conversation human comm
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Notes about Human CommunicationTRANSCRIPT
CONVERSATION
Conversation in five stages
i. Openingii. Feedforwardiii. Business iv. Feedbackv. Closing
i. Opening○ Greeting – verbal and nonverbal- Verbal – initiation of the topic, making
reference to the other, personal inquiries - Nonverbal – waving, shaking hands, winking- Usually use both (verbal and nonverbal)- Normal conversation – greeting is formality or
informality and in intensify- Email - opening is header and the
announcement from ISP. eg: “You’ve got mail”
ii. Feedforwardo Give other person a general idea of what the
conversation will focus ono To preview future messageso Memos and email – feedforward function is
served in part by the header that indicates the subjects your message
iii. Business o The substance or focus of the conversationo The longest part, and it is the reason for both
opening and feedforwardo Fulfill interpersonal communication: to learn,
relate, influence, play or help
iv. Feedbacko Reflect back on the conversationo Feedback does not have to be either critical or
supportive, it can be both
v. Closing o The goodbye (the last step for conversation)o Also use verbal and nonverbalo Intention to end accesso Usually signals some degrees of
supportiveness o Offer more conclusion to the conversation
CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT
• Speakers and listeners have to work together to make conversation an effective and satisfying experience.
• Include initiating, maintaining and closing conversation.
i. Initiating Conversation
• Several approaches to open a conversation can be derived from elements of interpersonal communication:
a. Self- references – say something about yourself.
b. Other references – say something about the other person and ask question
c. Relational references – say something about the two of you. d. Context references – say something about the physical, social- psychological, cultural or temporal context.
• Another way of looking at the process of initiating conversation is to examine infamous ‘opening line’ – designed to begin a romantic relationship (developed by Kleinke, 1986).
• There are three types of opening line :a. Cute flipperb. Innocuous openerc. Direct opener
a. Cute flippant – humorous, indirect and ambiguous as whether the person opening the conversation actually wants an extended encounter.
b. Innocuous – highly ambiguousc. Direct – demonstrate the speaker’s interest in
meeting the other person.
ii. Maintaining Conversation
• In maintaining conversation, there are several principles and rules that should be followed :
a. The Principle of Cooperationb. The Principle of Dialoguec. The Principe of Turn-taking
a. The Principle of Cooperation
• Implicitly agreeing with the other person to cooperate in trying to understand what each other is saying (Lindblom, 2001)
• Cooperate by using four conversational maxims.
The Maxim of Quantity
• Be as informative as necessary to communicate the intended meaning.
• Include information that make the meaning clear but omit what does not.
• People violate this maxim when they try to give unnecessary information.
The Maxim of Quality
• Say what you know or assume to be true and do not say what you know to be false.
• People violates this principle by lying, exaggerating, or minimizing major problems.
The Maxim of Relation
• Talk about what is relevant to the conversation.
• Violated by speaker who digress widely or frequently interject irrelevant comment and listener wonder how these comment are related to the discussion.
The Maxim Manner
• Be clear, avoid ambiguities, and organize your thoughts into a meaningful sequence.
• Use the terms that the listener understands and clarify terms that you suspect the listener will mot understand.
b. The Principle of Dialogue
• Dialogue – two way communication• Each person is both speaker, listener, sender
and receiver.• Objective : mutual understanding and
empathy.
c. Principle of Turn Taking
• Speaker and listener exchange roles throughout the interaction.
• Accomplish through a wide variety of verbal and non verbal cues that signal conversation turns.
Speaker cues
• i) Turn maintaining – designed to help maintaining the speaker’s role.
• Eg: continuing a gestures• ii) Turn yielding – tell the listener that you’re
finished and listener should take over the role of speaker.
• Eg: asking questions
Listener Cues
• i) Turn requesting cues- let the speaker know that you’d like to take turn as speaker
• Eg: “I’d like to say something”.• ii) Turn denying cues – reluctant to assume
the role of speaker• Eg: Avoid eye contact
• iii) Back channeling cues- Communicate various types of information back to the speaker without assuming the role of speaker.
• ‘acknowledgement tokens’• Eg: ‘mm-hm’, nod head.
iii. Closing Conversation
• Reflect back on the conversation and briefly summarize it so as to bring it to a close.
• Directly state the desire to end the conversation.
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