your one on-one with your boss - taking power
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One-on-One With Your Boss
Taking Power
This module is
about having the
best possible
one-on-ones with
your boss
But first I quickly
want to talk to
you about
your boss
The thing is that
your relationship
with your boss is
the most
important work
relationship that you have
Because it’s the
relationship that
determines what work
you do, your career
progression, your
increases and bonuses
but ultimately your
work happiness too
Because if you have a
bad relationship or
communications with
your boss, you are
going to hate your job
Have you ever
had a
bad boss? Have you hear
bad boss horror
stories?
We all have because
the research says
that 90% of us will
have had a bad
boss sometime in
our careers
So how do we
stop this
from
happening?
is about
ethical management. So
share this message to stop the
bad bosses from winning
Now sometimes
you just get
stuck with a
bad boss
But the beautiful
thing is that you
don’t just have
top accept that
And no, I’m not
talking about
what we call
“firing your
boss”
Which means quitting in a huff and
changing your boss by
finding a new job
Because odds are
you will just
replace one
problem with another
It may help you
to know that
being a boss is
extremely
difficult for many people
I know that I wasn’t
born with the
natural skills that I
needed to be a great
boss
And while I had excellent
technical skills and spent
many years and many
thousands of dollars
investing in my
education, no-one
showed me how to be
a good boss.
And in my
experience there
are far too many
bosses who
haven’t had the
training they need.
So if you change
jobs, the risk is
that you will end
up being a bad
boss.
These aren’t
necessarily bad
people – they are
just doing a
difficult job that no-one
showed them
how to do
So a good
place to start is
to have some
compassio
n.
And when you have this
understanding then you
have a great basis to go
forward on a
co-operative level instead of an
antagonistic
I’d like to share a quick personal story
that should help you understand this
I had a very
successful boss
who was a great
leader, but
not as good
at managing as he was at
leading
So I had been
working really
hard to meet my
performance
objectives
Every month I
checked against
my performance
objectives from
my last review to
make sure that I
was on track
But then the next
performance review
happened and he gave
me some
negative feedback
for not doing something
he had asked me to do
And instead of
getting a good
rating for all my
hard work I
ended up with
average
Needless to
say I was
upset
And I really do believe
that bosses have a
responsibility to help
their employees perform
and I created
Boss Camp to show
bosses how to do this.
But that’s not the
lesson. The
lesson is that I
was not doing a
good job to make
sure that I was
meeting the boss’s
expectations before
the performance
review
If I take the
responsibility for
checking in with my
boss’s expectations in a
one-on-one meeting
then I have empowered
myself to fix the
problem
But if I blame
my boss for not
doing what I think
he should have
done then what
happens is…
• Things go wrong,
• Things go wrong,
• I lose out on my bonus and,
• Things go wrong,
• I lose out on my bonus and,
• I end up angry
But perhaps
most
dangerously of
all, without
responsibility
people feel
helpless
And people who
feel helpless
end up sad and
depressed.
This isn’t
about what’s
wrong or
right…
It’s about
doing what works
and making your life
better despite what other
people around you do
Regardless of whether you’re lucky to have
a good boss or a bad boss, you always
have the power to take action to make
things better
But you have to
choose to take
the personal
responsibility to
make a difference
If you live in
blame you will
always be
powerless
I’m a big believer about taking
personal responsibility for ourselves
And one thing that you can do is that
you can take responsibility for your
communications
And this isn’t just for
bad bosses it’s
essential for
all bosses
What I now realize is that
if I had been having
regular high quality one-
on-ones with my boss
then I could’ve found
out what my boss
really wanted
Your best
communicatio
n channel is your
one-on-one with
your boss
And taking
responsibility for your
communications
means coming well
prepared like I
will show you in this
mini course.
And taking
responsibility means
helping your boss
to have the best
quality one-on-ones
because there are two
people in a one-on-
one meeting
Helping
your
boss
means…
• Helping to stick to the agenda
• Helping to stick to the agenda
• Keep things moving fast
• Helping to stick to the agenda
• Keep things moving fast
• Stay flexible
• Helping to stick to the agenda
• Keep things moving fast
• Stay flexible
• Communicating openly with compassion
And you don’t
have to do this
for your boss,
you can
do it for
yourself…
Because doing what I will show
you is going to save you time,
improve your earnings and
improve your happiness at work
And so to
wrap
up…
I know I wasn’t the
first employee to
get an unfair,
bad review because of not
meeting some
hidden criteria
And I
won’t be
the last either
And even though I
thought I was
doing what I
needed to, clearly I
wasn’t
And even
though I was
working hard,
clearly I was
wasting
my time
But there
is a better
way…
Instead of wasting
my time doing the
wrong things and then getting
upset with my review
I can take responsibility for
communicating with my boss
And the
best forum for
communications with
your boss is to have
regular, high quality
one-on-ones
Thanks for listening
to this story – I hope
that you can learn
from it so that you
don’t make the same
mistakes that I did.
The material in this
module is a small
extract from a larger
module that shows
employees how to have
better relationships
with their boss
This module is part of a mini course on one-on-ones with
your boss
Includes One on One Templates and Best Practices
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One-on-One With Your Boss
Taking Power