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Foundations Applied Conversation and Education Tool

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Facilitating Discussion in Marriage Preparation Using

FACET Inventory

A Discussion Inventory is a facilitative instrument which:

• Provides the facilitator with a personalized profile• Provides the facilitators with a “map” for

discussion• Invites couples into dialogue• Affirms strengths• Problem solves around weaknesses

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FACET OR FOCCUS?

Your parish has chosen to use one of two good discussion tools to aid communication and self-discovery.

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FACET is…• User-friendly• Couple centered• Elicits couple discussion• Emphasizes facilitation• Affordable and flexible• Available in English and Spanish

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DISCUSSION TOOLS ARE NOT …

• TESTS• LABELING or PREDICTIVE

devices• Not to be used to

determine permission for a couple to marry.

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ABOUT FACET…FOUNDATIONS AppliedCommunication & Education Tool

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From the Authors of FOUNDATIONS Catholic Newly-wed Newsletter

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Based on 16 years of research and writing for newly-married couples• 30 years of working with engaged couples• 25 years of facilitating premarital inventories

FACET GUIDES LEARNING I know / understand

discover/reveal what each knows

I believesharing my values

I will promoting growth and commitment

Take-home Discussion Extenders

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174 statements in 13 categories• Family of origin• Roles in Marriage• Budget/Finance• Values• Habits• Work/Family Issues• Friends/Leisure• Sexuality/Intimacy• Commitment• Communication• Parenting• Faith/Religion/Spirituality• Catholic Section

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Statement booklet is illustrated– All statements are grouped according to topic:– No more than two topics to a page– Language is simple, straightforward– Contains issues from current culture

MORE ABOUT FACET

FACET is done on paper

FACET includes a take-home section

Features a unique Catholic Section

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Take-Home Section extend discussion:• The answer sheet “booklet” has follow-up

items for the engaged couple to take home after they submit their responses to FACET.

• The take-home statements are in the same 13 categories as those in the scored portion of the tool.

SAMPLE Take-Home STATEMENTS:• A chore I am good at is______• We chose to get married in the CatholicChurch because________________

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PROCESSING• Send Answer Sheets

to Archdiocese • with FAX form

provided.

• Results are emailed to facilitator as a PDF.

FACET RESULTS Simple 4-page

report compares responses.

Summary sheet shows items for discussion.

Facilitator Manual gives guidance on each topic.

Results are emailed to facilitator.

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“Results” pages in two parts: • Responses for all statements• Summary flagging the statements that the couple has differed on

For example, the statement “I believe we both agree that good communication is important in marriage” would be flaggedfor discussion if either person said no or uncertain, or if both answered no or uncertain.

PART OF MARRIAGE PREP PROCESS

FACET sets the stage for catechesis on the Sacrament of Marriage.

Couples feel a need to learn more.

Dialogue continues between sessions.

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Introduce yourself.Explain Discussion Inventory process.Review your role as Facilitator.Review their roles and expectations.Answer questions about the process.Couples take FACET on paper.Send answer sheets for processing to

Archdiocese, with cover sheet.

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FIRST SPONSOR MEETING

FACILITATION TEACHING

FACILITATOR ROLES

REFERRAL

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Facilitator Guide available on-line at www.facetsite.com – FREE!

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Purchase FACETin Archdiocese of Baltimore Marriage Preparation Packets - Processing Included.

FACET in Marriage Prep Packets is printed right in the Perspectives Workbook – Special FACET edition

You may also order FACET without workbooks or to use with packets that have the regular purple Perspectives included. Have packets and want to swap for FACET? – no problem!

ORDER at 410-547-5417

Same prices as FOCCUS!

Help CouplesExtend

Learning• Subscribe to

FOUNDATIONS newsletter.

• Sample included in Marriage Prep packets

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At the end of the Marriage Prep Program…

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Contact: Lauri PrzybyszCoordinator for Marriage and Family Enrichment

410-547-5420lprzybysz@archbalt.org