MEANING OF BEHAVIOUR To Behave means to act in a certain

way Or to act in a polite or acceptable way. &

Behaviour is a way of behaving. The term ‘Behaviour problem’ is used

to designate a deviation in Behaviour from the one expected or approved by the group.

Problem behaviour is that behaviour which makes life difficult and unsatisfactory for the child and his parents ( Hurlock, 1974).

CAUSES OF BEHAVIOUR PROBLEM A child suffers from a genetic weakness or

defect that makes him vulnerable to stress. A child’s problems stem mainly from a conflict

between his basic drives and a forbidding environment which demands that he inhibits the expressions of his drives.

The problem behaviour comes about through learned or conditioned ways of behaving, that impair the child’s adaptations to his environment,and

Some problems arise as a consequence of inability or failure to meet cultural demands, such as failure to meet standards set at school.

COMMON BEHAVIOUR PROBLEMS ENCOUNTERED IN CHILDREN’S

Are As Follows

Type of Problem

characteristics Role Of ParentShould

NotShould

DoHurts other children

Troubled feelings, anger

Punish or hurt him. Make him feel ‘bad’. Act angry

Separate quietly the other children. Divert his attention. Take away the hurting object, calmly and firmly. Teach the child that there are some things we just do not do. Help the children play happily together again. Prevent hurting episodes by helping the child feel loved.

Type Of Problem

characteristics Role Of Parents Should Not

Should Do

Destroys Things

Feelings of helplessness jealousy , boredom, wanting attention, excitement, exuberance, curiosity.

Scold, yell, shout, tell him he is bad, preach at him, punish, spank or hit him.

Remove destroyable things from the child’s reach. Provide him a good place for play. Substitute something else for what is being destroyed. Expand the child’s world by taking him to different places

Type OfProblem

characteristics Role Of ParentsShould

NotShould

Do

Uses bad language

Trying something new. A joke. Imitation. Getting attention. Letting off steam

Get excited. Feel embarrassed or shocked. Scold or punish. Lecture at him. Over emphasize the bad language.

Relax, understands what it means, Tell him calmly to stop. Try rhyming some other word with it for fun or often other simple substitutes. Give him healthy outlets for his feelings.

Type OfProblem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should

Do

Does not share

Too young or too little. Need for experience in owning and sharing.

Snatch from him. Scold or hurt him. Tell him you do not like him. Do not play favourites in settling a dispute.

Help him to share and like it. Be sure he has things that are all his, let him know what it means to own things. Be a fair arbiter in his squabbles with other children. Help him to feel secure. Provide experiences as he is ready for them.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould

NotShould

DoSucks his thumb (or fingers)

Need for sucking. Need for loving, cuddling, assurance and comforting. Fatigue. Hunger. Dissatisfaction. Boredom.

Force or restrain. Punish or scold. Coax, threaten or bribe. Tie fingers or smear them with bitter medicine.

Provide sucking satisfactions. Gives more satisfaction. Love, attention, pleasure. Find out what he wants & provide them the best as u can. See it as sign the child is unhappy or dissatisfied at that moment.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Wets He is not ready for training yet. Too early to effort train. Resistance or rebellion. Insecurity , Fear.

Make an issue. Threaten, shame, or punish. Bribe or reward. Insist that he tells you when he should go to the toilet. Tell him you do not love him.

Accept it & the child as gracefully as you can.. Give him attention freely. Let him know u have confidence that he will do better someday Help him become independent & encourage him to grow up

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Masturbates Natural exploration. Curiosity , Boredom , Need for love , comfort and security.

Punish , shame. Tie his hands. Be too anxious.

See that he has plenty of interesting things to do. Answer his sex questions freely & frankly. Never fail to love him. Help him make friends. Provide opportunities for free play.

Type of problem

Characteristics Role OF ParentsShould Not Should Do

Demands Attention

Feels let out, insecure, unloved, boredom, interest in you.

Scold or punish. Ignore or isolate him. Ridicule him. Shame him.

Give him a fair measure of attention. Show interest in him as a person. Provide interesting things to do. Share yourself with him.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of Parents Should Not

Should Do

Has Fears Previous painful experiences Strangeness. Need for his parents close by. Feeling unloved or guilty.

Force or reason the child out of his fears. Shame or threaten. Make him do the feared thing.

Reassure & comfort him. Make the feared place or situation a happy one. Teach him cautions for real dangers and hazards. Show him love & comfort. Help him to help him self. Avoid fearful experience.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Steals Ignorance of property rights. Unsatisfied needs & hunger. Rebellion, hostile feelings, imitation.

Make him feel ‘Bad’. Scold or shame. Punish or reject. Cut off love. Take from him something to ‘make up’ for the theft. Humiliate him before others

Let him own things & get a sense of mine & yours Help him earn & get what he needs & wants. Be kind, understanding & not too rigid. Provide creative outlets for his interests Help him make real friends.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Tells Lies Fear of punishment. Exaggeration Imagination, Imitation, Attention seeking.

Preach or prophesy. Punish or shame or reject. Make him apologize. Get upset.

Relax & try to understand. Give him attention for what he does & provide him opportunities for enriching his imagination Help him discover the diff. between fact & fancy. Tell him the Truth.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Runs Away From Home

Boredom. Exploration Independence. Rebellion. Anger.

Make a scene. Cry or make over to him. Punish or tie him up. Remove privileges. Be unduly restrict.

Find him, see why he went away. Provide attractive alternatives within his own yard if possible. let him know u like him. Take him on trips with u. let him take responsibility around home.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Gets Out Of Bed

Curiosity. Interest. Not sleepy. Attention seeking. Uncomfortable. Examine what you expect from him.

Scold or punish, Threaten. Reward or bribe. Put to bed as punishment. Tie or restrain him.

Make going to bed a happy experience. Read or sing or play with him, a little before leaving him in bed. See that his needs are met before he goes to bed. Talk to him affectionately. Put him back kindly.

Type Of Problem

Characteristics Role Of ParentsShould Not Should Do

Refuses To Eat

He is not hungry. Dislikes particular food. Feels unwell. Independent wants attention. Imitation.

Force him. Make a scene. Punish. Reward. Threaten. Put on an act

Be casual and calm. Let him rest for sometime. Try later with something else. Make food interesting & attractive. help him learn to feed himself. Let him help prepare food as he shows interest & readiness

TO MAKE THE CHILD INTELLIGENT AND USEFUL MEMBERS OF THE SOCIETY PARENTS AND GUARDIANS NEED TO…..

GIVE THE CHILD ALWAYS THEIR LOVE SO THAT THE CHILD MAY GROW WITH TRUST IN HIMSELFAND IN OTHERS.

- Made BYSulemani Haya .I.

T.Y.BHSc. (Human Development Department).