when your child is being bullied… bully prevention for parents britne stanke & erin doede...
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When your child is being bullied…
Bully Prevention For Parents
Britne Stanke & Erin Doede
School Counselors
Welcome SFMS Parents
IntroductionsPair and Share:
What have your experiences with bullying been?
What brought you to this presentation tonight and what is one thing that you are hoping to gain from attending?
“Bullying” Defined….
Bullying is a form of violence that hurts others. School bullying happens at school or during school-sponsored activities when a student or group of students intentionally and repeatedly uses their power to hurt other individuals or groups.
Bullies’ power can come from their physical strength, age, financial status, popularity, social status, technology skills, or by association (the people they know, who they hang out with, who their family is).
o 2006 National School Safety Center
Differentiating Bullying from NormalPeer Conflict/Mean Behavior
Normal conflict/mean behavior
Equal power or are friends
Happens occasionally
Accidental
Not serious
Equal emotional reaction
Not seeking power
Remorse-will take responsibility
Effort to solve the problem
Bullying
Imbalance of power
Repeated negative actions
Intentional
Physical or emotional harm
Unequal emotional reaction
Seeking control/material things
No remorse-blames target
No effort to solve the problem
Contributing FactorsAssociated with BullyingFamily Factors
Lack of attention and warmth
Modeling of aggressive behavior at home
Poor supervision
Individual Factors
Active, impulsive personality
Lack of empathy for others
Craves attention and approval from others
School
School climate is perceived as uncaring or indifferent
Teachers/staff unaware or unclear of bullying definitions or
how to respond
What To Do if you suspect your child is being bullied Talk with your child
If your child is being bullied, they need to have a voice in
how the situation is handled.
Contact the school
Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counselor.
Consider including the school resource officer if applicable.
Develop a plan for keeping your child safe, particularly
during vulnerable times (class breaks, lunch, recess).
Find out what activities or counseling options are available
for your child.
Contact police or school resource officer…
If the actions are criminal (assault, theft, serious threats,vandalism)
Recommendations if you suspect your child is being bullied
Don’t encourage your child to fight back--two
wrongs don’t make a right!
Listen to your child, do not ignore your child’s
plea for help.
Don’t confront the parents or the other child
directly.
Avoid bringing your child and the bully together
to elicit an apology or resolve the issue.
What To Do if you suspect your child may be bullying others Talk with your child
Never condone bullying behavior; speak up and tell your child that
the behavior they are engaging in is considered bullying.
Encourage empathy for others Remind your child that everyone has a right to be themselves, to
choose their own friends and to feel safe at school.
Review consequences of bullying behavior Both discipline consequences
Reinforce respectful behaviors at home
Help your child deal with feelings in positive ways
Contact the school for help Set up a meeting with your child’s teacher(s) or counselor.
Develop a plan for change.
“Cyber Bullying” Defined…
“Cyber Bullying” is bullying or harassment that happens online.
It can happen in an email, a text message, an online game, or comments on a social networking site.
It might involve rumors or images posted on someone’s profile or passed around for others to see, or creating a group or page to make another person feel left out. “
Source: NET CETERA www.onguardonline.gov
Differences
Bullying
DIRECT
Occurs on school property
Poor relationships with teachers
Fear retributionPhysical: Hitting, Punching & ShovingVerbal: Teasing, Name calling & GossipNonverbal: Use of gestures & Exclusion
www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov
Cyber Bullying
ANONYMOUS
Occurs off school property
Good relationships with teachers
Fear loss of technology privileges
Further under the radar than bullying
Emotional reactions cannot be determined
McKenna & Bargh, 2004; Ybarra & Mitchell, 2004}
School Interventions/Consequences for Bullying
Warning Verbal and written
Permanently documented
School-wide Intervention Strategies
Tribes Philosophy, Above the Line/Below the Line, Differentiation, Goal Setting and Reflection, Flexible Grouping, Counseling Services and Supports
Suspension/Expulsion
Referral to Law Enforcement (if applicable)
How to report… Report bullying incidents involving your child on BIRTS (Bullying Incident and Response Tracking Software) now available on SFMS’s homepage.
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Feedback
What deciding factors brought you to this program?
A) Concerns about my child being a victim of bullying
B) Concerns that my child is a bully
C) Information and resources on how to handle bullying involving my child
D) A and B
E) All of the above
Feedback
What information did you feel was most helpful for you as a parent?
A) Resources for you to use
B) Recommendations for how to handle bullying situations involving your child
C) Information of how you can work with SFMS
D) All of the above
Feedback
How helpful was this program for you as a parent?
A) Not at all
B) It helped me a little
C) It was somewhat helpful
D) It helped me a lot
Feedback
Do you feel satisfied with the strategies and programs that this school is using to prevent and manage bullying and create a respectful and safe school environment?
A) Yes
B) Maybe
C) No
D) I don’t know
Questions, Comments, Concerns?
School CounselorsBritne Stanke
Grades 3-5 & [email protected]
Erin DoedeGrades 6-8
Elementary School Phone 920.467.7820
Middle School Phone920.467.7880