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Debunking the SeductionCommunityThe Exposition of a Sham Industry and a Primer on Seducing Women

Aaron Sleazy

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Contents

Preface vi

Introduction ix

Acknowledgements xi

e Seduction Industry

Foundations of the Industry

e Issue with “Game”

eWorst ing that Happened

Two Big RedHerrings

CommonConcepts and Ideas

e New Technology

MakingMoney

Lack of Business Ethics

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An Introduction to Seduction

e Nature of “Game”

Seduction in a Nutshell

Conclusion

uestions & Answers

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Preface

I discovered the seduction community in late, unaware that it was in fact a full-blown in-dustry. For a variety of reasons I did not takemuch of what I read online seriously. In early, when I nally devoted myself to learninghow to seduce women, my progress was rapid.I have done what was considered impossible —luckily I didn’t know about it. My feats in-clude having sex with women within minutes

of meeting them, sometimes without exchangingany words. One of themain reasons ofmy incred-ible successes was that I did not listen to themanyproclaimed truths. As it is the case in many otherareas, I have found that the seduction industrycannot live up to its promises. Upon further in-vestigation, I gained the impression that this is asham industry that borders on being fraudulent.

As I was gaining prominence in some circles

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throughout and more and more peoplesought me out to learn from me, I also learnt howthis industry works. I met a number of promin-ent gures in London, which all but le me dis-appointed. Even worse, what those people de-clared to be the truth about women turned out tobe rather nonsensical. It is probably no coincid-ence that the very best guys I know either distancethemselves entirely from the community or havenever heard of it.

It didn’t take long until some companies askedme to teach workshops for them. Some of thosepeople had no historywhatsoever and Iwonderedwho those people were andwhatmade themqual-i ed to teach. Coming from an academic back-ground, I was unaware that it is apparently thenorm in business to become an expert by pro-claiming to be one. e more I learnt about thisindustry, the more I was appalled by how it oper-

ates.

In August of I made a very controversialpost on mASF, a large public forum dedicatedto seduction. I rhetorically asked, “Is the PickupIndustry a Sham Industry?”. e response wasstaggering. It was one of the most hotly debatedthreads, slaughtered a couple of wannabe-gurus inits wake, and it is still regularly referred to. Al-most two years later it remains to be one of themost-read posts on this forum with several thou-sand views. At that time, this post was prescient.Meanwhile, common sense has caught up with acritical mass, and in there is now a sizablegroup of people active to expose the absurditiesthe mainstream seduction community teaches.

In February I gave a talk on a conferencededicated to seduction. Itwas entitled “Overcom-ing the Seduction Industry”. Later I released the

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slides, which spread like wild re. is book is anelaboration of that presentation. It is my hopethat it will nd an equally wide and warm recep-tion. May it further debunk an industry that isrotten to its core. It is my hope that when I lookback at Debunking the Seduction Community in

a few years, it will be evident that it was instru-mental in sinking the ship, or, in a more positivescenario, for changing the current state of affairsfor the better.

A S

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Introduction

Many men seem to have problems getting the sexlife theywant, or just nding a partner. As a result,internet marketers eventually targeted this nichemarket. ey try to lure in clueless guys to whomthey sell mostly inadequate products. Businessseems to be brimming. e background and qual-i cations of those people is rarely questioned, andcritical thinking seems to be suspended. How-ever, the anti-communitymovement on the Inter-

net is growing, andDebunking the SeductionCom-munity is my contribution to it.

is book has two main purposes. First, it aimsto expose the mainstream seduction industry, todescribe its borderline fraudulent machinations,and to explain why it can’t keep its promises. Inpassing, I will discuss some prominent gures.Some space is devoted to popular concepts thatsprang from the ever-so-rampant mental mas-

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turbation in this scene. However, if you have notbeen exposed to the seduction industry yet, feelfree to skip the rst part altogether, or read itstrictly for entertainment purposes.

As a contrast, in the second part I describe howsimple seduction really is. e principles are in

fact so simple that it is no surprise why the hu-man race managed to prosper for so long. If youhave problems attracting women, this book willgive you some blunt pointers on what to do.

e third part is dedicated to questions I havebeen asked either a er my talk or via email.

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Acknowledgements

I am grateful for having met N-, one of the sanest members of the forummASF, which mostly is a bastion of mental mas-turbation. He gave me excellent down to earthadvice. While other people tried to point me topick-up theories and offered nothing but vaguegeneralisations, he gave me concrete tips. In thisregard, he is still an in uence for me and my writ-

ing, which aims to be as practical as possible.

e following people gave feedback on dra s ofthis book: D, PUA C, KNDER,TL, YC, RJ and TVA O.

Lastly, I warmly thank my editor C for hisexcellent services and themeticulous attention hehas paid to this book.

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The Seduction Industry

Foundations of the Industry

The Core of the ProblemFake reviews, bullshitmarketing andshitty instructors!L, PUAHate.com

e seduction community, even though I preferto call it the seduction industry, was the productof many angry and frustrated men that could not

get girls, or even dates. Of course, therewere somevery sound reasons for it, which I will cover later.

Because admitting failures to oneself is difficult,those people put the blameon thewomen instead.Well, if I were a woman, I would not want to fucka loser either. Some tried to come up with tac-

tics and techniques, designed to get you into thepants of all the nymphos in the world, or at leastinto B’s from next door. ose systems hada couple of things in common: they were mostlytheoretical, and they were primarily intended tomake someone money.

ere never was a “community” or a “brother-hood of men”. From its inception, savvy business-men tried to make money by exploiting the insec-urities of other men. Take a look at one of thefounders of this industry: R J claimsthat his system with the name Speed Seductionallows you, no matter how you look, how littlemoney you have or how old you are, to get morewomen than you can handle. His staple are hyp-notic commands imbedded in language. For in-stance, if youutter “belowme”, the girl is supposedto hear “blowme” and get aroused invariably. Ap-parently it didn’t occur to him that women actu-

ally love to talk about sex.

R J plays into the revenge fantasies ofangry and frustrated men who want to get whatthey think to deserve and who believe that wo-men have to be tricked into having sex with men.In fact, he seems to address misogynists and so-ciopaths. For instance, his book How to Get theWomen you desire into Bed has a chapter with thetitle, “Howto fake like you arewarmand friendly”.

is is probably all you want to know about himand his method. For some strange reason I havenever come across anybody, neither in real life norin the public forums I frequented, who had suc-cess with Speed Seduction.

Similar ploys have been conducted over and over,with the promise that no matter how you look,you can get girls easily with some secret tech-niques. Unfortunately, it didn’t help that the

people designing those systems andmethodswereapparently nerds that probably should have keptspending their days watching Star Trek or play-

ing or Dungeons & Dragons. Instead, they founda new outlet for their imagined magic powers.

Big Lies and Empty PromisesFunny how these idiots say thatmoney doesn’t matter. Yet, theycharge , for a boot camp.—L, PUAHate.com

e seduction industry sells an imaginary short-cut to success with women. e general claim isthat you can learn how to get women no matterhow you look, how old you are, how popular youare, or how much money you make. “Game” istouted as being the great equalizer that allows youto get what you deserve. It worked in the sem-

inal ctional tale e Game by N S,but does it work in real life?

Looks — especially height — are an importantfactor on the mating market, and so is your ac-cess to nancial resources or popularity. ey allgreatly affect how much success with women youhave. Or have you ever heard of a famous Hol-lywood actor or business tycoon who had prob-lems getting his dick wet? However, even if youwere the richest man in the world, you could stillnot get any woman you desired. It essentially re-mains a numbers’ game, even forwomanizers such

as T W or M J. Unfor-tunately not many people in this industry admitthis fact, if they are even aware of it.But what if you can’t get laid? To spoil the sur-prise: You cannot afford to neglect the basics. Ifyou have no idea how to dress but think you canstill get “more girls than you can handle”, you willget disappointed. Yet, it all seems so easy in theridiculous sales letters and websites so frequentlyfound in the industry. Here are some big lies toomany clueless (hopeless?) guys seem to believe:

• “You can get any girl you want.”

• “I never get rejected.”

• “I can make any girl my girlfriend.”

• “I can steal any girl from her boyfriend inless than minutes.”

None of those statements is true, however. Mateselection is the domainof thewoman,which is thereason why you will never be able to get any girlyouwant. You can certainly becomemore attract-ive to more women, but this does not guaranteethat you will be able to get that special girl. Butdon’t worry, she probably isn’t that special any-way.

Of all people, M made this claim.

Selling a DreamSome bad news rst: as in any eld, not every-body can rise to the top and become a master.What is not questioned in, for instance, mathem-atics or athletics is for whatever reason seeminglyunquestioned when it comes to self-help. Mar-keters promise that you—Yes, you in front of thescreen! — can become a millionaire by follow-ing a simple step by step recipe, and if becominga millionaire isn’t ambitious enough, then thereare people that teach you how to make Your First

Million or how to become a billionaire in-stead. Or do you want to lose weight? No prob-lem, dozens of fad diets will at least relieve youof some cash in your wallet. But what about suc-cesswithwomen—wouldn’t it be great if wewereall able to become great ladies’ men with virtuallyzero effort on our part? It is no surprise that theself-help industry has so many critics. Or did youhonestly believe all this nonsense?

is is the title of a book by multi-millionaire D S. P. Apparently he is as annoyed with the self-help in-dustry as I am with the seduction industry. Consider this quote: “But how many of them are multimillionaires? Few ifany. (...) On any given night out, [my wife] wears in jewelry more than they can claim in net worth. Yet they’re telling youhow to get rich!”

Appearances versus RealityDue to the low if not nonexistent barriers of entryinto the market, the seduction industry is fraughtwith people who cannot get laid themselves. Evenmany of the big names are a lot worse than youmay think. is equally applies to people whohave acquired a reputation on public forums, anissue I will discuss later.

Butwhat does itmean to be good? For this, pleasekeep in mind that the average guy only has sexwith a handful of women in his lifetime. If youhave a life outside of pick-up, a demanding job,one hobby, some friends, and thus you only go outonce or twice a month, then you are doing reallygreat if you get ve girls a year. is number will

probably be enough to keep you busy anyway. Tengirls a year is great andmore thanmost guys— in-cluding many professional dating coaches — canhope to achieve. Also, picking up girls is for mostmen just a phase they are going through. No mat-ter how good you are, it really gets boring a er awhile.

However, only a minority of men stumblingacross this subculture want to become big pimps.Most just want to ( nally) get a girlfriend or getlaid every once in a while. is is no big challengeand certainly not a subject that needs to be over-complicated. Skip to the second part of this bookif you are impatient.

The Issue with “Game”

Can Game be Taught?I deny that game can be taught. Even if you founda guy who is extremely successful with women, hecould not turn you into a copy of himself. ereason is that we all have different backgroundsand live in different environments. I generallyrefuse to teach beginners for exactly this reason.Some of them believe in techniques which will

magically get them girls, while in fact all theirproblems reside in them. As long as people don’trealise this and haven’t hadmuch success, they arehard to teach because they have towork on the ba-sics rst.

For instance, I am infamous for quick bathroom

pulls. However, a lot comes together to allow meto do this. A newbie asking me to teach him allthe necessary steps misses the point on so manylevels that it isn’t even funny. As if you can be a fat,badly dressed slob and social retard and, with theapplication of some techniques, immediately turnyourself into awomanizer! Butwhen an advancedguy with a roughly similar background, and whoalready gets laid, wants me to evaluate his game,and to tell him how to become more efficient, I canhelp him. But men that are not successful with

women have a whole slew of other problems theyshould pay attention to rst.

e prevalence of aforementioned beliefs is one ofthemain reasonswhy I don’t associatemyself withthe seduction community. ere are many moreissues. As my girlfriend once put it, a er I toldher about some of the dogmas: “ is communityis completely ridiculous.” It truly is, and in the re-mainder of the rst part of this book I will discusssome of the most pressing concerns.

Main Problems with “Old School Game”Game as it is commonly taught is a chore. isis not just my impression. Even the great advocateof indirect game,M, said that opening sets,which is his way of saying “talking to girls”, was

boring to him. What is worse, you would have tolearn and rehearse your lines and stories over andover. In earlier newsletters from dating compan-ies such as Real Social Dynamics it was advocated

to practice the delivery of your routines at least to times. Guess how enjoyable such a nightout must be! us, this kind of game also takestoo long to learn. With a more natural approachto dating and mating you can go out today, rightnow, without any kind of previous practice, andyouwill probably do a lot better than those indoc-trinated routine-monkeys anyway.

A er you have made it past the opening phase,you then strive for an advantage in the middlegame and a er you’ve spent some hours with thegirl, you may get your prize and nally have sexwith her. is structure entails two problems be-sides the assumption that all girls are the same,namely that there is an algorithm to success withwomen, and that the words matter. Words don’t

evenmatter all thatmuch, and certainlymuch lessthan sexual attraction. In short, this kind of gamemisses the point.

e worst aspect, though, are all the over-complications. Just think of text game, phonegame, or downright nonsense such as tapping. Infact, mental masturbation is rampant. One couldargue, though, that this was one step up from ac-tual masturbation. Unfortunately, it’s one stepfurther away from actual sex as well. Just have alook at the redundant and ridiculous list of ac-ronyms on mASF! You don’t need this kind ofvocabulary to talk about the process, and there isno such thing as the art of seduction or the seduc-tion science. It is just weirdos speaking in a bizarrelanguage about things they hardly understand.

The Most Common TrapIt surprises me how blindly people follow self-proclaimed authorities. If they only had paid thatmuch attention to their mathematics teachers atschool. eir English teachers would also havebeen delighted had those people read novels andshort stories as ardently as they devour unsubstan-tial pick-up ebooks full of drivel.

But what happens to a guy who seemingly doesn’tpossess the ability to think critically or even thinkfor himself ? e basic recipe for failure is:

. “I experienced X but [insert random guru]said Y!”, he writes.

. He refutes his experiences.

. As a consequence he never progresses.

It is sad. If only people would think for them-selves.

When I beganposting onmASF regularly, in early, therewas surely no shortage of people offer-ing their advice. Due to a rigorous academic train-ing, however, I had acquired the habit to dismisseveryone who gave me the impression of makingunsubstantiated claims, of being incompetent, orof pulling things out of thin air. Sadly, this ap-plied to the vast majority of people. I did ndone very helpful mentor though, who was able togive me actual practical advice instead of stayingin generalisations as so many others did.

A Global PerspectiveSome people wrongly believe that game is aglobal movement: emaciated men rising up toclaim what is rightfully theirs and free themselvesfrom the yoke of feminism. From my travels,though, I got the impression that there is a soundreason why the community has only two epicen-ters. ose are obviously the United States andthe United Kingdom, but mainly London.

I believe the reason is due to the environment.e USA in particular is an incredibly monoton-

ous culture. You’ll nd the same stores in literallyevery block. People live in the suburbs, commuteto work, spend ten hours a day in a cubicle, and

the rest of their spare time in front of the tube oron the Internet. ey seem to have forgotten howto interact with other people. London is a morevaried city than, say, New York City, but it’s still arather cold and prude culture.

On the other hand, large parts of the world seemstrangely resistant to the in uence of mainstreampick-up. Maybe men in Eastern European coun-tries, or in South America don’t really need it. Asit stands, pick-up is most de nitely not a globalmovement but more of an insigni cant counter-movement in certain Western societies.

The Worst Thing thatHappened

Deteriorating with Stylee book that propelled “game” into the fringes

of the cultural mainstream was N S’e Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup

Artists. People apparently didn’t quite get that it

is ction. But even if you take it at face value,here are some facts to waken your critical mind:N S, aka S, glori es phone num-bers and has huge issues guring out how to kiss

girls. It just takes him half the book to get some-what over it. Despite those obvious shortcom-ings, he is nonetheless teaching workshops withhis mentor M when he got laid a grandtotal of zero times with his master’s method.If you are somewhat well-read, you may haveheard of J C who is renownedfor his work in comparativemythology. His booke Hero with the ousand Faces is about a basic

plot found in many traditional stories all over theworld. S’ book reads like an attempt ofpainting by numbers with words since it closelyfollows the structure C has identi ed asthe so-calledmonomyth.I found it impossible to take e Game seriously.Yet, it has fostered the world-wide spread of pick-up artists. ose people are quite a different breedthan your seducers of yore. A seducer understandswhat women want and gives it to them. On the

other hand, a pick-up artist thinks he has to wina game to get girls, using tactics and techniques,which for the most part go nowhere. If they do,which seems almost accidental, given their ridicu-lously low success rates, they in retrospect con-struct a story how their method has allowed themto get the girl, oblivious to the fact that the girlwasinto them from the get-go. e result are usuallylong-winded eld reports that are mostly redund-ant. A prime example is the user AMIR onmASF who is infamous for writing reports in ex-cess of , words in which he describes how hegames girls that are seemingly physically attractedto him all the way through.

Let me phrase this more concisely: Game is forthe most part nothing more than backward ration-alising. It doesn’t really exist. Further, any reason-ably good looking guy gets more girls than a pick-up artist.

AftermathNeil Strauss’ e Gamewas a best seller, and therewere plenty of people wanting to have their shareof the cake, too. Realising that the barrier ofentry to the seduction industry is low if not vir-tually non-existent, suddenly a myriad of self-proclaimed gurus with no history whatsoever ap-peared out of nowhere. ey let their ashy web-sites, and sales letters lled with hyperbole, do thetalking. Further, many of the personas you seein this scene don’t give you the impression thatthey have any success with women. As Gfrom PUAHate.com writes, “ e rst time I sawD DA and D. P, I thoughtthey don’t get laid.” (I thought the same.)

In the middle of the s the community thatnever was a true community but always had com-mercial undertones nally turned into an in-

dustry, the seduction industry. Examples areplentiful. Just think of M. is Polish fel-low may not like to hear it, but according to aformer Mystery Method instructor, he had a totalof one “lay” before becoming a professional pick-up instructor. One might be tempted to con-sider this an insufficient foundation for this pro-fession. In order to cement this claim to fame,M posted on a thread on mASF with thetitle “its : on Tuesday - Mehow answers anyquestions”. I have le the original spelling of thepost’s title intact.

If you ever thought that the commercial peoplewere themost successful with women, then I havebad news for you. ose people are not sedu-cers but internet marketers. ey sell productsto make you, again, not into a seducer but into a

parody of one, a “pick-up artist”. Businesses aremuch different from academia. If you hold a PhDin computer science from, say, the MassachusettsInstitute of Technology, you have an official sealof approval. But what is your counterpart on theInternet? It’s a JPG graphic designed by some guyin India for an hour that says “ PUA in theWorld”.

As a result, you have extremely thin spread in-

formation. is itself would not pose a big prob-lem. e much bigger issue is that there are heapsof misinformation. It couldn’t be any other waybecause guys that don’t get laid simply can’t tell youhow to get laid. ey have no clue. As I will layout inmore detail in the next part, seduction is ex-tremely simple. Obviously, would you know thetruth as a seduction marketer and decided to sellit, you would have a hard time lling DVDswith it.

Two Big Red Herrings

Phone Numbers and Make Outse seduction industry overcomplicates seduc-

tion to ludicrous extents. e reason is obvious:ey want to create a need, which they then sat-

isfy by selling more products. Let’s have a look ata common structure according to which a certainnumber of closeshave tobe achieved inorder to getthe girl. Of course, they all require speci c tech-

niques. You have at the very least:

• Number-close

• Kiss-close

• Full-close (sexual intercourse)

In this structure, you talk to a girl and eventuallyget her phone number. You then set up a date forlater, on which you try to achieve the other twocloses. However, as any seasoned seducer knows,you can have sex with women without getting hernumber, without knowing her name, and evenwithout kissing them. (In the most extreme case,you can have sex with womenwithinminutes andskip the verbal aspects altogether.) In fact, thereare some cases where the girl will have sex withyou but won’t allow you to kiss her, because, for

instance, doing so would be tantamount to cheat-ing on their boyfriend or husband. Don’t ask meabout the underlying logic.

People concentrating on getting phone numbersor gettingmake-outs confuse their goals. e goalshould be sex. Getting a number by an elaboratetechnique that equals bullying the girl into hand-ing it out achieves nothing — and then the guyswonder why the number was fake, why the girlnever picked up her phone, or why she aked!

Why Phone Numbers are WorthlessGetting a phone number is not an achievement atall. J S-V, a guy with hardly any ex-periencewhatsoever, only thinks otherwise due tohis very limited experience. e very few times he

got a number was because he met a girl throughhis social circle that was trying to throw herself athim for weeks or months. Eventually it occurredto him that J A might be interested

in him and hemustered up enough courage to askher out or asked for her number. is eventuallylead to a date and possibly to more if the girl waswilling to do all the steps the guy was supposed todo. us, J has the rm belief that any numberwill lead to a date and potentially sex. Too bad theworld doesn’t really work like this.

In the wild, a phone number is of relatively littlevalue. Many women will give out their numberjust to get rid of the guy hitting on them. Or howwould you explain that so many guys, includingthe “professionals”, have problems with fake num-bers or girls not returning their calls? No, it’s not

because their attraction game or their phone gameis weak, but because the girl was never really inter-ested in them to begin with.

If you want to get a girl’s number, just pull outyour phone and tell her to key it in. ere isno need for fancy routines. en you get somemore numbers if you feel so inclined. In fact,P J, a NYC playboy that specialises inthis kind of game and one of the very few peoplein this industry I respect, states that, statisticallyspeaking, he has sexwith about of all thewo-men whose phone number he gets. He is tall andvery good-looking.

He recently stated that due to his media exposure, which includes appearances on mainstream TV, his success ratedropped by about .

A Word on Make OutsKissing girls is rather similar to collecting phonenumbers (but much more fun, though). Unfor-tunately, it doesn’t mean much per se. Plenty ofgirls will happilymake outwith every semi-decentguy that comes along. It doesn’t mean they willfuck him. e reason for this is simple: Kissing isa source of validation for girls, so they do it overand over. No, this doesn’t necessarily mean thatthose girls are sluts.

To many women, at least in the Western world,a make out means preciously little. erefore, if

you realise that shewants to be kissed based onherbehaviour, you can just go for it. Forget about ab-surdities like N S’ “evolutionary neckbite routine”, or whatever it is called. However, inmany instances making out with girls will sabot-age you, if your goal is to get laid. If in doubt, onlykiss her when you are alone with her, or at leastaway from her friends in the club or bar. is isanother reasonwhy the themystique in the “com-munity” that surrounds kissing girls is essentiallya red herring.

A Further Note on “Phone Game”An example of phone game taken from R J-, and probably copied by the likes of DDA, M, and every guy that camea er them, is to call the girl, chat with her for abit and eventually agree on a meet-up. However,some girls don’twant tomeet the guybecause theyare not interested in him, but don’t mind the val-idation they get from having random guys callingthem.

Don’t despair, J V! Here’s how you do itif she really answers your call: You ask her about

her week and nd out when she is busy. In turn,this reveals on which days she is free. All you thenhave to do is to propose a “date” on those days andshe will have no excuse not to meet up. Too badthere is a downside. You can corner a girl like thisandmake her feel very uncomfortable by doing so.You might even get her to agree to meet up withyou—but only tomake her ake on you later. Torepeat it once again, bro: is is not a game ofyou against the girl. If she doesn’t want you, shedoesn’t want you. You will only make her resentyou.

Common Concepts and Ideas

An Overview of Mystery MethodMystery Method, developed by a guy with thenom de guerre M, is probably the mostwidespread method within the seduction com-munity. It’s popularity was furthered by NS’ book e Game. Eventually,Mgot his ownTVshowonVH,whichmade it intoa second season.

e biggest names in the seduction industry —Love Systems, Real Social Dynamics, VenusianArts, M, and S — are all heavily in u-enced by it. Some have changed their approachlater, to teach what they call “structured naturalgame”, but it remains the predominant method.In fact, many of the smaller companies seem to be

teaching a derived version.

Mystery Method glori es the indirect approach,meaning that you approach a group from a °angle (!) and not talk to the girl you are interestedin, but to someone else. You win over the group

rst, and later you shi your attention to your ini-tial target. Oh, I forgot to mention: If you end uphaving sex with the girl before seven hours havepassed, you did not play solid game but had a fool’smate. Hundreds of pages would not be enough todescribe all that is wrong with this method.

“All Girls are the same”N S of Love Systems has frequentlystated that “all girls are the same” and thus thesame steps work on every girl. For some reasons,he and his posse of instructors seem to be remark-ably unsuccessful if this was really true. Pleaseput the phone down, N, and think about thisbefore you call your lawyers: How do you ex-plain failure if you know the exact steps neces-sary to seduce any girl? Further, how do you ex-

plain the abysmal performance of the instruct-ors S and B — What an amazingchoice of names! — on the TV show Keys to theVIP (Season , episode ). If anybody, “profes-sional instructors” should know it, or am I miss-ing something?

e truth is that there is no one-size- ts-all ap-proach. All girls have different ideas. Some willnever fuck you on the rst night or the rst date

because of their morals. Others want to be winedand dined for weeks. Some refuse to give blowjobs, even in marriage — as I’ve been told by frus-trated husbands. en there is a fraction thatwants to keep their virginity until their marriage.On top of that, there are girls who claim to bevirgins and refuse vaginal intercourse but happilytake it up the ass or down the throat. (Let’s thankreligion for that!) Or imagine youwere in a coun-try where there is no religion, which is probablyone of the reasons why, according to some of my

friends, it is ridiculously easy for a whiteWestenerto get laid in, say, Tokyo.

e line between tragedy and comedy is o enne. In London, a formerMysteryMethodCorp.

instructor once said to me, “Dude, you are waytoo direct.” Apparently, it was inconceivable tohim that you could do more in clubs than talk-ing to girls, and when he later on saw me makingout with a girl that had problems controlling herhorniness, he was watching us with his eyes wideopen and saliva dripping from his mouth.

The Linear Model of SeductionProbably the worst aspect of Mystery Method isthe assumption of linearity. First and foremost,his model has an absurd foundation, namely thatall girls are the same and that you could get anygirl. Both are obviously false, but let’s now focuson the linearity. M claims that any seduc-tion has to go through these nine stages:

• Attract (A): Opening

• Attract (A): Female-to-male attractphase (“attracting”)

• Attract (A): Male-to-female attractphase (“qualifying”)

• Comfort (C): Connection

• Comfort (C): Trust

• Comfort (C): Intimacy

• Seduction (S): Arousal

• Seduction (S): Last-minute Resistance

• Seduction (S): Sex

As a result, youwill o en see— for instance in thevideos those alleged gurus release online — thatthe girl is interested in them, yet those guys aretoo focussed on their model. Instead of realisingthat the girl desperately wants to fuck, and simplybe taken home, they “get her used to their touch”,“elicit her values”, or “build some comfort”.Let’s consider the possibility that a woman’s in-terest in aman is entirely sexual at rst. If she ndsyou attractive, you give her the clear impressionthat you are a sexual being and not afraid to act

like a man. is will only further her arousal. Youonly have a shot if she is interested in you anyway.Of course, you can “play it safe” and entertain herwith all your stories and fancy routines. But if thisis how you seduce girls, then you don’t realise thatsome girls will gladly enjoy that guys come up to

them and talk to them. Even if she is not inter-ested in you, she may listen to you for an hour ortwo. Yet, this doesn’t mean that she will have sexwith you. is might be a hard pill to swallow.But don’t worry if this is over your head, bro, thegurus apparently don’t get this either.

Demonstrating ValueMystery Method and Love Systems subscribe to amodel of seduction that is based on the conceptof value. ey want to make you believe that youas a guy have less value than the girl and in orderto overcome this disadvantage, you use a coupleof routines to demonstrate higher value. As a con-cession to a nerdy fan base, they speak of DHVroutines. Acronyms are common in computer sci-ence, and they also have their place in amisleading

model of seduction that is based on an algorithm.

For all the pseudo-scienti c theories that are be-ing traded in the seduction community, nobodyseems to have either the mental capacity or thewillingness to consider the results of real science.It is a well-established fact that mate selection isthe domain of the woman. In the animal kingdom,two males can well ght over one female, but thefemale still choses the mate, which could well be

the one who was defeated.

e main issue of the value-based concept is thusthat value is relative to the woman. J P- and S G might look for some-thing entirely different in a man, regarding be-haviour, age, looks, status and money. While itis undeniable that any woman wants to see some

kind of value in the man she eventually choses,the vague concept of value as commonly taughtexplains absolutely nothing. If there is anythinghealthy women have in common, then it is thatthey all get horny. (It is for this reason that I havebeen able to seduce women from vastly differentbackgrounds.)

PeacockingDressing well requires an understanding of fash-ion. Ideally, you belong to a certain scene or sub-culture anyway. If you don’t and are interested inone, then showup a couple of times andpay atten-tion to what guys are wearing. en you’re goodto go. If in doubt, ask people where they buy theirstuff. Most are a bit shallow anyway and love talk-ing about themselves.

On the other hand, M’s peacocking theorypresupposes that you have to wear certain itemsthat make you stand out. Do a Google searchand laugh at those pictures! In I used togo out a lot in London. “Pick-up” was relativelymainstream, and its practitioners were usually ex-tremely badly dressed. With my friend T,the guy who got me started on fashion, I used to

play the game “Spot the PUA.” It is great fun andmaybe you should try it to. We always had a goodlaugh.

Typical peacocking items include furry hats,goggles, necklaces and bracelets in all shapes andforms. I have heard of people wearing featherboas, fur coats, pink suits, shnets as tops andplateau boots, all in an attempt to stand out and

to signal immunity to social pressure. ose ex-tremes may be less common nowadays, but go toany mainstream night club in the typical pick-upepicenters, and it shouldn’t take you too long tosee such people. us, the message is: If you lookas if you don’t belong, then you don’t belong. In-stead of peacocking, people would be much betteradvised to work on their style.

The Seven-Hour RuleI’ve read eld reports from guys whohad a girl in their bedroom drippingwet, but didn’t fuck her because theydidn’t want to break the hour ruleand have ”fool’s mate”. M isby far the worst guru in my opinion.—PUA C, PUAHate.com

I agree that the notion of fool’s mate and the ideathat it takes seven hours to have sex with a womenare both utterly bizarre. First of all, spending thatmuch time with a woman without having sex willlead to many problems Mystery Method speci c-ally addresses. One is so-called last minute resist-ance, i.e. the guy suddenly surprises the girl with

the fact that he actually has a dick a er rmly pla-cing himself in the friend zone by “building com-fort” for hours upon hours. e girl is surprisedby this and—unsurprisingly—not willing to en-gage in sexual intercourse at all as a result.

In fact, you can have sexwithwomenmuch,muchquicker. My personal best is something aroundthree minutes, and it was a regular club, not a sexparty or a swinger club. I have had plenty of hookups in which I got my dick wet in much less than

een minutes, and I kept seeing a relatively highpercentage of those women. My personal exper-ience, as well as the experiences of every success-ful guy I know, therefore undermines the notionof solid game as opposed to fool’s mate. So, if youhappen to end upwith a girl in front of you that isdripping wet and waiting for you to put it in, youbetter do so. You don’t want to be the guy thatturns down sex because he doesn’t want to viol-ate a random rule some bizarro from the Internetpulled out of his (furry) hat.

The New Technology

OverviewProbably in an attempt to differentiate themselvesfrom countless companies that were doing notmuch more than offering Mystery Method withtheir own spin and a new label, some players inthe market came up with creative ideas. Newangles were focussing on beingmore social, on in-troducing concepts like state and inner game, or

downright nonsense such as tapping. e mes-sage was that you could cure all your problemswithout even going out. is was called innergame. Apparently this term describes everythingthat is going on inside your head when it comesto meeting women. Fix your inner game rst, andyour outer game will be taken care of automatic-

ally, they claim. Unfortunately, one of the mainissues of people who lack success when it comesto the fairer sex is that they are too much in their

head anyway. erefore, it is doubtful how thisapproach could offer a solution to this problem.

AffirmationsWouldn’t it be great if you could x your innergame by simply telling yourself how amazing youare? Simply stand in front of the mirror and re-peat to yourself: “I am rich and famous. I am richand famous. I am rich and famous.” e obviousdownside, though, is that if you are not alreadyrich and famous, telling yourself that you are issomewhat odd and somewhat reminds me of thetales of BMwho is known forrather extravagant stories of his feats and abilities,which among others include pulling himself out

of a swamp on his own hair.

It might make you feel good to read an ebookor listen to an audio programme that attempts to“ x your inner game” by making you repeat hack-neyed phrases such as “I make no excuses for mydesires as a man.” But who do you think is in astronger position, the guy standing in front of hisbathroom mirror babbling nonsense or RJ who has hardly any inner monologue goingon to begin with but simply walks up to girls hends hot?

TappingWhen I rst heard about tapping I burst out inlaughter. e gullibility of people is apparentlywithout bounds. Fancy names for this techniquehave been thrown around for some time, and themost current acronym of choice is EFT (“Emo-tional Freedom Technique”). One of its cham-pions is E A, a woman in herforties that senses a business opportunity in ex-ploiting this niche. EFT is “self-hypnosis” thatinvolves tapping oneself in a particular locationsuch as your chest or your wrist. Its applicationsare manyfold, including but not limited to ap-proach anxiety, building con dence, or evenmak-ing money. Maybe E should start tappingfor world peace? A Nobel Prize should provideenough motivation.

I won’t even bother to point out the absurdit-

ies of the premises of EFT. Anyone with a semi-functional brain should realise that it is completenonsense. However, I’ll gladly provide you withan example. My friend TL relayed thefollowing tragicomic story about a guy namedTM, whom he met in the mASF chatroom:

TM spent months sittingin his room, not approaching, justusing the EFT on himself. Yet, hestill felt it worth his time to hangout in pick-up chat rooms and evenregularly offer advice. Occasion-ally, he would go out and try tomake eye contact with girls, but notapproach even if they reciprocated.

is guy was severely depressed and

had a lot of issues, but it’s pretty sadthat someone had convinced himthat EFT was his best hope at im-proving with women (instead of justtalking to them). Last I heard,he had mustered up the courage tohang-out in D chat rooms to gamethe female avatars of what were un-

doubtedly -year old men living intheir mothers’ garages.

is story also points towards another issue,namely that people that have problems attractingpartners frequently have serious psychological is-sues.

StateIn an attempt to differentiate themselves fromtheir competitors, Real Social Dynamics focussedon teaching “natural game.” e pinnacle wasto be found in a DVD product with the titlee Blueprint Decoded. e new magic pill this

product taughtwas called state. What exactly statewas wasn’t entirely clear. Apparently you are “in

state”when you feel good about yourself. Too badyounormally don’t feel good about yourself all thetime. But don’t despair, this is where e Blue-print comes in: If you feel down and don’twant totalk to anybody, then you just unsti e yourself. InLondon I once bumped into an RSD acolyte whofrequently shouted war cries in a bar (!), claiming

that doing so would make him immune to socialpressure and “put him into state”. I shookmyheadin disbelief.

R J gaveme a brief recap and an explana-tion why in his opinion statemesses up more guysthan anything else:

e pioneers of natural game laudedstate like it’s the secret to attractingwomen. However, the idea that youneed to “generate” state by talkingto a bunch of random of people willcripple guys more than it helps. Itinstills the belief that people haveto bring their con dence “out” ofthemselves, rather than just walk-ing up (like any normal, attractiveguy) and getting the girl. Moreover,

it forces guys who are naturally in-troverted to take on a fake personaandmakes them feel ashamed if theydon’t want to chat up every randomidiot at a bar. Forme, I only chose toassociate with two people when I’mout: my friends and hot girls. Fuckstate!

I agree that forcing yourself to do something youdon’t want to do does more harm than good.( is doesn’t apply if you have severe social pho-bias, in which case you are better off seeking pro-fessional help.) Related ideas can o en be heard,such as “approach x girls a night”, “approach therst girl you see without exception”, or “go out x

nights a week.” Rather, just do what you feel like.If you have to force yourself, you are already lost.

Making Money

The Big Circle JerkHave you ever wondered why there are hardly anyobjective reviews of pick-up products out there?

e reason is that people are only in it to makemoney. On the one hand you have people releas-ing products. Selling to your own fanbase is notall there is, which is why affiliates are brought intothe boat. As an affiliate you advertise someone

else’s product and get a share of the money. Infact, some people like D DA evenpay you commission for sales of their entrylevel product, which is usually a relatively cheapebook.

Obviously, portals such as Seduction Chronicles,

E-Seduce or PUARatings have no interest in dis-couraging you from purchasing products. uitethe contrary, every sale they facilitate lls their

own pockets. As a consequence, you will see hypewherever you look.

Boot CampsIt’s ridiculous that guys spend thou-sands of dollars on bullshit, espe-cially boot camps. With a few thou-sand dollars you can go to the GreekIslands and fuck your brains out.—PUA C, Melbourne

Boot camps are weekend workshops in which youare supposed to learn how to pick up girls. I haveattended a free boot camp in early , hostedby the London Seduction Society. Even thoughI enjoyed the experience, I also found that there

was nothing special about it. If anything, it taughtme that “pick-up artists” are just random peoplewho are o en somewhat maladjusted. Anybodycan walk up to forty girls a night and hope for thebest. ere is no reason to pay a couple grand forthis experience.

However, boot camps cannot work as advertised,simply because every student, or client, comesfrom a different place. ey all have differentstrengths and weaknesses, and different goals.

e same way that there is no one single methodthatworks on any girl, guys have different needs as

well. No matter how varied those are, in the end,an instructor will tell you to approach a girl. Hewill probably call them sets. It’s quite likely thatthe student will get shot down, but that doesn’tmatter. e instructor then has a plethora of reas-ons and explanations why your approach didn’twork. ere is always a reason. However, it willnever be that the girl was simply not into you.Should you be successful and get the girl to talkto you or even kiss you, then S G willequally provide you with a gazillion of reasonswhy what he has taught you has helped you inthis particular case. But what has helped you wassimply that you walked up to the girl and that shefound you attractive enough. You will also en-counter the problem that he won’t tell you thatthemere fact that the girl talked to you doesn’t mean

a thing as long as you don’t turn the interactionsexual. Pick-up is a numbers’ game, but this struc-ture is supposed to hide this fact. For this reason,boot camps are the scam of the decade.

If you want to see for yourself how a boot campworks, just nd out where the big companies holdthem, and you can see your heroes in action —without paying a small fortune for it. It’s usuallycommon knowledge where those workshops arebeing held. Given the lack of creativity, it’s no sur-prise that they usually take place in meat marketssuch asTigerTiger inLondonor ePark inNewYork City. Just show up and be prepared for a bigsurprise. A popular spot for day game workshopsin NYC are the book stores near Times Squareand Union Square, by the way.

Public ForumsStay away from public forums! I consider them tobe a haven for virgins and social retards. Only aminority of the people on them (barely) get laid,and on a rather low skill level like online dating orcollecting phone numbers and hoping for a dateto emerge. As a consequence, you have a situationwhere the blind are leading the blind. To give oneexample, on one of the bigger forums, mASF, auser with the name O has the status of aso-called tribe elder, a post count in the thousands,and is ranked among the top three posters. (Hewas actually the number one ranked poster foryears.) He also happily hands out advice to new-bies. is might sound great, but there is one sadfact: His lay count is three or four girls in a freak-ing decade. Make your own conclusion about thefact that he is also a moderator on said forum.

e problem is that seniority, measured by the dateof registration, and post-count, are all too o en mis-taken for competence. It seems there is no wayaround it; just avoid those forums like the plague.

e few goodpeople that are interested in discuss-ing seduction have all ed to very small privatelounges anyway. Don’t worry if you are not amember. Once you get that good that you catchthe interest of those people, your game won’tneed much help anyway. Besides, the very bestnormally don’t bother to discuss “game” anyway.

ink about it: If you get girls, why would youever want to google “how to pull girls”?

Instead of trying to learn game from websites,message boards or books, simply keep going outand talk to girls. If you come across a guythat seems to be good with women, chat him

up. I made a couple of great friends this way.ose people may or may not know of the seduc-

tion community, and it’s generally better if theyhaven’t. Also, they are usually more skilled whenthey haven’t.

Another hardly talked about problematic aspectof big boards, be it mASF, e Attraction Forumsor RSD Nation is their overt or co ert commercialfocus. You may be unaware of it, but their mainpurpose is to extract money from you. e mostliberal of the big forums is arguably mASF. How-ever, its owner J V, aka F,obviously loves making money. You will there-fore nd a plethora of questionable products be-ing promoted on his website. Ads are plasteredall over the place, and some look as if they arepart of his site. On other forums you will getbanned if you mention competitors. RSDNationfor instance automatically censors names, a prac-

tice mASF has recently adopted as well, and theyquickly ban people with critical opinions, whichis also the norm on e Attraction Forums. Areyou still surprised you don’t nd much objectivediscussion online?

As a last note, there are regional groups, so-calledlairs with their own forums and meetings. oseare o en seen as a bridge between large publicforums and private lounges. But this is true onlyin theory. Most lairs are even more commer-cial, sometimes blatantly so, than the big pub-lic forums. e people organising those groupssimply cultivate a customer base and cooperatewith companies. e usual deal is that “gurus”give a talk for free (for which the lair chargesmoney nonetheless) in exchange for an opportun-ity to promote products and services (for whichthe lair leader charges a commission of usually per sale). Further, I know of only very few such

groups that make an effort to screen members.

Luckily, you can learn how seduction works onyour own, and you will be better off doing it this

way anyway. e next part of this book, “An In-troduction to Seduction”, will give you the basicoutline.

Lack of Business Ethics

The Best Things in Life are FreeAcommon theme in Internetmarketing is to offersomething for free in exchange for, say, an emailaddress. It is standard procedure to offer “freereports” for subscribing to someone’s newsletter.Some people have pretty good content, althoughthose might not necessarily run seduction-relatedwebsites. e usual motive is to generate leads for

future sales. If someone has your email address,then he already knows that you are to some extentinterested in his offerings and thus you are a po-tential buyer. While I personally nd this practicerather annoying — and more honorable peopledon’t seem to do it —, there is hardly anythingunethical about it since you know what the deal

is. However, some companies have found ways torede ne what eemeans.

For instance, Real Social Dynamics offers “free”talks. Some of their instructors travel around theglobe to speak in countless cities. If you want toparticipate, youhave to signup in advance and paya deposit. Surely, you would think that if it was afree offering, you could just show up. Out of curi-osity, I attended one of their events in Londonin , because I wanted to hear J speak.What I found odd was that you didn’t automatic-ally get your money back. You had to sign a form,which wasn’t even automatically handed to you.

Instead, you had to ask for it.

us, this company is apparently not only count-ing on people not showing up and thus forfeitingtheir deposit. ey also have set up hurdles if youwanted your deposit back. e event I attendedwas relatively crowded, and had I been pressed fortime, I would simply have le instead of inquiringon how to get my money back. I did get the de-posit back, in the end. Yet, the way this event washandled le a bad taste in my mouth. Had I con-sidered spending money on one of their services,this experience would have changed my mind.

“I’ll just trick you if you aren’t willing!”Forced continuity is a marketing term that de-scribes the method of slipping in a paid subscrip-tion of which you might very well be unaware of.I have no particular reason for attacking Real So-cial Dynamics yet again, but it ts with the pre-vious section. When I registered for that par-ticular talk in London, I eventually saw a “con-rm your order” page onmy screen. For whatever

reason, there was suddenly a checked box accord-ing towhich Iwas about to subscribe to amonthlyaudio series named RSD Mastermind “for only. each + shipping & handling”. It ap-peared out of nowhere, and I had to opt-out.

As every honest marketer will tell you, the stand-ard route would be to opt-in, when it comes toadditional products and services. Imagine youordered a pizza via phone and the person on the

other end said, as fast as possible, “If you don’tobject, we’ll automatically send you a pizza everyday from now on and bill you accordingly un-til you cancel.” Surely you would never orderfrom that guy again and probably report him tothe authorities. AsD fromPUAHate.comtoldme,DDAdoes something verysimilar. When you order one of his relativelycheap ebooks, you might end up subscribing toa monthly interview series. e method is al-ways the same: you have a cheap or ee ont-endproduct, that is bundled with a monthly member-ship that most people are not aware of.

No matter how you turn it, this is an unethicalbusiness practice. I am tempted to compare thoseslipped in subscription offers to shopping in reallife when someone would slip some items into

your shopping bag during check-out. Of course,in real life this doesn’t happen because as longas there is face-to-face communication, even thebiggest crooks want to maintain some decency.

Apparently this motivation goes completely outof the window once the interaction is done an-onymously via the Internet.

An Introduction to Seduction

The Nature of “Game”

OverviewA woman’s interest in you is mostly sexual. Somewomen will always be turned off by you. Othersare into you, and there is a third group that mightbe interested, which I shall call the grey zone. eyare hardly different from men in this regards. Ifyou are a guy reading this, you will arguably agreethat there are women you wouldn’t touch with a

rusty ten-foot pole, others youmight do if there isnothing better around at the time, and then thereare the one’s you are completely into. Accept thisas a fact.

In general, your success with women is nothingbut an extension to how well you live your life. If

you thoroughly enjoy success in one area, no mat-ter whether it is business, sports, or some othersomewhat social activity, you should have littleproblems getting girls. You only have to talk tothem, express your interest and be sexual withthem. In turn this means that if you have prob-lems with getting women, there is something elseyou should work on rst.However, if you get girls somewhat regularly, then“game” helps you to make things happen faster ifthis is what you desire, or gettingmore of the girlsin the grey zone. Competence through repeatedsuccess will then eventually help you to not fuckup more of the great prospects and convert moreof the girls that are on the fence.Still, you cannot get any girl you want. Nobody

on this planet can. Even for celebrities it remainsa numbers’ game. However, you will obviouslyhave it much easier if you are rich, famous, good-looking, andnot too old. Many “gurus” claim thatyou can get any girl you want the same as you canachieve anything in life, but this is not true. Youcannot achieve everything in life. e same way aguy who is around feet will nd it impossible tobecomea center in theNBA,nomatter howmuch“hard work” he puts in, he will have a hard timegetting supermodels. is is not a matter of “lim-iting beliefs”. Life is not fair, and nobody in theirright mind would claim it is. at being said, youcan certainly achieve a lot in life, given your po-tential, enough effort and the right circumstances.You can also get enough girls.

If you Can’t Get Laid to Save Your lifeI’m sorry to break thenews to you, but if youdon’tget laid, there is usually a sound reason for it. Itmight be psychological, because you think it ismorally wrong to sleep with girls, or it might bean external factor. If you live in a small town inthe middle of nowhere, and dream of pulling hotactresses, youmaywant to considermoving some-where else where those girls are. Further, if youhave a severe psychological issue, for instance youfeel that you cannot talk to strangers or get un-comfortable in public places, then don’t be afraidto seek professional help.

You do not need to waste time and effort learn-ing routines. Spend some time at the gym insteadand exercise. Being in reasonably good shape willhelp youmore than your fragile egowill make youwant to believe.

Next, choose a hobby with a social aspect. No, Iam not talking about joining a Linux user group.Get some friends, male and female, and get usedto just talking to people. If you have to get inshape, you have to change your eating habits any-way, so why not focus on cooking as a hobby andjoin a local meet-up group?

en, decide what your environment is. Do youlike the city you live in? I le my small hometownfor a variety of reasons, one of which was that Ifound it too repressive. I couldn’t express myselfthe way I wanted, and my life indeed took a turnfor the better once I had moved to Berlin. isalone took care of a lot of my issues and I realisedthatmany ofmy problems were only due to a con-servative surrounding.

Focus on certain scenes, i.e. nd your niche

or subculture. Yes, appearances matter! Eventhough it is important to get a suitable wardrobe,don’t worry about it toomuch. Youwill grow intoit. If you are into indie/rock music and like goingout in this scene, simply copy what other guys arewearing. It may take you a while to get comfort-able with it, but eventually, you will be able to getcomfortable with it and nd your own style.

All of this might sound rather shallow, and it is,but this is simply how things are. You will for themost part meet women whose life has some con-nection to yours. Everything else is tantamountto pipe dreams. If you are a short Indian guy youwill hardly ever pull skinny Scandinavians, and ifyour social circle doesn’t overlap with royalty, youare not going to score with a princess either.

The Main IdeaPick-up and seduction are not about manipula-tion. You cannot trick or talk a girl into sleep-ing with you. us, just forget aboutmagic tricks,routines, patterns, NLP, hypnosis and the like.Studying those is counter-productive and poten-tially harmful since it turns you into a manipu-lator. Seduction is mutual. It only happens if the

two of youwant it. By theway, the law knows spe-ci c terms when this was not given: sexual harass-ment and rape.

It’s a simple message: Cool guys get laid and al-ways got laid. Instead of looking for an imaginaryshort cut or magic pill that will make you success-ful with girls overnight, you better become a “cool

guy”. is is actually much easier than you mightthink, and bene cial on many levels. In fact, it isalmost ridiculous how simple this is.

Important prerequisites are to like yourself. Be-come comfortable with your body and sexuality.Sports are a great way to help you with it. Ifyou feel any kind of guilt when watching porn orscantily clad women in magazines, then get rid ofthose thoughts. Get in shape, eat well, and dress

well. e latter requires some understanding offashion and style. With some research things willjust fall into place.

Before you should even think of “picking up girls”or seducingwomen, you have towork on yourself,and for some this might be hard work. However,theory won’t really help you. As with bodybuild-ing, . is about execution, so just go out andtalk to some girls.

Nobody has All the Answerse desire to enlist the services of a “guru”, espe-

cially if you have the time and money to do sois understandable. A er all, some guys are greatwith women and veri ably so. However, just as inmartial arts where different styles evolved basedon the preferences of certain ghters, seduction

does not have a “one size ts all” approach either.

Different styles evolve based on the personality ofthe seducer. is means that you shouldn’t followanyone’s advice blindly even if they are good. Yoursituation may be much different from theirs. For

this reason, focus on your own experiences. Whatworks for you and what doesn’t? If you nd that,for instance, you’ve got the gi of the gab and cansay the most outrageous things, yet still don’t of-fend anyone, then feel free to base your “game”

around it. On the other hand, just because some-thing works for you, don’t necessarily assume itwill work for others as well and begin to evangel-ize your “method”. We are all different.

About Personal StyleI have acquired a reputation for my successes innight clubs. is environment might not be foreveryone, and I am perfectly aware of that. If a year-old virgin who has never been to a club askswhether I can “teach” him to be as good as I am, Ihave no choice but to turn him down. He wouldnot be able to learn much from me. I developedmy style because I love going to clubs. is is nota general statement, but I tremendously enjoy anumber of scenes in London and Berlin. us,

picking upwomen there was an obvious next step.(You would have a hard time getting me into amainstream club, though.)

Further, I am not overly talkative. In fact, I nd itrather frustrating to spendmy timewith toomuchsmall-talk. I prefer to get to the point as soon aspossible. I do have friends, but I don’t want tobe in a position where I have to rely on my socialcircle to get introduced to other girls. You are in amuch better position when you can go out alone,

wherever you want, and get a girl on the samenight. If you can do this repeatedly, then you cancall yourself a seducer. Because I am in touch with

my body and my sexuality, I get sexual quickly.My style certainly wouldn’t work for everybody,but feel free to try.

Seduction in a Nutshell

Where to Meet WomenGirls are everywhere. Ideally, your life is variedenough to allow you tomeetmany people, be it atschool or work, on public transport, or as you justgo through your day. You can meet girls on thestreet, while shopping for groceries, or as you gofor a run. Meeting girls through one’s social circleis in fact the easiest and most common way. It is

also the least exciting. However, for this to workyou better have a large social circle to begin with.

Online dating is becoming more and more popu-lar, probably because it allows people to get overthe fear of rejection. But caveat emptor: It ismostly social retards picking up other social re-

tards. Or do you honestly believe that hot andsomewhat social girls have a shortage of men pro-positioning them? Asmy friendC recentlyput it: “Why go for low hanging fruit? I feel likeguys go for the online stuff when they feel thingsaren’t working in real life.”

Lastly, you can try cold approaching andmeet girlsin night clubs andbars. Yes, girls go out to get laid.

is is what I prefer, but depending on your age orcity, this may not be an option. If you don’t like togo out, you can also try your luck during the day:

ere are streets, malls, bus stops, book stores, re-cord stores, coffee shops, cafeterias, public trans-port, university campuses, and the list goes on and

on. In big cities there is an abundance of lonelyoffice girls that spend their evenings alone, eat-ingChinese foodwhile sitting in front of the telly.

ey are only waiting to meet a great guy.

Certain jobs will make it incredibly easy to meetgirls. You probably wouldn’t read this book if youhad one of those, and if you don’t have such a jobyet, changing your career merely for this aspectwould be a bit odd. I’m talking about the mu-sic and service industries. Join a band, do someDJing, become a bouncer, or get a job as a bar-tender! Girls will just come to you. But nomatterwhat your situation is, there is no excuse for notmeeting girls.

SeductionSeduction is primitively simple. Or how else doyou explain that our racemanaged to stick aroundfor millions of years? Eventually it boils down to:

• Picking your environment

• Focussing on receptive girls

• Not fucking it up

e rst and most important step is to show up.In some of the most fashionable clubs in LondonI have seen guys getting laid simply based on theirappearance. is is an extreme case, but in the

end this will be the cornerstone of your successesas well as you will pigeonhole yourself in order toappealing to a certain group of girls.

For themost part, girls won’t do the work for you,so you have to bewilling and ready tomake the in-teraction sexual. (What you can and cannot do isobviously determined by the surrounding. Meet-ing girls on campus is much different from a loudtechno club.) If she likes you she’ll give you achance. If she doesn’t, nothing — no “routine” inthe world—will make her change hermind. is“method” is more effective than any kind of game.You may want to think about that for a moment.

RelationshipsSleeping around can get boring a er some time, solooking for a girl to keep around for a relationshipmight be a reasonable goal for many guys. Espe-cially men who have not have much success withwomen might feel insecure when it comes to re-lationships, and for exactly this reason this is thenext subject the seduction gurus try to overcom-plicate. A er they couldn’t teach you how to suc-cessfully get girls, maybe they can teach you howto keep that one girl that kept you around? I reallywould not bet my money on it.

A common claim is that “getting girls is easy butkeeping them is hard”. is is certainly not my ex-perience. Girls love sex, andwhat helps you a lot isthat some girls think they can only have sex in a re-lationship, so they will want you to commit. Girlswant the safety of a relationship probably asmuch

as guys want sex. e best part, though, is that ifyouwant to get into a relationship, you have to dohardly anything because it’s the girl’s job. Here isthe basic wish list girls have:

• You satisfy her sexually

• You are not a complete dickhead

• You look good next to her

• You can be introduced to her friends

• You can be introduced to her family

at’s it. It is really that simple (at rst). Have funwith your new girlfriend!

If this short list looks intimidating, which itshouldn’t, then don’t despair, because it gets even

better: Depending on her level of sexual depriva-tion, her age or certain of your features, some ofthose items quickly disappear from this list. Ofcourse, nding a girl to have a great relationshipwith is a bit trickier, but that’s why wemake an ef-fort to leave the house and talk to girls in the rstplace: to meet enough girls so that we can choosewisely! Sadly, though, too many guys settle for

any girl that would take them. Whenever I see areasonably good-looking guy with a dog of a girl-friend or wife, I feel sorry for them. However,women are not necessarily different in this regard.As they get older and approach their s, they in-creasingly settle for pretty much anyone. It’s actu-ally sad.

Conclusion

Debunking the Seduction Community has hope-fully shown that the seduction industry doesworse things than offering hot air. In fact, it canbe detrimental to your progress. It also offeredyou a pill that might be hard to swallow: If youhave problems attracting women, you have towork on yourself. “Educating” yourself by watch-ing misleading DVD programmes and attendingweekend workshops by unquali ed people won’t

help you. ere is no quick- x solution available.It does take some effort and you will have to learnhow to deal with rejection, and if you fail you justtry again, until you get the success you can realist-ically expect for yourself.

On the other hand, and let this be a warning,following the overcomplicated and o en plainlywrong “theories” of gurus can easily have youwalking around like a chicken whose head got

cut off. On PUAHate.com, a forum wheremany fraudulent gurus get exposed, a guy namedD got his fair amount of ridicule. He wasoffering commercial boot camps, but he has hadsex with only three women — from about ,approaches! e userGG com-mented:

at’s only possible for a communityguy, constantly blocking his nat-ural instincts from learning from the

approaches, because he tries to tstuff into community theory andinto owcharts in his head all thetime. Repeat: Only a community-in uenced person can do so manyapproaches and not get extremelygood in the process.

So, forget about “pick-up theory”. Get a life, goout, and get laid. Sex is no big deal. It is just sex.

Questions & Answers

Areyou saying that gamedoesn’t exist? I haveproblems“open-ing girls” but I think if I just practice enough, I will eventu-ally overcome this and finally get girls.

As the proponents of the seduction industry de-scribe it, “game” does not exist. ose people sellit as the great equalizer that, no matter how youlook or how little money you have, you can getany girl. is simply does not work. Game is nota skill you practice.

It is little surprise that as a consequence too manyguys believe that their looks and those other basicfactors don’tmatter because once they get good at”game” all those problems will be solved. is is a

truly nonsensical position, and we can all thankMystery Method for spreading it.

If you don’t work on your fundamentals, you willalways have to dig yourself out of a hole if youdon’t get shot down immediately. Instead, xthose basics, get your life in order and focus on thereceptive girls rst. If no girl is receptive to you,you’ve got some serious problems which have tobe addressed rst.

OK, you say that this is a sham industry and that all thosepeople have no credentials, but why should I then listen toyou instead?

I can only encourage people to be critical ofeverything they read, which doesn’t seem to betaught enough in schools and universities, and forwhich reason all those bogus industries are able tothrive in the rst place. As I wrote, I do not claimto have all the answers.

What distinguishes me is that my developmentwas rapid. I have had hook-ups in a variety ofways. Whereas a lot of guys in this scene are con-tent with collecting phone numbers and hopingfor dates tomaterialise, I spentmy efforts on gur-ing out how to seduce girls as quickly as possible.It took me about nine months until I had reacheda level some would describe as mastery, i.e. hav-ing sex with girls within minutes. is is what I

consider the pinnacle of pick-up.

I have reached an unusually high skill level. Ihave had encounters where girls followed me intonightclub bathrooms within mere moments, andI have seduced girls completely non-verbally, onlydue to physical escalation. If you nowwant to ob-ject that I amnothing but a “club guy” that is com-petent at getting one-night stands, I am sorry todisappoint you. I have also been in relationshipsof all kinds of forms. Keeping girls around wasnever my problem.

Lastly, I have had to learn “game.” As a con-sequence, I have acquired a deep understandingof underlying principles and I know what worksand what is just super uous nonsense. Of course,

youwill occasionally encounter so-callednaturals,but those people usually are less aware of their ac-tions. Also, from my own observations, I doubtthat many of those people ever asked themselves

how to become truly efficient, and are thus ableto distinguish what are important and necessarystepswhen it comes to seducingwomen, andwhatare merely bells and whistles.

You say that meeting women and getting laid via online dat-ing was a low skill. What do you mean by this?

One of the absurdities of the community is thatpeople that get laid occasionally from their socialcircles or from online dating think they are greatseducers. However, those two methods are theleast risky. e window of opportunity in socialcircle game is ridiculously large. A girl might ndyou interesting, and you can ask her out weekslater. On the other hand, if you meet a girl in aclub anddon’tmake it happen the samenight, youmay have blown your one chance.

e issue I have with online game is, apart fromthe amount of time it consumes, that it doesn’t re-quire any balls. You send out a couple of emailsand hope that one girls bites. In fact, if she meetsup with you, she is in the vast majority of casesdown to fuck. e big downside, though, is thatmany girls seem to look much better on their on-line pro les.

us, I refer to high level game as when a guywalks up to a girl in real life and starts an interac-

tion that ends in sex. On the other hand, the com-mon kind of game, and the kind many “profes-sionals” teach is to collect a lot of phone numbers,hope that some girls answer your calls, and meetup with them. Again, this requires relatively littleskill. Compared to the seducer that has sex withthe girl the same night, collecting phone num-

bers is somethingmany people can do. In fact, forM, one of the main gures of the seduc-tion industry, having sex with women quickly wasconsidered fool’s mate, simply because it didn’t tinto his system. But what if you do it week a erweek? I am tempted to say it’s a rather rare skill,and one hardly any man possesses.

You may not necessarily be wrong with most of your state-ments, but me and my buddies Jeb and George do the kind ofgame you are arguing against all the time and we have tonsof success with it. How do you explain this?

emain issuewith game is not even that guys getlaid or not using it. For my argument it doesn’teven matter whether those alleged gurus get laidor not. at many don’t get laid a lot is only fur-ther proof. But even if they did, it doesn’t re-fute my statement that “game” as it is commonly

taught is overcomplicated and misses the point.Further, guys don’t seem to understand that wo-man really want to have sex. Really. ey areyours for the taking.

Someone educated in conventional game misses

all the signs and follows some inane theory onhow to get girls when he has just to take them.Seduction is always mutual. e girl wants to bekissed, and the guy thinks ofways of “getting fromA to A” — if you don’t get this reference, goodfor you, since it’s a jab at Mystery Method.

It is not the case that game works. People merelybelieve it does because they fail to realise that the

woman is already interested. Yet, they keep onspouting out their lines, but because they focustoo little on what is in front of them, they wastetheir time in the best case. In the worst case,though, they lose the girl because most womencan’t stand guys that don’t dare to make a move.You don’t get girls because of game– you get themdespite game, because they were tolerant enoughto put up with it.

There are so many videos on YouTube that show successfulpick-ups. What do you have to say about that? I think you arejust another negative PUA that hates the community!

In- eld videos are an interesting phenomenon.Most show barely anything. What you mostly seeare guys afraid to ask for a number directly (num-ber close routine), or guys that are too afraid tomake a move and kiss the girl or trying to leavewith her. I have watched a couple of those videos

and usually you only see a guy wasting time withhis “method” or fucking it up royally without real-ising it. Further, many high-pro le videos areeither staged or the result of meticulous editing,but this is an issue I won’t go into at this point.

Dude, you are such a hypocrite! You say that boot campsdon’twork but on the other hand you offer your own similar pro-grammes and charge a ton of money for it!

I do not offer boot camps. In fact, I have been in-vited by some lairs that asked me to offer (paid)boot camps and I have turned their request down.However, have worked with more avanced guysonone-on-ones. ose people already got enoughgirls andmerely wanted to becomemore efficient,i.e. they want to learn how to get girls faster,not how to get girls, which is a huge difference.Or, they were successful in one area, like cold-approaching from day-game. All those guys havemore than just a modicum of sexual con denceand experience. ey don’t need to work on somebasic issues. Also, I do not work with completebeginners.

My main concern with the mainstream seduction

industry is that it gives empty promises and mis-leads guys. In contrast, I don’t make any suchclaims. In fact, read this book again and ex-plain to me how this would work as “advertisingto the anti-pickup community.” I am not try-ing to sell you anything. In fact, I’m technicallyundermining my own business when I tell guysthat a more sensible approach, if they are strug-gling to get girls, is to x their life rst, and oncethat is done, they will nd it relatively easy tomeet girls. People who nowadays contact me forphone coaching sessions have done a lot of the ba-sic work, which pickup companies normally com-pletely ignore, already.

e men that sought me out were usually pretty

goodwithwomen. ey have foundmyposts veryhelpful and wanted to meet me in person. Manyhave followed my posts for years. e fact thatI got most of my clients via referrals — I do notrun any advertising at all — probably speaks foritself. Lastly, let me point out that I teach seduc-tion semi-professionally. I have no interest in de-

votingmy life to it. Still, I have an interest in help-ing other men to improve their love lives, whichis part of the reason why you will nd a myriadof posts on the Internet. I have given people freeadvice for years. If anything, people calling me ahypocrite might be called hypocrites themselves.