basic relational trends chart
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PTC251, Fall 2013
Relational Aspects Relational Trends
Movement Towards
Movement Away
Movement Against
Conflict Appease ● Unable to say
“No” ● Prone to gossip ● Prone to
bitterness ● Cutoffs
Avoid ● Ignore problems ● Change subject ● May shut down
or attack when cornered
Attack ● Preemptive strikes ● Ad hominem
arguments ● Demonize
motives of others
Communication
● Seeks out communication
● Shares positive feelings/pouts
● Inclined to flattery
● Use humor to diffuse tension or seek attn.
● Does not initiate conversation
● Conceals feelings/shares neg. feelings
● Silence/Flooding ● Sarcasm
● “Agenda” feel to conversation
● Conceals feelings/shares anger
● Boasting/Mockery ●
Time/Intimacy (How does the person prefer to spend time and does it foster intimacy?)
● Flexible ● Desire to be
with others ● Tends towards
self-disclosure
● Relaxation ● Solo pursuits,
hobbies ● Avoids self-
disclosure
● Excitement ● Competitive
pursuits ● Avoids self-
disclosure
PossibleThemes/Idols Desire(s): Fear(s):
Acceptance, Intimacy, Belonging Rejection, Isolation, Shame,
Comfort, Security, Safety, Perfection, Order, Control Hassles, Chaos, Punishment, Being Controlled
Success, Power, Control, Admiration Failure, Humiliation, Being Dominated, Weakness
These should be considered typical associations that can provide a starting point for investigation. Ultimately, any of these behaviors can be mapped onto any of these motives and, obviously numerous motives can be working in coordination or in tension with one another.
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