“I saw theangel in

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andcarved toset it

free.” Michelangelo

WELCOME

“AWAKENING THE GIFTS WITHIN”

An Introduction to The Virtues Project

WATER DEMO

From the Family Virtues Guide

“Idealists dare to have big dreamsand then act as if they are possible...Idealism does not mean that you arean idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just

WISH that things were better.Idealists do something to

MAKE things better.“

WHO ARE THE PRESENTERS?

Terry Rahn &

Valerie HessMaster Facilitators of The Virtues Project

What is The Virtues Project?

A global grassroots initiative that is transforming the cultures

in homes, schools, organizations and communities, through awakening virtues, the gifts of character.

4 Key Principles The parent is the primary educator of

the child. Children are born in potential.

Their natural qualities can develop into positive or negative traits depending on how they are educated in the early years. Character develops as children learn

to make responsible, moral choices. Self-esteem is a natural outcome of

living by virtues.

What are virtues?

What’s good in us

The gifts of our character

The qualities of our spirit

Our inner strengths

Virtues: The Gifts of Character

AssertivenessCaringCleanlinessCommitmentCompassionConfidenceConsiderationCooperationCourageCourtesyCreativityDetachmentDetermination

ReliabilityRespectResponsibilitySelf-disciplineServiceTactThankfulnessToleranceTrustTrustworthinessTruthfulnessUnderstandingUnity

DiligenceEnthusiasmExcellenceFlexibilityForgivenessFriendlinessGenerosityGentlenessHelpfulnessHonestyHonorHumilityIdealism

IntegrityJoyfulnessJusticeKindnessLoveLoyaltyModerationModestyOrderlinessPatiencePeacefulnessPerseverancePurposefulness

Every Child Is Born In Potential

Just as a seed is aspecific tree inpotential,

a child is a particular,fully independent human being, in potential.

Virtues

Is it ever too late?NO!!It is never to late to begin applying these strategies and achieving amazing results!

Nor is it every too early…

Is this an add on curriculum?NO! This is not one more thing to add to your day. You infuse the strategies into what you are already doing.

Will my kids or co-workers think

this is dorky?Maybe

Humor is one way that adults and kids become comfortable with the language.

Hang in there!

What are the goals for this workshop?

TO AWAKEN YOUR VIRTUES TO INSPIRE YOU TO SEE VIRTUES IN OTHERS

TO HAVE YOU PERSONALLY EXPERIENCE THE FIVE STRATEGIES OF THE VIRTUES PROJECT

What are our expectations? Follow the directions for each exercise

Finish activities within allotted time frame

Follow the boundaries that we establish

The A.R.T. Of BoundariesAssertiveness

Respect

Trust

Do what is right for you

Be deeply present withoutadvising

interrupting rescuing

criticizing teasing

Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.

INTERACTIVE INTRODUCTION

1. Pick one partner.2. Choose who will be partner 1.3. Partner 1 ask partner 2 all the questions, listening for their virtues.4. Partner 1 acknowledge partner 2 for virtues you saw and heard. VIRTUE + EXAMPLE = VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Did you remember to write the virtues you saw on each other’s gem tags?

What did youappreciate about

this activity?

What do you hope

to gain from this workshop?

THE HISTORY• 1991 • Three people• Response to school shooting and youth violence in the US• Began as a parenting program• Virtues the common thread• Soon discovered universal application

Dr. Dan PopovLinda Kavelin-Popov

John Kavelin

THE FIVE STRATEGIES

• Speak the Language • Recognize Teachable Moments• Set Clear Boundaries• Honor the Spirit• Offer CompanioningTM

CONGRATULATIONS!!

You have alreadypracticed all five strategies!!

• Speak the Language • Recognize Teachable Moments• Set Clear Boundaries• Honor the Spirit• Offer CompanioningTM

SPEAK THE LANGUAGE OF VIRTUES

Name a Virtue

Encourage Mastery

Encourage Meaning

A Rainbow of Respect

Create Visual Symbols

When to Speak

theLanguage of the Virtues

ACTIVITIES• Speaking The Language of Virtues (handout)

• Acknowledgement Card

ACT With TactTM

Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”

RECOGNIZETEACHABLEMOMENTS

TEACHABLE MOMENTS ARE…

• The opportunities to shine light on virtues being practiced (acknowledge)• The opportunities to bring attention to virtues needed in a given situation (guide)• The opportunities to call one another back to our virtues when we fail to practice (correct)

In Teachable Moments

Stop Shaming

Excellence

Start Naming Virtues

What Destroys Conscience?• Shaming

• Name-calling• Beating or hitting• Over-protecting• Over-punishing• Ignoring effort• Lack of clear boundaries

What Builds Conscience?

• Naming virtues• Clear boundaries• The opportunity for

reparation• Acknowledging effort

DARKEST MOMENT/SHINING HOUR

•Describe one of your darkest moments at work. What virtues were needed?

•Describe one of your shining hours at work. What virtues were involved?

•Give your partner a virtues acknowledgement.

ACTIVITY RENAME AND REFRAME

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SET CLEARBOUNDARIES

Boundaries Keep Us Safe

Clear Boundaries are needed to stay on course.

•Clear boundaries are needed when we have a problem.

Clear Boundaries are needed to create a safe and peaceful learning environment.

Our boundaries are what we need to examine first, when we have a problem.

Do our boundaries address the problem? If the answer is “no”

SET A CLEAR BOUNDARY

What virtues are needed?

How do they need to be practiced? Be specific.

Boundaries are found in …Vision statements

Mission statementsStaff policies

Discipline policiesProgress Reports

Performance EvalsProgram rules Family rules

Guidelines for Establishing Clear

Boundaries1. Be Moderate2. Be Specific3. Be Positive - Virtues Based4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences5. Make Consequences Educative6. Be Consistent7. Communicate Rules Clearly8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable10. Make Expectations Clear

BoundariesCourtesyRespect

TrustAssertiveness

Follow directions and treat each other as you would want to be treated.

Listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing.

Hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop.

Participate in a way which is right for you. Share what you are comfortable sharing.

WRITING A BOUNDARYWrite a personal boundary for work and for home

Remember, first identify the virtue that is needed

Next, write down a specific example of how to practice it

BOUNDARY QUESTIONS ACTIVITY

In groups of three, take turns asking, one person at a time, all of the questions When each person has finished answering the questions, both listeners acknowledge virtues you see in the person who shared

HONOR THE SPIRIT

WHAT HONORS YOUR SPIRITWhat brings you joy?

What inspires you?

What renews your spirit?

What gives you energy?

What Re-

creates You?

Honor the Spirit

Mastery

Mystery

Meaning

Explore MysteryHonor Meaning

J ournalingSpirit WalksVirtues Picks

Sharing Circles

The Virtues Pick1. Pick a partner. Decide who will share first.2. Share something about what’s up in your life at this time (good or bad).3. Read your virtue card aloud and share how it is speaking to you.4. Partner, companion in SILENCE with no cross talk.5. When first person finishes sharing, partner give VIRTUES ACKNOWLEGEMENT and write the virtues on their gem tag.

Simple Steps for Spiritual HealthCreate a Routine of ReverenceTake time every day for reflection.

Enjoy YourselfSpend non-compulsory time alone

and with people you enjoy.Make Time for Friendship

For listening and companioning, for being together.Lead your life with Integrity

Tell the truth. Do it now.Expose yourself to Beauty

Be in nature.Spend time with the Arts.

ACTIVITY WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY?

Q & A

Evaluations

Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues

Strategies1. Naming VirtuesWhat are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward?2. What is the Teachable MomentFor our organization?3. How clear are our Boundaries?What boundaries do we need to establish?

4. How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension?What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed?5. What are our true issues?What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another?

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