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DATE 16 July 2013 LOCATION Nithyananda Dhyanapeetam,Bidadi Ashram, Bengaluru, Karnataka

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Mahesh Iyer Checked by Gayatri rau, Nirvikalpini Ma

Nithyanandeshwara Samaarambhaam

Nithyanandeshwari Madhyamam ||

Asmath Aachaarya Paryanthaam

Vandhey Guru Paramparaam ||

I welcome you all with my love and respects. I welcome all the devotees, disciples, samajis,

satsanghis sitting with us all over the world through Nithyananda TV, Sadhna TV and Lotus

News Channel, and two-way video-conferencing having Nayana Deeksha, and Eshwar TV,

Twoway video conferencing cities sitting with us: San Jose, Ohio, Los Angeles, Varanasi, Seattle,

Kulaambor, Toronto, Charlotte, Guadalupe, Huston, New York, Vancouver, Singapore, Mill

Valley,Jefferson South Dakota, Hong Kong, East London, Oman Dubai, New Zealand,

Dhyanapeetam, Tiruvannamalai, Hyderabad Gupta Kashi, Ohio Ma Shivananda, Bangalore

North, Saint Crystal France, Scottsdale, San Diego Pacific Beach, Calgary, France, Philadelphia,

Redmond Washington, Kathmandu Nepal, I welcome you all with my love and blessings.

Today, Mahadeva is gracing us Thirumugam Aruliya Leelai means the leela of giving a

reference letter a introduction letter. The story goes that once there was a great poet, Baana

Bhadrar, who was the court poet of Varaguna Pandya, the king of the Pandya Kingdom because

of the request of the king the poet was singing every day in the Mahadeva Temple,

Somasundareshwaras temple. Sundareshwara took jewellery from the treasury and gifted to

Baana Bhadrar. One day to test the devotion of Baana Bhadrar, he stopped giving jewels but

Baana Bhadrar continued to he never bothered about his poverty he continued his service of

singing in Sundareshwaras temple, then finally Sundareshwara comes down and gives an

introduction letter, Go and meet this Chera King with this letter,he will give you wealth.

Maybe he wants to tell the world that Chera Kings devotion it was and he goes and apprises

Chera also in the dream saying that My devotee will come give him money, give him wealth.

So, this guy, Baana Bhadrar goes with the letter of Mahadeva to Chera King.

Chera King threw the whole treasury open to him and said, Take whatever you want

Baana Bhadrar takes little to take care of his life and to do a little charity, and comes back and

lives happily for a long time. Mahadeva comes down even to given an introduction letter,

recommendation letter. Today, Mahadeva is gracing us in that leela, leela of giving

recommendation letter.

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All right, I also wanted to share something from my own experience. Ffrom today you willbe

listening to alot of stories practical stories of from different people,because from yesterdaywestarted shootingone of my very important new talk shows is shooting is started. Yesterday

night we hadtheshooting, six hours shooting, eight to till two and I dont know what I am

teaching to them but one thing I can sayis thatI am learning a lot. I am learning a lot, lot, lot.

First of all I am learning patience,to sit and attend and I am also learning how the great

spiritual truths can be applied directly to the people who are on the ground level. Till now I was

teaching solutions,addressing attending to the upper middle class, middle class, sometimes the

lower middle class, , but now I am directly facing the people, not onlytheeconomically poor,

please understand, economically poor is different,I have seen thousands of families

economically poor, theirtotal month income is hundred rupee, two hundred rupee,but

culturally also poor.

Yesterday there was a show, means there was a shootingwhere I was attendingtotwo families.

A husband and wife got separated after fourteen years of love loving marriage. Love Lovingmarriageoffourteen years they lived and then they separated. They have two kids and the son

is comingto meand crying to me and, please unite my mother and father my life is getting

wasted. and aAfter talking to both the kids I called the husband. This guy he comesinand says

the only problem I have is not big, justIjustdrink, and sometimes Icome and fight in the

house. Please listen, come to the space of listening-then once I calledinthe wifeandshe

opens opened the whole Pandora box, ! pleasePleaselisten, she openedthe whole Pandora

box,she says this guy had an affair before our marriage then he developed another one affair

recently recently,and hes handicapped, hesahandicapped guy. Then when she opensup

more and more I could understand,fortunately or unfortunately Ihavelived with millions of

economically poor people but never went and lived with culturally poor people . people. When

she opened up the whole story I could see very clearly, her mother,who must be around

seventy now is was havinganextramarital affair at the age of sixty five ,five,five years before,

just afew years before she hadanextramarital affair. So when I was trying to solve one issuewhen, whenI opened up,I could see whole PandoraPandorabox coming out. First thing I

thought, I was, I am so happy for my gurukul kids, because nowI saw have seen both the kids,

. actually Actually, the first thing I feltwas thatI wanted to tell the both the parents means

husband and wife., please send both the kids to my gurukul, but if I get got both of the kids to

the gurukul these guys wont wouldntstay together and the family wont wouldnthappen. It

was a chaos and this lady has had tried to commit suicide two times ice and this guy is

tellingsaying, no, no she tried onlytriedonce,another time shejustacted. I asked so once

trying is OK for you? I could see all the whole culturallyalso poorpoverty of thesepeople. First

thing,I was so happy that my gurukul kids doesnot need to be in that atmosphere, they dont

need to listen to these stories other than when they want to solve these problems. Directly I

put them in the space of solving all these issues. It took six full hours for me to sit and listen,

listen, listen, listen, listen and listen out. Finally both of them have joined together,together;

both of them have decided to live together. To make them understand I sat with the cleardecision I will not give up on both of them and you know when that lady came to the showshe

cameto the show onlywithonlyone condition-.I will not go back and live with him you talk

to him and get my. She came with only one condition, I will not go back and live with him,you


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talk to him and get my settlement out of court. She has had already filedfordivorce,divorce;

she has already filed divorce, she said you get my share after the discussion. She was veryclear, andit took almost six hours for me to make both of them understandthat becausethis

guy because he is handicapped,he carries so much ofadeep inferiority complex. Tto find this

guys mamakara ,ahankara and swa anyakara and to find this ladys ahankara, mamakara and

swa anyakara and to help them to understand their responsibility and uniting them was a great

lesson for me,but I tell you,one thing I wanted to tell you-this is the good news-these

tattvas and the principles I am teaching worksfor even the lowest ground level people on the

planet. Understand no one can imagine, because here is somebody whose motherhashadan

extramarital affair at the age of sixty five andahusband who had one affair beforetheir

marriage and she knows it, andthehusband sells village arak and other drugs. The mother in

law sells village arak and she saysthemother in law is the a bigger drunkard than the husband,

she drinks more than the husband and she uses all other drugs, and it is her who sellsthedrugs.

Onceinevery few weeks or few months they go to court or to the police. Actually,when I heard

the whole story for a few momentsI thought, no,this isnt going to work out, this girl is rightthat she only wantsasettlement. Sheonlywants only her share because if you go to court it

takes so much of time,along timeforanything to , any settlement and whatever you get, and

more than seventy percent will go to the court, the lawyer andtheremaining little bit will go to

the police who gets the settlement done. So sheonlycameonlyto get the settlement without

much expense and time and energy wasted,but when I started the show,thefirst thing I

decidedwas thatI will not give up on them,and Ill see to itthatthe conflict is resolved and

both of them understand these principles. You see,especially people who are culturally so

poor, who doesnt have any idea whythey should docompletion, whythey needresponsibility.

Yes I was telling that ladythatyou she should be responsible forwhat happens tothe family,

happen you should give him one more choice. Immediately she says, if I am not responsible

who wouldvemade money every month, who wouldve worked hardand took taken care of

my kids?

20 min

See, responsibility means, she understand understood responsibility only from only one

direction-that is: earning a little money and feeding the kids, thats all! But I told her, No!

Understand, for your son and daughter to grow, just that money is not enough. They needa

father and mother, both! Then it was so difficult to make her understand. And then, Ffinally,

both of them have had somehowfinallyrealized,they werealmost about to settle. Now comes

the villain!,the twist to the whole story. The wifes mother comes and says, No! I will not

allow them to live together!

I thought, Oh, God! It is has alreadybeensix hours now! Iwillhave to start again! I have to

restart! She says, No! Even I mayevenkill my daughter, but I will not allow her to go and live

with her husband! Then I slowly started with that old lady. See, she did not have a husband.Her husband passed away at a very young age. I said toher, You brought up your daughter all

by yourself without her father. See what you have done! At the age of fifteen your daughter

ran away with this guy! Actually, they eloped at the age of fifteen. She was only fifteen! They


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eloped! I said, see, what happened? Now, if your daughter brings up her daughter all alone

without the fathers presence in theirlife, your grand-daughterwillalsowillbe the same! Onlythen she slowly backed down. She thought, yes! I said, for a family to happen, the presence

of both is required. For a family to happen, the support of both is required. Nothing can

happen by one, by only one persons presence. Finally, they came to an understanding, Yes.

And to make each person understand, what is your responsibility, and what is your

responsibility..! I told her, Responsibility means allowing the possibility of re-starting.

Please understand, allowing the possibility of re-starting is responsibility!

Everybody thinks, when you are in suffering, life is over! Yesterday, literally in those six hours, I

had to give her the crash course of Inner Awakening! But I am happy, I am successful! I am

successful! I had to first start with listening. And I can guarantee that not with a single one of

the Inner Awakening participants Ihave I spent so many hours and listened! I listened! Not

only listening, but making her understand the story from the right angle! When she started

describing, I could see that because of her incompletions she started telling speaking as if thehusband has had cheated her and got married.

I said, No! You can use the words you have been cheated till you are eighteen, not after

that! Now she is twenty-eight. So, after becoming a major also, eleven years she lived with

him! I said, then, you cannot use the word he cheated you. That is wrong! That word is

wrong! Only for the fFirst three yearsonlyyou can use thoseatwords; as long as you are a

minor; not after you become a major! Finally, making her understand that she wascarrying so

much of pain! One fortunate thing is that they both are from Tamil Nadu. So they know all the

suffering I went through. So I started sharing from my own experience.

Listen!

She says, Everyone is talking about me and torturing me!

I said, Everyone talking about you is not torture. You talking it inside istorture! When I told

her my life example, immediately she said, that I understand! I can say that that was the

turning point for her.

And after yesterdays shoot, I really, very sincerely wantto do this conflict resolutioneven in

the morning satsangh, during the morning satsanghSatsang, I shoulddo this conflict resolution.

Because, how these great spiritual principles are solving your day-to-day problems! I made

her understand the responsibility and risks. And I made him understand his responsibility and

risks. Finally, I could see, the man, the man he may change, drop his habit of drinking and other

habits, and may live a new life. But making the girl/,wife, /woman understand that you she

hadveto stop the pattern of suffering, see because the pattern of suffering is worse than the

pattern of drinking, the pattern of suffering is worse than the pattern of drinking. That was the

real big job for me! That was the real big job, making the person understand! It is like, by the

time you make both of them take the responsibility and understand, the third one comes! By

the time I made everyone understand, I understood a lot of things about the human mind!


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When you have the pattern of suffering, even the smallest things can make a strong dent in

you.

I have seen in India, the old Ambassador cars, it isthey areso big and heavy, even in the big

accidents only the front portion will be a little damaged. But nowadays cars have come like a

soap box. Evenif you reverseinside the housegarage if you reverse, if you hit this side or that

side..over! It is actually our capacity. Finally, I could see, the husband, whatever he does, all

the problems he does, he forgets. And the wife, whatever problem is given, she multiplies it

with by ten-thousand! Reminding and making the husband responsible and the wife

responsible, and finally awakening them to come to terms with the reality, awakening them to

why stable relationships are important, why the life is important!

I can say, working with the minds which are in the down level, culturally poor, I can say, almost

sharpens my ability to help, guide and support people.

Layers and layers of human unconsciousness! The only good news is,even the layers and layers

can be burnt, melted away by these great spiritual principles of Integrity, Authenticity,

Responsibility and Enriching! To make these people come to that understanding -, Integrity,

Authenticity, Responsibility and

Enriching. Sometimes, people may look the same. But only when you open them up.!

Yesterday, it was an eye opener for me. A person who has lived in villages andon theground

for years, who has seen all types of people, even for me it was an eye-opener! And how each

one perceived themselves, and perceived the other!

And the weight of the past not letting the future happening! When I saw both their lives, I saw

very clearly the patterns of every one of our lives. I could connect with her; I could associate

with him. I told her, If I had a daughter, I wouldnt send her to live with this guy. But if my

daughter had another daughter, I will would send her to live with this guy, because, the past

cannot destroy the future. Things may look the same, but it is not the same. Please listen, toevery statement I am making! The past cannot destroy the future. Things may look the same,

but it is not the same!

You may think wonder how both are connected. Ill tell you how both are connected. When

you think the possibility for future transformation is not there, your past has destroyed the

future. The future will be alive only with the clarity that the possibility of transformation is

there,thepossibility for new is there.

I have a story for you:

Two men are dragging their feet in the park.

The first man points to his foot and says, Vietnam, 1969!

Understand, two men are approaching each other on a sidewalk in a park. Both are dragging

their feet as they walk. One man looks at the other and knowingly points to his foot and says,

Vietnam, 1969!

Vietnam war, 1969!


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The other man points to his foot and says, Dog crap, twenty feet back!

If you have not got it, you are sleeping!

Both may look the same, but they are not the same. Listen! Because the second man knows

that after a few minutes his past is not going to affect his future. But the first man, his past is

going to affect his future! The man who lost his leg in the war, his future is going to be affected

by the past! And if you are lost in the past, you will only see war. And, I think, the man who

lost his leg in the war, even his handicap became his pride, his suffering became his pride!

Life, in all its complications, chaos, confusions! And I could also see in the couple, after some

time they started enjoying their pains and complications. And. All theirpains and complications

became almost like part of their life. Not only they started accepting, they started enjoying

too! I could see this man, to forget his problems, he creates more problems! And, to forget his

problems, he creates problems for his wife, and then he says, I am solving her problems so thatshe will have a little sympathy!

Finally, I could understand one thing, because I listened, listened, listened, andallowed her to

complete, re-live and complete, I could see the weight of her past dissolved. She decided to

live with him. And he decided to drop his old patterns and lifelive.

Originally, the shoot was planned for three hours, but I got so involved, and I decided, with this

truth that, I commit, till the case is solved, I am not going to get up! Above all, I have decided I

will not to give up on both of them. And I could see, in the end, even they felt, Wow! Not

giving up on people is such an important truth, such an important necessary principle in ones

the life!

Understand, I think everyone of our disciples,disciples;all our centers should take up this as thereal service. You should go to all the areas, andrelate with people where people they are

culturally poor, spiritually poor-,not just economically poor. I am not saying go to them and

just give them a little medicine or, a little food and come away. That is a nice way of cheating

and misbehaving with people. I tell you, going and giving food and a little medicine is the worst

abusal abuse you do to people! My sannyasisSannyasis, our Sangha should take the

responsibility of giving them the spiritual treasure, giving them the spiritual knowledge, the

spiritual culture,culturebecause their real problem isthatthey are spiritually poor, culturally

poor! If they spiritually become rich, culturally become rich, naturally,,they will know how to

become economically rich. I wanted all of our centers, ashrams, temples, home temples,

satsanghSatsang centersCenters, to take this up as a lifestyle -, send volunteers to the areas

where spiritually poor people live, culturally poor people live, and educate them, give them

spiritual culture, spiritual understanding, spiritual truths and spiritual strength!

The essence of todays satsanghSatsang:


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If you can give spiritual strength to the culturally poor, spiritually poor people, I can say, you will

never give up on you,yourself;you will learn all thefullknack, technique of not giving up onpeople and not giving up on you! Because I helped them yesterday by not giving up on them,

now I know more and better ways of customizing, tailoring these truths to more people in a

better way. And I even know how to handle me ME in a much better way!

I will move to the Nirahara Samyama.

With this I request all the Nirahara Samyama participants, please sit straight. Close your eyes

and cognize you have become Bidadi Kalpavruksha. Inhale through both nostrils and the

mouth. Hold as long as you can comfortably, and exhale through both the nostrils, as slowly as

possible. I bless you all! Let you all experience Kundalini awakening and live health, bliss and

enlightenment by producing the energy directly from space! Namah Shivaya!

I bless you all! Let you all radiate with Integrity, Authenticity, Responsibility and Enriching, witheternal bliss, Nithyananda! Thank you!

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