good parenting by dr. prasanna khatawkar

GOOD PARENTING

Dr. Prasanna P. KhatawkarConsultant Psychiatrist

Aadhar HospitalSolapur

HOW DO CHILDREN LEARN ?!

WATCHING THEIR PARENTS PEER GROUP SCHOOL AND TEACHERS MEDIA SELF EXPERIENCES

WHAT IS NORMAL DEVELOPMENT ?

AGE APPROPRIATE SOCIALLY APPROPRIATE INCLUDING ALL MAJOR DOMAINS RESPECTING OTHERS MAINTAINING GOOD SELF IMAGE GOAL DIRECTED

COMMON PROBLEMS OF CHILDHOOD

REFUSAL TO EAT SCHOOL REFUSAL BED WETTING AND PASSING

STOOLS IN CLOTHES SIBLING RIVALRY STEALING HYPERACTIVITY

COMMON PROBLEMS OF CHILDHOOD OPPOSITIONAL BEHAVIOUR SHY OR DISINHIBITED CHILD PHOBIAS CHILDHOOD DEPRESSION DISSIOCIATIVE DISORDERS OF

CHILDHOOD MENTAL RETARDATION STAMMERING / CLUTTERING ETC.

COMMON MISTAKES PARENTS MAKE

BEATING COMPARISONS MAKING CHILD JUDGE IN THE

PARENTS ARGUMENT PARENTS DEBATE IN FRONT OF THE

CHILD SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT OF

CHILD

A – B – C – DA – B – C – D OF CHILD PSYCHIATRY

A = ANTECEDENT B = BEHAVIOUR C = CONSEQUENCE D =

BEGINNING OF SCHOOL

SCHOOL REFUSAL FREQUENT CRYING NIGHTMARES SEPARATION ANXIETY

SIBLING RIVALRY

USUALLY AFTER BIRTH OF YOUNGER CHILD

FEELING NEGLECTED / LEFT OUT CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR IRRITABILITY

MY CHILD DOESN’T LISTEN !!

COMMON PROBLEM GIVE A GOOD LISTENING TO THE

CHILD INTROSPECTION BY PARENTS IS

ESSENTIAL RULES SHOULD BE SAME FOR ALL

FAMILY MEMBERS

STEALING

TRY AND UNDERSTAND WHY THE CHILD DID THE ACT

PUNISHMENT ESSENTIAL

BED WETTING & PASSING STOOLS IN CLOTHES

BED WETTING – COMMON PROBLEM USUALLY CAN BE TREATED EASILY

PASSING STOOLS IN CLOTHES IS AN IMPORTANT FINDING

PARENTS / FAMILY NEED TO BE EVALUATED

HYPERACTIVITY

DOESN’T SIT IN ONE PLACE THOUGHTLESS IMPULSIVE DIFFICULTY COMPLETING TASKS DISTURBS OTHERS ACCIDENT PRONE MEDICINES PROVIDE MAJOR RELIEF

ROLE OF MEDIA

LIKE IT OR DON’T LIKE IT, IMPACT OF MEDIA IS GOING TO BE THERE

BETTER, WE USE IT FOR OUR BETTERMENT !!!

LIMIT THE TIME SPENT PARENTS TOO SHOULD FOLLOW

THE RULES

QUALITIES OF GOOD PARENTS

ALWAYS AS A UNIT CARING AND STRICT CONSISTENT RELIABLE PROTECTIVE FLEXIBLE INNOVATIVE

ROLE OF ELDER SIBLINGS

SUPPORTIVE CARING TEACHING BE A GOOD FRIEND SMALL MISTAKES – HANDLE AT

YOUR LEVEL; MAJOR MISTAKES – TELL PARENTS

ROLE OF GRAND PARENTS

NOT TO INTERFERE TOO-MUCH ROLE SUPPORTIVE TO CHILD’S

PARENTS NO PUNISHMENTS !!!

HOW ARE TEACHERS EXPECTED TO BEHAVE ?

TREAT EACH CHILD AS UNIQUE DO NOT COMPARE IDENTIFY NEEDS OF EACH CHILD AVOID PHYSICAL PUNISHMENTS DO NOT INSULT THE CHILD IN

FRONT OF OTHERS APPRECIATE GOOD BEHAVIOURS

KEEPING YOUR CHILD MOTIVATED

SET SMALL GOALS TOKEN FOR COMPLETION OF EACH

SMALL STEP APPRECIATION BE PART OF HIS TEAM !

WHAT TOYS / GAMES WOULD BE HELPFUL AGE APPROPRIATE CONSIDERTHE MOTOR AND COGNITIVE

DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE OF THE CHILD BOTH INDOOR AND OUTDOOR ENCOURAGE PARTICIPATION IN

COMPETITIONS EXPLORATION AND NEW LEARNING

IMPORTANT

HOW DO YOU DEVELOP A GOOD PEER GROUP FOR YOUR CHILD ?

BIRDS OF A FEATHER, FLOCK TOGETHER !!!!

TEACH THEM WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG

ENSURE THAT YOUR CHILD STAYS AWAY FROM BAD COMPANY FROM THE BEGINNING ITSELF

BE OPEN SET AN EXAMPLE

IMPORTANT DOMAINS WE HAVE TO WORK INTO LANGUAGE DEVELOPMENT SPORTS MUSIC DANCE OTHER AREAS OF INTREST (ABACUS,

YOGA, TRAVEL, SUMMER CAMPS ETC.)

…………. THIS IS IN ADDITION TO ROUTINE ACADEMIC WORK !!!!

BASIC PRINCIPLES

PUNISH THE BEHAVIOUR, NOT THE CHILD

GIVE YOUR CHILD AGE APPROPRIATE RESPONSIBILITIES

IGNORE SMALL MISTAKES, APPRECIATE EVEN THE SMALLEST GOOD DEED.

BASIS PRINCIPLES CONSISTANCY IN APPRECIATION AND

PUNISHMENT PATTERN AVOID CRITISISING THE CHILD IN FRONT

OF HIS FRIENDS OR WHEN IN A GROUP APPRECIATE IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY,

SCOLD / PUNISH IN PRIVATE NEVER DEBATE IN FRONT OF THE CHILD MANAGE YOUR DIFFRENCE OF OPINIONS

BASIC PRINCIPLES

SHOW RESPECT TO ELDERS AND LAW (ATLEAST IN FRONT OF THE CHILD!!!)

AVOID SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT OF CHILDREN

MONITOR YOUR CHILDS FRIENDS ROLE OF MEDIA

1. SELF IMAGE

A – GOOD B – BAD

2. SELF CONFIDENCE

A – GOOD B - BAD

3. LISTENING TO COMMANDS

A – GOOD B - BAD

4. SOCIALISATION

A - GOOD B - BAD

5. ENURESIS

A - ABSENT B - PRESENT

6. ENCOPRESIS

A - ABSENT B - PRESENT

7. TEMPER TANTRUMS

A - ABSENT B - PRESENT

8. RELATION WITH SIBLINGS

A - GOOD B - BAD

9. SHARING

A - GOOD B - BAD

THANK YOU

DR. PRASANNA P. KHATAWKAR

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