Assessing True Needsof FamiliesPresented by:

CLIP Parent Steering Committee

WISe Symposium

July 2018

Hope

Today and in the future

Share what's going well

Positive Statements towards family

What you focus on grows

Balance Self Care with Family CareGeorgi Lakey

Empower parents and take care of ourselves as

well as we do our children

Make sure all family members mental and physical

health needs are met including caregivers

Relevant resources and qualified agencies

Refer to your Supervisor

Spiritual NeedsGeorgi Lakey

Different for each family and family

members

Know what they need?

Listen

Strengths can be away to meet needs

FunGeorgi Lakey

Everyone needs to have fun

Strengths list on what is considered fun for

family members

Importance of having fun

Educational NeedsSherry Lyons

Educational Needs Strategies

Educational timeline

Educational Needs Strategies

Strengths packet

Educational Needs StrategiesSherry Lyons

Communication with School

Effective SupervisionPatty King

Many times our children need more supervision than the average child

Hard shift for parents to make which leads them to crisis frequently (Line of

site)

Natural supports are a good way to meet this need, takes work from the

entire team to be effective (natural supports taking short turns, overnight

visits, short play dates, neighbor check in, phone calls and other technology

can be utilized).

Community structured activities can be another effective way (may require

skill building)

StructurePatty King

Assisting a family to talk about the structure of their child’s day can help

them to identify where the gaps are

Simply be creating a routine and sticking to it as much as possible can

decrease amount of crisis a family may experience in a day or a week

Creating back up plans when parents need additional assistance to keep

structure in place may be necessary

Revisiting every 90 days to see what’s working and what’s not working

Rules/Consequences and RewardsPatty King

We must help parents to not “parent by the seat of their pants” lol

It’s way more effective when it is clear on what’s expected

When consequences and rewards are identified to all family members for

anticipated behaviors.

Prevents “knee-jerk” reactions, which can minimize family conflict

Important to emphasize rewards

Revisiting to work out the kinks is important

Coping StrategiesKaren Kelly

Remind parents to “stay in the now”

Provide parents with a list of our signs and sayings and encourage them to

select their top ones to keep in their heart to repeat in the challenging times

Assure parents their child’s behaviors are not personal

Help parents determine what behaviors are typical developing and what is

outside that line

Encourage parents to fight off isolation

Remember to BREATHE!

Parenting StrategiesKaren Kelly

It is important to have strategies in place whenever possible

Remind parents it is okay to think “outside the box”!

Assist parents to identify what kind of help they need to develop successful

strategies

Give parents tools on how to reframe “Better”

Communicate with parents the importance of allowing their child to change

Communicate with parents the importance of allowing themselves to change!

Encourage parents to “do you”

Boundaries and LimitsKaren Kelly

Boundaries and limits are the frame for our picture

Remind parents that the boundaries and limits are for ourselves, not our

children! Know for yourself what they are and then “let go of the outcome”

Boundaries and limits are unique

Boundaries and limits are not just for our children

Help parents through the times they fall short or relapse into their old

behaviors

Celebrate with parents when they see success!

Remind parents to NOT GIVE UP

StrengthsMonique Wells

Ability to identify/recognize strengths within the family (especially during challenging behaviors, life’s circumstances, crisis, etc.)

“Strength grows in the moments when you think you can’t go on but you keep going anyway”

• Focusing on Family Strengths can Empower the family

• An opportunity for the family to see their own strength and resiliency through hardships and crisis.

FOCUS on the Strengths

• “you get what you focus on, so focus on what you want”

• “What you focus on grows”

• “Grow through what you go through”

Need to Feel HopeMonique Wells

Definition of Hope

: the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen : a feeling that

something good will happen or be true. : the chance that something good will happen. : someone or

something that may be able to provide help : someone or something that gives you a reason for hoping

The Importance of Hope-Why do our families need to know and experience

Hope?

Need to Feel Qualified to Parent Their Child

with Behavioral Health NeedsMonique Wells

Parent/Guardians are the some of the best experts on their child(ren) and

their needs!

Presented by:

CLIP Parent Steering Committee

Georgi Lakey-FYSPRT Family Tri-Lead, North Sound WA

Sherry Lyons-Executive Director, A Common Voice

Patty King-Family Liaison, Division of Behavioral Health and Recovery

Karen Kelly, Community Outreach Coordinator Statewide Family Network

Monique Wells, Parent Peer Support Specialist, Sunstone