a psychological evaluation of social networking and texting
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An research based essay on the psychological and social impact of texting and social networking as means of communication.With MLA citations and references.TRANSCRIPT
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A Psychological Evaluation of Social Networking and Texting
by Huda Zahid
In the modern world, one of the most popular and exponentially increasing social trends
is the use of texting and social networking as a means of communication and social interaction.
Surveys by Pew Research Centre show that teenagers and young adults exchange "an average
of 109.5 text messages every day"(Smith). 73% of the people using the internet are active on
social networking sites, with a large proportion of them using multiple social networking
platforms. The popularity of these ways of communication is evident by the overwhelming
statistics that such surveys have generated. They hold true for most countries, developed and
developing, for all major cultures of the world and for both collectivistic and individualistic
societies. Although the use of these technologies is inevitable, their increasingly dominant role
in the everyday lives of people raises many questions. How is this use affecting them at an
individual level and in terms of their social relationships? This has emerged as an area of great
interest for psychologists and sociologists, and remains a major concern even for the general
public. The past few years have witnessed a prominent global shift in trends, from phone calls
to texting, and from having actual face-to-face conversations to social networking. Although
these rapidly evolving modes of communication are considered to be very efficient means of
socialising and connecting with others, they are adversely affecting individuals and the overall
social fabric by giving illusions of friendship, by impairing the development of interpersonal
conversational skills among teenagers and by leading to a reduced capacity for enjoying
solitude.
Most people join social networking sites like Facebook in order to remain in contact
with old friends and acquaintances. They may also look for "friends" online, to combat
loneliness. However, the fact remains that real friendships cannot be sustained merely through
virtual socialization. One is inclined to use social networking to keep in contact with friends
rather than having a conversation with them on the phone, because it is much easier to do so,
and it requires less effort. Considering the busy lives that most people live nowadays, this may
be very convenient but it does not lead to the strengthening of friendships. In fact, it may cause
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friends to become more distant since real conversations are replaced by texting or a quick
"status update". From a psychological point of view, Turkle writes that digital connection
"offers the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship"( Alone Together 13).
The integration of social networking into people's lives has undermined their concept of
friendship; they are not ready to make effort to keep their friendships strong and they prefer to
keep connected in a way that does not involve much time and energy on their part. Even within
different components of social networking, they are likely to choose passive ways of connecting
over active communication. For example, Facebook users generally have a greater tendency
towards silently observing their friends posts or merely clicking "Like" instead of leaving
comments or having a chat with the friend. This may help them in being connected but it does
not satisfy the human need for companionship and emotional support.
In addition, the illusion of friendship offered by social networks renders people
incapable of making real friendships. For many people, social media becomes a tool for self-
projection instead of communication. They become more focused on maintaining their own
profiles and image on the network rather than interacting with their friends. Since they are able
to shape their profiles into whatever they want to project to the society, they prefer doing so.
In contrast, real-time friendship means accepting the other for who they are, and tolerating all
the flaws and short-comings of each other's personalities. The latter is much more difficult and
complicated to cope with, and hence there is a tendency to avoid it and instead replace real
relationships with virtual ones. Bates explains that "Over time, we begin to falsely equate
genuine, human-to-human relationship with the shallow connection and gratification offered by
social networks. We increasingly define ourselves in terms of our digital presence ...".
Therefore, long-term addiction to social networking may lead one to become more impatient
with others and be inclined towards retreat from active social events. This lack of profound
companionship gives way to loneliness and depression. A study conducted by Kraut et. al.,
found a positive correlation between how often people use the internet for socialising with how
lonely and depressed they felt. They found that the more people used social networking, the
more unhappy and stressed they felt.
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Preferring communication through texting and social media over face-to-face
conversation has adverse effects on interpersonal social skills. Digital communication allows the
user to control the way the interaction occurs; he/she can control the length of the
"conversation", the time at which it takes place and whether it takes place or not. Although this
remains a convenient and attractive feature of technology, it is not equivalent to a true
conversation, which is spontaneous, untailored and supported by facial cues and changes in the
tone and pitch of the voice. Turkle explains that "Face-to-face conversation unfolds slowly. It
teaches patience. When we communicate on our digital devices, we learn different habits. As
we ramp up the volume and velocity of online connections, we start to expect faster answers.
To get these, we ask one another simpler questions; we dumb down our communications, even
on the most important matters" ("The Flight From Conversation"). For adults, this is not a
problem because they have already developed their social and communication skills. However,
for children, it can be a serious threat to their personal and social development. Children and
teenagers are also the most active users of social networking and hence are the most
vulnerable to its detrimental effects. Children learn social skills by observing social interactions,
learning from adults about social responses, and by practicing the interaction with their social
environment(Osit 103). They develop the ability to read facial cues and understand other
people's emotions by face-to-face interactions. This also teaches them how to handle social
conflicts and respond in various situations. On the contrary, if they carry out most of their
communication through texting and social media, they are not exposed to real social
interaction. This can be a major obstacle in reaching developmental milestones psychologically.
Prolonged use of technology for socialising has caused children and teenagers to become
afraid of real conversations, which cannot be controlled and edited, unlike text messages. Their
tendency to avoid real human interaction makes them incapable of handling complex social
scenarios and confrontations.
A direct consequence of poorly-developed social skills of children is an increase in the
communication gap between children and their parents. The fact that children now spend most
of their time at home in texting and social networking means that they have less time to be
with their parents. According to Taylor, "One study found that when the working parent arrived
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home after work, his or her children were so immersed in technology that the parent was
greeted only 30 percent of the time and was totally ignored 50 percent of the time." Even if the
children do have time, they prefer to spend it in social networking, under the assumption that
their friends are more likely to understand their feelings rather than their parents. This gap in
parent-child communication is further widened by the fact that a lot of parents are not very
proficient in the use of modern technology compared to their children. Hence, they are less
likely to share those activities of their child which are associated with technology. Therefore,
the child becomes even more distant from the parents and the parents themselves are unable
to empathise with the child. Such parents feel frustrated with their child's obsession with
texting and social networking, and resort to harsh criticism against the technologies. This
results in deep-rooted tensions within the family life. Also, tech-savvy parents are equally
responsible for the lack of communication, due to their texting or catching up on emails at
home instead of spending time with their children.
Social networking sites are generally used by people to keep in contact with their friends
and hence maintain good relationships. However, they can sometimes be responsible for
tarnishing relationships and generating conflicts. Majority of users on these sites tend to cast
perfect, exaggerated profiles of themselves. Therefore, viewing each other's apparently perfect
lives leads to feelings of jealousy among peers. According to a psychological study by Krasnova
et. al., the envy is a result of social comparison, especially among friends sharing same careers
and institutions. The study identifies "passive following" as the primary cause of envy among
Facebook users, compared to active communication. Krasnova et. al. write, "According to our
findings, passive following triggers invidious emotions, with users mainly envying happiness of
others, the way others spend their vacations; and socialize. The spread and ubiquitous presence
of envy on SNSs[Social Networking Sites] is shown to undermine users’ life satisfaction"(12). In
addition, attempts at conflict resolution through texting and social media are unsuccessful most
of the times. People generally have an inclination towards discussing serious, emotional
conflicts via texting or instant messaging as it avoids direct confrontation. However, this poses a
great risk of misperception by the recipient because written words are often not able to convey
one's tone and emotions. In the absence of audio-visual cues, it becomes very hard to
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understand and interpret other person's feelings. Thus, these modes of communication can
worsen interpersonal relationships.
Excessive social networking may lead to depression due to the paradox of the presence
of hundreds of friends online but a simultaneous lack of emotional support and human contact.
In a two weeks long study, Kross et. al. found that the participants felt more lonely, depressed
and dissatisfied with life when they used more Facebook. The study took into account
variations of culture, race and gender. The participants who used Facebook more scored low on
both affective and cognitive well-being, when they completed a series of questionnaires. One of
the causes for this depression can be attributed to the loss of self-identity, as the user attempts
to display a profile that is acceptable and admired by the social circle, by arduously trimming
and altering his/her own personality. Marche states that "It’s a lonely business, wandering the
labyrinths of our friends’ and pseudo-friends’ projected identities, trying to figure out what part
of ourselves we ought to project, who will listen, and what they will hear." Contrary to the
popular view that social networking enhances self-esteem, psychologists have found that it
feeds narcissism by providing an effective platform for self-promotion. Frequent status updates
and excessive posting of photos especially selfies, are some of the indications of narcissism that
social media users exhibit. From his psychological study, Carpenter concludes that "for the
average narcissist, Facebook offers a gateway for hundreds of shallow relationships and
emotionally detached communication." He found that this occurs because social networking
enables the user to have a high degree of control over how he/she is presented to and
perceived by other users. At times social networking has the opposite effect on self esteem
which is nonetheless equally damaging. This can be seen especially in relation to women and
body image issues. It is suggested that it can exacerbate the prevailing tendency to compare
yourself physically to unrealistic ideals. Instead of relieving behavioral issues like narcissism and
personal insecurity, social networking intensifies them.
Digital communication at the price of real conversation is not only damaging the
intricate web of relationships that people are woven together in, but it is also depriving them of
the capacity to relish solitude. Most users find it very difficult to control the impulse to keep on
checking their phones for new texts and their social media profiles for updates. This occurs as a
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result of the "fear of missing out" on something that might happen. Consequently, they tend to
spend whatever leisure time they have in social networking or texting instead of enjoying
peaceful solitude and self-reflection. According to Turkle, technology "provide[s] three
powerful fantasies: that we will always be heard; that we can put our attention wherever we
want it to be; and that we never have to be alone. Indeed our new devices have turned being
alone into a problem that can be solved" ("The Flight From Conversation"). Hence, whatever
limited time people do get away from their gadgets, they are anxious and tense, and suffer
from an intense feeling of loneliness. In this paradoxical scenario, one's attempt to form
connections and combat loneliness, has in turn, made one even more lonely than ever.
According to a study by Mcpherson, Smith-Lovin, and Brashears, there has been a prominent
decrease in the number of close friends that Americans have since1985. The study finds that
"one quarter of all Americans do not have close confidants, and that the average total number
of confidants per person has decreased from four to two in the past years". This statistically
proven, overwhelming increase in loneliness may have something to do with the increasing use
of social networking.
With minimal time spent in solitude, most of the people in today's world are deprived of
the opportunity for self-reflection. In fact, being alone has now become an alien concept for
most of them. This means that very little time is spent in introspection and in the struggle to
achieve self-awareness. Deresiewicz explains that "solitude enables us to secure the integrity of
the self as well as to explore it." Being deprived of solitude thus leads to anxiety and suppresses
creativity. For example, in order to write poetry, the poet needs to be in a profound emotional
state that only solitude can provide. With constant interruptions of text messages and social
updates, how can one expect to enjoy tranquil solitude and spend time with oneself? For
children, lack of real conversation is also one of the causes for reduced self-reflection. During
their psychological and behavioural development, children learn to self-reflect by talking to
others and through their social interactions. For example, apologizing for their mistakes and
focusing on the subsequent reaction of the other person opens their way for introspection. The
replacement of face-to-face conversations with virtual socialisation has severely marred
teenagers' ability to develop self-awareness. Overall, the relation social networking has with
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narcissism and self-esteem, coupled with the way it limits introspection has nothing but dire
implications for the developing personalities of youth.
Although it is believed that in the globalised world, where families disperse over time
and friends move away in pursuit of careers and jobs, social media and texting serve as the best
modes of keeping in contact. However sacrificing genuine human interaction in order to be
simultaneously connected at multiple places is destroying the delicate social fabric that human
beings maintain. The idea that one should give precedence to those who are not present over
those who are actually there appears to be the fundamental social problem of today's
technological world. Is it worthwhile to forsake real conversations in order to live under the
delusion of controlled socialisation and 24/7 connections with everyone? In the desperate
attempt to be extensively connected, man is losing the ability to form and sustain profound
relationships. As explained by Turkle, "Our networked life allows us to hide from each other,
even as we are tethered to each other. We’d rather text than talk"(Alone Together 14). The
adverse effects of social media and texting on the social and conversational skills of children,
will in a few years time, manifest themselves fully. Their irreversibility is the primary concern of
child psychologists and therapists all over the world.
Conclusively, excessive use of texting and social networking sites has profound negative
influences on individuals, their relationships and the overall functioning of society. It is naive
and impractical to suggest complete avoidance of these technologies. But their impact on the
daily lives of people needs to be understood in detail. Their use must be regulated in such a
way that the everyday needs of communication are fulfilled without paying the price of
damaged relationships, personal anxiety and social dissatisfaction. For the time that has to be
spent on social networks, one should try to engage in active communication rather than passive
scanning of other people's posts. Some text messaging needs to be replaced by phone calls to
strengthen relationships and video calls should work even better. Serious effort has to be put in
to control the impulse of being constantly connected and the "fear of missing out" needs to be
overcome. In particular, parents need to understand how the social and behavioural
development of their children is being shaped by their use of social media. They should then try
to establish the right proportion of real social interaction and virtual communication that their
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child must be exposed to. Failure to do so will lead to the emergence of a generation which has
never been more well-connected and yet never more lonely.
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