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What Love Is NOT!

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Love Defined

Uses of the word LOVE in the Bible!

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Love Defined

Different Words For Love!◦Eros - Sexual loveThe word “erotic” comes from this!

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Love Definded

Different Words For Love!◦Stergein - Familial love

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Love Defined

Different Words For Love!◦Phileo - More nearly represents tender affection!This word is never used in a command to love God’s word!

This love is not given without expectation!

This love usually expects the same coming back in return!

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Love Defined

Different Words For Love!◦Agapao - Largely translated as “love”

2nd most common translation in KJV is "charity" ◦ (Esp. 1 Cor. 13)!

This kind of love is unnatural to man! It is a love that must be learned and is

commanded! It is a love given without expectation and it

denotes and demands a total commitment!◦ Jn. 3:16

There are no conditions, no strings attached! It always seeks the good of it’s object! It is to Love the Unlovable!

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1 Corinthians 13:1-7

1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.

2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all

things.

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1 Corthinans 13:8-13

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.

9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that

which is in part will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood

as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

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Actions alone are not Love!

All our works must be done with love as the basis!

Jesus gave us the Example of love!◦John 3:16◦1 John 4:7-14

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Works Must be Based on Love!

• Speak in tongues• Gift of prophesy• Understand:• All Mysteries• All knowledge

• Have great faith• Give all to the

poor• Give my body to

be burned

WITHOUT LOVE

THESE ARE

NOTHING!

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Love is NOT impatient!

“Love suffers long” – vs. 4◦Long suffering!

God is patient!◦Romans 15:5

Apostles were patient!◦2 Corinthians 12:12; 1 Thessalonians 1:3

We must be patient – 1 Timothy 6:11◦With our brethren – Tit. 2:2◦With our family!◦With ourselves!◦In faith – Heb. 6:12; James 5:7

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Love is NOT unkind!

“and is kind” – vs. 4◦“of a good or benevolent nature or disposition,

as a person: a kind and loving person.”A character trait of God

◦Col. 3:12-15; Titus 3:4Commanded of God

◦Eph. 4:32A work of faith!

◦2 Peter 1:7

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Love does NOT envy!

“does not envy” – vs.4◦“a feeling of discontent or covetousness with

regard to another's advantages, success, possessions, etc.”

Christ crucified for envy!◦Matt. 27:12-18

A trait of the ungodly!◦Rom. 1:29; Phil. 1:15

A work of the flesh!◦Gal. 5:19-21◦1 Tim. 6:4; Titus 3:3

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Love does NOT parade itself !

“vaunteth not itself” – vs. 4◦“to speak vaingloriously of; boast of: to vaunt

one's achievements.”Means also to not be rash!

◦acting or tending to act too hastily or without due consideration.

Is not braggadocios! ◦Matt. 6:1-8

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Love is NOT puffed up!

“is not puffed up” – vs. 4◦“feeling self-important; arrogant; pompous.”◦“To be full of pride.”

Paul condemned this among Christians◦1 Cor. 4:6, 18-19; 5:2◦Col. 2:18

The proud fail!◦Proverbs 16:18; Luke 14:11

Indicates lack of humbleness!◦James 4:10

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Love does NOT behave rudely!

“does not behave…unseemly” – vs. 5◦“discourteous or impolite, especially in a

deliberate way: a rude reply”Christ was never rude!

◦He was firm and spoke forthrightly! Matt 23.

Rudeness is the opposite of kindness!◦Kindness commanded by Paul – Eph. 4:32◦Kindness is a “work of the Spirit”!

Gal. 5:22

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Love does not seek its own!

“seeketh not her own” – vs. 5Christ did not seek His own interest!

◦Phil. 2:1-11Paul had the mind of Christ

◦Phil. 1:21-26 He sought the spiritual welfare of the Philippians

So must we!◦1 Peter 5:5

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Love is NOT provoked!

“is not easily provoked” - vs. 5◦“to anger, enrage, exasperate, or vex”

Not to provoke one to evil!◦Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21

Must provoke (stir up) to do good!◦Heb. 10:24

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Love does NOT think evil!

“thinketh no evil” - vs. 5No evil thoughts regarding others!

Prov. 23:7◦Could be expressed in our speech◦Or presuppositions we have of others

James 4:11-12Evil thoughts reflect an evil heart!

◦Matt. 15:18-20An evil heart results in evil actions!

◦James 2:4God’s word judges our thoughts!

◦Heb. 4:12

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Love does NOT rejoice in iniquity!

“rejoiceth not in iniquity” - vs. 6◦Rejoice - to be glad; take delight in; to rejoice in

another’s happiness. ◦Iniquity - gross injustice or wickedness.

This is a trait of the worldly!◦Romans 1:19-32

They take pleasure in wickedness!◦2 Thess. 2:3-12◦Moral and religious unrighteousness!

Matt. 7:21-23We must rejoice in truth!

◦2 John 1:4; 3 John 1:4

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Love does NOT reveal or yield!

“Beareth all things” – vs. 7◦Original stego to cover, to conceal – to bear or

sustain.Will bear afflictions or persecutions that

comeTo conceal in the sense as used by Peter

◦1 Peter 4:9Does not delight in revealing the sins and

short comings of others!◦Not a gossip nor a tattletale.

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Love does NOT yield to suspicion!

“Believeth all things, hopeth all things” – vs. 7◦To give one “the benefit of the doubt”

Believes the best if no evidence to the contrary!◦But, not gullible – can discern good and evil!

Looks and hopes for the best in people!Does not yield to “evil surmisings”

◦1 Tim. 6:4

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Love does NOT yield to trials!

“endureth all things” – vs. 7◦From hupomono meaning to have brave

patience!Willing to face circumstances such as

persecution, hindrances, temptationsPaul warned that persecutions will come!

◦2 Tim. 3:10-12This love will be willing to endure what

ever circumstance life may bring!

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Love does NOT fail!

“Charity never faileth” – vs. 8All other things would fail or cease!Love is unfailing and superior to anything

else! Love must be permanent!

◦Must continue to the end!We will fail if we don’t have the “agape”

love!Faith and Hope must abide and continue!LOVE is the Greatest and must be the Foundation and Basis of these!