" a person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions...
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WHAT IS BULLYING? "A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself."
1. Bullying is aggressive behaviour that involves unwanted, negative actions.2. Bullying involves a pattern of behaviour repeated over time.3. Bullying involves an imbalance of power or strength.
U.N.I.T.E.D
Q & A: Discussion1.Within the film clip, what types of bullying do you think
you saw? & how did you know each of the types of bullying were being shown?
2.What strategies are used to try and resolve their bullying problems in the film clip?
3.What messages do you get from the film clip regarding the topic of bullying?
4.What is the target demographic of the film clip?
“Don’t Bully Me”
Q & A: Discussion1.Within the film clip, what types of bullying do you think
you saw? & how did you know each of the types of bullying were being shown?
2.What strategies are used to try and resolve their bullying problems in the film clip?
3.What messages do you get from the film clip regarding the topic of bullying?
4.What is the target demographic of the film clip?
Social Bullying Verbal Bullying
What bullying is this?
Q & A: Discussion1. What type of bullying was shown
through this film clip? How did you know that it was that type of bullying?
2. What strategies were used to deal with the bullying situation in a positive way?
3. How did the bystander affect the bullying situation?
4. What were the messages from this film clip on bullying?
5. What was the target demographic for this film clip?
Physical BullyingDefinition: Physical bullying is unwanted negative contact by anotherperson usually used to gain power over another. Most of the time the physical types of bullying are easy to identify since the acts are obviousand generally through high aggression. Usually more boys get bullied, andbully others.
Examples: HittingPinchingPunchingChasingShovingCoercingStealing belongingsUnwanted Sexual Touching
What type of bullying is this?
Q & A: Discussion1. What type of bullying was shown through this
film clip? How did you know that it was that type of bullying?
2. What strategies if any were used to deal with the bullying in the film clip?
3. What were some of the interesting ways that the film demonstrated the types of bullying in the film clip?
4. What were the messages from the film clip with regards to the type of bullying?
5. What was the target demographic of the bullying film clip?
Verbal BullyingDefinition: Verbal bullying occurs when someone uses language to gain power over his/her peers. The verbal language used for bullyingis usually negative in nature and is normally repetitive. Verbal bulliesare more difficult to identify since their attacks tend to occur when adults aren’t present. This type of abuse can have long term emotional & psychological impacts on the victim.
Examples:Name Calling;Threatening ;Negative comments to another’s (culture, ethnicity, race, religion,gender, or sexual orientation);Teasing;Spreading Rumours;
What type of bullying is this?
Q & A: Discussion1. What type of bullying was shown through this
film clip? How did you know that it was that type of bullying?
2. What strategies if any were used to deal with the bullying in the film clip?
3. What were some of the interesting ways that the film demonstrated the types of bullying in the film clip?
4. What were the messages from the film clip with regards to the type of bullying?
5. What was the target demographic of the bullying film clip?
Social Bullying Definition: Social bullying is a form of bullying common amonggroups of students, social circles, and within school communities. The behaviour describes an individual, or a group of individuals whotry to hurt a peer, or sacrifice another’s social standing within their peer group.
Examples: Excluding others from group activity; Spreading Rumours; Humiliating others with public gestures or photos; Spreading Gossip;
What type of bullying is this?
Q & A: Discussion1. What type of bullying was shown through this
film clip? How did you know that it was that type of bullying?
2. What strategies if any were used to deal with the bullying in the film clip?
3. What were some of the interesting ways that the film demonstrated the types of bullying in the film clip?
4. What were the messages from the film clip with regards to the type of bullying?
5. What was the target demographic of the bullying film clip?
Cyber-BullyingDefinition: Cyber bullying is when a person, or a group of people, social networking technology such as the internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to threaten, tease or abuse someone. It's against the law to bully someone in this way and if someone is being mean or threatening you, something can and should be done to stop them. This type of bullying combines both social and verbal bullying that invades the privacy of another person’s social networking technology which is why this type of bullying is such an invasion of privacy.
Examples: Social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc…
Text Messaging;
E-mail or Instant Messaging;
Developing a web site for the purpose of negatively impacting another person;
Placing unwanted film clips or photo’s of another person on a social networking medium for the intended purpose of causing harm;
Placemat Small Group Activity
Types of Questions for each group: 1. Define “Type of Bullying”2. Explore and come up with different examples of “Type
of Bullying”3. What are some different ways that you can handle
“Type of Bullying” in a positive way?4. What was the message(s) that you understood from
the film clip on “Type of Bullying”?5. Who was the intended message from the film directed
towards and why?(20-25 minutes)
At this point in the presentation the teacher can break the class up into groups of 3-4 students so they can work together to develop a placemat for each type of bullying. Each group will get assigned one type to explore through the film clips just viewed. When completed the groups will present their findings and develop a placemat of their responses for each person in the class
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Question #5
Bullying Myth Buster Quiz
Statement TRUE FALSE
Girls bully more than boys
Bullies tend to target young people with physical differences
Bullies are insecure and have low self esteem
Most bullying is physical
Being in a group increases the risk of bullying
Bullying toughens you up
Bullies grow out of it when they leave school
You need to fight back so the bully leaves you alone
Talking to an adult just makes it worse
Bullying Myth Buster Quiz Answers
• Girls bully more than boysFALSE boys bully more than girls but both sexes can be bullies
• Bullies tend to target young people with physical differencesFALSE bullies target anybody and everybody
• Bullies are insecure and have low self esteemFALSE bullies are often popular and have high self esteem
• Most bullying is physicalFALSE the majority of bullying is verbal: name calling, spreading rumours and malicious gossip
• Being in a group increases the risk of bullyingFALSE bullies are put off by groups, they prefer to bully one person not many
• Bullying toughens you upFALSE in fact bullying can cause lasting psychological damage leading to self harm and even suicide
• Bullies grow out of it when they leave schoolFALSE most bullies become more violent and may become involved in violence related crime
• You need to fight back so the bully leaves you aloneFALSE fighting back only escalates the problem
• Talking to an adult just makes it worseFALSE talking to an adult is the best thing you can do – they can advice you as to when bullying crosses over into criminal behaviour, for example
Impact of Bullying on Students
Students being bullied tend to report:
• Feelings of depression, anxiety, and isolation• Low self-esteem• Poor school performance• Thoughts of suicide and suicide attempts
Students who bully tend to:
• Exhibit defiant and delinquent behavior• Have poor school performance• Be more likely to drop out of school• Be more likely to bring weapons to school
Students Being Bullied• Report losing items such as books, electronics,
clothing, or jewelry.• Have unexplained injuries.• Complain frequently of headaches, stomach aches, or
feeling sick.• Hurt themselves.• Lose interest in visiting or talking with friends.• Are afraid of going to/from school or other activities
with peers.• Appear sad, moody, angry, anxious, or depressed.• Talk about suicide.• Suddenly have fewer friends.• Avoid certain places.• Act differently than usual.• Want to sit near the driver.• Want to sit with the same “safe” student or group of
students all of the time (behind them, in front of them, or surrounded by them).
• Want to sit on the inside seat—not the aisle seat.
Students Who Bully• Become violent with others.• Get into physical or verbal fights with others.• Get in trouble a lot, including being sent to the
principal’s office or detention. • Have extra money or new belongings that cannot be
explained.• Are quick to blame others.• Will not accept responsibility for their actions.• Have friends who bully others.• Need to win or be best at everything.• Try to move near enough to the student being bullied
to continue bullying—for example, the bullying student may move near enough so the student being bullied can hear remarks, be touched, or be bothered.
• Vie for attention, talk loudly, wave at the driver in the mirror, or move from seat to seat.
• Watch the driver and change seats to be near the student being bullied when the driver is at an intersection or watching the road.
Who is involved in Bullying?
BullyingTriangle
Bully
Victim Bystander
The Bystander is the most influential person in the triad
BystandersThere are two kinds of bystanders:HURTFUL bystanders who may instigate bullying, encourage bullying when it has started, join in the bullying or contribute to bullying by doing nothing and passively accepting what is happening.HELPFUL bystanders can directly intervene by doing something directly to stop the bullying or get help to stop it when it’s started.Bystander Effect: An event in which the greater the number of people present for a situation will cause less of a chance for a person in distress to get help. When an emergency situation happened, people watching will more likely take action if there are fewer or no witnesses present during the event or situation. (If a group of people are watching a fight there will be less of a chance that someone will stop it than if there were only a few people watching the fight.)WHAT MAKES SOMEONE A BYSTANDER?• ‘It’s not my problem’ and they don’t want to draw attention to themselves• They think they can’t stop the bully or may become another victim• They don’t like the victim or feel they ‘deserve’ to be bullied• They fear retribution or just don’t know what to do• They think telling adults will make it worseHOW TO HELP YOUNG PEOPLE BECOME HELPFUL BYSTANDERS:• Let young people know you will support them when they speak up• Discuss ways they can intervene• Provide examples of how helpful bystanders have made a difference
Are you a Bully or a BystanderQuiz
Are you a Bully or a Bystander ? Quiz
Results
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The Bullying Circle
The Victim
THE BULLYStarts the bullying
THE HENCHMANActive participant but doesn’t start it
PASSIVE BULLYSupports but doesn’t take part
POSSIBLE BULLYEnjoys it but doesn’tshow support
BYSTANDER‘Nothing to do with me’
POSSIBLE DEFENDERDoesn’t like it but doesn’ttake a stand
DEFENDERDislikes bullying and triesactively to stop it
Steps to Take Action
Combating BullyingOne way to combat bullying is to take an ‘all project intervention stance’. This type of programme has resulted in greater reporting of incidents and a significant improvement in the ‘social climate’ with a marked reduction in the number of opportunities and rewards for bullying. This type of anti bullying programme depends on:
1. The creation of an environment characterised by warmth, active engagement and positive interest from adults.
2. Firm boundaries delineating acceptable and unacceptable behaviour3. Consistent application of non-punitive sanctions for unacceptable behaviour4. Adults who act as authorities and good role models
Young people who are being bullied need to remember that they don’t have the problem – the bully does. Good strategies to stand strong against bullying include:
– Spend time with friends – bullies rarely pick on people who are in a group– Tell the bully calmly to stop and then walk away– Tell an adult you can trust – this isn’t telling tales as you have a right to be safe
and secure and, even if the problem has stopped, tell an adult in case it starts again. It helps to practice what you want to say beforehand
– If you find it difficult to talk about bullying, why not write about your experiences – you could even set up a blog or a Facebook profile and ‘name and shame’ the bully by detailing what happens when (but make sure an adult knows about this)
– Ask your parents/carer to visit your school/youth project– If you have no one to talk to or don’t want to talk to anyone you know, then call
CHILDLINE 0800 1111
Combating BullyingWHAT NOT TO DO:• Don’t try to deal with the problem on your own – it’s OK to ask for help• Don’t hit the bullies – you might get accused of being a bully yourself• Don’t exaggerate - always tell the truth about what’s happened to you• Don’t believe the lies that bullies tell about you• Don’t hide things from your friends and family – secrecy is the bullies biggest
weapon against you
IF YOU’RE BULLYING SOMEONE:• Stop and think about why you’re doing what you’re doing• Think about the pain your bullying causes others – do you really want to hurt or
upset other people• It’s not big to make others feel small• Bullying won’t make you real friends• Ask for help to stop bullying – talk to a trusted adult about ways you can change
your behaviour
Anti Bullying StrategiesSMART (for younger young people)• S = SAFE stay safe online by not giving personal information to people
you don’t trust• M = MEETING don’t meet anyone offline without letting your
parents/carers/best friend know – and try and make sure they’re present if you do meet someone
• A = ACCEPTING make sure that you only accept emails, texts, attachments, pictures and IM messages from people you know
• R = RELIABLE remember that not all the information you get online is reliable
• T = TELL if something online makes you feel uncomfortable, then tell a parent/carer or another adult you trust
Or try the SHINE pledge:• S = STAND UP to put downs• H = HELP those who are being bullied• I = INFORM adults when I need to• N = NEVER use my computer or mobile to hurt anyone• E = ENCOURAGE my friends to speak out against bullying too
Bullying Guidance for Young People
IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED:• Try to stay calm and confident• Be firm and clear – look them in the eye and tell them to stop• Get away from the situation as quickly as possible• Tell an adult what has happened as soon as possibleAFTER YOU’VE BEEN BULLIED• Tell a teacher or trusted adult at school/youth project/home• Practice what you’re going to say and get a friend to come with you for support• Don’t be afraid to speak up• If you have access to a peer support programme – use it. Or call Childline 0800
1111.• Don’t blame yourselfWHEN YOU TELL WHAT HAPPENS• Be clear about what has happened, where it happened and how often it has
happened• Be clear about who was involved and who saw what happened• Be clear about what you’ve already done about it
CYBERSAFE Guidelines• Tell someone you trust that you are being cyberbullied• Report any cyberbullying, whether it’s targeted at you or not• Never respond/retaliate as this can make things worse. It may be
difficult not to, but try to ignore it• Block the cyberbullies from contacting you• Save any offensive emails/texts as this can be used to trace them
if necessary• Tell your parents/carers that you are being cyberbullied - if they
don’t know, they can’t help you• If you are continuously cyberbullied, consider changing your user
I.D.• Don’t let anyone know your password - even friends• Think very carefully about any information you post online e.g.
your home address• Register on Cybermentors to gain support from your peers• Don’t allow these tips to hinder your enjoyment- but allow them to
enhance your online experience. Have fun!!
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