Why do man lieARSLAN RAZA 14-NTU-SF-006AHSAN ILYAS 14-NTU-SF-001AIZAZ KHAN 14-NTU-SF-002KHALID SAMI 14-NTU-SF-012

What Is Lie? A lie is a false statement that is presented as if it were true. In certain situations, however, lying is permitted or expected Generally, the term "lie" carries a negative sense Psychologists believes that many lies are simply for the purpose of

maintaining social contacts by avoiding insults

Why Do Man Lie To avoid punishment To obtain a sense of power Lies as wish fulfillment To assist self-deception A habit Fear of Rejection etc

To Avoid Punishment

These lies starts early in the childhood To avoid several punishments Childs starts lying e.g "'No, I didn't eat

the cookies. No, I didn't hit my brother By passing of age, lying habit increases.

 To obtain a sense of power

If you can lie and get away with it, you feel more powerful and you feel superior.

The more you lie and get away, the more you feel superior.

You may begin to feel invincible and have a disconnect between your true abilities and what your fantasized abilities are.

For the example of Adolph Hitler: "The more he lied, the more he began to believe his own lies and his own invincibility”

 to assist self-deception

These are lies we tell to others to avoid facing

some painful truth about ourselves

If you see someone to believe in your lies, may be

you own start believe in your lie.

We know that we all wants to hide our painful moments because we consider it as our weakness

to help another person

These are also referred to as paternalistic lies and sometimes called White lies

We Usually tell these lies to help others often our or both benefit.

We also tell these lies preventing others from experiencing psychological harm

For Example: doctors might lie to their patients about exactly how terrible their diagnosis is to help them recover better.

Lies as an act of aggression These lies are the the lies which are told to harm others.

In this category liar shows highly selfish behavior.

These type of lies may be lead to breaking of relations and serious consequences.

Even the lies told by a salesman to a prospective customer can fit in this category.

The liar is trying to get something by truly aggressive lies,

Lies As wish Fulfillment These lies are common among children ages 4-7 years.

Often children will say something has happened just because

they want it very much.

For Example: Last summer we went to Disneyland, The child may think, 'We wanted to go to Disneyland’

Can We Detect Lies ?

What Happens When We Lie

The mechanism is same

whether we tell a big or

small lie

There are several modern methods of detecting a lie

Movement

Lack of Movement

Eye Contact

Facial Expressions

Incongruent Behaviour

Fidgeting

Covering mouth or face

Scratching the nose or face

Nervous hand movements

Shuffling the feet

Movement

Eye Contact Watch the eyelids. These tend to close longer than the usual blink when a

person sees or hears something he or she doesn't agree with

Facial Expressions

Many Facial Muscles groups move involuntary

Forehead muscles Push down

Cheeks and Jaw Move

Nose Makes a Wrinkle Eyes Become Squished

Lie Detectors

Scientists made many detectors to detect a lie.

Emotion Lie Detector

Voice Stress Analysis

Honesty Survey 2008

male

female

not sure

43%

40%

17%

How Good are people at lying?

40%

33%

17%

10%Lawyers Politicians Police Unsure

Effects Of Lies

Feelings of betrayal when being lied to

Lose trust in other person

Damage relationships

Lying about major parts of your relationship can have huge consequences

You may have to say more lies to cover up one lie.

 LIARS Get Double Punished

Lying is a gamble.

If the teenager is not found out, then there is no punishment; but if the teenager is found out, he or she is often punished twice –

first for the offense, and second for lying about it.

Liars double up the consequences for getting caught.

LIARS COMPLICATE THEIR LIVES

Liars have to remember two versions of reality: what they actually did (the truth of what happened)

the lie they told about what they did (the falsehood they created.) Keeping this distinction clear proves twice as complicated as telling the truth.

Liars have to manage double lives.

LIARS LIVE IN FEAR

Concealing the truth, liars have to live in hiding.

They wonder and worry whether the deception they created will hold up or come crashing down around them if they are caught.

Liars live in fear of being found out.

LIARS HURT THEMSELVES

Because they lack the courage to own up to the truth of their actions.

liars live a coward's life. Each time they deny the truth, they don't dare to be honest.

Liars lower their self-esteem.

LIARS ARE LONELY PEOPLE.

To avoid questions and to keep from being found out, liars distance themselves from those to whom the lies were told.

They become isolated from family and friends they have deliberately misled.

cut off closeness to those they care about and love.

LIARS FEEL OUT OF CONTROL

 Covering up one lie with another, pretty soon liars lose track of all the lies they've told.

They find it harder and harder to keep their story straight.

Liars can't remember all the lies they've told.

Solutions Of Lying

Make A Commitment

Treat lying as you would any other addiction

Make a serious commitment to quit

Set a date after which you vow to be honest

Identify your triggers

To stop lying it helps to identify the situations, emotions, people or places that tent to cause you to avoid telling the truth

Find a way to confront it with honesty

If You Can’t Tell Truth, Keep Calm

If you stuck in a situation, where you can’t tell truth. Then don’t say anything.

If you can’t be honest, it’s better to stay quiet or change the subject.

You are not forced to answer questions that you don’t want to answer.

Don’t setup a lie If you ask questions to your children which you already know the answer

you are giving the opportunity to your children to lie

To avoid problems sit down with children after school or take off there shoes etc

Conclusion we have taught that lying is wrong and hurts people including ourselves.

lying will create a bad impression on the next generation as well as it does not give any benefit on long way.

On the other hand, in some situations, telling the truth leads to more bad than good. So with this lying is used will make others in the relationship feel better about themselves.

everything always has two sides, so we will choose a best solution in each of different situations in order to deal with the problem appropriately.

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