chapter 3 building high self-esteem. learning objectives after studying chapter 3, you will be able...

Chapter 3

Building High Self-Esteem

© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.

Learning ObjectivesAfter studying Chapter 3, you will be able to:

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Define self-esteem and discuss its impact on your life.

Understand how self-esteem is developed.

Identify the characteristics of people with low and high self-esteem.

Identify ways to raise your self-esteem.

Understand the conditions organizations can create that will help workers raise their self-esteem.


What is Self-Esteem?

SELF-EFFICACY

+ SELF-RESPECT

SELF-ESTEEM

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What is Self-Esteem?

Believing that you can achieve what you set out to do

Feeling valuable, important, worthy of happiness+

Self-Esteem

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How Self-Esteem Develops

Self-esteem develops over time as you form your

SELF-CONCEPT The bundle of facts, opinions, beliefs, and

perceptions about yourself that are present every moment of every day

Are you conscious of your self-concept?

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• In Childhood– Positive and negative experiences early in

life have a significant impact on one’s life, potential, and self-esteem in later years

– Attention from parents is critical

What defining experiences in childhood might occur that would form the foundation of one’s self-esteem?

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• In Adolescence– Develop and resolve questions

about unique personal identity– Describe selves in terms of social

relationships and personality traits– Role models are important

When does adolescence begin and end?In whom do teens find role models?

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• In Adulthood

– Reinforced self-concept is molded by past

– Adults tend to define themselves in terms of:

• Things they possess

• What they do for a living

• Their internal value system and emotional makeup

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Self-Esteem Influences Behavior

• People with LOW self-esteem tend to:– Maintain an external locus of control– Engage in self-destructive behaviors– Have poor human relations skills– Not see themselves with great clarity

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Why are low self-esteem and an external locus of control paired in persons with low self-esteem?


Self-Esteem Influences Behavior

• People with HIGH self-esteem tend to:– Maintain an internal locus of control– Feel emotions without letting them affect

behavior in a negative way– Be less likely to take things personally– Accept people as unique, talented individuals– Have a productive personality

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Throughout life, self-esteem can

grow–or–deteriorate

through a slow evolution

The person you will be tomorrow has yet to be created

Building Self-Esteem

Do you believe it is possible to entirely overcome a disadvantaged youth?

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How to Build Self-Esteem

1. Identify the source of low self-esteem:– Careful examination of defining moments in life– Make list of labels others use to describe you– Determine which ones you’ve internalized

2. Identify and accept your limitations:– Accept yourself for who you are now– Don’t demand perfection– Don’t dwell on the past

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3. Take responsibility for your decisions:– Making decisions helps you develop confidence

in your own judgment• Accept the consequences of your decisions• Both successes and mistakes are yours.

How might self-esteem influence your perception of healthy challenge and realistic limitation?

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4. Engage in strength building:– Maximize your strengths

• Strength building requires knowledge and skill

– Identify your dominant talents• Talent: Any naturally recurring pattern

of thought, feeling, or behavior that can be productively applied

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5. Seek the support and guidance of mentors– Broadening the definition of “mentor: – Tips to building a mentoring relationship:

• Find a mentor who is a good coach• Market yourself to a prospective mentor• Use multiple mentors

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Who are mentors, and what do they do?




6. Set goals:– People who set goals

maintain high self-esteem– Make your goals realistic– Picture yourself reaching

the goal

GOALS1)2)3)

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TABLE 3.1 Goal-setting Principles

1. Spend time reflecting on the things you want to change in your life.

2. Develop a goal-setting plan that includes the steps necessary to achieve the goal.

3. Modify your environment by changing the stimuli around you.

4. Monitor your behavior, and reward your progress.



7. Practice guided imagery:– A creative and empowering method to

harness the power of the mind:• To visualize means to form a mental image

of something—if you want to succeed, picture yourself succeeding over and over

What is an example of guided imagery? Of visualization?

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8. Create self-talk statements for your goals:

1. Be specific about the behavioryou want to change

2. Begin each statement with “I”

3. Describe the resultsyou want to achieve

Create three positive self-talk statements

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FIGURE 3.1 The Self-Talk Endless Loop


TABLE 3.2 Creating Semantically Correct Self-talk


FIGURE 3.2 Factors That Enhance the Self-Esteem of Employees


KEY TERMS

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self-esteem

self-efficacy

self-respect

self-concept

developmental psychology

external locus of control

internal locus of control

talent

mentor

guided imagery

visualize

self-talk

inner critic

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