: Meet Rebecca Quave ............................................................... 4

Chapter 2: Tips For Maximum Benefit And Experience .......................... 8

Chapter 3: Guided Meditation Introduction (Part 1 Of 3) ...................... 13

Chapter 4: How To Recognize When We Are In Rejection ................... 16

Chapter 5: Are You Rejecting Your Magnificence? ............................... 24

Chapter 6: Guided Meditation – (Part 2 Of 3) ........................................ 31

Chapter 7: How To Identify Habitual Rejection ..................................... 34

Chapter 8: Guided Meditation – (Part 3 Of 3) ........................................ 44

Chapter 9: Some Last Questions Answered ............................................ 49

Chapter 10: Guided Meditation – (Complete Transcript) Embrace Your

Wholeness ............................................................................................... 60

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A Special Note About How This Book Was Created

Dear Reader,

Thank you for choosing “Embrace Your Wholeness – A Journey

From Rejection to Acceptance”.

This book is for those who desire to experience the beauty of

harmonious resolutions in the midst of seeming impossibilities.

It is a combination of guided meditation with chapters of

Questions & Answers. And here is how it all came about….

I once heard a speaker say, “It is difficult to get rid of hatred”.

“Is this true”? I wondered.

For me, the answer came during a guided meditation led by

Rebecca Quave during a group teleconference call.

Realizing this was my answer, I frantically scribbled notes as

Rebecca spoke. From these notes, I started removing different

hatreds from my life.

I would take my notes, and go for a solitary walk. It became a

game - remove as many “hatreds” as I could in a 30 minute walk.

My life changed easily as I effortlessly made the inner

transformations.

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I later got a copy of the transcript of the call and realized I was

not even, as they say, “scratching the surface” of my hatreds.

After reading the transcript, my subconscious started unloading

“hatreds” I had never even heard of or seen. At times I felt extreme

anxiety, but the results were so “cool”, I just kept at it, until after

several months, my life became quieter.

Somewhere along the way, I realized Rebecca was not even

talking about “hatreds”. She focused on things we “reject”. That

subtle change set me off looking for things I “rejected” in my life.

Soon I was naturally turning to the meditation each time I

encountered a rejection, a hatred, or a seemingly impossibility

(because I saw these were connected to the first two)…

And each and every time I saw the beauty of harmonious

resolution…

(as Rebecca would say)…“more than I even thought was

possible.”

I contacted Rebecca; asking for permission to put this into e-book

form so others could enjoy the journey as well. She agreed, and

offered several valuable bonuses, including in-depth question and

answer sessions.

When I transcribed our conversations, I designed the book to

read as a conversation rather than a traditional “book” that

talks “at” you.

Rebecca and I would like you to feel as though you are in the

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room with us, as though we are talking “with” you, much like close

friends.

Insert yourself in the place of me, Norah, while you move

through the meditation and let yourself have conversation with

Rebecca.

Tip: in the work are “…” These indicate Rebecca pausing to give

the listener time to do the work. Give yourself time to work through

whatever is happening as you read.

This book is not meant as a quick read, it is rather a relaxing stroll

through your life’s experiences.

The meditation is divided into three sections. In between each

section, is a Question & Answer session to give you even more

background and guidance for a deeper understanding of the

exercises - a sort of “behind the scenes”, so to speak.

In Chapter 10 is the complete transcript of the mediation for you

to use over and over again.

So relax. Grab a pen or pencil and some paper to journal your

experiences.

And get ready to take your wholeness to the next level. To

experience the beauty and magnificence of who you are…

Sincerely,

Norah Hudson

https://www.facebook.com/NorahPHudson/

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Rebecca Quave is a vibrant, intuitive, spiritual teacher;

energetically supporting people throughout the world in

rediscovering the love they already are.

As a catalyst of personal transformation, she guides and supports

you in unraveling exactly what’s in the way of embodying and

expressing the expansive love and unlimited potential you truly

are. Her natural gift of activating you to your highest truth creates

profound shifts quickly and easily.

You can visit Rebecca at www.RebeccaQuave.com

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“Rebecca’s work is profoundly and powerfully transformative and

is unlike others because hers is rooted in limitless boundless love.

Other teachers want and need identity and that’s perfectly fine, but

I love that she yields to love over personal identity for your own

boundless growth and joy and that of others, and you can quote me

on that. I’d have to have daily therapy for 1000 years to uncover and

unravel the things I have uncovered and unraveled so quickly while

working with Rebecca. Even then, even if I had a thousand years

my mind couldn’t have seen what my awareness knows. That old

sadness is now restored to Love and the clarity that I am whole is

restored as well. I love this so much! ”

- Kathleen M., Tucson Az.

"My prior 40 years of seeking pale in comparison to the true

understanding I have relaxed into after working with Rebecca.

In previous studies, love was mentioned and even emphasized,

but was never transmitted in its fullness the way that I have

experienced with her."

- B.D., NY

“Rebecca’s work transforms everything for me now. I was

intense seeker for truth for last 7 years, but there always was feeling

like all this seeking is like job, a constant battle. I tried tons of

techniques (I think more than 23 different ones). And this is

miraculous! Now I feel tons of love coming out of me and

everything just transforms inside of me without doing and

everything is just like play. Can't wait to continue in the next series!”

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- Dainius, Lithuania

"Rebecca offers the highest truth in the most accessible way. She

always keeps things light, easy, and real. While working with her,

it feels to me like a bridge is built between my highest understanding

and my current perception. This has allowed me to deepen my

experience of a peace and love beyond description, while at the same

time witnessing changes in my life that I could have previously only

wished for. To name just a few: a far greater natural appreciation of

myself, smoother and happier relationships, feeling at home in my

body and life, and generally living a life that is punctuated by

miracles, rather than blanketed by a nondescript "stuckness" that I

had felt before working with her."

- L.R.

"I describe Rebecca's work as (truly) integrating the mind, body

and spirit. About six weeks in, I said to her “wow, I forgot to worry.”

My seemingly natural set-point of worry and disapproval was

disappearing! Her work is gentle, thoughtful, methodical – and the

most profound that I have found."

- Jan, CA

"Rebecca creates such a safe space within which to 'emerge'. She

has no judgment. Things that looked to me like 'the end of my world'

she was able to put into the perspective of love, and 'poof' it was

suddenly a non-issue! I was truly blessed to have had her as a

mentor. Thanks Rebecca!" - Jenny La Fontaine, Intuitive

Messenger

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Additional experiences can be found at:

https://www.rebeccaquave.com/what-others-say.html

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Norah: I find it helpful to remind myself of some of Rebecca’s tips

by having my notes about them in one place for easy reference.

Tip 1: Read with Curiosity and Courage

Have curiosity to peek into the inner workings of your life. Just to

see what is there.

Have courage because often as you read, emotions and feelings

may come up in your awareness. Rebecca is specifically wording

the exercise to help you open the door to these emotions, feelings

and thoughts, so it is possible that they will come rushing at you. It

may feel as if you will suffocate. If these become intense, take a

deep breath.

Stay with the process, and allow these emotions, feelings and

thoughts to flow through you and around you. Realize they are all

wishing to harmonize into the infinite love you really are.

Stay with it until the peace starts to reveal itself.

One of my “aha” moments came when I just allowed myself to

feel all these emotions, feelings and thoughts swirling around me. I

had not previously realized how much was going on in my

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subconscious. I never before looked at what my relatives, society

and our education process told me I must keep hidden in order to

succeed.

Realize once the subconscious starts to unload, it likes to really

unload. So you may feel more emotional, more anxiety, more fearful

than you ever had in your life, before it all harmonizes.

Allow yourself the freedom… while Rebecca holds the space for

you (even through this book)…to let them flow through you, out of

you and into infinite Love.

Tip 2: Take Deep Breaths Often

I mentioned this in the previous tip, but we cannot remind

ourselves enough…to take a deep breath. Especially when it seems

it is about to be overwhelming.

Learn to breathe deeply during your day. It attracts awareness.

Plus brings courage as its companion.

Tip 3: Drink Plenty Of Water

Although the exercise may seem easy, you are actually going

through plenty of areas of previous “stuffed under the rug”

experiences. Keep yourself hydrated so your body is flexible to

make the journeys needed.

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Tip 4: Use This Time to Enjoy Your Emotions

We tend to disapprove of certain emotions. Yet there will come

tears, anger, fear and any other type of negative or positive emotion.

Throughout the book, Rebecca talks about what to do with this out

flow of emotions. Just know it is okay to have them. Let them pass

through, so other emotions can come.

Nice, if you can be an observer sitting in the grandstands,

watching your emotions parade by. You can then see the emotions

tied to each other. And you can see them happily filing by, waving

at you, and leaving to reunite with the infinite love you are.

Or just sit in quiet and feel them come into peace with each other.

Whatever works for you.

(Rebecca talks about this “reuniting”. It may take a while for you

to allow yourself to be this relaxed to enjoy. Just go at your own

pace. I started out as a driver, who whipped herself into shape. At

the beginning, I only allowed certain feelings, emotions and

thoughts out. Only those which did not look “too” bad. Once I got

in touch with the resulting freedom, I allowed more of all this to

flow.)

Tip 5: Let the Love and Laughter Bubble Up

One of the results of this work is you start to see life from a

different perspective.

As a result, a flow of love or laughter or both can flow through

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you.

Let that love bubble through you. Over you and around you.

Letting some of the armor surrounding you, dissolve.

Tip 6: Give Everything As Much Space As It Needs

Stay with it until it unfolds before you. For maximum experience,

give yourself time in a quiet space, with a glass of water, to read and

enjoy fully.

Allow everything to come to its full intensity. We are here to

observe and experience everything.

If it gets too intense, find a friend to “hold the space” for you, as

you explore. Or reach out for many free resources provided by

Rebecca at www.RebeccaQuave.com

Tip 7: Realize Everything Can Naturally Be Brought Into

Resolution

This is so freeing. Rebecca shows it is actually easy to bring

things into resolution.

We love to make things difficult. Plus we have been trained from

infancy, that some things are “just impossible” to be resolved and

we must learn to live with them.

It is our choice to believe that or not.

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I would rather enjoy the beauty of seeing harmonious resolution

in the midst of seeming impossibility.

And lastly…

Tip 8: Be Open To Everything Available To You…Even

All You Could Not Think To Ask

Enjoy exploring your infinite self with Rebecca Quave.

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(Transcribed from Embrace Your Wholeness Guided Live Call)

What Part Of Our Wholeness Is Often Overlooked?

“How willing are you to sit with yourself in Love?

With no rules, no labels, no tradition or hierarchy to

follow?

Would that be too simple?

Do you fear the answers you would find?

(the same ones you claim to endlessly seek)”

Rebecca Quave

Rebecca:

Welcome everyone. I’m so glad you're here.

Even on just a single call like this, there’s always what our starting

point is and then where we end up going.

Our starting point is something really important that I think often

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gets overlooked; which is the fact that to whatever extent you have

internal rejection going on, to that extent, it’s indiscriminate.

What happens is people can get very into rejecting things…

you can get into rejecting the things you think are wrong about

yourself;

…or you think need to be a different way

…or where it gets tricky, is in all the places you think you are

somehow less than or inadequate.

The reason this gets tricky is it then goes both ways.

Let's just start with inadequate.

While you are rejecting your being inadequate, the opposite is

also being rejected.

You are rejecting that inadequacy and working so hard to change

and improve things - to prove the opposite.

When meanwhile, everything which is the opposite of what you

consider to be your inadequacy, now also doesn't have the space to

come through.

And that's being rejected as well.

Now the bottom line is, every part of you is either being rejected

or embraced… rejected or integrated.

This includes all the things you think. (Because the judgements

you have on it are limited in some way).

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And it includes everything that’s beyond what you ever could

have wished to try to be.

With that as our starting point, let’s begin.

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(Transcribed from a Conversation with Rebecca)

Norah: I am not sure I realize when I am rejecting things. What do

you suggest?

Rebecca: It is very important to have a willingness to be really open

and curious with yourself, a willingness to start to recognize things

that serve as a protection mechanism for yourself, that you've

numbed yourself to.

Most people are walking around with just an immense amount of

rejection of themselves for so many reasons and even carrying a

tremendous amount of completely non-specific guilt; just so they

can get through their day.

You tend to be unaware of all that.

So really, the first step is, be willing to sit down with yourself;

with the decision in place that it is okay for you to do this.

That it is okay. And it is safe. You create this place for yourself

where you can go ahead and become aware of the things that, most

of the time, you've decided are too painful to even know about.

Norah: When it’s too painful… it feels like I can’t stay seated

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because this stuff rushes at me as if it’s going to overwhelm me.

Rebecca: Yeah. That is completely understandable. That's why

you've made it to this point of your life without examining it;

because it feels like it's all going to be way too much. And when we

do start to kind of lift the lid off of what's going on and pull back the

curtains; it can seem overwhelming.

In those moments, what I would invite you to ask yourself is…

…“Can it really be any worse to see what's already there?”

So if you're walking around, for example, you know how some

people have a big reaction to bugs?

So they have some kind of a bug or fly or something comes and

lands on their arm. They don’t realize what it is. Then once they see

that it is a bug, then they're jumping, waving around and screaming

and everything else.

Well, the thing was never hurting them. And they were fine when

they didn't realize it was a bug. Right?

Or in the old cartoons, when the coyote runs off the cliff and it's

not until he looks down that he starts to fall.

Norah: He is fine while he is in mid-air.

Rebecca: Yeah. So the mind tends to equate that our awareness

of something is where the pain is, or that the awareness is what

makes it start to be painful to us.

But you have got to get really honest with yourself ...

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If you are carrying all of these things around internally, without

being aware of them; they're already hurting you however much they

can hurt you - and I would actually say more, because while you're

not aware of them then they're having an effect that you're not even

able to manage. That you're not even able to be in the driver’s seat

about, at all.

Norah: In other words, they are running me without me even

knowing they are running me? They’re interfering with my life

without me knowing it?

Rebecca: Exactly. It is a lot like if you had something going on

with you physically. You contracted some virus or parasite or

something like that, and you weren't aware of it.

It would still be in your body doing what it's doing.

You wouldn’t take the attitude that your best course of action is

to just not know about them, right?

You wouldn’t go into the doctor’s office and say, “Hey listen, if

I have some virus or parasite, don’t tell me. That is going to be too

overwhelming. I don't want to know about those. Because then I'll

have to go through the process of what it actually is; to be with my

body, as it rebalances - as it expels these things; and re-harmonizes.

I'm not going to like that so just don't ... I don't want to know. If I

don't know they're there then I'm fine.”

You would never do that. Right?

It is the same thing. All of these things which seem so

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overwhelming when they're coming up; what I would invite you to

do in the moment is to bring yourself back to that recognition …

…“Okay, wait a minute. There's nothing new here.”

There's nothing new here. No matter how overwhelming it seems

to be as it shows up in front of me… it's been hanging out there all

along.

So…if it hasn't killed me yet; I can handle it now.

That's really what it has to come down to. Because there's

sometimes, these things…they feel really world shaking for you. I

understand that.

Is it actually going to make them worse for you to now see them

and to potentially bring some level of resolution to them?

It’s already in there. It’s already doing what it’s doing. The only

thing you changed by knowing about it, is now you have the

potential to actually resolve it.

It is the same with all these emotions that are coming at you. Even

though it seems… and I get it… it can seem extremely

overwhelming.

That is the reason you are not looking at it most of the time.

Because you perceive it as painful. It’s a protective mechanism in

yourself. You don’t have all this out in the open all of the time;

because you’ve deemed it as unbearable, or painful, or difficult, or

uncomfortable.

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Okay. So, when you recognize from the get-go, this is exactly

what’s going on, then it’s easier for you, at least as a starting point,

to see for yourself,….

“Okay. Well, this has been there anyway and I’m still standing,

right? So, it’s not going to get any worse by actually bringing it into

the potential of getting resolved and then not continuing to affect me

in ways it affecting me, whether I pay attention to it or not.”

The other important thing to recognize: even when you’re not

looking at it, it’s affecting you. It’s affecting you right down to all

the things you have to do to not look at it.

Okay, so what if you… instead of having to be driven by avoiding

something that’s in you anyway… how much does it free up in your

life to be able to just live moment by moment whatever it is that

you’d like to do. Rather than having this constant shadow nipping at

your heels of “I’m choosing what I do or don’t do based on, I have

to stay away from these things that are inside of me anyway.”

Norah: When the emotions come rushing at me, I know… they

haven’t killed me up to this point… but, for me to sit still in a chair

and look at them, I’d rather go outside, wash dishes or anything!

Rebecca: You'd rather do what you've conditioned yourself,

your whole life to do - which is anything but sit and be aware of the

emotions. Numb it. Look away from it. You name it.

The other thing I would say is… and you will be glad to learn

you don't have to necessarily completely sit still in a chair.

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What's important is your presence. Your presence with

something.

And when I say "presence," I mean your pure presence. I mean

your attention… without agenda or anything. And that's where the

challenge is for most people.

Most people, if they hear the idea that, "Okay, if I sit with this,

then this yucky thing I don't like is going to go away and I'll be rid

of it… if I just sit here and stare at it long enough.”

If you have ever had a staring contest with someone, you know

what that's like. It's not the same thing as just loving ... like if you're

just gazing into someone's eyes like you could do nothing else.

When you're present with somebody, it’s completely different than

a staring contest. Those are two very different things.

Staying with it is really about where your presence is at, and how

much your being fully present with it. It doesn’t have an agenda. It

doesn’t have any expectation.

It’s about being with it in that way that your true presence is open,

is curious, is all embracing. It doesn’t mind how long it takes.

Your presence is like that grandmother who has enough room in

her lap for every kid no matter what they are bringing. If they are

upset, they’re crying, got snot in their nose, cookie crumbs, you

name it.

It’s that kind of presence. So as long as that’s the state you’re in,

you can be sitting down or you could be up running around your

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house. You could be skipping through a meadow. You could be

sitting under a tree in nature. You could be doing whatever it is that

feels right for you. The key is… you are bringing your pure,

unadulterated, without agenda, presence to whatever is coming up.

These things will then be able to come out in the open and resolve

themselves.

And when you click into that, it will immediately become so easy

for you and joyful for you, that even in the face of things that seem

really painful or overwhelming… well, I'll tell you what it's like.

It's like if you're going through something really difficult, it feels

a lot less difficult when you have a friend there that's just embracing

you, not trying to edit what you're saying, not trying to fix it for you

immediately, not trying anything. Just soaking up your tears into

their shoulder. Without any judgment ... without any “Okay, can you

just hurry this along? Because the faster I listen to your tears, will

they be over with yet?”

That's not what they're doing. That's not what it is. And that's

what you've really got to bring to yourself. It is that grandmother

who has room in her lap for every kid. No matter if they've just run

through the mud, no matter if they're bringing cookie crumbs - just

that embracing presence that's without judgment, and without

agenda.

Now within that, do whatever with your body you needs to do.

You don't have to just sit there. It's not a ‘sit and suffer through it’.

That's not what it is. And it's not a staring contest. Does that make

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sense?

Norah: Yes.

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(Transcribed from a Conversation with Rebecca)

Norah: A part of rejection which I find fascinating, and had never

looked at before this exercise was:

“to the extent I am rejecting something, I am closing down

everything connected to it.”

You also mentioned, whatever is the opposite that you thought that

you had to destroy, then you said the rejection goes both ways. For

example, rejecting my inadequacy rejects also my magnificence.

Maybe we’re not seeing our or other people’s magnificence because

we are spending so much time on rejecting.

Rebecca: To the extent that you're rejecting, you’re closing

down everything. Wherever you're closed down, you're closed down

- period. Right?

So again your mind is doing it because it thinks it's keeping you

safe from whatever it is that you're rejecting against. Meanwhile, it's

also rejecting your Love from just coming through and it blinds you

from that recognition of what you really are, which is magnificent.

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For every moment you forget where your keys are, and so there's

"I'm so stupid, I'm so scatter brained," whatever it is, that rejection

is, that’s one place where the fact that you already hold an

unspeakable Love for yourself now doesn't have the space to come

though.

You're ignoring what's available there, is more what it's like. It's

just you're looking away from it.

Norah: So explain what magnificence is, the magnificence of a

person.

Rebecca: Well, I think everyone has just an overall

understanding of what that word means to them. It's really just one

aspect, just one way you can try to put words on what you really are.

So if you want to start to get at least a sketch of what you are, it's

still going to be nothing close to the real thing. Sit down with what

all your judgments against yourself are, and pull out the word that's

the opposite.

For example, I mentioned magnificent in the exercise because it

is an immediate opposite to inadequate.

Norah: Right, so actually when we are dealing with this

exercise, whatever word we pull up that we are rejecting, take the

exact 180 degrees opposite of it to see what we are also rejecting?

Rebecca: Right. Because rejection is just a shut down and so it's

indiscriminate. You think you're rejecting the unworthiness, but

while you're rejecting the unworthiness, you've now shut down that

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place for your Love to come through.

Norah: Be open to really exploring the magnificence of

yourself. Which, most people don't spend any time exploring the

magnificence of themselves.

Rebecca: A lot of people aren’t willing to be open to the

unknown. They have a lot of baggage about the unknown being

equated to being dangerous, that there's no good surprise. If you

don't know about it, chances are it's bad news.

Norah: Which takes us full circle to the fact of people not really

being willing to open up to look on both sides of this rejection and

embracing to see both the good (the magnificence) and the pure

ugliness.

Rebecca: Right. When we've got a polarity like that set up and

we're trying to reject just one side of it. It just isn't possible.

When we're rejecting, we are rejecting. It's a closed down space.

Even though it seems crazy or seems paradoxical to the mind, the

truth is that it's only once we are completely open to death, and

destruction, and horror, and pain, and disappointment, and sadness,

and betrayal, and you name it… that we can most actually fully

experience joy, and beauty, and love, and happiness, and support,

and miracles, and whatever… everything that you could name that

sounds good to you.

Norah: I think that's a huge part of this thing… of being able to

actually allow yourself to look into this dark side…so that you can

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see the opposite extreme of the magnificence.

Rebecca: Yes. What it will really come down to for you at a

certain point, is that it won't even seem like a dark side…so much

as just another shade.

Line up people and take any two colors to give to them… Which

is better? Red or yellow? Which is better? Green or blue? Which

is better? Blue or yellow? Right? Some of them are going to have

really strong opinions one way or the other. Some of them it's going

to be, "Well, they're both just colors. They're just different from each

other."

When all of this fully opens up within you; then what you really

reach… is this recognition that all of these things are just different

from each other, but still within oneness.

Without that harsh judgment on it, your mind is afraid you're

going to spend your time in this so-called "dark side,” that that's

going to be what your experience is if you open up to it.

It's understandable why the mind has that fear. In the system that

it's built on, that's how it would work.

In reality, it’s not how that works. In reality, when you're

completely open, it just allows you to experience something beyond

even the duality of a dark side or not dark side.

Another thing that gets highly misunderstood is people think

when they start pursuing their, whatever you want to call it, their

own inner growth or their spiritual path… that the destination they're

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looking for is one of … always experiencing everything that's on

their “good” list.

The reality of it is so much more than that.

It's more than you could've asked for.

Because what you're sitting on all the time; underneath the good

and the bad; is something beyond description. Something even

better than anything on your “good” list. So that's what it's really

about.

So then the good and the bad or the dark and not dark, still just

comes and goes. It's not that you're just somehow landing and

staying static… only in the so-called “good” side.

It's that you're recognizing underneath both of those sides…all

along… was something that blows even your best “good” totally out

of the water.

So the more you have a continuous recognition of that, which is

only available to you by opening up… then …it becomes natural to

you to not have to be in all of this rejection.

I'll also give you this…on a very practical level…in your day to

day life, how much easier is your life going to be if you don't have

to spend so much energy, all the time internally rejecting what it is

that you already are?

Norah: You mean you are rejecting that you're a loud outgoing

person or you're a shy inward person, or a book reader or athletic....

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Rebecca: Yes. Anything that you think is you…..

Norah: So….this whole exercise is, literally an invitation to

explore all life has to offer…

…and all you are…

… beyond your wildest dream?

Rebecca: Absolutely. Because if you look at it… looking at just

something very practical; very down to earth… to that connection

to your day to day life experience…what's the constant through all

of that, that you have to interact with through every experience that

you have?

It's you, and your concept of your own identity.

Right?

You've got to carry you with you through everything!

So if you're not completely at peace with that, then everything

becomes more difficult, to the extent that you're rejecting anything

about yourself… which is who you live every experience with.

You see how that affects everything?

All of the day-to-day, anything that we could come up with about,

"But my boss ... “ “Oh, I stubbed my toe…” “I'm having this conflict

with …….” “My kids are doing X-Y-Z," and whatever,

Everything that you can possibly deal with in life, there's not this

separation between, "Okay, day to day life," or, "Oh, this ... what

seems like an esoteric thing."

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They're not separate. Because again, what you're carrying

through every experience is you. If you have difficulty living with

you, then you're just going to have difficulty.

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(Transcribed from Embrace Your Wholeness Guided Live Call)

Looking At Rejection With A Gentle Curiosity

Norah: A tip for this section … when Rebecca asks you to “step

into this with a light openness and curiosity… If your “ curiosity”

button seems to be gone from your life; fake being a child for the

moments you read this exercise.

Work slowly. Reading and then doing the instructions. Allow it

to integrate into your life.

(I use this chapter over and over again by simply changing the

topic on which I focus.)

Rebecca:

Take a nice deep breath.

Let yourself have a few breaths like that, a nice deep breath. But

also very gentle… all the way down through your feet.

There you go, and have the intent to be open and willing for

everything that's available to you… including everything you

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couldn't have even known to ask for.

Step into this with that light openness and curiosity… and just

now invite into the open… whatever is the first thing to come into

your attention that you know consciously you have rejected about

yourself.

So whether it's something you think you need to be doing

differently, something you think you need to have accomplished and

you think that you haven’t … Whatever you think is some sort of

shortcoming or flaw of yours in any way, or even just something

you think you don't like to feel or experience…

Whatever it is that you are aware you've been rejecting… just

invite that out into the open.

Just observe it.

You don't have to do anything to bring Love to it. It's already

going to be met with Love the minute you openly give it permission

to fully come out in the open.

Just stay present with whatever you're experiencing.

If there's any sensation in any part of your body… just gently

bring your breath there and notice what it feels like to just stay with

this.

Because the knee jerk you had before now at that feeling of being

faced with something that you have a consistent tendency to reject

…is to then either…run back away from it …or to launch yourself

into some plan of what's going to fix it …so it becomes different and

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you don't have to reject anymore.

Stay with it exactly as it is and stay with the energy of the

rejection itself.

Take a nice deep breath.

That whole pain and struggle of wanting to be separate from

something you also feel that you can't be, feel the tension in that.

Notice how much effort it takes for you to remain in this place of

rejection.

Just stay with that until you start to notice it naturally starts to

dissipate.

It's not even about saying, "Okay. Well, I'm rejecting this and I

know intellectually I'm not supposed to reject it. I'm supposed to

embrace it” and trying to force that process.

It's staying with the rejection and staying with what is being

rejected.

Then it naturally unravels itself from rejection into embracing.

That all-embracing-ness of unconditional Love is your natural

state. It's your absolute nature. It's always going to show itself if you

give it the space to.

Another nice deep breath.

Now from here, you have the possibility to start to be open

enough to become available to whatever was the opposite what you

were rejecting.

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(Transcribed from a Conversation with Rebecca)

Norah: We are looking at some deep things here. Before we go into

the last section of the meditation, I had some questions for Rebecca

about habitual rejection. By habitual, I mean those rejections we saw

in our parents, friends, society, etc. And we took these rejections on

as our own without really looking to see the consequences of such

action.

Norah: How about looking at other areas of rejection in our

lives…like when I forget my keys, or when I say something deemed

“stupid” by myself, or when I reject other people’s opinions, actions

or habits.

Rebecca: Yeah. That's a huge and wonderful exercise in and of

itself, you know, for your own protection, or what felt like your own

protection, you’ve conditioned yourself to not notice all of this.

Most people are, in reality, just being incredibly violent to

themselves, and not even noticing it. Because if they were to notice

it, then suddenly it would be incredibly painful.

And then if they're not aware of what their way out of that is, then

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that just leaves the default setting: “Let's just not look, or just numb

it.”

So the first thing is a willingness to feel that - to feel the pain of

what it is to recognize you're living in this rejection of you.

Meanwhile, the one person you always have to live with is you.

The one constant in your every experience is you. So there may be

a lot of emotion that shows up when you start to really recognize

how much you've been rejecting the one thing that is a constant in

your whole experience.

Or rejecting aspects of that. Or just no matter at what a small level

it's at, it's still rejecting your wholeness, and every part of you - even

if it's as simple as ‘I'm giving myself a hard time because I forgot

where I put my keys.’

So what I would recommend you do with that, moment to

moment, is just be curious with it. So when you forget where you

put the keys, and your mind starts up; or you notice that judgment

about yourself… just be open. Just notice that it's there.

“Wow. Okay.”

Let yourself feel the pain of it. Because if somebody else was

following you around in your day to day, just like nagging you, and

jabbing you, and berating you in that way; you'd be really upset at

the end of the day. You'd tell someone about it, right?

You would openly feel that pain.

So be prepared for when you first really bring light to how it is

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you're treating yourself… you're going to feel the sting of it… but

the good news is that's what opens the door for you to be able to

complete it.

Norah: Can if be something as innocent as jokes that you say

about yourself, or things you complain about?

Rebecca: Absolutely. All of those things. Once you start paying

attention to it, you'll be shocked how pervasive it is.

When you ask yourself, “Would I let someone else say this about

me?”

“Would I feel comfortable to say this about someone else? In

public?”

All those kinds of things. It is just amazing when you see it. Now

once you start to see it, again the temptation may be to then almost

put yourself in a whole new layer of judgment that's like, "Oh my

gosh, I'm not supposed to do that."

Well then you're judging yourself for judging yourself, and then

it's gotten out of hand, right?

So again, it's really just about that curiosity and that presence and

so you notice this going on. You notice this rejection going on, and

you just let yourself feel the totality of what that means for you.

Norah: Are you saying I’m not supposed to reject anything?

Rebecca: “ Supposed to…”?

So, first of all, there's not really any "supposed to." I'm not giving

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you any “have to” or any “supposed to.”

What I'm suggesting is that you're going to feel more yourself.

You're going to feel more peaceful, more loving, more joyous… the

more you align with what is really your nature, which is all-

embracing.

So when it comes to those things that look very ugly to us and

look really painful to us; what I'm suggesting that you embrace… so

you can move forward in a peaceful way within yourself… is your

response to those things.

Norah: Could you explain that further? Because in the world

today with all the way people treat each other….

Rebecca: Yes. Absolutely. Because there are plenty of

opportunities….. and we talked a little about this subject in another

section. But I’ll add more clarity.

I'm not suggesting your natural way of being is to just be out

killing and raping. That's not it at all.

What I'm saying is if you, to the extent that you have very rigid

judgments…. that you tie into your identity, then you're not going

to be able to be open and be what you are, which is fundamentally

Love.

So when those kind of things come to your attention, for example,

when you see on the news that people are killing one another left

and right. When you see on the news that people are raping and

women are being abused and you name it; in those moments, it's

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about you going inside to see what your reaction is to that.

The fear you have about that. The anger you have about that. The

sadness you have about that. Everywhere that you just feel a piercing

in your heart at the idea of beings ... interacting with each other in

this way. That's what is to be embraced.

Norah: So instead of just automatically rejecting it and shoving

it out of my life and saying, "That's bad." Spend some time

experiencing the feelings that are coming up inside of me on

whatever that news brings to me. Is that what you're saying?”

Rebecca: Exactly. Let's just take that one thing as an example.

If you saw on the news someone was murdered, that's done. That's

already done. The choice now within you, is whether you're going

to shut down part of your own love and joy and peace and

magnificence by holding this place rigid in order to reject that. Or if

you're going to let that space be open and let your own love come

through. That's what it's about.

Just check it out for yourself. See if, once you let that love go

ahead and be open, instead of having that rigid rejection lockdown;

see whether you then feel more resonant with murdering or not.

You're going to find you feel less resonant with it because the

least likely person to go around doing any of these kinds of horrific

acts you mentioned is the one that has zero rejection. Because the

flip side of what zero rejection is, is all love. All love.

Norah: Oh…so when you’re talking about embracing, you’re

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not saying “I’m saying that killing is right.” You’re just talking

about that natural state of unconditional love that is inside…

Rebecca: Of letting your own love come through. Yes. Letting

your own love come through. To the extent that you're rejecting,

you're pinching down and not letting your own love come through.

So yeah, letting your own love come through, 100%, is very

different than, “Okay, I've signed up for ... I endorse ... I back

murdering and raping and all those things.” You can only endorse

those things or back those things or sign yourself up for those things

to the extent that your love is shut down.

Norah: hmmm. So that means I can’t love that person with

whatever they’re going through because I’ve already shut down that

part of me.

Rebecca: This brings us to something really important. Which is

the difference between where we're talking about things from. A lot

of times people, and I've seen this many, many times, it gets

misunderstood that they put themselves on this quest to ... they like

the idea of being all loving and they're trying to get their mind

onboard with that.

So one of the first things for you to really, really embrace and

really have that homecoming with… is your own mind. Because

your mind is engineered how it's engineered. End of story.

So to expect your mind, at the level that it operates on, which is

a level of duality …where then there's polarity and there's separation

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and there's opposites and there's good and bad…to expect your mind

to conjure up, "Oh, yes. I love that person that I just saw on the news,

who murdered a bunch of children."

That's not going to happen. Nor does it even need to. Because the

part of you that's the truth of you; that is All Love… is just there

loving anyway. Whether or not your mind does whatever it does.

So just to really make that clarification; this whole thing is not

about somehow corralling your mind into being its idea of love

toward everything out there. Because the mind doesn't even have a

true understanding of Love as I'm using the word. The mind’s

understanding of love is "That thing is my favorite. That's the thing

I pick first. That's my number one." Right? That's the mind's idea of

love.

In the mind's understanding of love, to expect the mind to be

onboard with loving these things that you described… of course,

that's not going to happen.

Of course, it's not going to happen. It's about you letting yourself

be Love simultaneously while the mind is doing its thing. Letting

yourself be in touch with, and letting yourself be open to, and letting

it flow through you, what it is in you that just is Love anyway, all

the time, no matter what.

Norah: Okay. So how do I reconcile this with my daily… for

example: "I reject how I look," or "How much money I have."

Rebecca: Absolutely. It's important because it's such a

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continuous process. Right? People, like you said, you could make a

huge list. People who forgot where they put their keys and they're

rejecting themselves about that. The internal landscape there is, "I'm

a stupid idiot again," or whatever.

It can be about anything and everything; what seems like the most

trivial things, rather than accepting and embracing yourself. The key

to the phrase that you said, "staying with it," is that difference we

talked about earlier, about actually bringing presence to it. Actually

being present with it, rather than with an agenda, with that idea of,

"Okay, I'm not supposed to have this. I need to make it go away. I

need to be embracing instead, so here's what I do." Right?

That staring contest of, "Here's what I'm supposed to do to it."

Rather than you're just being with it, the same as when a two-

year-old kid comes to you and has some upset about something and

you just embrace them. And you just let them take as long as they

need.

Pause and be curious.

Because all that is happening in this process is you're coming re-

aware of the love that's already always there. So all of this work

people are putting themselves through to try to love themselves,

unconditionally and completely…it's like we said a minute ago with

the mind.

According to the mind, you're a tiny sliver of what you really are.

According to the mind, there's all this duality and polarity and good

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and bad that it's got to judge you about and keep things on track.

But all the while… you have a Love for yourself that is without

bounds… that is beyond description… that has no opposite, and that

never wavers.

In that moment, when you've just lost your keys and you're

berating yourself about it; just stop. Take a breath. Because you

don't want to get into that trap of berating yourself for berating

yourself. "I'm not supposed to judge myself."

That's not going to help anything. That's very slippery. I watch

people get into that very quickly.

It's about… take a breath and just check. "Okay. My mind says

I'm stupid. I'm this. I'm that. Is that actually true or is there

something else here also?"

It's just giving that opening for the Love that is already there. You

don't have to manufacture it. You don't have to make it happen. You

don't have to give yourself a mantra about it or force it.

It's about letting it genuinely start to come through freely. It's

hard to even put that into words… but you know it when you run

into it.

And it's about giving that opening for it and cooperating with it.

Norah: You refer several times to my natural state of all-

embracing-ness of unconditional Love, and how this would

naturally unravel all this rejecting. So if I allow myself to just sit

with it and get whatever emotions that come out, is that what you’re

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talking about with naturally unraveling what’s happening?

Rebecca: Yeah. So, that’s an important distinction to make

when I say that you're naturally all-embracing and unconditionally

loving. Because your mind isn't. Your mind is built on, like I just

said before, on that framework of duality, and in that context, the

mind's definition of love is ‘that thing is my favorite, that's what I

pick first, that's my number one.' Right? ‘That's what I give priority

to.’

So that's why the mind comes to that conclusion of, “Well wait,

if I were to no longer reject murder, than that's going to be at the top

of my list, right? That's what I'm gonna do all the time.” So, that all-

embracing-ness, that all-Loving-ness is always there, and it's about

letting yourself notice it; letting it just really be in your attention.

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(Part 3 of 3)

(Transcribed from Embrace Your Wholeness Guided Live Call)

Allow Rejection To Unravel

Norah: Wow! We are unraveling some interesting things. So let’s

go directly into the last section of the exercise.

Rebecca:

Take a nice deep breath as we give things a chance to unravel even

further. You now have the possibility to be open enough… to

become available to whatever was also what you perceived as the

opposite of whatever it was that you were rejecting.

Just check in on that now. Whatever is the opposite that you

thought that you had to destroy. For example, I'll just say

inadequacy again. So there was the idea if you're rejecting the

inadequacy… that to get its opposite… you have to first destroy the

inadequacy to be able to have the opposite come.

Meanwhile, that rejection goes both ways. The rejection of the

inadequacy is also rejecting that magnificence. Just check in and see

how that already feels without us even going there yet. Of how

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much more available that feels to you now. Whatever was the

opposite of what you stayed with that you had been rejecting.

Now inviting forward (and this is the side which generally you

are probably less aware of)… that rejection of whatever was the

opposite of what you already knew you were rejecting.

Go ahead and invite that out into the open.

Let it come fully into your awareness… just how much the

opposite was also being rejected.

Nice deep breath… because this can bring with it waves of grief

and fear and just confusion and uncertainty. Some of it might not

seem like it makes sense consciously at all.

Just staying with it…allowing Love to give whatever is needed.

Another nice deep breath all the way through your feet.

Check to see if you'd be willing now to move fully into this all-

out open, embracing, receiving, this full allowance of all of this

aspect of you… including what seems to be the two opposite

polarities.

Allow this facet of you that has been locked up in rejection to be

completely reintegrated.

Let your heart celebrate this homecoming. Just allowing yourself

to receive as all of this is just washed in love.

Notice the beautiful surprise of really going deep into all the

different aspects of that and all the ways that that effects your life

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and effects your understanding of yourself.

And not just examining that but actually unlocking all of that so

that all of the energy that was being expended in this rejection is

freed up for you. And so that all of the energy that's being expended

in trying to fix the things that were being rejection is freed up for

you.

Suddenly you have access again to the totality of you.

You have access to the things that you thought you first had to

destroy… what you thought was the bad thing… in order to get to

the good thing… and instead you just have access to all of it.

Isn’t that tremendously fun?

Let's do a bit more. Nice deep breath.

Now let's take it as a whole for a minute.

Rather than even focusing in on any one thing that you've been

rejecting… just bring that up as an overall thing of just how much,

just feel into it… of how much you are open and at home within

yourself… versus how much it feels that certain things are

unwelcome and that simultaneously… certain things feel like they

aren't there that you would like to be there.

As an overall sense, that sense of just finding yourself anywhere

along that spectrum: from completely open, completely at home,

having total access to every aspect of you, everything that's there

feels like it belongs there, everything that feels like it should belong

there is there. Just that sense of completion. Oneness. Ease. Or

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anywhere on that spectrum, all the way over to where you just feel

that there's always something to fix or that you feel, again just that

sense that the things that are in your presence, the things that you

are aware of feel like they shouldn't be there and yet,

simultaneously, a sense that what you would like to have isn't there.

Wherever you are on that spectrum most of the time, just

welcome that out into the open right now.

Just allow yourself to be present with whatever that level of

discomfort is… because that rejection leaves you continuously

uncomfortable… to the extent that there's all kinds of things that are

unsettling to you…

Both, you think it's there and it's not supposed to be and ... that

you think it's supposed to be there but it's not.

When all of that is going on in what you consider to be your very

identity, then that's happening at the root and it's spreading out

through every single thing in your life.

You can barely go fix yourself a glass of water without an

undercurrent of wrestling with all the things about you that you think

you're not supposed to be and all the things about you that you think

you're supposed to be and think that you're not.

Nice deep breath.

To whatever extent that's going on, let it come fully into your

attention. Just how much is going on because there's a natural

tendency… a protective tendency on your part… to just numb that

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out as much as possible.

Know that in this moment, you're fully supported by Love.

You're anchored into infinite peace.

So from there, invite it fully into your awareness, all of that pain

and discomfort of living with that continuous internal rejection.

Just observe as that has the chance to start to unravel…

… As it's able to be met with Love. As it's able to find its way

into… melting back into this peace.

Now a nice deep breath into your heart and open up to and

welcome what it feels like to be in that complete embracing

openness where nothing in you is being rejected.

You have access to all of you. None of it is being made wrong

and you're able to fully open up. You're far more than what you had

thought that you could possibly strive to be.

There you go… nice deep breath.

Let that start to soak in… let it start to balance.

Let that continue doing what it needs to do in the background,

while we bring our attention back to life.

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Let Situations Resolve Themselves –

Now Will I Get What I Want?

(Transcribed from a Conversation with Rebecca)

Norah: Letting Situations Resolve Themselves: Will the situations

just go away and everything be happy? Will I get what I want?

Rebecca: The tension on it, on you trying to stay separate from

it, goes away. It's able to come back into a state of peace.

So let's say, just as an example, let's say you have a whiff of anger

show up about something. So, typically people have, you know, a

couple of different histories with anger, right?

They are either prone to reject it out-of-hand, saying, "I'm not

supposed to be that way.” “I'm not supposed to feel that way." So it

gets rejected, it gets shoved down.

Or they act it out, which then usually they're not happy with

either.

Then because of that, you can reach a point where you say,

"Okay, what if I can just remove all of that anger somehow?” And

that's not what I mean. What I mean (and I'm just using anger as an

example, this applies with any emotion, any energy) is that its

natural movement is to come and go. It's naturally in movement. It's

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not meant to be locked in, rigid, and frozen, in any way.

Norah: It's meant to come up and you let it be?

Rebecca: Exactly. So when I say it resolves itself…what I mean

is it completes that natural cycle of its own where it shows up, and

then it fades back down. That's what it does, right?

Look at any kind of any way we have of measuring any energy,

any sound, light, you name it. What happens is it moves in a wave.

It comes and it goes. It comes and it goes. It comes and it goes….

Norah: (interrupts) But when you reject something, then when

that anger comes into my life; I'll never let it dissipate because of

the fact I feel guilty… I was angry and I did such and such…so…

when I stay present with it… (present to me means I keep it alive

and realize what a bad job I was or what I did.)

Rebecca: No. Your presence is …you….just allowing it to be

exactly as it is.

Norah: And to flow through.

Rebecca: Right. So that's why people are so afraid of being

completely open… they've got this backlog of rejected things they

think are bad, and painful, and uncomfortable. The fear in the mind

is, “if I am open, it seems like the unleashing of some realm of hell

or something, right?”

But in reality it's that fully openness which allows resolution and

peace...

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I mean, sure it can seem like that unleashing for a minute, or

maybe a while, but it's only from that openness that now it's gonna

to be able to reach its own conclusion. But it's going to be able to

arise and resolve. It’s only because you've got a back log of it that it

can seem intense at first.

Once you get past that, when you're living your day to day, your

moment to moment, in that full openness, you’ll feel, “Oh my

goodness nothing could be sweeter.”

Nothing could be sweeter because then there's all the space in the

world for any little anger. Even the smallest anger, when it's

rejected… when it suppressed…feels bigger than it is because then

it can't move.

That same anger that felt so big when suppressed, when it is

coming across a completely open canvas of all-embracing Love is

small and harmless.

Norah: Now what my mind is saying … if I let that anger come

out and across like that, it will grow, and grow, and grow. And the

next thing you know I'll be killing somebody or doing something

even worse, because I'm allowing that anger to get bigger and

bigger.

Rebecca: Yes. And it's natural for the mind to expect that and

think that, and draw that conclusion; because it's built on a platform

of separation and duality.

It's built on a binary. It lives in a world of separation and polarity,

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an either-or, yes-no, good-bad.

So to the mind either that anger switches off or it's on. It's a binary

switch, that's all it is. So bless it, it just doesn't understand what's

actually happening.

What's actually happening is, the openness we just described

means that's more capacity that you have for the Love that you are

to come through. So in reality that anger, when it's rejected; when

it's suppressed, not only is now that anger locked in place … but

that's that much space that Love doesn't have as much room to come

through. It's got to now go around the side of that, right? So, in

reality what happens when you unlock the rejection of that anger…

now the anger is free to just move through and complete itself and

be done.

But more importantly, the space that it was occupying, is that

much more space that the Love is able to come through.

So for every ugly thing that you stop rejecting, it doesn't mean

that now you're going to be more of that. Instead, the ceasing of your

rejection of that ugly thing is freeing up more space for your Love

to come through.

Norah: That means I'm supposed to not reject anything. I'm

supposed to embrace the parts of life which I've been taught were

bad…like killing, and rape, or any of these darker side things? Now

I'm supposed to embrace these things and allow them to flow

through?

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Rebecca: Again, that's how the mind would hear that and

understand it, wouldn't it?

I'm not saying at all that it's about now you direct your life toward

things like that. If you suddenly allow more of your Love to come

through than ever before, do you think that's actually going to direct

you into committing murder or anything like that?

Of course, it's not. But what those things do serve for you is to

allow you to get in touch with what really resonates within you, what

it brings up in terms of your reaction to that. The reason people have

a lot of rejection about those things is in part because of what their

own feelings are about them, that they've been looking away from.

So when you see some news story that's really upsetting to you

along any of those lines that you mentioned… that's when you'll

notice it in you. There's something rejected. There's some amount of

fear, or sadness, or anger, or even just that “pierce in your heart” at

the idea of people treating one another that way. So that's what you

can embrace. What you can embrace is those rejected feelings in you

and let them really come though.

Let yourself be with your own heartbreak at the idea that these

things are occurring. And let yourself nurture yourself through it.

When that heartbreak is just left rejected, left unattended to, that's

when it's painful. When you bring it out in the open, and are present

with yourself through it, then you can let it come to completion.

That's when it can heal.

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Am I Going To Be Doing This Forever?

Norah: So it is not a thing of me sitting down and saying,

"Okay, I'm rejecting this. I'm embracing this." I have to do this

exercise over and over again with each new thing that comes to my

attention. I could be here forever doing this!

Rebecca: Well, you are here forever doing this. (Delightful

laughter.) Um

(Laughter from both Norah and Rebecca)

The key, though, is it's not about making it mechanical. Okay?

I completely get that it could seem like an overwhelming

prospect.

If you treat it like weeding a garden, then you've got this idea of,

“there's all these things that don't belong. I need to pluck them out.

How long will it take me until it's all fixed?” And then…

Norah: (interrupts with a smile) “And then life is fine.”

Rebecca: And then life is fine. And I can do what I want. And I

always get my way and I'll have a smile at every moment.

That's not what this is about at all.

Of course it's going to seem like an overwhelming prospect if

you've got this enormous garden to weed, that’s not just a garden but

it's like layer upon layer of garden. Lots of it you can't even see until

the rest of the weeds are pulled then you see these new weeds. This

sounds like a nightmare. Right?

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So, it's really about recognizing; and I invite you to start to

examine this… that that's not actually what's in front of you.

What's in front of you is actually what you've been doing all

along…and you just haven't been aware of it; and it's time for you

to step deeper into it. When you do that, you won't mind for it to

never have an end because it's wonderful. It's joyous.

What's actually going on is you welcoming the fact that you are

all of you.

It will seem like a homecoming of things you have rejected and

things that weren't integrated.

In reality…there's never any separation in you, but you’re

coming back to your recognition of that. It's going to feel like a

constant process… this ever expanding process, of…"Oh! It's okay

for that to be me. And it's okay for that to be me. And it's okay for

that to be me."

When you compare garden weeding to a party where ‘the more

the merrier,’ a party where everyone is invited and anyone that

wasn't dressed yet for a party; when they come in the door, they’re

embraced anyway. Or if they were not in the mood for a party, but

when they come in the door, they're embraced anyway.

That's what it’s like. It's not this garden weeding. All the things

that we thought were wrong and ugly and bad and painful in our own

internal system and in our emotions and in our energy; it's not about

plucking through those for the removal of anything. It's that you are

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in this continuous ever expanding process of recognizing… that all

of those are just different frequencies of you.

Be Open And Willing For Everything Available

Norah: Several times in the exercise you ask us to have the

intent “to be open and willing for everything that is available to me,

including everything that I've not even known to ask for.”

Obviously, you're opening it up for us to look into places we've

never looked.

Rebecca: And to receive in ways you've never received before.

You limit things when your mind is in charge of the process and

has an agenda: "This is what I'm looking to get.” “This is what I

expect.”“Here's what better come out of this."

When meanwhile, most of the time, what's actually there for you

is something so much bigger.

Imagine if you were a little kid and your birthday or Christmas is

around the corner. If you were in control of that process, you would

have one item that you're just bent on getting. You're going and

checking and trying to peek under the wrapping and everything else.

If you thought you could control the process, and ensure that that's

just the one thing that you get. Then you'll get that one thing.

But how does that compare to just showing up and getting… not

just that… but 20 other things that you didn't even know existed but

that you love?

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That's what it is like.

Are you checking, managing, and peeking under the paper; trying

to micromanage the whole thing? Or are you walking into this

process… open… just showing up to be blown away with what's

really there?

Norah: Yes, it's much safer to fixate on one page of the

Christmas catalog instead of looking at the whole catalog and how

much it's gonna cost to get the whole catalog.

Rebecca: Right, and never mind the possibility of whole other

catalogs that you never even knew about. Yes, it's true, the mind

tends to try to box itself into limitations with the mistaken idea that,

that's gonna be more of a sure bet… that's gonna be safer.

It doesn't want to get overwhelmed by the reality of the infinite

possibilities that are there for you.

So you know, that's when you just give your mind a big hug and

say, "I know sweetheart. I know you're trying your best."

And that's another thing that gets very misunderstood. People

often expect in their mind to be all loving, which is not going to be,

because that's not how it's built, or expecting the mind to get on

board with the infinite, which again, it doesn't even know how to

comprehend that, let alone work from there.

So our job with our mind is not to put these huge expectations of

that it's going to suddenly become something it's not.

Our job with our mind is to love it and embrace it so that it starts

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to relax into knowing all the time how safe and loved it already

is…so it doesn't have to just have a meltdown all the time.

Norah: So actually we're inviting the mind… to have a

meltdown, and see that it can survive, after it has had a meltdown.

Rebecca: Absolutely. We hold it through that tantrum the same

way you would a two year old.

Norah: And we're allowing ourselves to have these tantrums, is

what you're saying?

Rebecca: Yes, of course. Yes, because the truth of you already

is allowing you to do all that. In truth, you already Love you beyond

what we can describe or measure; and it’s about you aligning with

that… opening up to that…letting that be what-

Norah: (interrupting) Do we need to allow ourselves to have

these tantrums at the very first so that we get through them in order

to see what is beyond these things?

Rebecca: Yes, absolutely.

Norah: Right now I spend a lot of time judging people who I

consider are going through a tantrum.

Rebecca: Yes, so what is the purpose for you of holding that

judgment?

Norah: It keeps me safe, of course.

Rebecca: Right. Right. Your mind's idea is that if you judge

that, you're going to prevent yourself from doing it?

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Norah: Yes.

Rebecca: There's nothing you can really prevent yourself from

doing. You're going to do what you're going to do. The only thing

you're doing with that judgment is guaranteeing yourself that same

rejection, if and when you do the thing you’re rejecting.

And you're guaranteeing yourself having to carry around that

piece of rejection even when it's towards someone else. So even if

that rejection is towards someone else, that's one space where

instead of having your Love come through, you've got rejection

sitting there.

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“How willing are you to sit with yourself in Love?

With no rules, no labels, no tradition or hierarchy to

follow?

Would that be too simple?

Do you fear the answers you would find?

(the same ones you claim to endlessly seek)”

- Rebecca Quave

Rebecca:

Welcome everyone. I’m so glad you're here.

Even on just a single call like this, there’s always what our starting

point is and then where we end up going.

Our starting point is something really important that I think often

gets overlooked; which is the fact that to whatever extent you have

internal rejection going on, to that extent, it’s indiscriminate.

What happens is people can get very into rejecting things…

you can get into rejecting the things you think are wrong about

yourself;

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…or you think need to be a different way

…or where it gets tricky, is in all the places you think you are

somehow less than or inadequate.

The reason this gets tricky is it then goes both ways.

Let's just start with inadequate.

While you are rejecting your being inadequate, the opposite is

also being rejected.

You are rejecting that inadequacy and working so hard to change

and improve things - to prove the opposite.

When meanwhile, everything which is the opposite of what you

consider to be your inadequacy, now also doesn't have the space to

come through.

And that's being rejected as well.

Now the bottom line is, every part of you is either being rejected

or embraced… rejected or integrated.

This includes all the things you think. (Because the judgements

you have on it are limited in some way).

And it includes everything that’s beyond what you ever could

have wished to try to be.

With that as our starting point, let’s begin.

Take a nice deep breath.

Let yourself have a few breaths like that, a nice deep breath. But

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also very gentle… all the way down through your feet.

There you go, and have the intent to be open and willing for

everything that's available to you… including everything you

couldn't have even known to ask for.

Step into this with that light openness and curiosity… and just

now invite into the open… whatever is the first thing to come into

your attention that you know consciously you have rejected about

yourself.

So whether it's something you think you need to be doing

differently, something you think you need to have accomplished and

you think that you haven’t … Whatever you think is some sort of

shortcoming or flaw of yours in any way, or even just something

you think you don't like to feel or experience…

Whatever it is that you are aware you've been rejecting… just

invite that out into the open.

Just observe it.

You don't have to do anything to bring Love to it. It's already

going to be met with Love the minute you openly give it permission

to fully come out in the open.

Just stay present with whatever you're experiencing.

If there's any sensation in any part of your body… just gently

bring your breath there and notice what it feels like to just stay with

this.

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Because the knee jerk you had before now at that feeling of being

faced with something that you have a consistent tendency to reject

…is to then either…run back away from it …or to launch yourself

into some plan of what's going to fix it …so it becomes different and

you don't have to reject anymore.

Stay with it exactly as it is and stay with the energy of the

rejection itself.

Take a nice deep breath.

That whole pain and struggle of wanting to be separate from

something you also feel that you can't be, feel the tension in that.

Notice how much effort it takes for you to remain in this place of

rejection.

Just stay with that until you start to notice it naturally starts to

dissipate.

It's not even about saying, "Okay. Well, I'm rejecting this and I

know intellectually I'm not supposed to reject it. I'm supposed to

embrace it” and trying to force that process.

It's staying with the rejection and staying with what is being

rejected.

Then it naturally unravels itself from rejection into embracing.

That all-embracing-ness of unconditional Love is your natural

state. It's your absolute nature. It's always going to show itself if you

give it the space to.

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Another nice deep breath.

Now from here, you have the possibility to start to be open

enough to become available to whatever was the opposite what you

were rejecting.

Take a nice deep breath as we give things a chance to unravel

even further. You now have the possibility to be open enough… to

become available to whatever was also what you perceived as the

opposite of whatever it was that you were rejecting.

Just check in on that now. Whatever is the opposite that you

thought that you had to destroy. For example, I'll just say

inadequacy again. So there was the idea if you're rejecting the

inadequacy… that to get its opposite… you have to first destroy the

inadequacy to be able to have the opposite come.

Meanwhile, that rejection goes both ways. The rejection of the

inadequacy is also rejecting that magnificence. Just check in and see

how that already feels without us even going there yet. Of how

much more available that feels to you now. Whatever was the

opposite of what you stayed with that you had been rejecting.

Now inviting forward (and this is the side which generally you

are probably less aware of)… that rejection of whatever was the

opposite of what you already knew you were rejecting.

Go ahead and invite that out into the open.

Let it come fully into your awareness… just how much the

opposite was also being rejected.

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Nice deep breath… because this can bring with it waves of grief

and fear and just confusion and uncertainty. Some of it might not

seem like it makes sense consciously at all.

Just staying with it…allowing Love to give whatever is needed.

Another nice deep breath all the way through your feet.

Check to see if you'd be willing now to move fully into this all-

out open, embracing, receiving, this full allowance of all of this

aspect of you… including what seems to be the two opposite

polarities.

Allow this facet of you that has been locked up in rejection to be

completely reintegrated.

Let your heart celebrate this homecoming. Just allowing yourself

to receive as all of this is just washed in love.

Notice the beautiful surprise of really going deep into all the

different aspects of that and all the ways that that effects your life

and effects your understanding of yourself.

And not just examining that but actually unlocking all of that so

that all of the energy that was being expended in this rejection is

freed up for you. And so that all of the energy that's being expended

in trying to fix the things that were being rejection is freed up for

you.

Suddenly you have access again to the totality of you.

You have access to the things that you thought you first had to

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destroy… what you thought was the bad thing… in order to get to

the good thing… and instead you just have access to all of it.

Isn’t that tremendously fun?

Let's do a bit more. Nice deep breath.

Now let's take it as a whole for a minute.

Rather than even focusing in on any one thing that you've been

rejecting… just bring that up as an overall thing of just how much,

just feel into it… of how much you are open and at home within

yourself… versus how much it feels that certain things are

unwelcome and that simultaneously… certain things feel like they

aren't there that you would like to be there.

As an overall sense, that sense of just finding yourself anywhere

along that spectrum: from completely open, completely at home,

having total access to every aspect of you, everything that's there

feels like it belongs there, everything that feels like it should belong

there is there. Just that sense of completion. Oneness. Ease. Or

anywhere on that spectrum, all the way over to where you just feel

that there's always something to fix or that you feel, again just that

sense that the things that are in your presence, the things that you

are aware of feel like they shouldn't be there and yet,

simultaneously, a sense that what you would like to have isn't there.

Wherever you are on that spectrum most of the time, just

welcome that out into the open right now.

Just allow yourself to be present with whatever that level of

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discomfort is… because that rejection leaves you continuously

uncomfortable… to the extent that there's all kinds of things that are

unsettling to you…

Both, you think it's there and it's not supposed to be and ... that

you think it's supposed to be there but it's not.

When all of that is going on in what you consider to be your very

identity, then that's happening at the root and it's spreading out

through every single thing in your life.

You can barely go fix yourself a glass of water without an

undercurrent of wrestling with all the things about you that you think

you're not supposed to be and all the things about you that you think

you're supposed to be and think that you're not.

Nice deep breath.

To whatever extent that's going on, let it come fully into your

attention. Just how much is going on because there's a natural

tendency… a protective tendency on your part… to just numb that

out as much as possible.

Know that in this moment, you're fully supported by Love.

You're anchored into infinite peace.

So from there, invite it fully into your awareness, all of that pain

and discomfort of living with that continuous internal rejection.

Just observe as that has the chance to start to unravel…

… As it's able to be met with Love. As it's able to find its way

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into… melting back into this peace.

Now a nice deep breath into your heart and open up to and

welcome what it feels like to be in that complete embracing

openness where nothing in you is being rejected.

You have access to all of you. None of it is being made wrong

and you're able to fully open up. You're far more than what you had

thought that you could possibly strive to be.

There you go… nice deep breath.

Let that start to soak in… let it start to balance.

Let that continue doing what it needs to do in the background,

while we bring our attention back to life.

Closing

Give thanks to everyone who is here today. Give thanks to

yourself for being here, for being you, for being willing to come

back home.

Give thanks for recognizing and living and embodying and

expressing the truth of your being, the truth of Love.

One more nice breath – all the way through…

As always, thank you for being here, for being you. It is funny

(small chuckle)… people say it is tough to put into words what

happens when we get together, it is for me as well.

There is not really a word that I can put on the Love that I have

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for you and for what you are doing.

It is beyond beautiful. And it is my joy and privilege to get to be

involved in it and to get to witness the results. You are all such a

gift.

And again, to be witness to your blooming is something I would

have never known to ask for.

So, thank you and I Love you so much and I will see you soon.

With pure Love,

Rebecca

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