how to heal a broken heart

Do you be l ie ve in t rue l o ve? …

Does happy end ing rea l ly ex i s t?. . .

Have you been in a relationship?...

Have you been in a heartbreak?...

B-R-E-A-K“Go ing through

heartbreak can fee l l i k e

be ing underwater

when you need to

breathe . ”

How to Overcome

Heartbreak?

We bui ld our l i v es with someone we trust and care for , and then , in

the b l ink of an eye , i t ' s a l l gone . Th is can l eave peop l e with sorrow, anger , and some ser ious quest ions

— about ourse lv es and the future . So , go back to BAS IC when

you haven ’ t know/met h im/her yet .

A. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME

You've probably been in a relationship for a while, or maybe you've been thinking about that person non-stop for months. Now is the

time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone falls down. It's how you get back up that defines

you.

B. Remove all the memories of the person from your everyday life.

You're not trying to pretend like the person

never existed, just temporarily forget how

much they meant to you and how they broke your heart.

C. Disconnect the person from all the social networks you use.

Nowadays, we have our regular lives and our

online lives. Unsubscribe from the person on

Facebook, unfollow them on Twitter, and work so that your online network doesn't remind you of the

person who broke your heart.

D. Exercise and eat right

Go the gym or get outside and sweat. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which

acts like a natural antidepressant, improving your mood. It's okay to eat ice cream and milkshakes every once in a while (who doesn't do that?!) but it's best to continue to eat a diet rich in fruits and veggies, lean protein, whole grains, and water. These will not only make you look fantastic, but feel fantastic as well.

E. Try not to be in the same place as the person, if possible.

This is hard to do, obviously: The other person has probably been an important part of your life for

some time, and your body and brain are used to having them around. But giving the other

person up, like cold turkey, is a good way to tell your body and

mind that there are plenty of other people in the world who

deserve your attention. Why not give them a chance?

F. Stay optimistic.This is easier said than done, but whenever you feel yourself being overly

negative, dwelling on the past, or just looking at the glass as half-empty, try to snap out of it. Remind yourself of everything you have and how

lucky you are.

2ndACCEPTANCE

Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and

only with acceptance can there be recovery.

A. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship.

Every relationship has its strengths and weaknesses. Figure out what

went wrong in your relationship, or what wasn't so great about the other person. This way you can

grow in the future, or look for better traits in your next partner. There

are a bunch of things that can normally go wrong in a relationship.

B. Don't obsess over whose fault it was.

You probably have room for growing, too, so try not to pin all the blame on just the other person. Focus on the

issues, not the actors.

C. Learn from your mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes. It's how

you learn from them that defines you as a person. Learn from what went wrong in

your last relationship — what caused you to be heartbroken — and make sure that

doesn't happen in the future

D. Once you're ready, forgive the other person.

Forgiveness is an important part of healing your broken heart. In order to move on, you need to forgive the other person, or you'll constantly be thinking about them or wondering

why they hurt you.

E. Don't argue with the other person.

Sometimes you give the other person a chance to speak their mind, or to talk about an issue that went wrong. We do this to get closure. If

you are discussing things with the person who broke your heart, be a little guarded and don't

let the conversation turn into an argument.

3rdTURNING YOUR LIFE

AROUNDThink about the last t ime you felt

emotional pain.Perhaps the last t ime was about a

second ago, or perhaps a fair ly long time, regardless, put yourself

back there for a moment.

A. Lean on your friendsYour friends are there to help

you, to comfort you when you're feeling bad, and

inspire you to feel good. Deep down, your friends love you. It's not unreasonable to lean on your friends as you deal with a broken heart.

They're maybe the ones who will help you out of it.

B. Channe l your energy i n to new ac t i v i t i e s .

 What we miss when a relationship ends is that we can't express our love anymore. We can't express our excitement to someone who's interested because

they're interested in you. You can continue this form of heartfelt expression, however, by writing poetry,

painting, singing, dancing, etc. Do whatever it takes to allow you to transform your pain into something

productive!

C. Go on a trip.  

It doesn't need to be far, but it should be far enough to give you a little bit of perspective. The world is such a big, beautiful place; you should take advantage of it. Bring some camping

supplies or bunk it with that friend

you haven't seen in a while. A little bit of distance can

do wonders for your broken heart.

D. Tap your imagination. . 

Nothing makes getting over a broken heart harder than feeling trapped. And it may

be cheesy or cliché, but your imagination will let you go places you've never been and experience things you might never

see. Use it. You'll feel better.

E. Once you feel ready, start dating other people

again.After two or three months, many people feel

ready to date again. Be sure you've fixed some of the issues you had in your

previous relation, and try not to make the same mistake twice!

F. Remember the two-year rule.

It takes two years to learn a new job, two years to get accustomed to a new town, and two years to completely heal a broken heart. If

you expect to be completely healed in a day after a three-year relationship, you could be

sorely disappointed. Real results are obtainable when realistic expectations are

set.

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