“ Your Perspective Or Plain Truth ”

Love that helps you grow

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Your Perspective or Plain Truth

I have always been curious about the psychology of people. The sheer thought that bil-lion people around me each have a different point of view has always intrigued me. The variety of upbringings, experiences, surroundings and connections that each of us have in our lives are definite proof of how diverse our thought processes are.

“What we believe or feel may not be the only truth because truth is nothing but a reflection of our thinking”

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Love that helps you grow

Being in Love is one of the best feeling ever ! Not every one is lucky enough to find true love. True Love helps you become a better person, it holds your hand while you run behind your dreams, it stands by your side through thick and thin. It’s also not totally a blissful feeling as it sometimes brings along heartbreak, sacrifices, adjust-ments and lots of letting go.

Here are some beautiful stories and experiences about TRUE LOVE.

Kinnari

Jessica www.masterselftherapy.com

Jessica is a freelance writer and a

trained psychologist (BA & MS).

My five lessons in Love That Helps You Grow talks about how my perspectives

change over time. I wished I could have understood these while I was going

through my growing. When I was a young adult, I lacked the right combination

of perspectives to give me the power push.

I remember my grandmother. She was an authoritarian figure who ruled her

household with an iron fist and fiery tongue. She kept everyone in line. I strug-

gled to understand how to fit in and thrive under her rule. After a tongue lash-

ing, Grandma would relent and show her soft side. I was too frozen in fear to step

out of line for long. From these experiences, I learned :–

Lesson One – Love that lets you grow allows you to make mistakes,

and nudges you back on the path.

My grandfather was a positive man who was lost in trying to save as much as he

could for the future. Nearing a century, his time was running short, but he saved

out of habit. He wanted to impart lessons on frugality, but his extremism re-

versed it. It was painful to live without and his perspectives were not well re-

ceived. He told me to live frugally, with just enough to feed the body and soul.

Lesson Two – Allocate a little more resource to take care of the

soul.

My father, in contrast, lived in the past. He was caught in the jaws of yesteryears. He could not forgive others, because he could not forgive himself. He was preju-diced against those who had failures because he held a damaging opinion that once a failure, always a failure. From him, I learned a big lesson on love.

Lesson Three – Love that lets you grow allows you to make mis-

takes and accepts you unconditionally.

My mother stepped aside. She could not handle domestic life under one roof with

in-laws and without in-laws. I was determined to go the opposite direction, to

make up for this debit. I would do everything in my power, to nurture my family.

Lesson Four – Love that lets you grow, makes sacrifices, for the

greater good of the other members of the family.

My sibling was as hapless as I was, but became street smart by mixing with con-

temporaries. He left me alone to develop. I learned that if my sibling could cope,

so can I.

Lesson Five – Love that lets you grow, gives you space to develop.

I could go on and on, naming each person, who has touched my life, with love

that helps me grow. However, I’ve to stop now, due to time constraints. Please join

me in this writing challenge and tell me about your loves that helped you grow.

My 5 lessons in love that help you grow

“ Your Perspective Or Plain Truth ”

daleenc www.kidfarmer.wordpress.com

Daleenc is a Christ-loving, horse-crazy

girl who loves cowboying and

wild adventures.

What is True Love for me? It’s changed over the years…a lot.

When I was a baby, I didn’t much care…just as long as I got food. I won’t mention

that any in this equation….

When I was a kid, the difference between True Love and Love was that True Love

was in stories and Love was what happened outside of stories. Not that True Love

was the best, but in stories, I mean, there were so many villains, who knew who

the true lover was???

When I grew a bit older, I learned the meaning behind ‘True Love'; my spouse.

That was when True Love became something real, something tangible. A hus-

band. I didn’t really care then either. I was quite sure I was called to singleness. I

would never marry. I would never be a wife. I would never have kids. I would be a

cowgirl or a horse trainer and go from ranch to ranch seeking adventure. I didn’t

need a guy to watch out for me. I would be big enough to do everything on my

own.

I got older still. I started wanting the company of boys. One of my close friends

started dating (She was around 18, not 13, like me, btw). I think she dated for a

good year or so. She was ready and waiting for proposal. What did she get? A text

message Sunday morning at church telling her that he was breaking up and that

he had been going with another girl for a while. I looked around and saw divorce:

broken marriages and broken dreams. I looked at the teenagers around me. What

did I see? Breakups between couples. Broken hearts and broken dreams.

What is True Love for me?

True Love is a dream. Made up and fictional; a fragment of someone’s imagina-

tion used for enhancing a story. To give a story something that every person

craves. True Love is something dangled over young people’s heads, trying to get

them to jump up and reach it, just to laugh as they fall to the rocks below and

hearts are shattered. True Love is something that people dream about and then

wake up and sigh, wishing dreams came true.

True Love is something that I have given up on.

But sometimes…sometimes, I look at my parents, 16 years married and still quite

in love with each other. And sometimes…sometimes I look at my grandparents,

also quite in love even though they’ve been married since before my parents

were born. And sometimes…sometimes you go and see an old couple, sitting to-

gether smiling like they were just married. “And how long have you been mar-

ried?” You ask. “Oh 53 years (or so).” They reply. “Times haven’t always been great,

but we’ve always had each other!”

And sometimes…sometimes I wonder if it just might be possible for me too.

True Love

“ Your Perspective Or Plain Truth ”

Shruti www.shrutiparikh.blogspot.in

Shruti is happily married and loves

her kids unconditionally .

I completely agree with what you highlighted - that truth can be visualized

through one's perspective.

Love that helps me grow has made me learn that we need to give more than we

expect to receive. That sometimes means letting go more than what we get.

The most unconditional love I have got is from my parents. Their unconditional

love at the time of need has always motivated me to think rationally. It has

taught me to pause and reflect than to be in haste in every situation no matter

how tough it could be. There are tiffs, up's, down's because of various reasons. Af-

ter one decides to settle down, one has to learn to shift gears all the time in one's

thought process. My husband and I are blessed to have 2 beautiful kids who make

our days brighter every day.

We learn to deal with agreements, disagreements, tough and also good times. It

takes time but I firmly believe that letting things go is an act of far greater pow-

er than defending or holding on. How much to let go is also a perspective.

I have learnt to be confident of myself everyday, to have a positive image of my-

self. My kids have taught me to take each day at a time.

I want to be able to give my unconditional love and support to them always and

to be for them as much as I can. And so does my husband.

So, in short, that has been my experience of love that has helped me grow - love

that makes you have a positive image of yourself always.

Love that help you grow

“ Your Perspective Or Plain Truth ”