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GUIDELINESFORMARRIAGECELEBRATIONS2018Version7.5.18

EXHORATIONBEFOREMARRIAGE

MyBrotherandSister:Youhavebegunpreparingtoenteruponaunion,whichismostsacredandmostserious.ItismostsacredbecauseitwasestablishedbyGodHimself.Byit,hegavetomanashareinthegreatestworkofcreation,theworkofcontinuationofthehumanrace.Andinthisway,hesanctifiedhumanloveandenabledmanandwomantohelpeachotherliveaschildrenofGod,bysharingacommonlifeunderhisfatherlycare.

BecauseGodhimselfisthusitsauthor,marriageisofitsverynatureaholyinstitution,requiringofthosewhoenterintoitacompleteandunreservedgivingofself.ButChristourLordaddedtotheholinessofmarriageanevendeepermeaningandahigherbeauty.HereferredtotheloveofmarriagetodescribehisownloveforHisChurch,thatis,forthepeopleofGodwhomheredeemedbyhisownblood.Andso,hegavetoChristiansanewvisionofwhatmarriedlifeoughttobe,alifeofself-sacrificinglovelikehisown.ItisforthisreasonthatHisapostle,St.Paul,clearlystatesthatmarriageisnowandforalltimetobeconsideredagreatmystery,intimatelyboundupwiththesupernaturalunionofChristandtheChurch,whichunionisalsotobeitspattern.

Thisunion, then, ismost serious, because itwill bind you together for life in a relationship so closeand sointimate,thatitwillprofoundlyinfluenceyourwholefuture.Thatfuture,withitshopesanddisappointments,itssuccessesanditsfailures,itspleasuresanditspains,itsjoysanditssorrows,ishiddenfromyoureyes.Youknowthattheseelementsaremingledineverylifeandaretobeexpectedinyourown.Andsonotknowingwhatisbeforeyou,youtakeeachotherforbetterorforworse,forricherorforpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeath.

Trulythen,thesewordsaremostserious.Itisabeautifultributetoyourundoubtedfaithineachother,thatrecognizingtheirfullimport,youare,nevertheless,sowillingandreadytopronouncethem.Andbecausethesewordsinvolvesuchsolemnobligations,itismostfittingthatyourestthesecurityofourweddedlifeuponthegreatprincipleofself-sacrifice.Andso,youbeginyourmarriedlifebythevoluntaryandcompletesurrenderofyourindividuallivesintheinterestofthatdeeperandwiderlifewhichyouaretohaveincommon.Henceforthyouwillbelongentirelytoeachother;youwillbeoneinmind,oneinheartandoneinaffections.Andwhateversacrificesyoumayhereafterberequiredtomaketopreservethismutuallife,alwaysmakethemgenerously.Sacrificeisusuallydifficultandirksome.Onlylovecanmakeiteasy,andperfectlovecanmakeitajoy.Wearewillingtogiveinproportionaswelove.Andwhenloveisperfect,thesacrificeiscomplete.GodsolovedthewordthathegavehisonlybegottenSon,andtheSonsolovedusthatHegaveHimselfforoursalvation.“Greaterlovethanthisnomanhath,thatamanlaydownhislifeforhisfriends.”

Nogreaterblessingcancometoyourmarriedlifethanpureconjugallove,loyalandtruetotheend.May,then,thislovewithwhichyoujoinyourhandsandheartstodayneverfail,butgrowdeeperandstrongerastheyearsgoon.Andiftrueloveandtheunselfishspiritofperfectsacrificeguideyoureveryaction,youcanexpectthegreatestmeasureofearthlyhappinessthatmaybeallottedtomaninthisvaleoftears.TherestisinthehandsofGod.

NorwillGodbewantedtoyourneeds;hewillpledgeyouthelifelongsupportofhisgracesintheHolySacrament,whichyouarenowgoingtoreceive.

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Planning for your marriage ceremony involves numerous details. These guidelines are designed to expedite thesacramental, musical and practical areas of your marriage ceremony for you, for the priest or deacon, and for themusicianswhowillbeinvolved.Pleasereviewcarefullyfortimesensitiveinformationalpurposes.

SCHEDULING

CouplesshouldcontactthePastoratleastsix(6)months(oneyearisideal)inadvanceofanyanticipateddateforthewedding.ThechurchweddingdatecanonlybesetuponmeetingwiththePastorandpayingthedepositfee.

TheDirectorofMusicandOrganistatSt.JohnNepomuceneandSt.FrancesX.Cabrinioverseesallinstrumentalandvocalmusicformarriagecelebrations.ArrangementsforaconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusicshouldbemadeaftertheinitialmeetingwiththePastorandatleasttwo(2)monthspriortothescheduledweddingdate.TheDirectorofMusicoftheparishwillapproveorappointmusiciansandmusicselectionsfortheweddingceremonywhileretaininga‘benchfee’orpaymentforservices.

PRE-CANA–SPIRITUAL,MORAL&PRACTICALPREPARATION

AllcouplesmarringintheCatholicChurcharerequiredtotakeamarriagepreparationprogram,oftenreferredtoasPre-Cana. Pre-Cana is offered in two formats: small group and private. The small group classes are held in midtownManhattan,northofthecity,oronlineviainternetvideochat.Allcouples,regardlessofwhichformattheyoptfor,musttaketheFOCCUScouplecommunicationtestandaclassinfertilitycare.

TheFOCCUStestisanexcellenttoolforhelpingcouplesmakesuretheyhavecommunicatedonalltheimportantissuesaffectingtheirrelationship. Couplestakethistestontheirowntime,andthenmeetwithafacilitatortodiscusstheirresults.Thetestcanbetakenonlineormailedtocouples.

IntheFertilityCareclass,womenaretaughthowtoobservetheirfertilitysigns.Thisgiveswomentheabilitytoidentifywhentheyarefertileand,importantly,tomonitortheirhealth.Severalclassesinfertilitycareareofferedeverymonth.It’simportantthatmenalsoattendthisclass.KnowledgeofFertilityCarehasbeenshowntofacilitategreaterintimacybetweenhusbandandwife.

ThefeeforPre-Canais$250percouple. Thisfeemaybenegotiatedwithdemonstratedneed. Formoreinformationabouttheprogram,ortoregister,pleasecontactPeterMcFaddenat646-341-088orviaemailatmcfadden@mac.com.

PAPERWORK

AllpaperworkmustbesubmittedbyhanddirectlytothePastor.Photocopiesarenotacceptable.

ThepersonresponsibleforthecompilingofmarriagepapersisthepriestoftheparishwheretheCatholicpartyorbothofthepartiesareinresident.Ifthemarriageistotakeplaceoutsidethatparish,theparishpriestwillsendthecompletedpaperstothediocesanchanceryforapprovalbeforeforwardingthefiletotheDioceseorChurchwherethemarriageistotakeplace.

PROOFOFBAPTISM–AllCatholicpartiesarerequiredtoobtainabaptismcertificatefromthechurchwheretheywerebaptized.Thismustbedatedwithinsixmonthsofthedateoftheproposedwedding. Thiscertificatewillgiveevidenceofbaptism,butiffullyannotatedwillalsogivedetailsofConfirmationandofanynotesregardingmarriagewithintheCatholicChurch.WhenyoucontactthechurchwhereyourBaptismtookplace,giveyourfullname,dateofbirthanddateofbaptism.Ifyoucannotconfirmtheexactdateofbaptism,pleaseindicatethedateascloselyaspossible.Theremaybeasmallprocessingfee.

BaptizedNon-Catholics–Newlyissued(copyisacceptable)certificateindicatingthatyouhavebeenbaptized“IntheNameoftheFatherandtheSonandoftheHolySpirit”

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PROOFOFCONFIRMATION–CatholicswhohavebeenconfirmedshouldprovideacertificateonConfirmation.Asnoted,detailsofConfirmationwillgenerallybeincludedonthenewcertificateofBaptism.Iftheyarenot,contacttheChurchwheretheConfirmationtookplaceforthecertificate.

AFFIDAVITCONCERNINGTHEFREEDOMTOMARRY–Thisisatestimonialbyaparent,closerelativeorlife-longfriendthathaveneverattemptedmarriage,CivillyorReligious,withanotherperson.TheoutlinefortheAffidavitcanbefoundonpage14ofthisdocument.PleasehaveitMAILEDorEMAILEDdirectlytothePastor.

PRE-CANACERTIFICATE–IssuedattheendofthePre-Canacourse.

DISPENSATIONS–Ifoneofthepartiesisanon-Catholicoranon-Baptizedperson,arequestmustbemadetotheArchbishoptodispensethelawthatrequiresaCatholictomarryaCatholic.TheCatholicpartywillreaffirmtheirfaithinGodandHisHolyChurchandpromisetodoeverythingintheirpowertoraiseanychildrenintheCatholicfaithbyhavingthembaptizedandteachingthemtopracticethefaithinwordanddeed.

Ifoneoftheparties is JewishtheWeddingCeremonywillmost likelytakeplaceatthereceptionvenue. ThisrequestispartoftheDispensationtomarryanon-Baptizedperson.

AProcessingFeeof$50isrequested.PleasemakethecheckpayabletoTHEARCHDIOCESEOFNEWYORK.IfyouresideinBrooklynorQueens,makethecheckpayabletoTHEARCHDIOCESEOFBROOKLYN.

PRE-MARITAL INVESTIGATION – Once you complete the Pre-Cana course and gather all paperwork, anappointmentmustbescheduledwiththePastor. Atthismeetingthisquestionnairewillbecompletedunderoath. ItofficiallyrecordsyourabilityandintentiontoenterintoaTrueCatholicMarriage.

CIVILLICENSE–AMarriageCANNOTbewitnessedwithoutaCivilLicense.Itisyourresponsibilitytoobtainthelicense.BringtheLicenseandreturnenvelopetotheChurchrehearsalandgiveittothePriestorcoordinatorBEFOREtherehearsalbegins.OncetheWeddinghastakenplaceitwillbemailedfromtheRectory.

DESTINATIONWEDDINGS–Fornon-parishionerswhowishtobemarriedinourParish,aLetterofPermissionfromthePastorofyourhomeparishgivingpermissionforyourWeddingtobewitnessedatSt.JohnNepomuceneorSt.FrancesX.CabriniisrequiredstatingthatallpreparationsfortheSacramentwillbecompletedbyhim.Ifyourpreparationsarebeingcompletedhere,yourPastorneedsonlytosendaletterindicatingthatpermissionisgrantedfortheWeddingtotakeplaceatSt.JohnNepomuceneorSt.FrancesX.Cabrini.Untilthisletterisreceived,yourdatecannotbeconfirmed.

THEMARRIAGECEREMONY

TheMarriage Ceremony in the Roman Catholic Church celebrates the Christian faith of the couple that isnourishedbytheWordofGodproclaimedintheScripturesand,fortwoCatholics,theBodyandBloodofChristsharedintheEucharist.ItcelebratesGod’sgraceatworkinthelifeofthecoupleunitingthemintheself-givinglove that Christ has called us all to have for one another. For this reason, the music, the clothing, thedecorations, and any activities that have come to be part of the ChurchWedding Ceremony are to drawattentiontoandhighlightthespiritualdimensionsoftheceremony,neverovershadowordistractfromit.

Goodtasteandmoderationarekeyprinciples.

TheChurchallowscertainculturaladaptationswithin theceremonyas longas theyare inkeepingwiththenatureandspiritof the liturgy. Suchadaptationsshouldnotbeoverpowering. Becarefulnot toduplicatesymbols thatmight have similarmeanings: for example, the lasso and the unity candle are both culturaladaptationsthatemphasizetheunionoftwopersonsintoanewlifeinChrist.

Anyonewhohasaliturgicalrole(i.e.,lectororreader)intheweddingisexpectedtohaveasenseofreverenceforthatroleandreasonablecompetenceinfulfillingit,andmustbeapracticingCatholic,apracticingChristianoramemberoftheJewishfaith.

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Photographs at awedding ceremony are very important. All effortswill bemade by the parish priests toaccommodatethephotographers’needswithinthelimitationsofwhatissacredandholy.AllphotographersandvideographersmustfollowthesetupguidelinesoftheParish.Absolutelynopicturescanbetakenfrombehindorwithinthesanctuary.

Thephotographer/videographermustmeetwiththepriestbeforetheceremony.Thechoirloftandcenteraisleareaccessibleduringpartsoftheliturgy.Bodymicrophonesareallowedforaudio/videopurposes.

IfMass iscelebratedadisclosureprovidedby theParishmustbe included in theweddingprogrambookletexplainingwhommayreceivetheHolyEucharistandunderwhatcircumstance.

VISTINGPRIEST,DEACONSORCLERGYOFOTHERDENOMINATIONS

Visitingpriestsandecumenicalclergyarewelcometotakepartintheweddingceremony.IfapriestordeaconotherthantheoneassignedtoSt.JohnandSt.Franceswouldliketopresideattheweddingceremony,thisneedstobeapprovedbythePastor.PriestsordeaconsfromoutsidetheArchdioceseofNewYorkmustprovidealetterofgoodstanding(knownascelebrant)tothePastor.MinistersofotherfaithsmustcontactthePastortodiscusstheirpossibleroleintheceremony.

TheDomesticRelationsLawoftheCityofNewYorkrequiresthatallvisitingpriestsberegisteredwiththeCityClerk’sOfficeinordertolegallyperformweddingsanywherewithintheCityofNewYork. Todownloadtheregistrationform,pleasegoto:

http://nycmarriagebureau.com/about/officiantregistrationinfo.html

MUSICFORTHECHURCH

Inplanningmusicforthechurchcelebration,pleasekeepinmindthattheliturgicalcelebrationisareligiousandsacredevent.Anymusicthatmaybeheardinthecontextofsacredliturgythroughoutthechurchyearaswellas Sunday Mass would typically be appropriate. While this places restriction on some music, there arenumerouspossibilitiesforappropriatemusic–seesuggestionsonpage11.Whatmaynotbeappropriateforthechurchceremonyismanytimesquitesuitableattheweddingreception.

St.John/St.FrancesChurchprovidesitsownprofessionalOrganistandastaffCantorforallweddingceremoniesthatadheretotheplanningguidelines.Aguestvocalist,throughauditionandwithnecessarycredentials,maysinganappropriateaccompaniedsoloduringtheceremonyorMassbyapprovaloftheDirectorofMusic.GuestinstrumentalistsarewelcometoperformlivemusicduringthePrelude(whiletheguestsarearriving),duringtheOffertory,afterCommunion,and/orduringtheRecessionaluponapprovaloftheDirectorofMusic.Theparishchoiroraprofessionalvocalensemblemayberequested(twomonthsinadvance)fortheweddingatanadditionalfeemutuallyagreeduponwiththeDirectorofMusicwhichwillsupportthevolunteermusicministry.

Under no circumstances are electric guitars, electronic keyboards or any pre-recordedmusic permitted inreligiousandsacredeventsatSt.John/St.Frances.Theorganistheonlyliturgicalkeyboardinstrumentthatmaybeusedduringtheweddingliturgy.

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DETAILSANDLOGISTICS

THECHURCHBUILDING

1. Themainaisleis66feetlong,fromthefootofthestepattheSanctuaryinthefronttothemainchurchdoorsintheback.Thereare16pewsoneithersideofthemainaisle.

2. Noconfetti,rice,birdseed,flowerpetals,etc.,maybethrownonchurchproperty.3. Theuseofawhiterunnerisprohibited.4. The responsibility fordisposingof theboxes inwhich the flowers come,aswell asall plastic

wrappers,pewbows,etc.,isthatofthefloristorthepersoninchargeofflowers.Pleaseconveythisinstruction.

5. Flowersforthechurcharetheresponsibilityofthecouple. Flowersarenotphysicallyplaceduponthealtartable.Itisappropriatetohavetwoarrangementsonthehighaltar.

6. Ifyouwishtousepewbowsorpewflowers,youmayattachthemonlybyarubberband,stringorspecialclip.Notapeistobeaffixedtothepews,asthiswouldtakethefinishoffthewood.

7. IfyouwishtouseaUnityandIndividualcandles,youoryourfloristshouldprovidethecandlesandtheirprotectiveholders.Candlesmaynotbeplacedonthealtaritself.

OFFERINGS&FEES(Established2018)

Theofferingofthemarriageceremonyfornon-parishionersis$1200.Thereducedofferingforthemarriageceremonyis$750forregisteredparishionersortheCzech/Slovakcommunity.Thesefeesincludetheofferingstothechurch,thepriest,thesacristan,server,weddingcoordinator(rehearsalandceremony),theorganistandthecantor.PleaseremitpaymenttotheParishManagerattheparish.Cashandcheckareacceptableformsofpayment.PleasemakecheckspayabletoSt.JohnNepomucene.

Anon-refundabledepositof$150isdueuponreservingyourweddingdate.

Ifyouwishtoinviteanadditionalvocalistorinstrumentalists(stringquartet,harpist,trumpeter,etc.),themusictheywillperformmustbeapprovedbytheDirectorofMusicaheadoftime.Anyadditionalagreed-uponfeeswouldbepaidbyyoudirectlytothoseadditionalmusiciansincludingtheDirectorofMusicforcontracting.IfanyofthemweretobeaccompaniedbyourOrganist,therewouldbeanadditional$50feepayabledirectlytotheOrganistforamandatoryhalf-hourrehearsalatorbeforethetimeofservice.

Allbalancesmustbepaidfour(4)weekspriortotheweddingcelebrationorbyapreviouslyagreedtermsetinwriting.

St.JohnNepomuceneoffersaprintedweddingprogram(worshipaid)uponrequestandforanadditionalfeecoveringformattingandprinting.Thesedetailsarediscussedinthein-personconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusic.

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SEQUENCEOFEVENTS

1. EmailthePastororParochialVicar.Sendinyournon-refundabledepositwiththesignedformonpage15.YourdatewillnotbereserveduntilthedeposithasbeenreceivedandapprovedbythePastor.

2. RegisterforandattendthePre-Canasessions.3. ScheduleaninitialconversationwiththePastor.4. CollectanddeliverallnecessarypaperworktoPastor.5. ScheduleameetingwiththeparishpriestinordertofilloutaPre-MaritalInvestigationFormanddiscuss

thedetailsoftheMarriageCeremony.6. Utilize theLiturgicalOutlineSheet thatcorresponds toyourceremony, foundonpage13. Youmay

choosetohaveuptotworeaders. ReadersmustbeapracticingCatholicorapracticingChristian.ApersonwhoisoftheJewishfaith,maybeinvitedtodothefirstreadingfromtheHebrewscriptures(OldTestament).Refertowww.catholicweddinghelp.comfordetailedinformationandplanningsuggestionsforallaspectsofthesacredweddingceremony.

7. Arrangea30-minuteconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusictobeattendedbytheBrideandGroomonlyinordertofinalizetheselectionoftheweddingmusic,accordingtotheguidelinesfoundonpage11,atleasttwomonthspriortotheweddingdate.

8. Catholicspreparingformarriageshouldmake itapointtocelebratetheSacramentofReconciliation(confession)sometimepriortotheweddingdate.Checktheparishbulletinforscheduleorscheduleanappointment.

WEDDINGREHEARSAL

1. Thetimefortheweddingrehearsalisarrangedbeforehandandreservedwiththepriest.2. Ontheafternoonoreveningoftheweddingrehearsal,pleasebringyourNYSMarriageLicenseandany

othernecessarypapers.

Note: There isnomusicatweddingrehearsals. AnyrehearsalbetweentheOrganistandguestvocalistsorinstrumentalists(ifany)istobescheduledatanothertimemutuallyagreeabletothem.

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PLANNINGTHEMASSorCEREMONY

LITURGICALOUTLINEFORMARRIAGEWITHNUPTIALMASS

ORDEROFPROCESSION

Suggestionsforprocessionalmusiccanbefoundonpage11

BeforeProcession–SeatingofParents

ParentsofGroom–seatedinfirstpewonright

ParentsofBride–seatedinfirstpewonleft

ProcessionofWeddingParty–whoandwhatorderisuptotheBrideandGroom

Please–nochildrenunderfour(4)yearsofage

THENUPTIALMASS

GatheringHymn(optional–seesuggestionsonpage11)

Introit–sungbycantororchoir

Gloria–sung

Openingprayer

LITURGYOFTHEWORD

NOTE:AfamilymemberorfriendmaydothereadingsONLYiftheyhavealetterfromtheirPastorstatingthattheyareanactivememberoftheMinistryofLectorsintheirhomeparish.

***DuringtheOctaveofChristmasandEaster,SundaysorMajorFeastDays,thereadingsforthosedaysMUSTbeused.Seeusccb.orgforthosereadings***

FirstReading–fromtheOldTestament(seeoptionsonpage12)

ResponsorialPsalm–sung(selectedinconsultationwiththeMusicDirector)

SecondReading–fromtheNewTestament(seeoptionsonpage12)

GospelAcclamation–sung(Alleluia–selectedinconsultationwiththeMusicDirector)

GospelReading–chosenbythepriest

Homily

RITEOFMARRIAGE

DeclarationofIntention

IntroductionandQuestions

“(Name)and(name),haveyoucomeherefreelyandwithoutreservationtogiveyourselvestoeachotherinmarriage?”

RESPONSE:Wehave.

“Willyouhonoreachotherasmanandwifefortherestofyourlives?”

RESPONSE:Wewill.

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“WillyouacceptchildrenlovinglyfromGod,andbringthemupaccordingtothelawofChristandhischurch?”

RESPONSE:Wewill.

Vows

IntheUnitedStates,couplescanchoosefromtwodifferentversionsoftheCatholicweddingvows.

VersionI

Priest(ordeacon):Sinceitisyourintentiontoenterintomarriage,joinyourrighthands,anddeclareyourconsentbeforeGodandHischurch.

Groom:I,(name),takeyou,(name),tobemywife.Ipromisetobetruetoyouingoodtimesandinbad,insicknessandinhealth.Iwillloveyouandhonoryouallthedaysofmylife.

Bride:I,(name),takeyou,(name),tobemyhusband.Ipromisetobetruetoyouingoodtimesandinbad,insicknessandinhealth.Iwillloveyouandhonoryouallthedaysofmylife.

VersionII

Groom:I,(name),takeyou,(name),formylawfulwife,tohaveandtohold,fromthisdayforward,forbetter,forworse,forricher,forpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeathdouspart.

Bride:I,(name),takeyou,(name),formylawfulhusband,tohaveandtohold,fromthisdayforward,forbetter,forworse,forricher,forpoorer,insicknessandinhealth,untildeathdouspart.

Blessingandexchangeoftherings

PrayeroftheFaithful–sungbycantor

Priest:Inpeace,letuspraytotheLord

Response:(sungbyall)Lordhearourprayer

1. ForourHolyFather,PopeFrancis,ourBishopTimothy,andallclergyandreligious,thattheymayalwaysremainfaithfultoChristandguidetheChurchtodothesame.LetuspraytotheLord.

2. ForourPresidentandforallleaders,thattheymayalwaysworkforpeaceandthewell-beingofallpeople.LetuspraytotheLord.

3. For (name)and (name),untied in theHolyBondofMarriage, that thegraceofGodmaysustain themto licefaithfullyasonewitheachotherandwithGod.LetuspraytotheLord.

4. Forarestoreddignityandrespectofhumanlife,thatwemayalwayslookoutfortherightsofourbrothersandsisters,fromthesmallesttothegreatest.LetuspraytotheLord.

5. Forthesafetyofallthosewhoselflesslyputthemselvesindangerswaytoprotectothers.LetuspraytotheLord.6. Forallthosediscerningtheirvocation,thattheymayhearthevoiceofGodandputtheirtrustinHim.Letuspray

totheLord.7. Forallmarriedcouples,thattheymayalwaysserveeachotherwithlove,trustinginGod’sprovidence.Letuspray

totheLord.8. Forallthoseheretoday,inthanksgivingforthemandrememberingtheirpersonalneedsandprayers.Letuspray

totheLord.

Priest:OLord,ourGod,whosemightisbeyonddescription,whoseglorysurpassesallunderstanding,whosemercyiswithoutlimits,whoseloveformankindisbeyondexpression,now,OMasterinyourkindness,lookdownuponusandthisholychurch,andbestowonusanduponthoseprayingwithusyourabundantmerciesandyourbenefits.FortoYouisdueallglory,honorandworship,Father,SonandHolySpirit,nowandforever.Amen

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LITURGYOFTHEEUCHARIST

*PreparationoftheGifts–Giftbearersmaybeselectedbycouple

*Holy,Holy,Holy–sung(selectedinconsultationwithMusicDirector)

*MemorialAcclamation–sung

*TheGreatAmen–sung

*Lord’sPrayer

*LambofGod–sung

*Communion–musicduringHolyCommunionselectedinconsultationwithMusicDirector)

*PrayerafterCommunion

*NuptialBlessing

CONCLUDINGRITE

BlessedMotherofGod–PresentationofflowerstoBlessedVirgin(optional)

SolemnBlessing

Recessional–suggestionsforrecessionalmusiccanbefoundonpage11

Bride&Groom,Weddingparty,parents

*DenotespartsthatareomittediftheWeddingceremonyoccursoutsidethecontextofMass.

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PARISHSTAFFPastor DirectorofMusic

Rev.RichardD.Baker MarkPacoe

212-734-4613 212-734-4613ext.116

pastor@eastrivercatholics.org pacoe@eastrivercatholics.org

Pre-Cana ParishSecretary

PeterMcFadden JenniferRockers

646-341-0848 212-734-4613

mcfadden@mac.com parishoffice@eastrivercatholics.org

ParochialVicar ParochialVicar

Rev.AntonioFerrer Rev.MartinKertys

212-734-4613 212-734-4613

fr.afslovak@gmail.com mkertys@icloud.com

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RECOMMEDATIONSFORWEDDINGMUSIC

PROCESSIONAL&RECESSIONALMUSIC

TrumpetVoluntary J.Clarke TrumpetTune H.Purcell VoluntaryinC H.Purcell Rondeau J.Mouret ProcesiónAlegre GaryCornell Rigaudon A.Campra Hornpipe(AllegroMaestoso) G.F.Handel Toccata(SymphonyV) C.M.Widor WeddingMarch F.MendelssohnOtherselectionsmaybeconsidereduponrequest.

NOTE:The“BridalChorus”fromLohengrinandtheWeddingMarchfromAMidsummerNight’sDreamareselectionsfromasecularoperaandballetrespectively.InthecaseoftheBridalChorus,thebrideisdeliveredtoherhusbandaschattelandnotofherfreewill.InthecaseoftheWeddingMarch,themusicisplayedatthemarriageofadonkeyandtheQueenofFairies.TheBridalChorusisnotpermittedatSt.John/St.Frances.

GATHERINGHYMN(optional–sungafterprocessional)

GodInthePlanning LoveDive,AllLovesExcelling

Joyful,JoyfulWeAdoreYou WithinYourHouse,OGod,Today

OFather,All-creating

FAVOREDVOCALSOLOS(including,butnotlimitedtothefollowing)

AveMaria Schubert/Gounod/Saint-Saëns

PanisAngelicus C.Franck

JesuJoyofMan’sDesiring J.S.Bach

LaudateDominum(PraisebetoGod) W.A.Mozart

AveVerumCorpus W.A.Mozart

NotforTonguesofAngels MichaelJoncas

InappropriateVocalSolos(including,butnotlimitedtothefollowing)

TheWeddingSong:ThereisLove BeautifulinMyEyes

TheWindBeneathMyWings Sunrise,Sunset

LoveThemefromIceCastles ThroughtheEyesofLove

AllIAskofYou(andotherselectionsfromPhantomoftheOpera)

Anyselectionfromcurrentmusicalsorpopradio.

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READINGSELECTIONS

OLDTESTAMENTREADINGS Fullreadingscanbefoundatwww.foryourmarriage.org

1. Maleandfemalehecreatedthem.(Genesis1:23-28,31)2. Thetwoofthembecomeonebody.(Genesis2:18-24)3. InhisloveforRebekah,Isaacfoundsolaceafterthedeathofhismother.(Genesis24:48-51,58-67)4. MaytheLordofheavenprosperyouboth.Mayhegrantyoumercyandpeace.(Tobit7:9-10,11-15)5. Allowustolivetogethertoahappyoldage.(Tobit8:5-7)6. ThewomanwhofearstheLordistobepraised.(Proverbs31:10-13,19-20,30-31)7. Sternasdeathislove.(SongofSongs2:8-10,14,16;8:6-7)8. LikethesunrisingintheLord’sheavens,thebeautyofavirtuouswideistheradianceofherhome.

(Sirach26:1-4,13-16)9. IwillmakeanewcovenantwiththehouseofIsraelandthehouseofJudah.(Jeremiah31:31-32a,33-

34a)

NEWTESTAMENTREADINGS Fullreadingscanbefoundatwww.foryourmarriage.org

1. WhatwillseparateusfromtheloveofChrist?(Romans8:31-35,37-39)2. Offeryourbodiesasalivingsacrifice,holyandpleasingtoGod.(Romans12:1-2,9-18[longform]or

Romans12:1-2,9-13[shortform])3. WelcomeoneanotherasChristwelcomedyou.(Romans15:1b-3a.5-7,13)4. YourbodyisatempleoftheSpirit.(1Corinthians6:13-15,17-20)5. IfIdonothavelove,Igainnothing.(1Corinthians12:31,13:8)6. Thisisagreatmystery,butIspeakinreferencetoChristandtheChurch.(Ephesians5:2,21-33[long

form]orEphesians5:2,25-32[shortform])7. TheGodofpeacewillbewithyou.(Philippians4:4-9)8. Andoveralltheseputonlove,thatis,thebondofperfection.(Colossians3:12-17)9. Letmarriagebeheldinhonorbyall.(Hebrews13:1-4a,5-6b)10. Beofonemind,sympathetic,lovingtowardoneanother.(1Peter3:1-9)11. Loveindeedandintruth.(1John3:18-24)12. Godislove.(1John4:7-12)13. BlessedarethosewhohavebeencalledtotheweddingfeastoftheLamb.(Revelation19:1,5-9)

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LITURGICALOUTLINEFORMARRIAGEWITHNUPTIALMASS Marriageof & WeekdayandDate: Time: HomeAddress: City/State/Zip Phone: E-mail:

INTRODUCTORYRITE Prelude WeddingProcessional composer: GatheringHymn(optional) Hymnal# IntroitandGloria OpeningPrayer

LITURGYOFTHEWORD OldTestamentReading: (thereaderischosenbythecouple) ResponsorialPsalm,inconsultationwiththeDirectorofMusic NewTestamentReading: (thereaderischosenbythecouple) GospelAcclamation GospelReading: Homily:Father

RITEOFMARRIAGE Exhortation ExchangeofVows&ExchangeofRings (thereaderischosenbythecouple) (Inceremonyonly,avocalselectionmaybesunghere) GeneralIntercessions:“Lord,hearourPrayer”

LITURGYOFTHEEUCHARIST *PreparationoftheGifts: composer: *EucharisticPrayer *(Holy,Holy,Holy–Christhasdied–theGreatAmen Lord’sPrayer(spoken) NuptialBlessing *BreakingoftheBread:LambofGod *Communion: composer:

CONCLUDINGRITE SolemnBlessingandDismissal WeddingRecessional: composer: _ Optional: FlowerstotheBlessedMother(AveMaria) LightingoftheUnityCandle(shortinstrumental) *-denotespartsthatareomittediftheWeddingCeremonyoccursoutsideofthecontextofMass

TOBEFILLEDOUTBYTHECOUPLEBEFOREMEETINGWITHDIRECTOROFMUSIC refertowww.catholicweddinghelp.comorTogetherforLife(fromPre-Cana)formoredetails.

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AFFIDAVITOFFREEDOMTOMARRYTOBECOMPLETEDANDRETURNEDTOST.MALACHY’SCHURCH,Attn:Pastor

I,_____________________,givewitnessfor(Bride/Groom)________________________whowillbemarriedto(Bride/Groom)________________________.

YourFullName:(Pleaseprintallinformation) Name:_______________________________________________________ FullAddress:_________________________________________________ PhoneNumbers:(H)___________________(Work)__________________

1. Whatisyourrelationshiptothepersonwhosenameappearsabove?2. _____________________________________________3. Howlonghaveyouknownthisperson?___________________4. Howwell?______________________________________5. Hasthispersonevergonethroughanytypeofmarriageceremonywithsomeoneotherthanhis/herintendedspouse?(Circle)YESorNO

6. Howmanytimes?___________Withwhom?_______________________________7. Does/dothis/thesemarriage(s)stillexist?___________________________________________________________

8. Isthispersonrelatedtotheotherpartytothisintendedmarriage?YesorNo IfYes,inwhatway? ___________________________________________________________ 9. Tothebestofyourknowledge,isthispersonenteringthismarriagefreely?YesNo10. Toyourknowledge,doesthispersonintendtoenteralifelongunion?YesNo11. Toyourknowledge,doesthispersonintendtobefaithfulforlifetohis/herpartnerinthismarriage?YesNo12. Toyourknowledgedoesthispersonintendtohavechildrenwithhis/herpartnerinthismarriage?YesNo13. ***Ifyouhaveanswered“No”toanypartabove6-9pleaseexplain._______________________________________________________ Doyouknowofanyreasonwhythispersonshouldnotbemarried?YesNo IfYes,pleaseexplain. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ WitnessSignature(Pleaseprint)______________________________(date)__________________

Pleasereturnthiscompletedandsignedformto: St.JohnNepomuceneChurch

Attn:Pastor 411East66thStreet NewYork,NY10065

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AGREEMENT (to be returned to St. John Nepomucene Church)

We, the undersigned, understand and accept all the terms and conditions

explained in these Guidelines for Marriage Celebrations. Wedding Date: / / Time: : AM/PM

Bride’s Signature:

Groom’s Signature:

Today’s Date: / / _

DEPOSIT

Enclosed is our payment of $

in the form of CASH / CHECK