birth interview
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Because of a long struggle to get pregnant my parents knew about my existence from a
very early time and right away were able to start both the medical and physical and emotional
preparations to get ready for a baby. My mother did not really change her diet or her behaviors
throughout her pregnancy. She didnt drink or smoke and she took her prenatal vitamins. And
while McDonalds Breakfast Burrito commercials made her nauseous, but she never actually
threw-up. The rest of the pregnancy was pretty uncomplicated. My parents decided against any
sort of fetal genetic testing. My father is deaf and they decided that even if I was born with
some sort of disability they were willing to take that added responsibility on. My parents did
decide that once I was born I would have an ABR brain scan hearing test done while I was still in
the hospital. While it is common practice for all babies to receive that testing today, when I was
born it was only done if asked. With my father being deaf, for somewhat unknown reasons, I
exhibited the risk factors to go ahead with the testing. These risk factors increased after I was
born and the doctor noticed a skin tag on my ear, a sign of possible hearing loss. The only other
complication that occurred through my mothers pregnancy was towards the end of the nine
months she had to have a rhoGAM shot since her blood type is B- and the possibility of my
blood type being incompatible with her type was quite high.
My own birth was the result of a C-sectionthat is all I knew going into this interview,
remembering the scar that will forever grace my mothers abdomen. My mother told me that
at about eight months along, whenever she would recline or lean back two bumps would
appear in her bellyshe thought the doctors were wrong and that there were actually two
babies instead of one. However, when she went to the doctor he gave her two possible
scenarios, one, it is a really big baby, or two, the baby is breech. After an ultrasound to confirm,
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it was learned that I was transverse breech and that a C-section would need to be scheduled on
the due date. The story my mother loves to tell is that I was actually due on her birthday,
February 22nd
, however now with this option of scheduling that day of my birth she picked a
new day, she wanted me to be able to have my own special day, my own birthday. Because of
the schedule and lack of surprise in the actual birth, my parent were glad that they had decided
not to find out my sex so that they still had at least one surprise awaiting them on February
19th
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On that day, almost 22 years ago, my parents headed to Akron City Hospital, now
Summa, in Akron, Ohio. My mother says that everything seemed perfectly routine. She at first
was shocked when they had an ultrasound machine out when she arrived at the hospital to
ensure that I hadnt moved from my breech position and when they told her that if I had moved
she would have been sent home to wait out labor; she was already prepared for the surgery!
Luckily (I guess) I was a stubborn baby and had not moved. My mother had a spinal to numb
her during the surgery and everything went according to the plan. Unlike with many other C-
sections, when a baby is transverse breech the mothers abdomen cannot be opened with the
more commonly seen horizontal cut, but rather a long vertical cut below the belly button. A
scar I was somewhat fascinated with as a child. Despite the surgery going according to plan,
apparently the operating table had some sort of malfunction and the surgery began later than
expected. To my grandparents in the waiting room this caused fear and uncertainty as to what
was going on and wondering if there were any issues, but half an hour past the scheduled time I
was here and all was well.
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Because it was the nineties, my father was allowed in the operating room with my
mother and did so without hesitance. Out of curiosity I asked my mother, if she had had a
vaginal delivery who would she have wanted in the room with her? She responded that while
my father would obviously be there, and my grandmother would obviously be there, the person
she wanted most in the delivery room would have been my grandfather. She told me that she
wanted him to be able to experience seeing a baby being born since at the time when his five
children were born- in the 1950s and 60s- he wasnt allowed to be there and experience that.
After the C-section my mother stayed in the hospital for three days and now 22 years
later she believes that the C-section was the only way to go. She attributes her ability to bounce
back through recovery and the ease she had losing her baby weight to her feelings on the
matter. She is most disappointed from her birth experience because she never go to have the
surprise of going into labor suddenly and unknowingly. While she and my father had created a
birth plan and had attended childbirth classes throughout the pregnancy, it ended up being all
for naught. I will say that my mothers own views on her seemingly easy pregnancy affected
both my interest and my opinions regarding birth as a young child. Now after learning more
about the different types of birth and the many, many factors involved in birth plans I see C-
sections as only a last chance type option, and in my mothers case it was, but what if it had
been elective. Would my views of my mother change? Of myself? Birth and how you are born
really do affect the rest of your life and that is why I am happy that I finally had this
conversation with my mother. Overcoming infertility not once but twice in your life is difficult
but my mother did it without sweat on her brow. Her love of children and her connection to
family was so strong, and is so strong that it never mattered how the child was born, or if the
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child was even hers; she loves unconditionally. Now I feel that we do share more of a bond,
now that I know about my birth. While I wish I could have hit more of the topics we covered in
class regarding change in diet or the decision of an epidural or Pitocin, I feel like we hit on
several major themes. The first, the issue of C-sections, second the role of fathers in the
birthing room, and third the difference between biological and adopted children. It is okay that
we didnt talk about everything covered in class because that is not my mothers birth story; my
mothers story is unique just like every mothers story. And one day whenmotherhood comes
my way, I know that she will be there with me through my own choices, obstacles, and joyshe
will be with me to create my own story.