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  • PlanningYour Wedding

    atGrace of Christ Presbyterian Church

    Yakima, Washington

  • InsideWelcome ................................................................................... 2Officiating Pastor, Counseling & Marriage Mentoring .............. 3

    Greater Yakima Marriage Agreement ....................................... 4

    Wedding Coordinator & Wedding Hostess ............................... 5

    The Rehearsal, Audio and Video ............................................... 6

    Music & Decorating the Sanctuary ........................................... 7

    The Reception ........................................................................... 8

    Photography ............................................................................. 9

    Important Information ............................................................. 10

    Fees ................................................................................. 11 & 12

    Wedding Contacts .................................................................... 13

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    The Checklist Read Booklet Pay Deposit Contact Pastors Administrative Assistant to arrange counseling. Contact Wedding Hostess Contact Musicians Contact Photographer Contact Reception Host (if holding the reception at the church.)

  • We share the joy of your commitment to each other and we want your marriage ceremony to be as enjoyable and meaningful as possible. We are delighted that you have chosen to celebrate your wedding within the Church of Jesus Christ.

    Your marriage ceremony has at least two distinct parts: First, it is a joyous celebration. It is a time for family and friends to gather together and share in the joy of your love for one another. It is a time for smiles and happiness and sometimes, even tears of gladness. But more than that, your marriage ceremony is a worship service. It is our assumption that you have asked a Christian pastor to lead in this service because you desire that God be celebrated as the source for your love for one another. We look forward to sharing in this important event in your lives.

    We suggest that both you and your families read this booklet so that you all are fully aware of the policies of Grace of Christ Presbyterian Church Yakima with regard to weddings. Blessings in planning your special day!

    In His Love,

    Grace of Christ Pastoral Staff

    Your Wedding At Grace of Christ Presbyterian Church

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    At the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,

    and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together,

    let no one separate. Mark 10:6-9

  • Officiating PastorIt is required that one of the pastors of Grace of Christ Presbyterian Church will participate at all weddings. If the family desires an additional minister to participate in the service, our church pastor should be informed in a timely manner so that we may extend a written invitation to the visiting minister.

    If necessary, couples who live outside the Yakima Valley may discuss with their officiating pastor at Grace of Christ Presbyterian Church alternatives for the pre-marriage counseling schedule described below.

    Counseling and Marriage MentoringIt is our strong desire that you will not only have a beautiful and memorable wedding ceremony, but more importantly, that you will enjoy a lasting, rewarding and meaningful marriage.

    To that end we require that couples attend seven pre-marriage counseling sessions. The first six sessions cover such topics as communication, conflict resolution, goal setting, budgeting, spiritual beliefs and marriage expectations. The seventh session is primarily devoted to planning the ceremony itself. You will be paired with a marriage mentor (M&M), who will work alongside your officiating pastor, to provide you with this valuable pre-marriage preparation.

    Our church uses an excellent program called Prepare/Enrich which forms the basis for discussions about the issues which all married couples face. An important aspect of this program is the survey which both partners fill out before the first session which costs $35. You are strongly encouraged to begin the counseling process at least six months in advance of your wedding.

    Please note that it is your responsibility to contact the pastors Administrative Assistant at 248-7940, to set up the initial counseling appointment.

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    Yakima Marriage AgreementOne of our core values as a church is to work in every way we can to strengthen the Covenant of Marriage. We believe that marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and for that reason we have joined with other church bodies in the Yakima area in signing the following Community Wide Marriage Agreement:

    We, the undersigned, representing various faith communities and sharing a common commitment to foster healthy, loving, lifelong marriages, believe it is God who designed the marriage union, and that God provides resources for good and wholesome relationships. Our responsibility and desire, as the Church of Jesus Christ, is to foster lasting marital unions between a man and a woman under God and to establish strong Christian families in our valley.

    We Believe1. That God has established and ordained the marriage relationship in

    Scripture.

    2. That God intends the marriage covenant of a man and a woman to be a healthy and loving relationship that is meant to last a lifetime.

    3. That we have a responsibility to participate in and to provide premarital preparation to improve the understanding and mutual commitment of those couples being married.

    4. That we have a responsibility to provide ongoing support to strengthen and nourish existing marriages.

    5. That our clergy, although legally empowered to conduct marriage ceremonies, have the freedom to choose whether or not to conduct them.

  • To do our part in strengthening the covenant of marriage, we will...1. Provide a minimum of four months of marriage preparation during which

    sexual purity will be encouraged.2. Provide a minimum of seven hours of premarital counseling in multiple

    sessions, utilizing the Scripture, pre-marriage inventory and relational instruments.

    3. Encourage additional reading materials, retreats, classes and marriage enrichment opportunities designed to continue to build and strengthen marriages.

    4. Provide continuing assistance for newlyweds, troubled marriages, blended families, and divorced or single parent.

    5. Cooperate with other congregations and organizations that share a common desire to strengthen marriages, in order to create a climate in which all marriages are helped to develop and grow to their full potential.

    Our intention for this agreement is to strengthen and empower couples to celebrate and enjoy a fulfilling, lifelong marital relationship.

    Wedding CoordinatorThe wedding coordinator will provide administrative assistance throughout the process of your wedding planning. She will contact you early in the process and will be available to answer questions up to the day of your ceremony.

    Wedding HostessThe wedding hostess will provide assistance and advice in the planning of your wedding ceremony. She should be contacted about six weeks prior to your wedding. She will meet with you to finalize arrangements.

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    The RehearsalThe wedding hostess will be responsible to guide the wedding party through the rehearsal. The rehearsal will begin on time and conclude not more than one hour later. The rehearsal will be held at 5:30pm the Friday prior to your wedding. Weddings will be scheduled no later than 4:00pm. Weddings with receptions will be scheduled no later than 2:00pm.

    The wedding party is to be informed that both the rehearsal and the wedding are to be conducted with Christian spirit and dignity. The parents of both the bride and the groom and all members of the wedding party are to attend the rehearsal, and we ask that all who attend be informed that proper dress and decorum be observed.

    Please bring your marriage license packet and candles to the rehearsal and give them to the lead wedding hostess.

    Audio and VideoBasic Sound Services Include: One-hour for the rehearsal and two-hours on the wedding day. The sound technician will be available one hour before the service for sound-check with those not present at the rehearsal in addition to final checks with pastor and groom. The groom will wear a wireless microphone that will pick up voices of the bride and groom. We make every effort to provide an audio recording of the service on CD.

    Basic Sound Services will be sufficient for weddings that are using only: the organ, soloist, pastor, groom and lectern speakers.

    Additional Services: If additional services are anticipated, the bride and/or wedding coordinator must meet for a consultation with the churchs Worship Coordinator at least 4 weeks prior to the wedding to discuss plans and additional fees.

    Additional services include: use of canned/CD music; live music other than organ/soloist; video; PowerPoint; video recording; additional rehearsal; additional set-up/teardown; or other special audio/video needs.

    Plan to turn in visual or audio media at least one week before the rehearsal.

  • MusicMusic to be used, both instrumental and vocal selections, must be in keeping with the spirit of Christian theology and worship. The pastor and hostess must be consulted with regard to all musical selections to confirm their appropriateness for