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Please seat yourselves in groups of 5-6.

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An Overview of Bullying

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Think of the most tolerant person in your building.

What behavior would s/he have to be aware of before intervening?

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Think of the least tolerant person in your building.

What behavior would s/he have to be aware of before intervening?

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Write the behaviors on the Post-It Notes.

Most Tolerant - Least Tolerant

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Shooting someone with a gun  Stabbing someoneFlashing a weapon   Hitting/kickingShoving/punching  Spitting/pushing

Intimidation/extortion  Stalking

Sexual Harassment  Damaging propertyStealing  Taunting/ridiculingName calling  ThreateningWriting graffiti  Staring/leeringGesturing  Starting rumors/

gossiping

Eye rolling 

   

 

 

 

 

Violence Continuum

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Think About

1. As a student in your building, what bullying behavior could you get away with at least half the time?

2. Why is this true?

3. What is the most frequent bullying behavior involving kids on kids that you observe in your building?

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Definition of Violence:

Violence is anyword, look, sign, or act that hurts a person’sbody, feelings, or things.

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Definition of Harassment:

Harassment in itself means to trouble, worry or torment, with repeated questions or attacks. The victim feels hassled and becomes very frustrated, as the harassment may be a continuous event. EPS Board Policy # 4420R

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Definition of Intimidation:

Intimidation involves making someone else afraid, intentionally making her/him timid, or forcing her/him in some manner by using threats of violence.

EPS Board Policy # 4420R

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Definition of Bullying:Bullying is aggressive behavior or intentional harming of another person. Bullying occurs within an interpersonal relationship characterized by an imbalance of power that involves exploitation of a less powerful person by one seeking an unfair advantage. It is repeated over time. EPS Board Policy # 4420R

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Bullying happens when someone with more power unfairly hurtssomeone with less powerover and over again.

Power may be physical strength,social skill, verbal ability, or another resource.

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Physical Bullying:

Harm to another student’s person or property (threatening harm or gestures, tripping, hitting, starting fights, extortion, assaulting with a weapon, homicide.)

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Emotional Bullying:

Harm to another’s self worth using remarks, insulting gestures, harassing/frightening phone calls, challenging in public.

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Social Bullying:Harm to another’s group acceptance by gossiping, playing tricks, spreading rumors, racial insults, exclusion tactics, arranging public humiliation, undermining other relationships, ruining a reputation.

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Sexual Bullying:

Reference is made to Board Policy #4810, as that policy was developed specifically to address this type of bullying.

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Think of instances in your building that an adult’s behavior would fit the definition of bullying.

Discuss this at your tables.

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Board Policy # 4420R

“Any employee engaging in the bullying of a student is subject to discipline, which could include but would not be limited to verbal or written disciplinary action, administrative transfer, suspension, demotion, forfeiture of pay or termination in accordance with applicable law.”

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There are 2 Fuels for Violence:

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Entitlement

The belief that people have the right to use violence or

threats of violence to express feelings, meet

needs or satisfy desires.

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Tolerance

What we put up with or allow –

or accept as the norm.

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Occurs when violence is

accepted as the norm through

ignoring, rationalizing, and

minimizing incidents of

violence.

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Entitlement and tolerance

are not the behaviors but rather what drives

behavior.

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What causes students to tolerate

or enable these behaviors?

It worksMay be all they know

Drama is invitingExpected

Think it is okay

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What groups enable violence to continue?

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Personnel Parents

Denial GuiltNonreporting BlameFavoritism Sanction partiesIgnoring or Teach violence minimizing InconsistencyStop! Quit! Don't! Students CommunityDenial Deny the problemDN tell or report GuiltGlorify NonrecognitionPower or attention Leave it to law enforcement 

   

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Characteristics of Bullies

Proactive Bully: Reactive Bully:* deliberate * emotional* detached * poor impulse control

* unemotional *distorted thinking

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General Characteristics of Bullies

Average academically Not anxious or insecure Do not have low self esteem Usually have small network of

friends Successfully hide their behaviors Excited by reactions of their victims

(such as fighting back)…

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Further General Characteristics of Bullies…

Are excited by their bullying behavior Thrive on feelings of dominance and

power Have low empathy and low

compassion Enjoy causing pain Blame the victims Interpret ambiguous acts as hostile

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Characteristics of Provocative Victims

Pester and irritate others repeatedly Quick-tempered and will fight back Get others charged up Can look like a bully but always a

victim in the end May be clumsy, immature, restless Provoke attacks…

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Further Characteristics of Provocative Victims… Isolated Friendless Overly dependent on adults Distressed May be learning disabled - especially

NVLD Often diagnosed with ADD or ADHD Bullied repeatedly

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Characteristics of Passive Victims

Have a lot of affect Rarely tell they are being bullied May carry weapons as self-protection Don’t invite attack Sensitive and cry easily Pushovers Lack social skills Often chosen last

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District And Staff Responsibilities: EPS Board Policy #4420R

* Provide classroom instruction in character education that addresses issues related to bullying. Communicate to students the following expectations:

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A. We shall not bully other students.

B. We shall try to help students who are bullied. C. We shall make a point to include students who become easily left out.

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What Do You Know About Bullying?

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1. All bullying involves physical aggression.2. Only boys bully.3. Once a bully always a bully.4. Those who bully have low self esteem.5. Children who bully are generally from families in lower socioeconomic levels…

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6. As a rule, children who bully do poorly in school.

7. Those who bully appear agitated and aggressive.

8. Most bullying happens on the way to school or on the way home from school…

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9. Putting a stop to bullying at school means only that the location in which this behavior occurs will move from the school to other places in the community.

10. Fighting back will deter bullying behavior.

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Conclusion

“Peace is active, not passive.Peace is doing, not waiting.

Peace, like war, must be waged.”Jimmy Carter

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Resources:

* Oklahoma State Department of Health, June, 2002* Sharon Heatly, Norman Public Schools* EPS BOE Board Policy 4420 and Regulations* Dan Olweus, “Bullying 101”