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Week1|January8,2017
GreatExpectationsSeriesIntroduction
MichaelKoiner
Expectationsare:_________aboutwhatthings_____or__________be.Unmetexpectationscanleadto:
• Sadness
• Disappointment
• Frustration
• Anger
Whereexpectationscomefrom:
• Ourfamilyoforigin
• Otherrelationshipsorfriendships
• Screens
• Society
• God’sWord
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FollowingtheLeaderastudyontheexpectationswehaveforspiritualleadershipinthehome
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Maingoalfortoday:ü Tosurfaceexpectationsthatnormallysurroundspiritualleadershipinthehomeandencourage
healthydiscussionsonhowtopursueandstimulatespiritualgrowth.
BiblicalExpectationsaboutSpiritualLeadershipintheHome
1. Ephesians5:22-33establishesrolesinthehome.
A. Thehusbandistobea___________.
“Wives,submittoyourownhusbands,astotheLord.ForthehusbandistheheadofthewifeevenasChrististheheadofthechurch,hisbody,andishimselfitsSavior.NowasthechurchsubmitstoChrist,soalsowivesshouldsubmitineverythingtotheirhusbands.Husbands,loveyourwives,asChristlovedthechurchandgave
himselfupforher,thathemightsanctifyher,havingcleansedherbythewashingofwaterwiththeword,sothathemightpresentthechurchtohimselfinsplendor,withoutspotorwrinkleoranysuchthing,thatshemightbeholyandwithout
blemish.”(Ephesians5:22-27)
B. Thehusbandistobea_________.
“Inthesamewayhusbandsshouldlovetheirwivesastheirownbodies.Hewholoveshiswifeloveshimself.Fornooneeverhatedhisownflesh,butnourishesand
cherishesit,justasChristdoesthechurch,becausewearemembersofhisbody.Thereforeamanshallleavehisfatherandmotherandholdfasttohiswife,andthetwoshallbecomeoneflesh.Thismysteryisprofound,andIamsayingthatitreferstoChristandthechurch.However,leteachoneofyoulovehiswifeashimself,andlet
thewifeseethatsherespectsherhusband.”(Ephesians5:28-33)
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C. Thewifeisto____________herhusband(v.33)and____________tohim(v.24)asthechurchsubmitstoChrist.
2. Presupposition:Lifeistrulyfoundindoingthings_________way.
3. Bottomline:EverythingflowsoutofyourownpersonalwalkwithGod.Ifyouarenot
_____________spiritually,youare_______________spiritually.
“Great”ExpectationsSurroundingSpiritualLeadershipintheHome
1. Thewifeusuallyhasgreatexpectationsthatgravitatetowarddeeper_______________.
A. Shedesiresherhusbandto_________herintogreaterdepth,insightandspiritualitywiththeLord.
B. Sheanticipatesthatcommunication,transparencyandintimacywithherhusbandaregoing
tobeenhancedthroughtheirinteraction_______________.
C. Warning:Shemayhave______________expectationsandcontinueto“remind”herhusbandofhisresponsibilities.Thewifemayneedtoworkthroughsomeofherexpectationsthatsheisbringingintotherelationship.
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2. Thehusbandusuallyhasfearsabouthisownabilityand_____________tobeabletoliveuptohisresponsibilities.
A. Hefearsthathewillbe___________asnotequippedoradequate,andconsequentlydoesn’thaveaclueaboutwhatheisdoing.Orhedoesn’tevenknowwhatitlookslike.
B. HedesiresaGodlyhomebutfearsthathewillnot____________thehighexpectationshehasplaceduponhimself.
C. Warning:Weareall_________.Leadershipinthehomehasnothingtodowithbeingdominant,domineering,harsh,forceful,controllingorabusive.Thehusbandisnottobeadrillsergeant,butistoreflectChristandbemoreandmoreconformedtoHisimage.Thehusbandmayneedtoworkthroughsomeofhisbaggagethatheisbringingintotherelationship.
Whatareyouplanningtodo?
• HowisyourwalkwithGod?
• Thespirituallifeisanunendingstreamofthingsthatyouhaveneverdonebefore.
• Men:Keepchasingyourwifearoundthetable.Women:Developaninnerbeautyofsoulthatneverfades.
• Whatconversationsdoyouneedtohaveinthisarea?Whatisyournextstep?Whatareyouplanningtodo?
• Doyouhaveagodlymentor?Howwillyougetintobiblicalcommunity?
• Theplanthatyoucurrentlyhavewillchangeastheseasonoflifechanges.
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TableTalk
Takeabout20minutesatyourtablestodiscusswhatyoujustheard.YourTableCoacheswillhavesomequestionstogetthingsstarted.
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Answerstoblanks:
1. beliefs 2. will 3. should 4. leader 5. lover 6. respect 7. submit 8. God’s 9. growing 10. drying up 11. intimacy 12. lead 13. together 14. unrealistic 15. adequacy 16. exposed 17. live up to 18. sinful
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HomeWork/HomeGroupQuestionsThesearesomethingsforyoutotalkaboutwithyoursignificantotherduringtheweek.Wehopethat“workingonyourhome”togetherisproductiveanddrawsyouclosertogether!
PartofacouplesHomeGroup?Talktoyourleader(s)aboututilizingtheAveNEWstudyasyourHomeGroupcurriculum.SomeofthesequestionscouldalsoworkasconversationstartersatHomeGroup.Audiorecordingsandnoteswillbeavailableonline
atwww.ccbcfamily.org/youngcouplesor Podcast“ChristChapelBibleChurchYoungCouples”
1. WasthereanythingthatstoodouttoyouaboutwhatwastalkedaboutonSundayafternoon?
2. Howisyourownspiritualwalk?Usewordsinthespacebelow,andratehowcloseyoufeeltoGodonthespectrum.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Whydidyourateyourselfinthisway?Whatcanyoudotoimproveyourspiritualwalk?
3. Whatdoesthefollowingquotemeantoyou?“Thespirituallifeisanunendingstreamofthingsthatyouhaveneverdonebefore.”Whatnewthingsinthe“stream”haveyoucomeacrossrelatedtoyourownspirituallife?Men:Howcanyouusethistruthtoovercomethe“newness”ofspiritualleadershipinyourhome?
4. Men:Howdoyoupursueher?Women:Howdoyouholdfasttoyourinnerbeauty?
5. Lookat“HowtoHaveaDailyQuietTime”andtheBiblereadingplanonpages13and14.Considerhowtoincorporatethesetoolsintoyourdailywalk.Men:tryyourhandatspiritualleadershipbysettingtheexampleandsuggestingaplanthatworksforyouandyoursweetie.
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6. Haveyoueverhadabadexperiencewithamentor?Whatmadeitbad?Ifyoudon’tcurrentlyhaveanolder,wiser,godlypersonmentoringyouinsomeway,what’skeepingyoufromthat?Identifywhyandconsidermakingitagoaltoseekoutsomeonetoworkthroughlife’stoughdecisionswith.ChristChapelalsohasanintensivementoringprogramcalled“Thrive.”Formoreinfoonthat,gotoccbcfamily.org/thrive
7. Havingahealthycommunityofbelieversaroundyouisanessentialpartofhavingahealthymarriage.AreyouinaChristChapelHomeGroup?
a. Ifso,evaluatehowyoueacharecontributingtoyourgroup’spursuitofChristiancommunity.AreyoustudyingtheBibletogether?Areyouprayingtogether?Areyouencouragingeachother?Areyouholdingeachotheraccountable?Withoutpointingafingeratanyoneelse,howcanyouhelpyourgroupdothesethingsbetter?
b. Ifnot,talkaboutwhatbeinginaHomeGroupwouldlooklikeforthetwoofyou.What’sstoppingyoufrompursuinginvolvementinone?IsthereanythingChristChapelcandotohelpyougetconnected?ConsidercomingtoOpenGrouponThursdaynightsintheGardenRoomonChristChapel’sFortWorthcampus.
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ADAPTED FROM SEVEN MINUTES WITH GOD BY THE NAVIGATORS, © 2012. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.
NAVIGATOR DISCIPLESHIP TOOL
Want a deeper relationship with God? Start with seven minutes a day and see what happens!
Most Christians firmly believe in the importance of spending daily regu-lar time in God’s Word and in prayer. Yet, so many of us struggle to do this consistently. Perhaps that’s because we think this time with God has to be a monumental, mystical experience. In fact, you can begin developing this spiritual discipline in as little as seven minutes a day.
In fact, very soon you will discover that it is impossible to spend only seven minutes with the Lord. An amazing thing happens—seven minutes become 20, and it’s not long before you’re spending 30 precious minutes with Him.
Do it for the right reason. Do not become devoted to the habit, but to the Savior. Do it not because other people are doing it—not as a spirit-less duty every morning, not merely as an end in itself, but because God has granted the priceless privilege of fellowship with Himself.
THIS TOOL IS MEANT TO BE SHARED. To download How to Have a Daily Quiet Time visit navlink.org/quiet-time
How to Have a DAILY QUIET TIME½ minutePreparing Your Heart Invest the first 30 seconds preparing your heart. You might pray, “Lord, cleanse my heart so You can speak to me through the Scriptures. Make my mind alert, my soul active, and my heart responsive. Surround me with Your presence during this time.”
4 minutesListening to God (Scripture Reading) Take the next four minutes to read the Bible. Your greatest need is to hear a word from God. Allow the Word to strike fire in your heart. Meet the Author!
2½ minutesTalking to God (Prayer) After God has spoken through His Book, then speak to Him in prayer. One method is to incorporate four areas of prayer that you can remember with the word ACTS.
A ADORATION. This is the purest kind of prayer because it’s all for God. Tell the Lord that you
love Him. Reflect on His greatness.
C CONFESSION. Having seen Him, you now want to be sure every sin is cleansed and forsaken.
“Confession” comes from a root word meaning “to agree together with.” When we apply this to prayer, it means we agree with God’s estimation of what we’ve done.
T THANKSGIVING. Think of several specific things to thank Him for: your family, your
business, your church—even thank Him for hardships.
S SUPPLICATION. This means to “ask for, earnestly and humbly.” Ask for others, then
ask for yourself. Include people around the world, missionaries, friends, and those who have yet to hear about Jesus.
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