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The Empowered Life And Your Connection To The Soul-Self

By

Cassandra Blizzard

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The Empowered Life And Your Connection To The Soul-Self Cassandra D. Blizzardhttp!!cassandra"lizzard.com

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Special thank you to my husband Don for believing in me when others did not. All my love.

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Contents

A /ote (rom The Author

The 0rdinar& Chaos 0f Life

The Core Self E1plained*ersonal *ower Concepts

The A#reements e 2a%e

*erceptions of Self 0ur 0pinion 0f Self Can 3elp +s 0r 3urt +sa&s That e i$e 0ur *ersonal *ower Awa&

3ow e +n%nowin#l& Sa"ota#e Self

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3ow e 2a%e The 2a4or Decisions 5n Life6elationships

*eople *leasin#

hen 5t 2atters Too 2uch The Seriousl& Sensiti$e 5ndi$idual And The Challen#es e (ace

Thin#s Be&ond 0ur ControlSo Tired 0f The Stru##le

Ta%in# Your *ower Bac%Self-6eliance

A /ew *erspecti$e of Self The E#o That or%s (or You

Settin# *ositi$e BoundariesEna"lin# Self B& Settin# 6easona"le oals 5n Life

Self Acceptance hen You 2a%e A 2ista%e

Soul 3elp

Disco$erin# The Core You hat You ere Born To DoThe /ew Balanced You

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A Note From The Author

This "oo% was "orne from &ears of conductin# sessions with clients from all o$er the world. 5"e#an to see patterns with people' e$en m&self' and 5 #ot to a point that 4ust tellin# people what

was comin# into their future wasn7t enou#h for me. 5 wanted to #i$e them the tools to ma%e

positi$e chan#es in their life' and the tools to deal with difficulties and challen#es in their life. 5

wanted people to understand the core of the Soul' how the Soul percei$es ph&sical life' and 5wanted people to learn how to find 4o& in life. 0$erall' 5 4ust wanted more for m& clients.

A small percenta#e of people will #o to a ps&chic 4ust to tr& to see around corners' so to

spea%. The& want to %now what is comin#. 8ust tellin# them somethin# is not necessaril&

empowerin#. 5n fact' 4ust the tellin# of somethin# without the tools to na$i#ate o"stacles can "edisempowerin#. So' 5 "e#an to add su"stance to m& readin#s "& coachin# people on how to deal

with an&thin# ne#ati$e' how to chan#e their relationships' how the& $iew Self' how to ha$esuccess' how to percei$e success' and how to remo$e stum"lin# "loc%s. Essentiall&' 5 was

teachin# them to "e empowered and happ& and to ta%e control of their li$es. /ot e$er&one wants

this. Some people still want the standard issue ps&chic readin#. E$en worse' some people wantthe standard tarot card readin#. But with a standard tarot card readin#' clients can #o awa& from

the ta"le and feel worried' stressed' and totall& powerless to effect positi$e chan#e in their li$es.

hat7s the point of that9 5t7s the ultimate disempowerin# e1perience.

2& "oo% series is for all the Soul see%ers out there who want somethin# more out of theirph&sical life. This particular "oo%-set The Empowered Life And Your Connection To Your

Soul-Self and The Empowered Life The or%"oo% emphasizes the wa&s in which we #i$e awa&

our personal power' how we allow others to disempower us' how we disempower Self' and is anaide in helpin# to achie$e a health& "alance in life and mo$e toward a more positi$e' fulfillin#

future. These "oo%s are meant to "e used to#ether as a set' and the& are not meant to "e casuall&

read in one sittin#. (ar from it. Both of these "oo%s are meant to "e used repeatedl& anddi#ested o$er time. You ma& find some thin#s within the "oo% to "e repetiti$e' "ut there is a

purpose "ehind that. These "oo%s are constructed so that &ou can #o to an& section and #ain

information without constantl& flippin# "ac% and forth in frustratin# searches. These "oo%s are

meant to enhance &our life and are meant to "e used whene$er &ou need them. Don7t e1pect toread throu#h these "oo%s in a few da&s. Ta%e it slowl& and' little "it "& little "it' a"sor" what is

offered within these pa#es. The Empowered Life And Your Connection To The Soul-Self and

The Empowered Life The or%"oo% each can stand on their own' "ut it7s "est if &ou read theentire series as it was meant to "e a"sor"ed in a particular order' startin# with Se$en Years of

Surrender' A orld ithout Color' and The od *oint. 5f nothin# else' at least read The od

*oint for a deeper understandin# of the Soul.The first half of The Empowered Life And Your Connection To The Soul-Self is all a"out

the wa&s in which we #i$e our personal power awa&' while the second half helps &ou to "e#in a

new 4ourne& toward self-disco$er&' healin#' and "alance.

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There are $er& few people who escape this ph&sical life without ha$in# the e1perience of

feelin# li%e #i$in# up. Life can #et so hectic and out of control at times that we feel li%e we

don7t ha$e an& control at all. hat we "elie$e a"out oursel$es "ecomes our realit&: and in soman& wa&s' what we "elie$e a"out oursel$es forms our future. 57m not spea%in# in air&-fair&'

/ew A#e terms here. 5 am tal%in# a"out the real deal. hat we "elie$e a"out Self is critical to

our emotional' ps&cholo#ical' and ph&sical well "ein#. 5t7s important that we all learn to harnessour "eliefs and to understand that our "eliefs can "e a detrimental force in our li$es or the& can

"e a positi$e force in our li$es.

2an& people %now what the& dont wantin life' almost without #i$in# it an& thou#ht' andthe& li$e their life in a sort of a$oidance pattern. hen we li$e "& this a$oidance pattern' we

stop focusin# on where we are supposed to "e and what we reall&' reall& want to do in life. e

sta& rooted in this a$oidance pattern until we "elie$e that that is what life is all a"out and that is

all we #et in life. 2ost people who are stuc% in intolera"le situations "elie$e that the& don7tha$e an& control o$er their life. That7s where 5 come in. E$er&one to some de#ree has control

o$er their life. e ma%e choices dail& that either "ind us or free us. But we sometimes for#et

that we e$en ha$e a choice in an& #i$en situation. And some of us are not aware that e$en how,

if,or whenwe ma%e a choice is in itself a choice.;ell'< &ou mi#ht ar#ue. ;hat if &ou are a prisoner of war' and &ou7re stuc% in a

concentration camp somewhere' &ou #et fed one slop-meal a da&' if that' and &ou ha$e nocontact with an&one "ut &our prison #uards9 You don7t ha$e an& control o$er that' do &ou9The *ersona is more full& descri"ed in m& "oo% The od *oint.? 5t is unfortunate

that some people fall into this trap' this illusion' "ecause we can onl& full& li$e life when we are

li$in# from the Core Self. 5n truth' we lose nothin# when we full& "elie$e in the Soul. 5nstead'

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paradi#ms or familial teachin#s or peer pressure' we "e#in to de$elop awayfrom the Soul' awa&

from our true path in life. (or e1ample' as a child' one of &our teachers ma& ha$e told &ou that

&our true path in life was to "e an educator' while &our Soul was tellin# &ou that &ou aresupposed to "e a "allet dancer who tra$els the world. 5nstead of followin# the tu# of &our heart'

&ou pla& it safe and heed the teacher7s ad$ice.

5nstead of li$in# an authentic life' as we #row into adulthood' we "e#in to li$e a life ofparadi#ms and false "eliefs. e "uild a foundation on top of these false "eliefs and paradi#ms

that we #athered o$er the &ears from these different e1periences and these different people in our

li$es. +nfortunatel&' "uildin# a foundation on a false "elief ma%es us wo""le throu#h life' ne$er=uite %nowin# who we are or how we fit in' and ne$er reall& findin# our true power center. 5t

"ecomes a life of im"alance rather than a life in"alance.

You are ne$er alone. E$en when &ou feel li%e &ou are at the "ottom' wallowin# in the worst

possi"le scenario of life' &ou are not alone. Your Soul is alwa&s there' alwa&s offerin# #uidance'and alwa&s #i$in# &ou the #ift of +ni$ersal Lo$e. This understandin# is one of the most

powerful concepts &ou will e$er ha$e throu#hout &our life.

You alwa&s ha$e You to lean on. The dualistic part of You' the Soul part of &ou' the Core

You. That part of &ou that is ne$er wron# and ne$er moti$ated "& an&thin# "ut the Lo$e of theod Source.

/ow' how do we #et from the chaos of life to the personal power unit that &ou need to "e inorder to ha$e a "etter' happier' more peaceful life9

e "e#in with understandin# how we arri$ed at the chaos of life in the first place. e

simpl& learned life the wron# wa&. /ow let7s learn life the ri#ht wa&.

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"ersonal "ower Concepts

*ersonal *ower. Almost e$er&one has heard of this concept. (rom spiritualit& to life coachin#

to ps&cholo#&' personal power has "een discussed all across the "oard. But what is personal

power9 ell' it7s somewhat difficult to descri"e. You could li%en it to a sort of core unit that

%eeps &ou directed' moti$ated' happ&' focused' and "alanced. hen that core unit of personalpower is off %ilter' &our moti$ation plummets' &our focus declines' &our happiness is

undermined' and &our life #oes into a state of im"alance. 5 call it "ein# pulled off center. 8ust

li%e &our mind' &our will' and &our emotions' personal power doesn7t reside in an& particular

location' "ut &ou can measure how much personal power &ou ha$e "& how &ou feel a"out Self.You alwa&s %now that &our personal power is in a state of decline "& how much chaos is in &our

life' "& how misdirected &ou feel' and "& how "ad &ou feel a"out &ourself. Con$ersel&' &ou can"et that &our personal power tan% is full when &ou are focused' directed' determined' moti$ated'

happ&' and feelin# #ood a"out &ourself.

+nderstandin# personal power and #uardin# &our personal power is so important "ecausehow much personal power &ou ha$e determines &our success in e$er& area of life' from

relationships to career to recreational time. 5f &ou are constantl& #i$in# awa& &our personal

power' &ou won7t ha$e the #uts to chase success. You won7t e$en feel worth& of success. And

&ou will "e afraid of ma%in# e$en "asic decisions in life.0ur personal power can "e drained from us in seemin#l& harmless wa&s' or it can "e drained

from us in "i#' o"$ious wa&s. To #i$e &ou an e1ample of ha$in# &our personal power pulled off

center from a seemin#l& harmless source' we will use social media as a "ac%drop. An#ie has asocial media account. 0n the surface' this social media acti$it& seems $er& positi$e. She7s "een

a"le to use this social media account to reconnect with some old hi#h school friends and

ac=uaintances. But little "it "& little "it' this online social acti$it& "e#ins to undermine herpersonal power core. 3ere7s how. C&nthia' a lon#time friend of An#ie7s is constantl&

commentin# on another woman7s social pa#e' "ut she rarel& posts an&thin# in response to

An#ie. An#ie feels somewhat dismissed or inconse=uential' "ecause she7s %nown C&nthia for so

man& &ears' and she doesn7t understand wh& C&nthia i#nores her on this social media outlet.C&nthia7s "eha$ior hurts An#ie. But C&nthia is onl& one spo%e in the wheel.

Bl&the is an old friend from hi#h school' with whom An#ie has onl& recentl& connected. 0n

the same social media outlet' Bl&the ma%es a remar% to a third part& a"out how An#ie was a dor%"ac% in hi#h school. An#ie tries to i#nore the comment' "ut it sta&s with her for da&s.

2eanwhile' &et another spo%e in this wheel' Anna' a co-wor%er' is also sharin# the same social

media outlet. 0ne da&' An#ie notices a post from Anna in$itin# a fellow co-wor%er to lunch.An#ie is surprised "ecause Anna and An#ie ha$e alwa&s #otten alon# well' whereas Anna

alwa&s acted li%e she didn7t li%e the other co-wor%er. Anna and An#ie used to ha$e lunch

to#ether nearl& e$er& wor% da&' "ut now Anna and the co-wor%er are lunchin# to#ether on a

re#ular "asis. An#ie feels misled and lied to. The pileup of ne#ati$e emotions from these three

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sore spots are "e#innin# to wear on An#ie. Little "it "& little "it' An#ie is startin# to feel

offended' dismissed' i#nored' and disli%ed. hat seemed li%e a positi$e outlet has now "ecome

a point of contention' effecti$el& de-powerin# An#ie7s Core *ersonal *ower unit and ma%in# herfeel deflated. 5n 4ust a few short months' An#ie7s perception of Self has ta%en a nosedi$e' and

she "e#ins to =uestion her friendships' her choices' and e$en her own intuition. She retreats from

the world and "ecomes =uiet' unwillin# to interact with her co-wor%ers. This reacti$e "eha$iorcauses the wor%place to "e pulled off "alance and di$ides An#ie from the rest of the pac%' which

in turn compounds An#ie7s feelin#s of suddenl& "ein# unwanted and disli%ed. All "ecause of the

comments people made within the pa#es of this online social communit&.B& this time' An#ie is feelin# depressed' lonel&' and she doesn7t trust that her friends are

"ein# #enuine with her. She has allowed the actions of others to pull her off center' and in doin#

so she has #i$en awa& "its and pieces of her personal power.

Bein# personall& empowered means that &ou %now who &ou are at the core' &ou respect'lo$e' and appreciate &ourSelf. You are moti$ated and forward thin%in#. You ha$e a health&

amount of am"ition. You loo% forward to each new da&. You en4o& life. You %now other

people lo$e and respect &ou. You focus on the positi$e thin#s in life. You trust &our intuition.

E$en when facin# o"stacles' &ou maintain a positi$e outloo% and a stron# "elief that all will "ewell in the lon# run. Challen#es do not cripple &ou: the& onl& slow &ou down a "it. You see%

out relationships with li%e-minded people' and &ou don7t allow other people to define who &ouare at the core.

You mi#ht assume that women are most suscepti"le to ha$in# their personal power unit

leeched. /ot so. 2en are 4ust as suscepti"le' "ut men don7t tal% a"out these issues as much aswomen do' and men tend to mo$e on to other thin#s much easier and much =uic%er than women

do.

*ersonal power is so important to the e#o side of us and so important in maintainin# a

positi$e outloo% on life in #eneral. 3a$in# said that' personal power is not a"out e#o. 5t7s nota"out "ein# self-important. *ersonal power is much more su"tle and has no ne#ati$e

connotations. *ersonal power is more of a continuous stream of feed"ac%' or ener#& if &ou will'

that is $itall& connected to &our emotional state of "ein#. A state of mind that dri$es &ourperception of Self. 5f that perception of Self "ecomes ne#ati$e' &our life "ecomes a chaotic

mess. 5t7s important to learn how important &our *ersonal Core *ower unit is to &our dail& life

and &our perception of Self. And it7s important to %now how &ou #i$e awa& that personalpower' usuall& on a dail& "asis' without e$en realizin# &ou are doin# so.

5 discuss the $ar&in# aspects of the e#o in m& "oo% A orld ithout Color. 57m not one to

want to crush the e#o into o"li$ion. The e#o is not a ne#ati$e thin#. 5n fact' certain aspects of

the e#o are necessar& to our dail& e1istence. That is not to sa& that e#omania is desira"le.Certainl& not. But what is desira"le is a health& e#o' what 5 call the Centered E#o. 5n m& "oo%

A orld ithout Color' 5 discuss in more depth a"out how the 5rrational E#o pulls us off center'

and this in turn desta"ilizes our personal power. hen we allow the 5rrational E#o to e1pandand #row' we can7t ma%e clear decisions a"out our life. And this is precisel& what has happened

to An#ie "& allowin# the people in her online social #roup to #et under her s%in. The 5rrational

E#o has o$erpowered the 6ational E#o and undermined her personal power' which in turnde#rades her perception of Self. The positi$e perception of Self comes from the Centered E#o.

hen &ou are operatin# from the Centered E#o' &ou %now who &ou are at the core' &ou trust

&our intuition' &ou "elie$e in &ourself and &our a"ilities' and &ou ha$e a health& outloo% on life.

/ow perhaps &ou can see how the Centered E#o and personal power #o hand-in-hand. So' in a

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sense' the Centered E#o is &our core perception of Self and how &ou $iew the world around &ou

in a positi$e wa&' and &our personal power unit is the emotional state of mind that helps &ou

thri$e within that world.e #i$e awa& our personal power e$er& da& without e$en realizin# we are doin# so.

Some indications that your core power is #ein$ drained%

, (eelin# o$erl& frustrated when faced with situations that don7t warrant a hi#h le$el of

frustration., 2isdirected an#er.

, (eelin# e1hausted or tired.

, (eelin# hopeless.

, (eelin# li%e no one cares a"out &ou., (eelin# an1ious.

, eneralized depression.

, (eelin# o$erwhelmed.

, (eelin# li%e &ou ha$e no direction or purpose in life., Lac% of interest in life.

/ot onl& do we allow others to steal our core >personal? power' we also do it to oursel$es in

a m&riad of wa&s. 0ne of the wa&s we drain our own personal power is "& self-criticism' self-

"lame' and inwardl& directed an#er. But it doesn7t stop there. Bein# o$erl& critical' 4ud#mental'and non-acceptin# of others also drains our core power. /e#ati$e emotion in #eneral' especiall&

ne#ati$e emotions that are non-directed or misdirected' alwa&s affect our inner peace' which in

turn pulls us off center.

A focused indi$idual maintains a health& inner "alance and a health& core power. 5fsomeone is o$erl& focused on what other people are doin#' that is an indication that the& are

unhapp& at the core and the& are usin# pro4ection of their emotions to mas% their core

unhappiness. 5f &ou are o$erl& focused on what other people are doin#' then &ou are less focusedon &our life and what &ou are doin#. *eople who are o$erl& focused on what other people do'

thin%' or feel cannot maintain a health& inner "alance' and the& tend to "e o$erl& critical and

4ud#mental. 5n &our search for personal "alance' it7s important that &ou learn to reco#nize whereanother human "ein# mi#ht "e at in their personal 4ourne& and what their emotional state is so

that &ou can %eep them in perspecti$e. hen &ou learn to %eep the emotional state of a person in

perspecti$e' it helps &ou to maintain &our core power without allowin# them to drain &ou of &our

personal power. Learnin# these techni=ues offers &ou the ad$anta#e of "ein# stron# enou#h toma%e a personal choice. 0ne part of that personal choice ma& "e to wal% awa& from the less

"alanced indi$idual in order for &ou to maintain &our inner peace. A second part of that choice'

"ut no less important' is to reco#nize where the& are at emotionall& so that what the& do and sa&does not affect &ou or pull &ou off center. These are the two most powerful tools in &our

personal 4ourne& throu#h life' and this understandin# when put into practice will %eep &ou

centered' focused' and happ&.5n The Empowered Life The or%"oo%' 5 will outline wa&s that &ou can reco#nize when

&our personal power is "ein# drained and some of the areas of &our life that are most affected.

0ne of the first thin#s an unhapp& person will do' whether consciousl& or su"consciousl&' is

to ma%e sure that &ou are also unhapp&. The& do this "& drainin# &our personal power in a

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m&riad of wa&s. The& ma& criticize or 4ud#e &ou. The& ma& "e com"ati$e and confrontational'

which alwa&s %eeps &ou off "alance "ecause &ou are constantl& tr&in# to a$oid or deflect their

confrontational "eha$ior. The& ma& disa#ree with e$er&thin# &ou sa& and ne$er "e a"le tomaintain a two-wa& con$ersation with &ou. The& ma& "e o$erl& demandin# of &our time' or

4ealous of &our time spent with other friends. The& ma& "e critical of &our spouse' parents' or

children. The& ma& demand an unreasona"le de#ree of lo&alt& from &ou. The& ma& "e timestealers. The& ma& "admouth &ou to mutual friends while "ein# o$erl& sweet to &our face. And

the list #oes on.

5f &ou are allowin# an& friends or relati$es to emotionall& dra# &ou around with an& of thea"o$ementioned "eha$ior then &ou ma& "e a people-pleaser at heart. 0r &ou ma& feel that it is

&our dut& to put up with this sort of ne#ati$e "eha$ior "ecause &ou ha$en7t "een tau#ht an& other

wa&. You ma& also worr& that if &ou were to challen#e this "eha$ior in a positi$e' focused wa&

that "enefits &ou that doin# so somehow ma%es &ou a "ad person. /ot so. 5n fact' to set"oundaries in order to maintain &our core power helps &ou to "ecome a more self-actualized'

peaceful' happ& person o$erall and therefore #i$es &ou the opportunit& to mo$e forward in life

feelin# less encum"ered. 5n essence' &ou "e#in to li$e life more full&' and when &ou are li$in# a

fuller life' e$er&one around &ou "enefits.e will discuss in more depth how to #et &our personal power "ac% in a later chapter. (or

now let7s mo$e on to the silent a#reements we ma%e.

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The A$reements &e 'a(e

Si#ned' sealed' and deli$ered. e all understand the term a#reement. e either a#ree with

somethin# someone sa&s or we do not a#ree with somethin# someone sa&s. hen a friend as%s

us to #o to lunch' we either a#ree or we do not a#ree to #o. hen &ou and &our spouse arefacin# a decision a"out a ma4or mo$e' &ou either a#ree to ma%e the mo$e or &ou do not a#ree to

ma%e the mo$e. e all also understand what it means to si#n a contract which "inds us to an

a#reement made "etween two or more parties. (or e1ample' a lease a#reement. These

a#reements we ma%e in the ph&sical' conscious world are eas& to see and eas& to understand.But what a"out the su"conscious a#reements we ma%e9 Those oh so su"tle a#reements that we

aren7t e$en aware we are ma%in# and &et the& affect e$er& aspect of our dail& li$es. hat a"outthose a#reements9

These su"conscious a#reements underpin our conscious decisions and our self-perceptions.

The& mold us' #uide us' and to a lar#e de#ree stand in the #ap "etween our success and ourfailure. 8ust li%e in the conscious world' ma%e the wron# a#reement and &our life can teeter out

of control. 5n order to "e trul& "alanced and trul& successful in life' we must all a#ree to loo%

closel& at the su"conscious a#reements we ma%e "ecause the& are the %e& to how we na$i#ate

this ph&sical world. 0ur su"conscious a#reements can "e health& or unhealth&. 5t7s theunhealth& ones that we want to #et rid of "ecause these unhealth& su"conscious a#reements can

do$etail with a loss of personal power. But unco$erin# these su"conscious a#reements can "e

tric%&. e tend to clin# to these su"conscious a#reements' whether the& are health& orunhealth&' and it ta%es an open mind and a willin# heart to trul& unearth our core a#reements'

our core "eliefs' to cleanse and clear the Soul and #et rid of the a#reements and "eliefs that are

not #ood for us.The desire to clin# to a lon# held paradi#m that ma& or ma& not "e health& is "est shown in

the e1ample of reli#ion. /ow as some of &ou ma& alread& %now "& readin# m& "oo% A orld

ithout Color' reli#ion is a stic%in# point for me. But what &ou are a"out to read is not a

personal "ias. 5t7s a spiritual truth. The reli#ion that we are "orn into forms man& of our earl&paradi#ms a"out Self' the world around us' and the od that is supposedl& "e&ond us. And

sometimes those paradi#ms are a detriment.

0ne e1ample of a su"conscious a#reement that all of us ha$e made at some point in ourlifetime is that of Self Blame. Self Blame on an& le$el' whether conscious or su"conscious can

"e a ma4or hindrance in life and can sap &ou of personal power. Self Blame is one of the "i##est

concepts in life that %eeps us in a state of im"alance and insecurit& a"out Self and the world in#eneral. And Self Blame can de$elop from some reli#ious "eliefs.

Let7s ta%e the old Baptist "elief that od is a od of punishment. The notion that od is a

od of punishment is all o$er the Bi"le. As the 5sraelites mo$e into and con=uer new territories'

od seemin#l& #oes "efore the chosen people and helps them to slau#hter and con=uer.

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Apparentl&' accordin# to the Bi"le' od separates himself from us "& de#rees. (or e1ample'

onl& priests were allowed to enter the temple. An&one else "ein# of less pure heart and comin#

so near to od mi#ht either #et fried in their "ooties or "rin# ha$oc and punishment down uponthemsel$es' their families' and their tri"e' not to mention their floc%s. These %inds of teachin#s

can create deepl& em"edded and $er& powerful paradi#ms a"out Self that is an&thin# "ut

positi$e. (or one thin#' this punishin# and separatist idea of od tells &ou that &ou are notworth&. +nfortunatel&' these teachin#s ha$e "een handed down throu#h #enerations and ha$e

"ranched out into reli#ions all o$er the world throu#hout time. ou are not worthy. >Their

words not mine.? This refrain repeats o$er and o$er and o$er a#ain in so man& forms within thereli#ious mindset. 0ne You are not worth& to stand in the presence of od. Two You must

confess &our sins to a priest' who is more worth& than &ou to deli$er peace and for#i$eness to

&our unworth& Soul. Three You can ne$er hope to achie$e the perfection of 8esus Christ and

must therefore accept 8esus as &our personal sa$ior in order to enter the %in#dom of hea$en.Ahem scuse me9 You are in the %in#dom of hea$en e$er& sin#le second of &our life.

Your Soul connects &ou to &our Source e$er& minute of e$er& da& that &ou "reathe life. E$en

8esus tau#ht this simple spiritual truth. +nfortunatel&' man7s mind #ot hold of those teachin#s

and twisted them into somethin# that ma%es a"solutel& no sense' li%e the notion that thispunishin# form of od will find &our Soul unworth& for an& reason at all and flin# &ou into

hellfire itself.3ell is a construct desi#ned to scare the pants off &ou and ma%e &ou "e #ood.

+nfortunatel&' the church has ne$er reall& defined ;#ood< in a wa& that &ou can #rasp onto and

realize in &our own life. This lea$es &ou flounderin# and wonderin# a"out &ourSelf on a dail&"asis.

5 don7t despise reli#ion per se. 5 despise some of the underl&in# tenets. 5 was raised

Baptist. Baptists tau#ht me fear and self-loathin#' "oth of which 5 stru##led to o$ercome for

&ears. asted &ears. Years that 5 could ha$e spent lo$in# m&self and seein# m&self as the Soulwithin. hen 5 #rew up under the Baptist re#ime' 5 was terrified e$er& da& "ecause 5 could

ne$er fi#ure out 4ust how #ood do 5 ha$e to "e in order not to #o strai#ht to hell97 uess what

this does9 5t drains &ou of &our personal power. h&9 Because &ou are =uestionin# the $er&essence of &our "ein#. You are in effect =uestionin# the #oodness of &our Soul. You are "ein#

self-critical without e$en %nowin# wh&' and &ou are creatin# a paradi#m of Self Blame. 5n fact'

&ou will most assuredl& "ecome a repeat offender of Self Blame. And &ou won7t e$en %nowwhat &ou are "lamin# &ourSelf for.

Self Blame do$etails into self punishment. And some forms of reli#ion are "i# on self

punishment. 0nce this paradi#m is full& seated in &our su"conscious' &ou will "elie$e that &ou

are an unworth& Soul' and &ou ma& stru##le to ha$e an& %ind of personal securit& in life. Youwill alwa&s settle for less' &ou will end up feelin# li%e &ou are li$in# a lie as &ou cannot e$er

hope to li$e up to the standards of perfection' and &our self esteem will most li%el& "e at or near

roc% "ottom throu#hout &our lifetime.od then "ecomes another form of self punishment as &ou stru##le for a perfection no one

can e$er achie$e. You ma& %neel in pra&er "e##in# for deli$erance for &our lo$e of "lue 4eans

and earrin#s' sta& in a horri"l& a"usi$e and lo$eless marria#e' and ne$er stand up for &ourself as&ou hum"l& turn the other chee% for e$er&one to slap. Don7t for#et' while 8esus was turnin# the

other chee%' he was also flippin# o$er mone& chan#er ta"les in the temple. >0r' at least'

accordin# to the Bi"le' he was turnin# his chee% and flippin# ta"les.?

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So' these reli#ious "eliefs "ecome entrenched in such a wa& that &ou "e#in to "elie$e that

od will ultimatel& punish &ou for &our sins. This cannot "ecome truth for &ou unless &ou a#ree

to it' and that a#reement will "ecome a part of &our su"conscious mind. 5t will "ecome ana#reement from which &ou automaticall& operate and from which &ou 4ud#e Self and 0thers.

od then "ecomes a form of self punishment' and &ou will spend &our life stru##lin# a#ainst the

self-criticism' the insecurit&' the idea that &ou are unworth& while &our Soul mourns the fact that&ou ha$e a#reed to "elie$e in a od that punishes.

There is one sin in this world. And that sin is this 5f &ou do not honor the Soul in e$er&

li$in# thin#' &ou dishonor Self and od.3ere7s wh& this is the onl& sin in this world. hen &ou honor the Soul in &ourSelf and

honor the Soul in e$er& other li$in# thin#' essentiall& &ou are operatin# from a Soul State of

Bein#. 5n this case' &ou will ne$er cause an& harm to an&one. You will alwa&s operate from a

place of honest& and inte#rit&. You will ne$er cheat' steal' co$et' lie' and &ou will ne$er commita murder. All "ases are co$ered with this one spiritual truth. Simpl& honor the Soul in Self and

e$er& other li$in# thin# and &ou also honor od.

There is no od that punishes us. e punish Self in a m&riad of wa&s "& operatin# from

"elief s&stems that do not ser$e the #reater #ood of Soul and humanit&: "& the wa& we na$i#atethis world' "& what we "elie$e a"out Self and this world' and "& how we see Life in #eneral.

0ur paradi#ms can "e health& or harmful and' all too often' the su"conscious a#reements wema%e a"out Self and Life are unhealth& and 4ust plain wron#.

+nfortunatel&' while &ou are learnin# to honor the Soul in &ourSelf and 0thers' &our

nei#h"or ma& not "e practicin# the same spiritual truth' which means that &ou still ha$e to learnto maintain a state of core "alance in the midst of the challen#es of the e1ternal world.

5n order to create "alance in our outward life' we ha$e to create "alance in our inward life.

e ha$e to sweep awa& all the old' out-dated paradi#ms that cause im"alance and learn to

operate from a place of core "alance. And in order to sweep awa& these old' outdated paradi#ms'we must first unco$er the su"conscious a#reements we ma%e in life and understand which ones

are health& and which ones are unhealth&. e must then learn to form health& a#reements "ased

on what the Soul "elie$es and %nows a"out Self rather than "asin# our a#reements on what0thers ha$e told us a"out Soul' od' and Self.

5n addition to the paradi#ms that are formed "& our earl& reli#ious practices' there are a

multitude of su"conscious a#reements that we ma%e on a dail& "asis. (or e1ample' se$enteen-&ear-old Terr& has a dream. 3e wants to "e a famous actor. 3e wor%s hard at his craft' ta%es

actin# classes' and is in$ol$ed with school pla&s. hen he is on sta#e' Terr& feels uplifted and

empowered' which is a sure si#n that he is followin# his true Soul *ath in life. Somewhere down

the road' Terr&7s fame ma& result in helpin# another Soul on their life path. But Terr&7sstepfather tells Terr& dail& that actors are #a& and that Terr& needs to #et a real profession.

E$entuall&' the constant haran#ue from his stepfather con$inces Terr& that he will ne$er ma%e

it. Terr& stops ta%in# actin# classes and =uits the hi#h school productions. 3e has 4ust made asu"conscious a#reement that his stepfather is correct and that he would ne$er ma%e mone&

actin#. There7s a hu#e pro"lem with this powerful su"conscious a#reement. Terr& has now told

his Soul what he wants in life. Terr& has told his Soul to shut down an& access he ma& ha$e hadto an actin# career. Terr& #raduates hi#h school and "ecomes a mechanic' lea$in# his childhood

dream "ehind.

e ha$e to "e careful a"out what we su"consciousl& a#ree to. e must #uard oursel$es

a#ainst an&one else formin# our "eliefs a"out ourSelf and our future. *s&cholo#icall&' we can "e

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fra#ile. 5t7s so eas& to #et laz& and allow other people to form our paradi#ms. The su"conscious

mind is a powerful resource' "ut it can also "e a powerful failin# when we allow ne#ati$e

a#reements to "e formed.h& do we do this9 h& do we #i$e awa& our personal power so readil&9

0ne simple answer. @alidation.

/ot a sin#le one of us on this planet is immune from see%in# $alidation from others. Thethin#s we do on a re#ular "asis in our attempts to maintain feelin#s of $alidation are

phenomenal. e will literall& throw oursel$es under the "us tr&in# to #et $alidation from

someone else' such as a father' a mother' a si"lin#' a spouse. This need for $alidation rules ourli$es. But what we don7t understand is that $alidation from 0thers is sha%& at "est' #i$en to

chan#e' and offers other people too much power o$er us emotionall&.

e all operate from a set of core paradi#ms or "eliefs a"out Self and the world around us.

These paradi#ms shift and chan#e as we #row and assimilate more information from ouren$ironment. 3a$in# a set of core "eliefs is part of our ma%eup. i$in# awa& our personal

power is not. ould-"e actor Terr& is an e1ample of someone who allowed his stepfather to

erode his core "eliefs a"out himself. Terr&7s stepfather chan#ed his paradi#m and made him

"elie$e that he was unworth& of success as an actor. 0nce that paradi#m was chan#ed' Terr&"e#an to operate from within that "elief' and he #a$e up on his dream. 3e #a$e up on himself.

5 hope &ou ne$er #i$e up on &our dreams. /e$er #i$e up on &ourself.But trul& the onl& wa& that ne#ati$e e$ents or words can affect us is if we a#ree to allow it

to affect us.

Be mindful of the subconscious agreements you make

because those agreements tell your Soul what you want in life.

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