7 strategies to make your child drug free
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A Self Help Booklet for Parents Struggling At Home with Their Children’s Drug AbuseTRANSCRIPT
Bill Cameron, President, Drug Free Scotland Haider Ali, President , Drug Free Nation, Pakistan Safia Umer, Program Manager, Drug Free Nation, Pakistan
Preface Every parent dreams of educating and preparing their
children to become good citizens, able to meet the
challenges of our competitive society in the good health
necessary to achieve this.
To be healthy means to be free from all drugs and
preventing drug misuse ought to be an integral part of
effective parenting. Parents are largely untrained to provide
the complete and appropriate supervision in such traumatic
circumstances at home.
Most of the advice given here is written to support you in
the situation you find at home with teenagers. Still, it will
be useful awareness for all parents whose children must
grow up in a society where drug abuse thrives.
This booklet suggests seven strategies to enable parents to
cope with their own family’s drug abuse problems at home.
Riffat Sadiq
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1 Find out as much as you can about
drug addiction, current illegal drugs
and the problems they cause
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1 Find out as much as you can about
drug addiction, current illegal drugs
and the problems they cause.
Parents are not only here to provide food and
protection but are also responsible to ensure
they are adequately prepared for situations
they may face in life, such as drug abuse.
In order to achieve this, parents must be well
informed themselves and consistently aware of
the dangers faced in our society on a day to
day basis in their own locality and nationally.
Parents must know, also, where their children
are at any given time of the day and what
company they keep at school and at play.
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Today our society is aware of the rapid increase of
drug abuse problems and we must realize that
parents can play a huge part in coping with drug
addiction; therefore, knowledge of illegal drugs and
their effects is paramount.
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HOW TO GET INFORMATION
Search any newspapers, magazines and books
that deal with drug addiction.
Search the website for any information.
If you are not connected to the internet
then you can talk to people over this issue.
Speak to parents who are currently affected
by this social scourge – ask them how they
are coping?
It is likely that your local school has
information and possibly a group for you to
attend.
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You can talk to doctors working in your
residential area and local drug treatment and
rehabilitation services may be able to advise
you as a parent.
You must consistently observe any of the
following signs of drug misuse in your home.
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KEEP WATCH FOR THE FOLLOWING!
Change in daily routine
Change in eating habits
Change or lack of sleeping habits
Trembling of body parts/hands
Nausea/vomiting
Watery or red eyes
Sudden change in behaviors
Mood changes
Impulsive or lethargic behavior.
Failing grades in school.
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Irritation, unusual anger, sadness
Poor concentration
Disobedience at school and home
Isolation or change of friends
Lack of interest in family or school
Truancy from school
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If any of these signs persist for a week or
more or have done for longer, consult mental
health professionals as soon as
possible, since many of these symptoms may
suggest a deeper problem and further mental
status.
If you suspect your child taking drugs, then
handle him/her patiently.
Avoid criticizing and threatening him/her.
Talk to the professional and deal your child
according to his/her instructions.
Do not be harsh with your child.
Discuss dire consequences of drug abuse for
his/her health.
Try to keep yourself aware of your situation
so that you may guide your children
appropriately and with truth.
(ALWAYS BE TRUTHFUL)
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2. A Trusting
Relationship Is Required
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A Trusting
Relationship Is Required
A trusting relationship between parent and
child may be difficult in this situation due
possibly to the child’s guilt and lies that he/she
may have engineered to protect him/her or a
member of his peer group. Parent-child
relations do facilitate the emotional growth of
child and further develops a sense of trust
between child and parent.
This relationship will reduce the “gap” between
parent and child, possibly to the extent that
the child may share much more concerning
his/her own relationships with friends and
generally what is going on in his/her life that
you may not be aware of. It will also help
him/her to handle peer pressure.
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HELPING TO BUILD TRUST Gratify all basic needs of your child including
need for love and affection on an
unconditional basis.
Listen to him/her what he/she wants to say
Sit with him/her, hug and love him/her.
Ask him/her about activities going on in
school, his/her likes/dislikes, etc.
Let him/her share feelings and thoughts
Give him/her space if he/she makes a
mistake.
This advice, depending on the age of your
child, must be tempered with your own
insistence that drugs are not acceptable in
any way in your home.
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3 Provide Quality Time
To Your Family
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Provide Quality Time
To Your Family
Quality of time often resolves conflict within the
environment of the family. A positive family
environment is essential to prevent drug abuse
amongst siblings.
Quality of time demands appropriate supply of
attention to child’s needs. Appropriate supervision
for one hour is better than inappropriate handling
for 4 hours.
Quality of time given to child also makes him/her
understand that parents are keeping their eye on
his activities. Parents will ask him/her if he or she
gets involved in anything wrong.
Quality of time is often ineffective if the child is
using drugs and not willing to share his/her
feelings. It may simple be time to listen or time to
let him/her know your feelings.
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How To Provide
Quality Of Time To Child?
Talk to your child in friendly way
Discuss something informative to him such as
media, career choice and introduce the
subject of drugs to let him/her know you are
aware that such things exist in your area.
Take tea/juice, or eat something sitting with
child so that you are both at ease and use
sense of humor, jokes to make your time
together interesting.
Let him/her share his future plans but take
care that this session does not turn into an
interrogation.
If he/she is using drugs, he/she will know
precisely what answers you require and also
that this quality time is an excuse to talk
about his/her drug misuse.
There are thousands of parents in the same
situation all over the world. Take heart.
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4. Aim To Maintain
Family Equality
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Aim To Maintain Family Equality
Inequality, injustice or inappropriate
criticism make child feel rejected and ignored.
Such thoughts may lead them to a seek release
through taking drugs or continuing to use.
Especially adolescents are very sensitive to minor
irritation. When you hug one of your children,
another may feel rejected so share your affection
and attention wisely despite the fact that you
may know that your current “problem” maybe
benefit more at this time.
It may be necessary to explain to other siblings
why you are taking so much time with another
brother or sister, so it may be beneficial to include
them all in your feelings and advise them how to
cope with your family problem.
Is it feasible to suggest that younger brothers and
sisters of a teenager at home who uses drugs might
well be aware of his/her addiction? They will need
advice and support to cope too.
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5. Maintain
Religious & Social Values
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5. Maintain
Religious & Social Values Values are essential to shape civilized behavior.
Present your religious and social values to children
in appropriate way. Make your values easy to be
followed.
First you will have to follow your values in order to
teach your children. Appropriate social and
religious values develop the sense of right and
wrong.
If your child learns from beginning that his/her
religion and society strictly prohibit alcohol and
other drugs, then he/she will be less likely to use
them in later life, even living in a society where
drugs are openly used.
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Religious/Moral Values
Taught By Example
Children of different ages must be taught
religious and social values with no
discrimination and according to their ability
to appreciate these values.
Use positive and negative reinforcement
while teaching values. For instance, a small
gift as a token of positive and the removal of
a facility (television) as a negative token.
Do not punish your child harshly because it
may make him/her aggressive and sabotage
your plan to enforce further values.
You, too, will have to follow the values which
you are going to teach your child.
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6. Be A Role Model
For Your Children
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Be A Role Model For
Your Children Try to present a positive role model for your
children. You will not achieve success, if for
example, you attempt to guide your child away from
drugs with a cigarette in your own mouth or by
sending him/her to the store for alcohol.
You are effectively displaying to the child that it
is okay for you but not for him/her. Your own
actions, words and life style teach.
Children also learn via observation so if you are
using, even privately, any of these substances –
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STOP NOW
YOUR CHILD WILL KNOW!
You have used any drugs as a teenager; alcohol,
cigarettes, marijuana etc, never boast about it to
your child unless you are prepared to justify that
these substances are not harmful.
AND THAT IS NOT THE CASE—EVER!
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7. Be An Honest Bread Earner
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Be An Honest
Bread Earner
Support your family honestly and fairly. Your
honesty and sincerity to your job also portray your
positive image to your children. It is a fact that
tomorrow you will reap whatever you sow today but
there is always time to change – the time is always
now.
Your source of earning teaches numerous lessons
to your children such as; differentiating between
right and wrong, gratification of needs in legal and
moral way, developing sense of self-
made/hardworking and so forth.
Your moral and religious values are important and
your local religious leader will be able to explain the
connection. Seek him/her for support.
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How To Be An Honest Bread Earner?
Try to find work somewhere that does
not oblige you to break your moral or
religious codes through employment, for
example, in a factory making cigarettes or
alcohol.
If you are a shopkeeper, would you be
able to sell betel nut, tobacco, paan, gutka
or tobacco – even to meet household
expenses? Think on that.
Avoid even minor contact with anything
that you are convinced is immoral or
dangerous.
Make a point, as far as drugs go, to be as
well informed as possible for your society,
your local town, your family and yourself.
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