a¡fpw sIm¨p-a-¡fpw acp-a-¡fpw DÅ \msaÃmw B{K-ln-¡p-¶Xp AhÀ Pohn-X-¯n hnP-bn-¡Ww F¶mWv. AhÀ hnP-bn-¡p-t¼m-gpÅ \½psS kt´mjw AXn-c-ä-Xm-Wv. \mw hfsc A`n-am-\-t¯msS Ah-cpsS t\«-§-sf-¡p-dn¨v aäp-Å-h tcmSv hmNm-e-cm-Im-dp-ap≠- v. Ah-cpsS hnPbw \½n {]Xn-^-en-¡p-¶-Xmbn ImWmw. bYmÀ°-¯nÂ, Ah-cpsS hnPbw \½psS hnP-b-ambn \mw IW-¡m-¡p-¶p.

]s£, AhÀ hnP-bn-¨n-sÃ-¦ntem? Ah-cpsS t\«-§Ä Npcp-¡-am-bmtem? AÃ, AXnepw tami-am-bmtem? AhÀ ]cm-P-b-s¸«v, \½psS `h-\-¯n\pw kaq-l-¯n\pw Xs¶ AhÀ Hcp `mc-ambn XoÀ¶mtem ? AXv BcpsS Ipä-am-Wv ? `qcn-]£w amXm-]n- Xm-¡fpw X§-sf-¯s¶ ]gn-¡p-I-bmWv ]Xn-hv. Fhn-sS-bmWv X§Ä¡v sXäp]än-

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A²y-£³: ]mÌÀ kmPp tPmk^v Ub-d-IvSÀ, C³Uym ss__nÄ

tImfPv & skan-\mcn

]mÌÀ tXmakv ^nen¸v {]kn-Uâv, \yq C³Uym

ss__nÄ NÀ¨v

k¦oÀ¯\w hmb\ ]mÌÀ ]n. F. amXyp sshkv {]n³kn-¸Â

sF.-_n.kn. saeUn Km\-§Ä Be-]n-¡p¶p

{_ZÀ ^n¶n tP¡_v, ]mÌÀ sI. C. G{_-lm-ansâ Bß-IYbpsS ]cn-`m-j- \nÀÆ-ln-

¨-t¸mÄ D mb A\p-`-h-§Ä ]¦n-Sp¶p

"sI. C. G{_lmw: F skÀhâv Hm^v Pokkv ss{IÌn'sâ Cw¥ojv ]Xn¸v {]Im-i\w sN¿p¶p

kzmKXw : tUm. tPm¬ AeIvkv {]n³kn-¸Â, C³Uym ss__nÄ

tImfPv & skan-\mcn

A`yp-Zb Imw£n-Ifpw ip{iqjm ]¦m-fn-Ifpw {]kn-Uânsâ ktµiw : ]mÌÀ tUm. än. hÕ³ G{_lmw ]cn-`mj : ]mÌÀ ^n¶n tPmk^v

c£m-IÀ¯rXzw

President

Founder / President

\½psS Ipªp-§Ä ]cm-P-b-s¸-Sp-t¼mÄ

P o h n X w [ \ y h p w ] p X n - b X p w

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b-sX¶pw Fhn-sS-bmWv ssZh-ln-X-a-Ãm-¯Xv sNbvX-sX¶pw XpS§n A´-an-Ãm¯ aWn-¡q-dp-IÄ kzbw tNmZy-§Ä tNmZn¨v bmsXmcp D¯-c-¯nepw F¯m³ Ign-bmsX `mc-s¸-Sp-¶p.

A¯cw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v Bizm-k-̄ nsâ Hcp hm¡v Rm³ \evIn-¯-c-s«. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn h¨v Gähpw k¼qÀ®-X-bpÅ amXm-]n- Xmhv ]nXm-hmb ssZh-am-Wv. \½psS a¡Ä Pohn-X-¯n hnP-bnt¨m F¶-Xnsâ shfn-¨-¯n \mw Ahsc hn[n¡pw t]mse ]n Xmhmw ssZhw Xsâ a¡-fmb \s½ hn[n-¡ptam ? A§-s\-b-Ã, adn-¨v, ssZhw \t½mSp ImWn-¡p¶ kv\l-¯n\pw Ir]bv¡pw A\p-k-c-W-ambn \mw ssZhs¯ Xncn¨p kvt\ln-¡p-¶pt≠ m F¶-Xnsâ ASn-Øm-\-¯n-em-bn-cn¡pw ssZhw \s½ hn[n-¡p-¶-Xv. Bb-Xn- \m F´mWv ssZhw t\m¡p-¶Xv?

{InkvXob IpSpw_ Iu¬k-e-dmb Fta-gvk¬ FKdnIvkv ss__n-fnse apSn-b-\mb ]p{Xsâ ]nXm-hn \à Hcp ]nXm-hnsâ XnIª thZ-]p -kvXI amXrI \nÀtZ-in-¡p-¶p. (eq-t¡mkv 15:11þ32). X§-fp-tS-Xmb \ne-I-fn apSn-b³ ]p {X\pw Ahsâ \µn-sI« aq¯ ktlm-Z-c\pw hfsc ]cn-Xm-]-I-c-amb ]cm-P-b-§-fm-Wv.

Cu D]-a-bn Xsâ ]m]n-I-fmb a¡-tfm-SpÅ ]nXm-hnsâ Ir]-\n-dª kao-]-\-amWv \s½ hyà-ambn Adn-bn-¡m³ tbip B{K-ln-¡p-¶-Xv. Cu D]-a-bn DS-\ofw aIsâ tIm]n- jvThpw D{K-hp-amb s]cp-am-ä-§-fp-sSbpw at\m-`m-h-¯nsâbpw ap¼n ]nXm-hnsâ hfsc {it²-b-amb £a-bmWv \mw ImWp-¶-Xv. Cu D]a \mw ]Tn-¡p-t´m-dpw, X§-fpsS hrW-s¸-Sp-¶Xpw \µn-sI-«-Xp-amb s]cp-am-ä-§Ä¡v ap³]n epw c≠ p a¡-sfbpw XÅn-¸-d-bm¯ Hcp ]nXm-hnsâ \ne-]mSv \s½ AXn-i-bn-¸n-¡p-¶-Xm-Wv.

tbip-]-dª D]-a-bnse ]nXm-hv, ssZhw Xs¶-bm-Wv. CXnsâ AÀ°w, hnP-bn-I-fmb amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fm-I-W-sa-¦n \½psS a¡-tf-¡mÄ A[nIw ssZhs¯ kvt\ln-¡p-¶-h-cmbn \mw Xotc≠Xp≠- v. CXv \½psS kzm`m-hnI coXn-

IÄ¡v FXn-cm-Wv. ]s£, ssZhs¯ kvt\ln-¡p-hm³ \mw ]Tn-¡p-t¼mÄ \½psS a¡sf

IqSp-XÂ \¶mbn kt\-ln-¡p-hm\pw \mw ]Tn-¡pw.

ssZhs¯ H¶m-a-Xmbn kvt\ln-¡pI F¶p-h-¨m Ahsâ Ir]-bn apgp-IpI F¶mWv. \½psS ]m]-Po-hn-X-¯n ià-amb ssZh-Ir] {]hÀ¯n-¡p-¶Xv \mw A\p-`-hn-¡p-t¼mÄ, AhÀ ]cm-P-b-s¸-Sp-t¼mgpw Ah-tcm-SpÅ \½psS at\m-`mhw hfsc amdp-hm³ CS-bm-Ipw. ssZhw ImWp¶ hn[-¯n \ap¡v Ahsc ImWp-hm³ Ign-bpw.

\½p-sS-Xs¶ A]qÀ®-amb {]Xn-^-e-\-§-fmbn \½psS a¡sf ImWp-¶Xv \nÀ¯n-bn«v \s½ ssZhw F§s\ ImWpt¶m B coXn-bn ImWp-hm³ XpS-§q.

ssZhw \s½ F§-s\-bmWv IW-¡m-¡p-¶Xv? tbml-¶m³ 17þ ImWp¶ tbip-hnsâ {]mÀ°-\-bn \n¶v CXv kw_-Ôn¨ Hcp Bibw \ap¡v e`n-¡p-¶p. ""\o Fs¶ kvt\ln-¡p¶ kvt\lw Ah-cn BIp-hm\pw Rm³ Ah-cn BIp-hm\pw Rm³ \nsâ \maw AhÀ¡p shfn-s¸-Sp-¯n-bn-cn-¡p¶p; C\nbpw shfn-s¸-Sp¯pw'' (17:26).

ChnsS, tbip {]mÀ°n-¡p-I-bm-Wv. ]nXmhv Xs¶ kvt\ln¨ \nXy-kvt\-l-¯m Xs¶ ]n Xm-hmb ssZhw a\p-jy-scbpw kvt\ln-¡Ww F¶v. \mw ssZhs¯ Im-Wp-t¼mÄ, \mw Xsâ £a am{X-aà {]m]n-¡p-¶-Xv, XnI-ª-h-c-Ãm¯ ssZh-a-¡-fmb \mapw ]nXmhv ]p {Xs\ kvt\ln-¨-Xp-t]mse AtX kvt\lw {]m]n-¡p-¶-hcmbn Xoc-s«. kzÀ¤-¯nsâ Ct§ Ic-bn Ct¸mÄ Bbn-cn-¡p¶ \ap¡v ]qÀ®-ambn a\-Ên-em-¡p-hm³ Ign-bm-¯-hn[w \s½ Ipg-bv¡p¶ Hcp hkvXp-X-bm-Wn-Xv. \½psS a¡Ä \t½mSv A\p-k-c-W-t¡Sv ImWn-¨-Xn-t\-¡mÄ \mw ssZh-amb \½psS ]nXm-hn-t\mSv A\p-k-c-W-t¡Sv ImWn-¡p-¶-h-cm-Wv. F¶n«pw ]m]w sN¿m-¯, ]m]w CÃm¯ Xsâ ]p{X-s\ kvt\ln-¨-Xp-t]mse Xs¶ ssZhw \s½bpw kvt\ln-¨p.

\½psS a¡sf hn[n-¡p-Itbm XÅn-¡-f-bp-Itbm sN¿msX CtX Ir]bpw ssZh-kvt\-lhpw Ah-tcmSv ImWn-¡p-hm³ \mw ]Tn-t¡≠- -Xm-Wv. am\p-jn-I-amb \ne-bn CXv Akm-[y-am-Wv. \½psS aäp-Å-hsc hn[n-¡p¶ kz`m-h-co-Xn-bn \n¶v am\-km-´-c-s¸«v \½psS a\-Êp-Isf ]pXp-¡p-hm³ ]cn-ip-²m-ßm-hns\ A\p-h-Zn-¡p-¶p-sh-¦n am{Xta CXv km[y-ambn Xocp-I-bp-Åq. apSn-b\mb ]p{X-s\-t¸m-se, \½psS hgn-sX-änb Nne a¡Ä "`h\'¯nte¡v aS-§n-h-cpw. AhÀ A\p-Xm-]hpw hn\-bap-Å-hcpambn h¶v ssZh-s¯bpw kl-a-\p-jy-scbpw kvt\ln-¡p-¶-hcpw tkhn-¡p-¶-h-cp-ambn amdpw. \ap¡v a¡Ä Ds -≠¦nepw CsÃ-¦nepw ssZh-Ir-]-bmepw \t½m-SpÅ Ahsâ kvt\l-¯mepw kzm[o-\n-¡-s¸-«hcmbn Xocphm³ \ap¡v A`y-kn-¡mw. Xsâ Ir]-bpsS hÀ²n-¨p-h-cp¶ A\p-`hw \s½ Gähpw \à amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fm¡n amä-s«. CXv \apsS `À¯m-¡-·mÀ¡v Iogvs]-Sp-¶-Xn\pw `mcy-amÀ¡mbn \s½, sImSp-¡p-¶-Xn\pw \½psS a¡sf Ass[-cy-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶-Xn\v ]Icw Ahsc DÕm-ln-¸n-¡p-Ibpw ss[cy-s¸-Sp-¯p-Ibpw sN¿p-¶-h-cm¡n amäpw. ]cm-P-b-s¸-Sp¶ Hcp temI-¯n kphn-tij ktµiw IqSp-X hniz-k-\o-b-ambn Xocp-hm\pw CXv Imc-W-am-Ipw.{]mÀ°\ : ]nXm-hmb ssZh-ta, Ft¶m-SpÅ A§-bpsS kvt\lhpw Ir]bpw F\n¡v a\-Ên-em-¡m-hp-¶-Xnepw A¸p-d-am-Wv. Fsâ a¡sf kvt\ln-¡p-hm\pw Ahsc AwKo-I-cn-¡p-hm\pw A§-bpsS ]cn-ip-²m-ßm-hn-eqsS Fs¶ Ahn-Sp¶v klm-bn-¡-W-sa. A§sb C\nbpw Adn-ªn-Ãm-¯-h-cn-te¡v Ir]-bp-sSbpw kvt\l-¯n-sâbpw Cu ktµiw F¯n-¡p-hm³ Fs¶ Ahn-Sp¶v klm-bn-¡-W-sa. tbip-hnsâ \ma-¯n At]-£n-¡p-¶p. Bta³.

A²y-£³: ]mÌÀ kmPp tPmk^v Ub-d-IvSÀ, C³Uym ss__nÄ

tImfPv & skan-\mcn

]mÌÀ tXmakv ^nen¸v {]kn-Uâv, \yq C³Uym

ss__nÄ NÀ¨v

kzmKXw : tUm. tPm¬ AeIvkv {]n³kn-¸Â, C³Uym ss__nÄ

tImfPv & skan-\mcn

A`yp-Zb Imw£n-Ifpw ip{iqjm ]¦m-fn-Ifpw {]kn-Uânsâ ktµiw : ]mÌÀ tUm. än. hÕ³ G{_lmw ]cn-`mj : ]mÌÀ ^n¶n tPmk^v

k¦oÀ¯\w hmb\, - ]mÌÀ ]n. F. amXyp sshkv {]n³kn-¸Â

"sI. C. G{_lmw: F skÀhâv Hm^v Pokkv ss{IÌn'sâ Cw¥ojv ]Xn¸v {]Im-i\w sN¿p¶p

P o h n X w [ \ y h p w ] p X n - b X p w

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sF.-_n.kn. saeUn Km\-§Ä Be-]n-¡p¶p

{_ZÀ ^n¶n tP¡_v, ]mÌÀ sI. C. G{_-lm-ansâ Bß-IYbpsS ]cn-`m-j- \nÀÆ-ln-

¨-t¸mÄ D≠ mb A\p-`-h-§Ä ]¦n-Sp¶p

]mÌÀ än. sP. G{_lmw ]mÌÀ sI. C. G{_-lm-an-t\m-sSm-

¸-apÅ A\p-`-h-§Ä ]¦p-hbv-¡p¶p

]mÌÀ än. F. sNdn-bm³ ]mÌÀ s_©-an³ hdp-Kokv "tZh tZht\...' hnZymÀ°n kmw t]mÄ Km\w Be-]n-¡p¶p

\µn {]Im-i\w taPÀ hn. sF. eqt¡mkv

]mÌÀ jn_p s\Sp-th-en sk{I-«-dn, sF.]n.kn

tIcfm kvtääv sF.-_n.-kn. hnZymÀ°n-\n-IÄ ]©m_n Jhmen Km\w Ah-X-cn-¸n-¡p¶p

dh. tUm. tPmk^v amÀt¯m½m sa{Xm-t¸m-eo¯m

ssdäv dh.tXmakv kmap-th _nj-¸v Fan-c-äkv, kn.FÊv.sF.

dh.amXyp kvIdnb sk{I-«-dn, ss__nÄ skmssk-än,

tIcfm HmIvknenbdn

tUm. k^oÀ AXym ap³ {]n³kn-¸Â,

UBS, ]qs\

dh. tUm. än. Pn. tImin {]kn-Uâv

FTS, aW-¡mem

kZÊv ---Hcp Zriyw

P o h n X w [ \ y h p w ] p X n - b X p w

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Ip«n-I-fpsS ka-{K-hn-I-k-\s¯ Du«n hfÀ¯p-¶-Xn hfsc \nÀ®m-b-I-amb ]¦mWv IpSpw-_w, kaqlw XpS-§nb Øm]-\-§Ä hln-¡p-¶-Xv. Ah-bpsS kzm[o-\-§Ä hnhn[ Xe-§-fn hyXykvX coXn-I-fn-emWv A\p-Iq-etam {]Xn-Iq-etam Bbn Ip«n-Isf kzm[o-\n-¡p-¶-Xv. Hcp Ip«n-bpsS cq]o-I-c-W-¯nepw hncq-]o-I-c-W-¯nepw kp{]-[m\ tI{µ-am-bn-cn-¡p-¶Xv IpSpw-_hpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡fpw Ah-cpsS _Ôhpw kao-]-\-hp-am-Wv. _Ô-§-fpsS he-b-¯n-eq-sS-bmWv a\pjy hyàn-Xz-cq-]o-I-cWw \S-¡p-¶-Xv F¶-Xn-\m Hcp hyàn-bpsS Pohn-X-¯nse {][m\ _Ô-§Ä ]T-\-hn-t[-b-am-t¡≠Xp≠ v. AXp-sIm≠ - v, a¡sf hfÀ¯Â {]{Inb (Parenting) bpsS thZ-]p -kvXI ASn-Øm\w hfsc {][m-\-s¸-«Xpw "\à amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä'¡pÅ Dd¨ Af-hp-tIm {]Zm\w sN¿p-¶-Xpam-Wv.

ssZhw ]nXmhv F¶v kzbw shfn-s¸-Sp-¯-s¸-«n-cn-¡p-¶p, am{X-a-Ã, ss__n-fnsâ ]e `mK-§-fnepw A§s\ Nn{Xo-I-cn-¡-s¸-«n-«p-ap≠- v (B-h. 1:31, 32:6; 2 iaq. 7:1þ17). ]nXmhv CÃm-¯-hÀ¡v ]nXm-hmbn ssZhs¯ k¦oÀ¯-\-§-fn hni-Zo-I-cn-¡p¶p (k-¦o. 68:5). tbip-hns\ \nXy-]n-Xmhv F¶v sbi-¿mhv Nq≠n-¡m-Wn-¡p¶p (sb-i. 9:6). IÀ¯m-hnsâ {]mÀ°-\-bn ssZhs¯ "kzÀ¤-Ø-\mb ]nXm-hm'bn Ah-X-cn-¸n-¨n-cn-¡p-¶p. ]n Xr-þ-am-XrXzw (Parenthood) AYhm ]nXr-Xzhpw amXr-Xzhpw AXn-e-S-§n-bn-cn-¡p¶ kvt\lhpw in£-W-hp-apÄs¸sS hnhn[ coXn-I-fn ssZh-¯n ImW-s¸-Sp-¶p. ssZhoI kvt\lw ssZh-¯nsâ krãn-¡p-¶-Xpw \ne-\nÀ¯p-¶-Xpw hgn-Im-«p-¶Xpw Icp-Xp-¶-Xpw t]mjn-¸n-¡p-¶-Xp-amb Xe§sf ImWn-¡pI am{X-aà AtX KpW-§Ä amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä X§-fpsS a¡-tfm-SpÅ _Ô-¯n {]I-S-am-¡-W-sa¶v \njvIÀjn-¡pI IqsS sN¿p-¶p. Cu ssZhoI KpW-hn-ti-j-§Ä amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn {]Xn-̂ -en-¡p-t¼mÄ Ip«n-Isf cq]-s¸-Sp-¯n-sb-Sp-¡p-¶-Xn AhÀ ssZh-t¯m-sSm¸w kl-þ-kr-ãn-Xm-¡-fmbn Xocp-I-bm-Wv. A§s\ AhÀ ASp¯ Xe-ap-d-bpsS inev]n-I-fm-Ip-¶p.

Xsâ P\-¯nsâ KpWo-I-c-W-¯n-\mbn ssZh-¯nsâ asämcp kz`m-h-amWv in£Ww F¶-Xv. {]mY-an-I-ambpw X§-fpsS amä-¯n\pw sXäp-Xn-cp-¯-en-\pw- th≠- n, X§-fpsS P\-t¯m-SpÅ ssZh-¯nsâ kvt\l-{]-I-S-\-amWv ssZhnI in£-W-¯n ImWp-¶-Xv. F{_mb teJ-\-¯n \mw ImWp-¶Xv C{]-Im-c-am-Wv. ""IÀ¯m-hv Xm³ kvt\-ln-¡p-¶-hsc in£n-¡p¶p; Xm³ ssIs¡m-Åp-¶ GXp aI-s\bpw XÃp¶p'' Xsâ P\w sa¨-s¸-Sp-¶-Xn-\p-th≠ n ssZhw Nne in£-W-{]-{In-b-IÄ A\p-h-Zn-¡p-¶p. CXp-t]m-se, X§fpsS a¡Ä¡v in£W {]{In-b-Ifpw kvt\l-]qÀÆ-amb Xncp-¯-ep-Ifpw \ÂIn sImSp-¡p-hm³ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä D¯-c-hm-Zn¯w DÅ-h-cm-Wv. CtXm-SpÅ _Ô-¯n item-tam³ C{]-Imcw Fgp-Xp¶p ""hSn D]-tbm-Kn-¡m-¯-h³ Xsâ aIs\ ]I-¡p¶p; Ahs\ kvt\ln-¡p-¶-ht\m sNdp-¸-¯nte Ahs\ in£n-¡p-¶p'' (k-Zr-.13:24).

a¡sf hfÀ¯ÂthZ-]p-kvXI ASn-Øm\w

tUm. sPbnwkv tPmÀÖvA²ym-]-I³, Iu¬k-eÀ, C´ym

ss__nÄtImfPv & skan-\m-cn, Ip¼-\mSv

Hcp Ip«n-bpsS cq]o-I-c-W-¯nepw hncq-

]o-I-c-W-¯nepw kp{]-[m\ tI{µ-am-bn-cn-¡p-¶Xv IpSpw-

_hpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡fpw Ah-cpsS _Ôhpw

kao-]-\-hp-am-Wv.

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icn-bmb in£-W-¯n-eqsS ssZhoI amXr-I-bnepw \ne-hm-c-¯nepw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä cq]-s¸-Sp-¯n-sb-Sp-¡-Ww. in£-Whpw in£bpw a¡Ä¡v \ÂtI- -≠Xm-Wv. A[n-Im-c- ̀ m-h-̄ n-ep-ÅXpw {]tIm-]n-̧ n-̈ p- sIm- ≠p-Å-Xp-amb a¡sf hfÀ¯Â icn-bmb ssien-b-Ã. Ip«n-I-fn A\m-tcm-Ky-I-c-amb hfÀ¨ am{Xta XXv^-e-ambn D≠ m-Ip-I-bp-Åq. Ip«n-I-fp-ambn CS-s]-Sp-t¼mÄ Ahsc tIm]n¸n¨pw {]tIm-]n-̧ n¨p-apÅ coXn Hcn-¡epw thZ-]p-kvX- I-ZÀi-\-¯n\v tNcp-¶-X-Ã. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡pÅ \nÀt±iw tIÄ¡pI: ""]nXm-¡-·msc, \n§-fpsS a¡sf tIm]n-̧ n-¡msX IÀ¯m-hnsâ _me-in-£-bnepw ]t°ym-]-tZ-i-¯nepw t]män- h-fÀ¯p-hn³'' (Ft^ 6:4).

blq-Z-þ -{In-kvXob hnizmk kaq-l-§-fpsS LS\ DÄs¸sS a¡sf hfÀ¯-ensâ hni-Z-amb hni-I-e\w ssZhoI _Ô-¯n tI{µo-I-cn -¨Xpw Nn«-s¸-Sp-¯n-b-Xp-am-bn-cn -¡-Ww AXv F¶v hncÂNq≠ - p -¶p. a\p-jyÀ ssZh-t¯m-Sp-IqsS krjvSn¸v {]hr¯n-bn ]¦m-fn-I-fm-b-Xn-\mÂ, ssZh-¯n-\p-th-≠n X§-fpsS a¡sf hfÀ¯m³ amXm-]n- Xm -¡Ä¡v henb D¯-c -hm -Z nXzw D≠ v . ssZhoI ]²-Xnbpw Dt±-iyhpw A\p-k-cn¨v X§-fpsS a¡sf cq]-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶-Xn amXm-]n -Xm-¡Ä¡pÅ D¯-c-hm-Zn -Xz -amWv CXv kqNn-¸n-¡p-¶-Xv. Hcp Ip«n-bpsS \nkvXp-e-X-bpw AtXm-sSm¸w Hcp Ip«n -sb-¡p-dn -¨pÅ ssZh-¯nsâ \nkvXpe-amb Dt±-iyhpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Xncn-¨-dn-tb- -≠Xm-Wv. Cu D¶-Xhpw \nkvXp-e-hp-amb ZuXy-\nÀÆ-l-W-¯n -\mbn amXmhpw ]nXmhpw H¶n v̈ ssItImÀt¡≠-Xm-Wv.

X§-fpsS Ip«n-Isf ]cn-t]m-jn-̧ n-¡p-¶-Xn hfsc \à Øm\-amWv blqZ IpSpw-_-§Ä \ÂIn-bn-«p-Å-Xv. aX-hn-Zym-̀ ym-k-̄ n A`y-kn-̧ n-t¡≠ D¯-c-hm-ZnXzw {][m-\-ambpw IpSpw_ Xe-h-\mb ]nXm-hn-\m-bn-cp-¶p. P\\w apX Bdp hb-Êp-hsc ̀ h-\-tI-{µo-IrX hnZym-`ym-k-amWv \ÂIn-h-¶-Xv. CXv kw_-Ôn¨v AtItäm skam Fgp-Xp-¶Xv C{]-Im-c-am-Wv: "]qÀÆ Ime-L-«-§Ä apX Xs¶ F{_mb IpSpw-_-§-fn ]T-\-̄ nsâ tI{µw hoSp-IÄ Xs¶-bm-bn-cp-¶p. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fm-bn-cp¶p Hcp Ip«n-bpsS {]Ya A²ym-]-I³'. ""tia'' (Bh.6:4þ9) DÄs¸-sS-bpÅ `mK-§Ä A²y-b\ hnj-b-¯nsâ `mK-am-bn-cp-¶p. IqSmsX blq-Z-·m-cpsS DÕ-h-§Ä, aX-IÀ½-§Ä, \à [mÀ½nI s]cp-amä ]mT-§Ä, amXm-]n-Xm-¡sf _lp-am-\n-¡Â, ssZh-`-àn, aäpNne s]mXp-hmb hnj-b-§Ä F¶n-hbpw ]T\ hnj-b-§-fm-bn-cp¶p-''.

A§-s\, ssZhoI \nd-hn Ip«n hfÀ¶p hcp-¶-Xn\v IpSpw-_-¯nsâ kw`mh\ hne-s -̧«-Xm-bn-cp-¶p. Ip«n-Isf AwKo-I-cn-¡p-Ibpw _lp-am-\n-¡p-Ibpw sN¿-W-sa¶v tbip-{In-kvXphpw ]ueqkpw ]Tn-¸n-¨p. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä ssZhoI D]-I-c-W-§fpw ""amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä ssZhoI D]-I-c-W-§fpw IpSpw-_-§Ä ssZhnI kuJy-¯n-sâbpw kvt\-l-¯n-sâbpw IY Adnhpw A\p-`-hhpw hnizm-k-Po-hn-Xhpw Hcp-h-\n krãn-¡p¶ ssZh-¯nsâ kaq-l-§-fn H¶p-at{X''. \nc-´c Pm{K-X-bn-eq-sSbpw aqey-h-¯mb a¡sf hfÀ¯Â {]{In-b-bn-eq-sSbpw Hcp amXrIm IpSpw-_s¯ hmÀs¯-Sp-¡m³ Ign-bpw. F´m-bn-cp-¶mepw an¡-t¸mgpw Cu thZ-]p-kvXI {]amWw shÃp-hn-fn-¡-s -̧Sp-Ibpw D -̄cm-[p-\nI kwkvImcw Ip«n-IÄt¡m amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ät¡m th≠ {X {]m[m\yw \ÂIm-¯-Xp-am-Wv.

Ip«n-IÄ¡v {]mY-anI Icp-X \evIp-¶-hÀ F¶ \ne-bn X§-fpsS Ip«n-I-fpsS a\p-jyXz ]qÀ®-Xbv¡p th≠ n ]cn-t]m-jWw \ÂIp¶ kar-²n-bmb Poh-\n-te¡v Ahsc \bn-¡p-¶-Xn henb D¯-c-hm-ZnXzw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡p≠ - v. amXm-]n-Xm-¡fpw a¡fpw X½n-ep-ÅXv Hcp DS-¼Sn _Ô-am-Wv. {]mY-an-I-am-bn, Hcp Ip«n-bpsS P\-\-t¯m-sS, inip-hp-ambpw hnizmk kaq-l-hpambpw s]mXp kaq-lhp-ambpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Hcp DS-¼Sn sN¿p-¶p. c ≠m-a-Xv, Ip«n-bpsS \nc-´c ]cn-t]m-j-Ww, hnZym-`ym-kw, imào-I-c-Ww, cq]o- I-cWw F¶n-h-bn-eqsS Ah-cpsS {]tXyI kz`mh hnti-j-X-IÄ, Bh-iy-§Ä F¶n-hbv¡v Du¶Â \ÂIn Cu DS-¼Sn _Ôs¯ Du«n-h-fÀ¯-Ww. A§s\ Ip«n-IÄ¡v ssZh-hp-ambpw Npäp-]m-Sp-apÅ a\p-jy-cp-ambpw hfsc \à Hcp _Ôw Øm]n-¡p-hm-\pÅ \n ÀtZ-i-§Ä \ÂIp-hm³ Ign-bpw.

IpSpw_w F¶ kaq-l-¯nsâ ASn-Øm\ LS-I-¯n\v krãn¸v \nc-bn AXnsâ thcp-IÄ ImWp-hm³ Ign-bpw. Hcp Ip«n-bpsS kmaq-ly-h¡cW {]{In-b-bn IpSpw-_-¯n\v hfsc ka-{K-amb Hcp ]¦p-s ≠¶p am{X-a-Ã, Pohn-X-¯nsâ hnhn[ L«-§-fn Hcp hyàn-bpsS kmaqlyh¡-cW D]-I-c-W-ambn \ne-sIm-Åp-Ibpw sN¿p-¶p. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä \ÂIp¶ ]cn-t]m-j-W-¯nsâ coXn-b-\p-k-cn¨v Ip«n-IÄ kaq-l-¯n\v krãn-]-c-amb kw`m-h\ \ÂIp-¶-htcm AsÃ-¦n \mi-I-c-amb hn[w kaq-l-¯n\v _m²y-X-bm--Ip¶htcm Bbn-¯o-cpw. hneyw _n. sI¶Un Fgp-Xp-¶Xv : ""Hcp F{_mb inip Pohn-X-¯nsâ AÀ°w Adnªv Xsâ kaq-l-¯n hfÀ¶p-h-cp-¶p. IpSpw-_-¯nse aX IÀ½-§Ä, hymJym-\w, NÀ¨-IÄ XpS-§nbhbn-eqsS t_m[-]qÀÆtam AÃm-sXtbm Pohn-X-¯n aX-¯nsâ Øm\w {]tXy-In¨pw X§-fpsS \nkvXpe PohnX ssien-bn ]pd-¸mSv A\p-`-h-¯nsâ Øm\w XpS-§n FÃmw a\-Ên-em-¡p-¶p.

ss__n-fn {][m-\-s¸« ]e hyàn-I-fp-sSbpw Pohn-X-¯n X§-fpsS amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fpsS kzm[o\w hyà-am-¡n-bn-«p- ≠ v . {]tXy-In¨v Bßob cq]o-I-cWw a¡-fn D≠ m-¡n-b-Xn\v `h-\-¯nse Btcm-Ky-I-c-amb A´-co£w F{X kzm[o\w sNep¯n F¶-Xnsâ DZm -l-c -W-§-fmWv tamsibpw iaq -th-epw. CJm-t_m Zpw A{amapw tamsi P\n-¨-t¸mÄ XnI¨pw A]-I-S-I-c-amb A´-co-£-¯nepw X§-fpsS Poh³ ]W-b-s¸-Sp-¯n-¯s¶ Ipªns\ c£n-¡p-hm\pw hfÀ¯p-hm\pw {ian-¨p. cm{ão-bhpw kmaq-lyhpw aX-]-c-hp-ambn {]Xn-Iqe kml-N-cy-¯n-emWv tamsi-bpsS amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä C{]-Imcw sNbvX-Xv. `£Ww \ÂIn hfÀ¯pI am{X-a-Ã, Xm³ F{_m-b-\m-sW-¶Xpw F{_m-b-cpsS ssZh-s¯-¡p-dn¨pw bn{km-tb P\-s¯-¡p-dn-¨p-saÃmw tamsisb amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä ]Tn-¸n-¨p. kIe A\p-{K-l-§-fp-sSbpw Dd-hn-S-amb ssZhs¯ a¡Ä Adn-b-¯-¡-hn[w amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Ahsc Hcp-t¡≠-Xm-Wv.

amXm-hn-\m ]cn-t]m-jn-̧ n-¡-s¸« asämcp ]g-b-\n-ba t\Xm-hmWv iaqthÂ. amXm-hnsâ Pohn-X-aq-eyw, ssZh-Zmlw F¶n-hbpw A¶s¯ Bßob A -́co-£-̄ nsâ A[x-]-X-\-s -̄¡p-dn-¨pÅ Adn-hp-saÃmw A½ aI-\n-te¡v ]IÀ¶p-\ÂIn. hn¹-hm-ß-I-amb ImÂsh-bv]n- eqsS Xsâ aIs\ ssZh-̄ n\v \ÂIn-s¡m≠ v bn{km-tb Ncn-{X-̄ n Hcp sFXn-lm-knI hyàn-Xz-ambn iaqth-ensâ amXmhv \ne-sIm-Åp-¶p. ASp¯ Xe-ap-dbv¡p th ≠n-bpÅ e£yw cq]o-I-cn-¡p-¶-Xn Hmtcm Xe-ap-d-bv¡p-apÅ ]¦v l¶m-bpsS PohnXw shfn-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶p. a¡Ä¡v \ÂIm-hp¶ {InkvXob hfÀ¯-ensâ amXrIm kao-]-\-amWv \mw Ah-fn ImWp-¶-Xv. l¶msb kw_-Ôn-¨n-S-t¯mfw Xsâ IpSpw-_-¯nsâ kz´w c£-bà Hcp c£-I-\mb t\Xm-hn-eqsS Hcp kaq-l-¯nsâ apgp-h³ D²m-c-W-amWv e£y-an-«-Xv.

Npcp-¡-s«. ssZh-¯nsâ {]Xo-£bv¡v A\p-k-c-W-ambn X§-fpsS a¡sf cq]-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶-Xn amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡pÅ D¯-c-hm-ZnXzw ss__nÄ hyà-am-¡p-¶p. ssZh-t¯m-sSm¸w kl-þ-kr-ãn-Xm-¡-fmWv amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä. Bb-Xn-\m Ip«n-IÄ¡v P·w sImSp-¡p-¶Xpw hfÀ¯p-¶Xpw ssZhoI hnfn-tbm-SpÅ A\p-k-c-W-am-Wv. Cu ss_ _nÄ ZÀi\w a¡sf hfÀ¯-ensâ icn-bmb amÀ¤-\nÀt±-i-amWv \ÂIn-¯-cp-¶-Xv.

icn-bmb in£-W-¯n-eqsS ssZhoI amXr-I-

bnepw \ne-hm-c-¯nepw amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä cq]-s¸-Sp-¯n-sb-Sp-¡-Ww. in£-Whpw in£bpw a¡Ä¡v \ÂtI- -≠Xm-Wv. A[n-Im-c-`m-h-¯n-ep-ÅXpw {]tIm-]n-¸n-¨p-sIm- ≠p-Å-Xp-amb a¡sf hfÀ¯Â

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c£m-IÀ¯rXzw AYhm a¡sf hfÀ¯Â hfsc \nkvXp-e-amb Hcp D¯-c-hm-Zn¯amWv. Ip«n-I-fn kpZoÀL-Imew \ne-\n¡p¶ kzm[o\w sNep-¯p¶ kpc-£n-Xhpw ]cn-t]m-jWw \ndªXpamb kml-Ncyw hfsc kPo-h-ambn {]Zm\w sN¿p¶ Hcp {]{In-b-bm-W-Xv. a¡sf hfÀ¯Â ssien bph-X-e-ap-d-bpsS Nn´m-co-Xn, sshIm-cn-I hfÀ¨, _Ô-§Ä¡pÅ Ign-hv, HutZymKnI A`n-cp-Nn-IÄ, hyàn-]-c-amb anIhv XpS-§n-b-h-sbÃmw hfsc Bg-ambn kzo[o-\n-¡p-¶-Xm-Wv. t_m[-]qÀÆ-ambpw AÃm-sXbpw hfsc henb kzm[o-\-amWv amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Ip«n-I-fn sNep-̄ p-¶-Xv. Hcp Ip«n-bpsS kzmb-̄ -am-¡Â {]{In-bsb kzm[o-\n-¡p-¶Xv IpSpw-_-km-l-N-cy-̄ n {]kvXpX Ip«n IS-¶p-t]m-Ip¶ A\p-`-h-§-fm--Wv. `qcn-]£w a\-xim-kv{X-Úcpw k½-Xn-¡p¶ Hcp hnj-b-amWv, hyànXz hnI-k-\-¯nsâ kz`m-hhpw kz`m-h¯nse L-SI-§fpw \nÝbn-¡p-¶Xv Hcp hyàn-bpsS c£m-IÀ¯rXzw AYhm amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS hfÀ¯Â {]{Inb-bm-Wv.

Ip«n-I-sf-¡p-dn¨pw Iuam-c-{]m-b-¡m-sc-¡p-dn¨pw F´p-sIm- ≠mWv \mw [mcmfw ]cm-Xn-IÄ tIÄ¡p-¶Xv? AXp-t]mse [mcmfw ]cm-Xn-IÄ amXm-]n-Xm-¡-sf-¡p-dn¨pw \mw tIÄ¡p-¶Xv F´p-sIm≠- mWv? ChnsS Gähpw {][m-\-s¸« {]iv\w amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Ip«n-Isf hfÀ¯p¶ ssien-bmWv (parenting style). KpW-]-c-amb AYhm km[-Im-ßI-amb hfÀ¯Â ssien Ip«n-bn kzb-t_m-[w, kzbm-̀ n-am\w (B-ßm-̀ n-am-\w), Bh-iy-̄ n-\p-ff PohnX Ign-hp-IÄ XpS-§n-bh hfÀ¯p-t¼mÄ \ntj-[m-ßI hfÀ¯Â ssien B´coI Akz-Ø-X, _Ô-§-fnse {]iv\-§Ä, hyàn-]-chpw sXmgnÂ]-c-hp-amb Ign-hn-Ãmbva XpS-§nb Ah-Ø-I-fn-te¡v Ip«nsb amäp-¶p.

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS {]Xo-£-IÄ¡pw amÀ¤-\nÀt±-i-§Ä¡pw tNcp-¶-hn[w Ip«n-bpsS _p²n-bnepw sshIm-cn-I-X-bnepw _Ô -§-fnepw Bßo-b-Xbnepw imco-cn-IXbnepw DÅ Bh-iy-§-tfmSv {]Xn-I-cn-¡p¶ hn[-am-bn-cn-¡Ww hfÀ¯Â {]{Inb \S-t¡≠- -Xv. ssii-h, _mey, Iuamc {]mb-§-fn Bh-iy-§-fpsS \nd-th-ä kp{]-[m-\-am-Wv. hnhml Pohn-X-¯nse kwXr-]vXn-tbmSpw Xpd-¶- ]Iz-X-tbm-Sp-sam¸w amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä X§-fpsS a¡sf km[-Im-ß-I-ambn (Positive) apt¶-dp-hm³ DÕm-ln-¸n-¡p-Ibpw AwKo-I-cn-¡p-Ibpw sN¿-Ww. CXn-\À°w, Ah-cpsS _mly-ku-µcyw, _p²n-]-c-amb {]bXv\-§Ä, ]ptcm-K-a\ Nn´-IÄ, Bßo-b-X, kmaq-ly-I-gn-hp-IÄ F¶n-h-sb-sbÃmw {]iw-kn-¡Ww F¶m-Wv. Ip«n-I-fpsS Bh-iy-§-tfmSv amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä \nÊw-KX ]peÀ¯p-Ibpw Ahsc ad-¡p-Ibpw sNbvXm AhÀ \ntj-[m-ß-I-ambn {]Xn-I-cn-¡p-Ibpw AXv Pohn-Xs¯ icn-bmbn \bn-¡p-¶-Xn Ahsc ]cm-P-b-s¸-Sp-¯p-Ibpw sN¿pw. Ah-K-Wn-¡-s¸«pw XyPn-¡-s¸«pw hf-cp¶ Ip«n-IÄ {]Xn-_-²X CÃm-¯-h-cmbpw i{XpXm at\m-`m-h-¯n-ep-Å-hcpw kmaqly hncp² s]cp-am-ä-§Ä DÅ-h-cp-ambn hf-cp-hm³ km²y-X-bp≠- v. a¡-fn \n¶pw \nÀ_-Ô-ambn Ah-Im-i-s¸-Sp-¶-hcpw hnaÀin-¡p-¶-hcpw a¡-tfm-sSm¸w kt´m-jn-¡m-¯-h-cp-amb amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä kt´m-j-c-ln-Xhpw kzØ-X-bn-Ãm-¯-Xp-amb

tUm. tPmk^v tPmÀÖvs{]m^-kÀ, ]mÌd Iu¬k-enw-Kv,

bpssW-säUv Xntbm-f-Pn-¡Â tImf-Pv, _mw¥qÀ

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS {]Xo-£-IÄ¡pw amÀ¤-\nÀtZ-

i-§Ä¡pw tNcp-¶-hn[w Ip«n-bpsS _p²n-bnepw sshIm-cn-I-X-bnepw _Ô-§-fnepw Bßo-

b-¯nepw imco-cn-I-¯nepw DÅ Bh-iy-§-tfmSv {]Xn-I-cn-¡p¶

hn[-am-bn-cn-¡Ww hfÀ¯Â {]{Inb \S-t¡≠- -Xv.

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Xbpw DÅ IpSpw-_-§-fnse Ip«n-IÄ PohnXw \bn-¡p-¶-Xn\v Bh-iy-amb hyàn-]-chpw sXmgnÂ]-c-hp-amb \Ã Ignhv kn²n-¨-h-cm-bn-cn-¡pw.

2. A\p-hm-Z-ssien: ]qÀ® kzmX-{´yhpw \nb-{´-W-cm-ln-Xyhpw

Cu ssien-bn a¡Ä¡v F´pw sN¿p-hm-\pÅ kzmX-{´y-amWv \ÂIp-¶-Xv. Ahsc Xncp-¯p-hm-\pÅ bmsXmcphn[ {iahpw ChnsS \S-¡m-dn-Ã. A¯cw IpSpw-_-§-fn bmsXmcp Nn«bpw {Iahpw CÃ. a¡-fnÂ\n¶v bmsXmcp A\p-k-c-Whpw {]Xo-£n-¡m-¯-Xn-\m AhnsS bmsXm-cp-hn[ \nÀ_-ÔnX Bh-iy-§fpw a¡-tfm-Sn-Ã. amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fnepw a¡-fnepw A¨-S-¡-an-Ã. Hcp D¯-c-hm-Zn-¯apÅ s]cp-am-ä-¯n\v Ahkcw sImSp-¡msX FÃm Dd-hn-S-§-sfbpw shdpsX A\p-h-Zn-¨n-cn-¡p-¶p. C¯cw amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä a¡sf in£n-¡m-sd-bn-Ã. ]pdsa A¯cw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä hfsc Dujva-f-Xbpw ]Iz-Xbpw DÅ-h-cmbn tXm¶n-bmepw AhcpsS DXvI-WvT, `b-§Ä, A£-aX F¶nh {]I-S-am-Wv. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Nn«bpw {Iahpw CÃm-¯-h-cm-sW-¦n a¡-fn \n¶pw AXp-Xs¶ {]Xo-£n-¡p-¶-Xn-\m-epÅ Ipä-t_m-[hpw Cu amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡p- ≠ v. Cu kml-N-cy-§-fnÂ, X§-fpsS A`o-ã-¯n-\mbn aXm-]n-Xm-¡sf a¡Ä NqjWw sN¿p-Ibpw hf-s¨m-Sn¨v Imcyw t\Sp-Ibpw sN¿pw. aäp-Å-h-cn \n¶v bmsXm-cp-hn[ amÀ¤- \nÀtZ-ihpw ChÀ B{K-ln-¡m-dn-Ã.

Cuhn[ c£m-IÀ¯rXz ssien-bn hf-cp¶ a¡Ä ]pdsa hfsc Bß-hn-izm-khpw ss[cyhpw PohnXw `wKn-bmbn \bn-¸m³ Ign-hp-Å-h-cp-sa¶v tXm¶n-bmepw DÅn AhÀ ]e-hn[ t]mcm-bva-IÄ [mcmfw DÅ-hÀ Xs¶-bm-Wv. X§-fpsS kt´m-j-¯n-\p-th ≠n F´pw sN¿p-hm-\pw, thW-sa-¦n aäp-Å-h-cpsS kt´mjw sISp-̄ n-¡-f-bp-hm\pw C¯cw Ip«n-IÄ¡v aSn-bn-Ã.

P\m-[n-]-Xy-ssien (D¯-c-hm-Zn-¯-apÅ kzmX-{´yw)

Htc kabw kzmX-´yhpw H¸w D¯-c-hm-Zn-¯-t_m-[hpw a¡Ä¡v \ÂIn P\m-[n-]Xy aqey-§Ä¡pw t\Xr-Xz-§Ä¡pw Du¶Â \ÂIn-bpÅ c£m-IÀ¯rXz ssien-bm-Wn-Xv. kzmX{´yw A\p-h-Zn-¨n-«p≠ v F¶m Ft¸mgpw hyà-ambn \nÀÆ-Nn-¡-s¸-«n-«pÅ Nne ]cn-an-Xn-IÄ AYhm AXn-cp-Ifpw ]d-ªn-«p-≠ v. \nb-{´-W-§Ä hfsc IÀi-\-ambn \S-¸m-¡p-t¼mgpw kvt\lhpw Icp-Xepw hfsc hyà-ambn AhnsS {]I-S-am-Wv. a¡Ä¡v X§-fpsS ImgvN-¸m-Sp-IÄ, A`n-{]m-b-§Ä, tNmZy-§Ä, At]-£-IÄ F¶nh {]I-S-am-¡m-\pÅ Ah-k-c-ap-s≠ ¶p am{X-aà AXv hfsc Xmev]-cy-t¯msS amXm-]n -Xm-¡Ä {i²n-¡m-dp≠ - v. IpSpw-_-¯n amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä FSp-¡p¶ Hcp Xocp-am-\-¯n a¡-fpsS A`n-{]m-b-¯n\v \à Øm\w ChnsS \ÂI-s¸-Sp-¶p. kvIqtfm, tImf-tPm, Hcp ]T-\-hn-j-b-tam, tImgvtkm Xnc-sª-Sp-¡p-t¼mÄ a¡ÄIqsS Cã-s¸-Sp-¶Xpw Ah-cpsS A`n-cp-Nn¡v tNcp-¶-Xp-amb H¶v sXc-sª-Sp-¡p-hm³ kzmX-{´y-ap≠ - v. IpSpw_ {]{In-b-bn X§fpw `mK-`m-¡p-I-fm-sW¶pw amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS Cãw X§-fpsS ta ASn-t¨Â¸n-¡p-Ibsöpw ChnsS a¡Ä a\-Ên-em-¡p-¶p. a¡Ä¡v ChnsS ]q À® A`n-{]mb kzmX-{´y-ap-s -≠¦nepw A´n-a Xocp-am\w a¡-fpsS IqsS k½-X-t¯msS FSp-¡p-¶Xv amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fm-bn-cn¡pw F¶-XmWv Cu ssien-bn ap¶n«p \n¡p-¶-Xv. C{]-Im-c-apÅ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä X§-fpsS {]Xo-£-I-fn hfsc bpàn-k-l-Phpw bmYmÀ°y-t_m-[-t¯m-sS-bp-amWv s]cp-am-dp-¶-Xv. icm-icn ]T\ Ignhv am{X-apÅ X§-fpsS Ip«n¡v ]co-£-bn 90% t{KUv {]Xo-£n-¡p-¶-Xn bmsXmcp bpàn-bp-an-Ã. bmYmÀ°y-t_m-[-an-Ãm¯ {]Xo-£-I-fmWv IpSpw-_-§-fnse kt´mj clnX kml-N-cy-§Ä¡v an¡-t¸mgpw Imc-W-am-Ip-¶-Xv.

a¡sf hfÀ¯Â þ C¶s¯ shÃp-hn-fn-IÄ

Hcp Ip«n-bpsS k¼qÀ® hfÀ¨bv¡v DX-Ip-¶-Xm-bn-cn-¡Ww amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Ahsc hfÀ¯p¶ coXn. hfsc kpc-£n-Xhpw {]tbm-P-\-{]-Z-hp-amb Hcp A´-co£w hfÀ¶p-h-cp¶ Xe-ap-dbv¡v krãn¨p \ÂIp-hm³ th≠ n C¶v amdn-s¡m- ≠n-cn-¡p¶ kmaq-ln-I-þ-km-¼-¯n-I, kmwkvIm-cnI IpSpw_ ]Ým-¯-e-§sf IW-¡n-se-Sp-¯pÅ ASn-b-´nc \S-]-Sn-IÄ \mw ssIs¡m-tÅ-≠Xm-Wv. {Kmao-Whpw \mK-co-I-hp-amb ]Ým-¯-e-§-fn \mw t\cn-Sp¶ Nne ka-Im-enI shÃp-hn-fn-I-fmWv NphsS tNÀ¡p-¶-Xv.

1. Iq«p-Ip-Spw_ kaq-l-§Ä A{]-Xy-£-ambn

imco-cn-Ihpw am\-kn-I-hp-ambn hf-cp¶ Xe-ap-dbv¡v \sÃmcp t{]mÕm-l-\hpw ssI¯m-§-ep-ambncp¶ Iq«p-Ip-Spw_ hyh-ØnXn C¶v A{]-Xy-£-am-bn-cn-¡p-¶p. Fsâ Ip«n-¡m-e¯v Fsâ hey-¸-¨\pw hey-½¨nbpw Ab `h-\-¡m-cp-sams¡ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä ASp-¯n-Ãm-¯-t¸mÄ Fs¶ hfÀ¯p-Ibpw Icp-Xp-Ibpw sNbvXXv Rm³ HmÀ¡p-¶p. Fsâ ktlm-Z-c-§-fp-sS-sbm¸w Rm³ B A´-co-£-¯n Bbn-cp-¶-t¸mÄ AhÀ R§-fpsS imco-cn-Ihpw am\-kn-I-hp-amb hfÀ¨bv¡v th ≠nb t]m jWw \ÂIn-bn-cp-¶p. AXn-\p-]-Icw tUþ-sI-bÀ skâ-dp-I-fnepw aäp-ambn Ip«n-Isf hf-cp-hm³ hnSp¶ Hcp PohnX ssien-bmWv C¶v ImWp-¶-Xv. ChnsS sshIm-cn-I-þ-am-\p-jnI _Ô-§-fn-Ãm¯ ]pkvX-I-§Ä, ]mh-IÄ, IÀi\ \nÀt±-i-§Ä F¶n-hbv¡v ASn-a-s¸«v Ip«n-IÄ hf-tc ≠n hcp-¶p.

2. ]T-\-co-Xnbpw k½À±-§fpw

a¡-fpsS ]T-\s¯ kw_-Ôn v̈ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä \S-̄ p¶ GXp {]Xn-I-cWw {i²n-̈ mepw AhÀ¡pÅ DXvI-WvTbpw k½À±hpw hfsc \¶mbn \ap¡v Xncn-̈ -dn-bp-hm³ Ign-bpw. X§-fpsS Ip«n-I-fpsS ]T\ {]I-S-\-̄ n ]qÀ® kwXr]vXn hfsc sNdn-sbmcp iX-am\w amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fn am{Xta ImWp-hm³ Ign-bp-I-bp-Åq. 90% icm-icn amÀ¡v X§-fpsS Ip«n-IÄ hm§n-bn-«p-IqsS AXr-]vXn-tbmsS Bh-emXn ]d-bp¶ amXm-]n-Xm-¡sf Rm³ I ≠n-«p≠- v. a¡Ä ]Tn-¡m-̄ -Xn-s\-¡p-dn¨pw IqSp-X kabw sSen-hn-j³, samss_Â, Ifn-IÄ F¶n-h-bn GÀs -̧Sp-¶-Xn-\pw, ¢mÊn \¶mbn {i²n-¡m-̄ -Xn-\p-saÃmw XpSÀ¨mbn Bh-emXn ]d-bp-¶-h-cmWv ̀ qcn-]£w amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpw. a¡-fpsS Cu ""]cn-Xm-]-I-c-amb {]I-S-\s¯''¸än \nc-́ cw ZpxJn-X-cm-Wv an¡ amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpw. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS {]Xo-£bpw DXvI-WvTbpw \n an¯w XXv¡mew hymPw ]dªv c£-s -̧Sm³ Ip«n-IÄ t{]cn-X-cm-Ip-¶Xpw hnc-f-a-Ã. Hcn-¡Â Hcp amXmhv Ab¡m-cn-tbmSv Bh-emXn ]dªp ""Fsâ tam\v ¹kv Sq ]co-£-bn 85% amÀ¡v In«n-b-Xm-Wv, ]s£, amÀ¡v enÌv h¶-t¸mÄ 58% am{X-ta-bpÅq''. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn \n¶v IqSnb {]Xo-£-IÄ ASn-t¨Â¸n-¡-s¸-Sp-t¼mÄ sXämb {]h-W-X-I-fn-te¡v Ip«n-IÄ amdn-t¸m-Ip-hm³ AXv CS-bm-¡p-¶p. ZpÈo-e-§-fn-te-¡pw, Acp-Xm¯ kplr-̄ p-¡-fn-te¡pw Bß-lXym Nn´-bn-te-¡p-sams¡ AXv hgn-sX-fn-¡mw.

A\p-̀ -h-§-fm-bn-cn¡pw a¡-fn krãn-¡p-¶-Xv. Dujvaf kvt\lw, AwKo-Im-cw, a\-Ên-em-¡Â, Ir]-tbm-sS-bpÅ ]c-kv]c CS-s]-S-ep-Ifpw Bib hn\n-a-bhpw XpS-§n-bh kaq-l-¯n\v tNcp-¶-hcpw hyàn-]-c-ambn hfsc Ign-hp-Å-h-cp-amb a¡sf \ap¡v Zm\w sN¿pw.

{]m[m-\-ambpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS c£m-IÀ¯rXzw AYhm a¡sf hfÀ¯Â coXn aq¶p {][m\ hn`mK§-fmbn Xncn¨v ]Tn-¡m³ Ignbpw. Ah Hmtcm¶pw t\cn«pw AÃm-sXbpw Ip«n-I-fnepw Iuam-c-{]m-b-¡m-cnepw D≠ m-¡p¶ kzm[o\w Xmsg Ipdn-¡p-¶p.

1. A[n-Imc ssien (Authoritarian Type): \n_-Ô-\-Ifpw ]cn-an-Xn-Ifpw

Cu ssien ]n´p-S-cp¶ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä a¡Ä Ah-cpsS k¼qÀ® \nb-{´-W-¯n-em-bn-cn-¡-W-sa¶v \nÀ_Ôw ]nSn-¡p-¶-h-cm-Wv. a¡-fpsS Nn -́IÄ, hnIm-c-§Ä, at\m-̀ m-h-§Ä, aqey-§Ä, CXc {]hr¯n-IÄ XpS-§nbh FÃmw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä F§s\ {]Xo-£n-¡p-¶pthm ]qÀ®-ambpw A{]-Imcw Xs¶-bm-bn-cn-¡Ww F¶v C¡q-«À B{K-ln-¡p-¶p. a¡-fn \n¶pw FÃm ka-bhpw ]qÀ® A\p-k-cWw {]Xo-£n-¡p-Ibpw AXn\v aqeyw sImSp-¡p-Ibpw sN¿p-¶p. Ip«n-I-fpsS _p²n-]-chpw sshIm-cn-Ihpw _Ô-§-fn-ep-ÅXpw kmaq-ly-]-chpw Bßob]c-hp-amb FÃm Xe-§-fnepw t\cn-«pÅ \nb-

{´Ww amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡m-bn-cn-¡pw. Ah-cpsS at\m-`m-h-§fpw hnizm-k- kw-hn[m\w hsc \n b-{´n-¡p-¶Xv amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fm-Wv. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS temI-¯n-te¡v Ip«n-IÄ CW-§n-t¨-cpI am{Xw thWw. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS {]Xo-£¡v hncp-²-am-b-sX-s´¦nepw I≠ m AXv A\p-k-c-W-t¡Spw tamiw s]cp-am-ähpw in£mÀl-amb sXäp-am-bn-¯o-cq-¶p.

C{]-Im-c-apÅ IpSpw-_-§-fn kvt\l-¯n-sâbpw Icp-X-en-sâbpw bmsXmcp {]I-S-\hpw Csöp am{X-a-Ã, A`n-\-µ-\-tam AwKo-Im-ctam Hs¡ hfsc ZpÀe-̀ amb Imcy-§-fp-am-bn-cn-¡pw. Hcp \nÊmc {]iv\w ImWp-t¼mÄ Ip«n-IÄ At§-bäw hnaÀin-¡-s¸-Sp-Ibpw AXv Ahsc Ipä-t_m-[w, `bw, Ign-hp-tI-Sv, sshIm-cnI {]iv\-§Ä F¶n-h-bn-te¡v \bn-¡p-Ibpw sN¿p-¶p. kzX-{´-amb Nn´bvt¡m {Inbm-ß-I-amb {]hr-¯n-IÄt¡m PohnXw \bn-¡m³ Ign-hp-Itfm H¶pw hf-cm-\p-ff bmsXmcp Ah-k-c-§fpw A¯cw IpSpw-_-§-fn-en-Ã. amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fpsS IÀi-\-amb Xm¡o-Xp-I-fpw \nÀ_-ÔnX Bh-iy-§fpw {]Xo-£-Ifpw \nan¯w a¡-fpsS _p²n-]-chpw sshIm-cn-I-hp-amb hfÀ¨ XS-bp-¶p.

ta ]dª Xcw IpSpw-_-§-fn \n¶pÅ a¡Ä/Ip«n-IÄ hfsc A\p-k-cWw DÅ-h-cm-Wv. ]s£ AhÀ¡v hfsc Akz-ØX \ndª hyàn-_-Ô-§fpw hyàn-Xz-hp-am-bn-cn¡pw DÅ-Xv. ASn-t¨Â¸n-¡-s¸« Hcp Pohn-X-{I-ahpw ka-b-{I-ahpw C¯cw IpSpw-_-§-fn D≠ m-bn-cn-¡pw. C¯cw Hcp ]Ým-¯-e-¯n \n¶p-apÅ Ip«n-IÄ hfsc am\-knI hyYbpÅhcpw sshIm-cn-I-ambn DÄh-en-ª-hcpw X§-tfmSpw aäp-Å-h-tcmSpw HcphI Akw-Xr]vXn ]peÀ¯p-¶-h-cpw \nkw-K-̀ m-hhpw i{XpXm at\m-̀ m-h-hpw ]cm-Pn-Xcpw Nne-t¸mÄ aÕ-cn-Ifpw Bbn-¯o-cp-¶p. t\sc adn¨v, kzmX-{´yhpw krãn-]-c-

Ip«n-I-fpsS

Bh-iy-§-tfmSv amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä \nÊw-KX ]peÀ¯p-Ibpw Ahsc ad-¡p-Ibpw sNbvXm AhÀ \ntj-[m-

ß-I-ambn {]Xn-I-cn-¡p-Ibpw AXv Pohn-Xs¯ icn-bmbn \bn-¡p-¶-Xn Ahsc ]cm-P-b-s¸-Sp-¯p-

Ibpw sN¿pw.

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3. IpSpw-_-¯nse A¨-S¡w

Ip«n-I-fpsS A -̈S¡w F¶Xv asämcp henb shÃp-hn-fn -bm-Wv. hfsc ]Iz-X-bmÀÖn¨ Ip«n-Ifpw Iuam-c-¡m-cp-am¡n a¡sf XoÀ¡p-hm³ X§Ä¡v icn-sb¶v tXm¶p¶ [mcmfw amÀ¤-§Ä C¶v amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä kzoI-cn-¨p-h-cp-¶p. ]qÀ®kzmX{´yhpw k¼qÀ® \n b-{´-Whpw c≠ pw A¨-S¡ ]me-\-¯n D]-tbm-Kn-¨p-Iq-Sm. a¡Ä¡v _p²n-]-chambpw hnIm -c -] -c -ambpw {]hÀ¯n -¡p -hm -\pÅ Ah-kcw \ÂIn-s¡m≠- pÅ A -̈S-¡-co-Xn-bmWv Ic-Wo-bw. Ip«n-Isf \nc-´cw XÃp-Ibpw iIm-cn-¡p-Ibpw sN¿msX Ip«n-Isf {i²-tbmsS tIÄ¡p-Ibpw hnIm-c-hm-bvt]msS Ah-cpsS a\Êv Adnªv Ah-tcmSv {]Xn-I-cn-¡p-I-bp-amWv th -≠Xv.

`h\-¯nse "sshIm-cn-Im-´-co£w' Hcp Ip«n-bpsS sshIm-cnI hfÀ¨ (Emotional development) sb \¶mbn kzm[o-\n -¡p-¶-Xm-Wv. hfsc ]ptcm-K-a-\-]-chpw AwKo-I-mcw \ÂIp-¶-Xp-amb Hcp A´-co£w, ]ptcm-K-a-\-]-c-amb hnti-j-kz-`m-h-§Ä Ip«n-I-fn hf-cp-hm³ CS-bm-¡pw. ]e kµÀ`-§-fnepw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä ]d-bp-¶Xv Rm³

Ipdhv e`n-¡p-¶-Xm-Wv. B kuI-cy-an-Ãm-̄ -hÀ tU sIb-À skâ-dp-Isftbm aäp GP³kn-I-sftbm Ipªp-§sf hfÀt¯ ≠ ZuXyw Gev]n-t¡≠- n-h-cpw. Ah-tcm-sSm¸w Ipªp-§Ä ZoÀL aWn-¡q-dp-IÄ Ign-tb≠- n-h-cpw. tPmenbv¡pw ]W-¯n-\p-amWv ap³K-W\ sImSp-¡p-¶-sX-¦n AXv Ip«n-Isf hfÀ¯Â {]{In-b-sb tZmj-ambn _m[n-¡pw. ]qÀ®-k-abw Ip«n-Isf t\m¡p-¶-Xn-\p-th ≠n BcpsS tPmen-bmWv Dt]-£n-t¡- ≠Xv F¶-Xns\ sNmÃn `mcym `À¯m-¡-·mÀ X½n hmZ-{]-Xn-hm-Z-§Ä D ≠m-tb-¡mw. X§-fpsS tPmensb AXv {]Xn-Iq-e-ambn _m[n-t¨¡mw F¶v Adn-bm-sa-¦nepw Nne A½-amÀ X§-fpsS tPmen-bn \n¶v amdn-\n¡m-dp≠- v. Nne IpSpw-_-§-fn Ipªp-§Ä¡p-th≠ n ho«p-Im-cy-§fpw a¡-fpsS Imcyhpw t\m¡p-¶-Xn\v tPmen Dt]-£n-̈ p \n¡p¶ ̀ À¯m-¡-·m-scbpw ImWp-hm³ Ign-bpw. Ccp-hcpw tPmen sN¿p¶ IpSpw-_-§-fnse Ip«n-I-fpsS hfÀ¨-bn kw`-hn-¡m³ km[y-X-bpÅ hnI-e-X-IÄ amäp-hm³ Ip«n-Isf Icp-Xp¶ kwL-S-\-Ifpw k`bpw {]tXyI {i² sNep-t¯- -≠Xm-Wv.

6. Ak-ln-jvWp-Xbpw ]gn-Nm-cepw

"XnI-ª-h-cm-IpI' F¶ Nn´m-K-Xnsb t{]mÕm-ln-̧ n-¡p-¶-h-cmWv kaIm-enI kaq-lw. ho«nepw kvIqfnepw Ifn-Ø-e¯pw _Ô-§-fnepw aX-Po-hn-X-¯n t]mepw CXv Bh-iy-s¸-Sp-¶p. {]Xo-£-IÄ FÃm Xe-§-fnepw Gähpw apI-fn DÅ-Xm-Wv. Cu {]Xo-£-IÄ ]q À¯o-I-cn-¡-s -̧Sm-̄ -t¸mÄ A\m-h-iy-amb hnaÀi-\-§Ä Db-cpw. bph-X-e-ap-d-bm-sW-¦n {]Xo-£-IÄ \nd-th-ämsX hcp-t¼mÄ hfsc {]Xy-£-ambn Xs¶ ]cp-j-ambn s]cp-am-dpw. Hcp hÀjs¯ IpSpw-_-Po-hnXw Ign-bp-t¼mÄ Xs¶ C§s\ ]d-bm³ aSn-¡m-̄ -h-cp≠- v.""AhÄ Hcp ̀ mcy-bm-bn-cn-¡p-hm³ sImÅm-hp-¶-h-fÃ'' ""Ah³ Hcp ̀ À¯m-hnsâ KpW-ap-Å-h-\Ã''. amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä a¡-tfmSpw X§-fpsS AklnjvWpX Xpd¶p {]I-Sn-¸n¡pw. Ip«nIÄ 80% amÀ¡pambn hcp-t¼mÄ A½ tNmZn¡pw ""¢mÊn H¶mw Øm\w BÀ¡mWv ?''. Ip«n¡v e`n-¨Xv IqSp-Xtem Ipdthm BsW-¦nepw AXns\ A`n-\-µn-¡p¶ coXn-bmWv th≠ -Xv.

7. `oj-Wn-Ifpw \nµn-¡epw

hoSn\p ]pd¯v \S-¡p¶ kw`-h-§fpw Ip«n-I-fpsS hfÀ¨-bn hfscsb-[nIw am\-kn-Ihpw hnIm-c-]-c-hp-ambn kzm[o-\hpw ^ehpw D≠ m-¡pw. kvIqfp-I-fnepw k`-I-fnepw AbÂ]-¡-§-fnepw Ip«n-Isf AwKo-I-cn-¡p-Ibpw A`n-\-µn¨v t{]mÕm-ln-¸n-¡p-Ibpw sN¿p¶ A\p-`-h-§Ä D≠ m-I-Ww. Ip«n-Isf a\ÊnSn-bv¡p-Ibpw \ncm- i-s¸-Sp-¯p-Ibpw hrW-s¸-Sp-¯p-Ibpw sN¿p¶ kw`-h-§Ä

hoSn\p ]pd¯v sh¨v D≠ m-bm AXv Adnªv, AXn\v ]cn-lmcw Ip«n-I-fn D ≠m-I-¯-¡-hn[w Ip«n-I-tfmSv s]cp-am-dm³ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v Ign-b-Ww.

8. sNdp-¯p-\n¸v, Al-¦m-cw, A{Iaw

IpSpw-_-§-fn-se {][m-\-s¸« Hcp {]Xn-kÔn kml-Ncyw Ip«n-I-fp-sSbpw Iuam-c-¡m-cp-sSbpw sNdp-¯p-\nev]v, Al-¦m-cw, A{I-a-hm-k\ F¶nh \nan-¯-am-Wv. C¯cw ITn-\-amb A\p-`-h-§-fn F´p sN¿-W-sa¶v an¡ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡pw Adn-ªp-Iq-Sm. tZtlm-]{Z-hhpw \mi-§fpw sN¿p¶ Iuam-c-¡msc F§s\ ssIImcyw sN¿Ww F¶v Adn-bp-hm-\pÅ ]cn-io-e\w amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v \ÂtI- -≠Xm-Wv.

9. kmt¦-XnI hnZybpw hyàn-_-Ô-§-fnse hnShpw

B[p-\nI kmt¦-XnI hnZy-Ifpw Ah-bpsS Bi-b-hn-\n-ab kwhn-[m-\-§fpw IpSpw-_m--́co-£-§-fnepw Bi-b-hn-\n-ab coXn-I-fnepw h³ amä-§-fmWv D ≠m-¡n-bn-cn-¡p-¶-Xv. imco-

cnI km¶n-²y-¯n Hcp ho«n Xs¶ Ds -≠¦n t]mepw `mcym `À¯m-¡-·mÀ X½nepw amXm-]n-Xm-¡fpw Ip«n-Ifpw X½nepw Hs¡ Bi-b-hn-\n-a-bw, hm«v-kv B-¸v, t^kv _p¡v XpS-§nb kmaqly am[y-a-§-fn-eqsS \S-¡p¶ {]h-WX hÀ²n-¨p-h-cp-¶p. hyàn-_-Ô-§-fpsS Øm\w thZ-\m-P-\-I-amb hn[w Ipd-ªp-h-cp-¶p. Cu kml-N-cys¯ ASn-b-́ n-c-ambn t\cn-tS≠- n-bn-cn-¡p-¶p.

10. IpSpw-_-§-fnse BßoI {]Xn-kÔn

aX-Po-hn-Xhpw Bßo-b-Xbpw X½n henb Hcp hnShv C¶v an¡ IpSpw-_-

§-fnepw {]Xy-£-am-Wv. FÃm aX-]m-c-¼-cy-§-fnepw CXp-Im-Wmw. aX-hn-izmkw Bßo-b-Xsb hÀ²n-¸n-t¡≠ - -Xm-Wv. Úm\w, hnth-N-\w, ]IzX F¶n-h-bn-eq-sS-bmWv Bßo-bX {]I-S-am-tI≠ -Xv. _mly aXm-\p-jvTm-\-§Ä FÃmw IrXy-ambn D s -≠¦nepw Pohn-X-¯n bmsXmcp ]Iz-X-bp-an-Ãm-¯-h-cmbn C¶v ]ecpw amdp-¶p. IpSpw-_-§-fnse Cu AhØ Ip«n-I-sfbpw Iuam-c-¡m-scbpw hfsc tZmj-I-c-ambn _m[n-¡pw.

ssZh-t¯m-sSm¸w krãn {]{In-b-bn ]¦m-fn-bm-Ip-¶-XmWv c£m-IÀ¯rXzw. CXv Hcp kmaq-lyhpw aX-]-c-hp-amb D -̄c-hm-Zn-̄ -am-Wv. At§-bäw kq£va-X-tbmSpw kaÀ -̧W-t¯mSpw \nd-th-tä≠Xp-am-Wv.

tI«n-«p≠ v ""R§-fpsS Ip«n-IÄ¡v Gähpw \ÃXv \ÂIns¡mSp-¡m³ R§Ä ITn-\m-[zm\w sN¿p¶p''. a¡-fpsS `uXnI Bh-iy-§Ä¡v IqSp-X Du¶Â \ÂIn-s¡m≠ - mWv AhÀ kwkm-cn-¡p-¶-Xv. Gähpw \à A¸mÀ«vsaâ v, Gähpw IqSnb kvIqfp-IÄ, tImf-Pp-IÄ, Gähpw \à ̀ £-Ww, Bh-iy-̄ n\v ssI¡miv F¶n-h-sbÃmw IqsS IqSn-bmepw Ah-cpsS _p²n-]-chpw hnIm-c-]-c-hp-amb hfÀ¨-bpsS 50% am{Xta BIp-I-bp-Åq. tijn-¡p¶ 50% B{i-bn -¨n -cn -¡p-¶Xv AhÀ¡v t{]m Õm-l-\hpw AwKo-Im-chpw sImSp-¡p¶ Hcp \à `h-\m-´-co-£-am-Wv. C¯-c-¯n ]cn-t]m- jn-¡-s -̧Sp¶ Hcp kml-Ncyw \ÂIn-bn-sÃ-¦n \½psS {]hÀ¯-\-§-fn-eqsS \ap¡v bmsXmcp ^ehpw e`n-¡p-I-bn-Ã.

4. `mc-Xob IpSpw-_-§-fn amXm- ]n-Xm-¡-fpsS Akm-¶n²yw

hnhn[ \ne-I-fn amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Hcmtfm c ≠p-t]-cptam CÃmsX hcp¶ kml-N-cy-§Ä C´y³ IpSpw-_-§-fn ImWp-hm³ Ignbpw. tPmen, aäv Imc-W-§Ä, FÃmw Xs¶ Cu {]Xn-`mkw bmYmÀ°y-am-¡p-¶p≠- v. Cu Akm-¶n²yw Ip«n-I-fpsS hfÀ¨sb GsX-¦nepw hn[-¯n _m[n-¡ptam? amXmhpw ]nXmhpw tNÀ¶v a¡sf kPo-h-ambn ico-c-km-¶n-²yw \ÂInbpw hnIm-c]-c-ambn kl-I-cn¨pw hfÀ¯n-sb-¦n am{Xta a¡-fpsS hfÀ¨ FÃm AÀ°-¯nepw ]qÀ¯n-I-c-W-¯n F¯p-I-bp-Åq.

5. Ccp-hcpw tPmen sN¿p¶ IpSpw-_-§Ä

amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä Ccp-hcpw tPmen-sN-¿p¶ IpSpw-_-§-fn a¡sf t\m¡p-¶Xv henb Hcp `mc-ta-dnb hnj-b-ambn amdn-s¡m- ≠n-cn-¡p-¶p. ASp¯ _Ôp-¡Ä IqsS Xma-kn-¡p¶ IpSpw-_-§-fn-em-sW-¦n Cu ̀ mc-̄ n\v Aev]w

IpSpw_ {]{In-b-bnÂX§fpw `mK-`m-¡p-I-fm-sW¶pw

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS Cãw X§-fpsS ta ASn-t¨Â¸n-¡p-Ibsöpw ChnsS a¡Ä a\-Ên-em-¡p-¶p.

a¡Ä¡v ChnsS ]qÀ® A`n-{]mb kzmX-{´y-ap-s -≠¦nepw A´n-a

Xocp-am\w a¡-fpsS IqsS k½-X-t¯msS FSp-¡p-¶Xv

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]mÌÀ kmPp tPmk^v

Ub-d-IvSÀ, C´ym ss__nÄ tImfPv & skan-\m-cn, Ip¼\mSv

a¡Ä Adn-bp¶ c£m-IÀ¯rXzw

a¡-fpsS t£aw, s]mXp-hmb Pohn-X-ssien F¶n-hsb cq]-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶-Xn \nÀ®m-b-I-amb ]¦mWv amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v DÅ-Xv. km[-Im-ß-I-ambpw \ntj-[m-ß-I-ambpw a¡sf kzm[o-\n-¡m³ amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä¡v Ign-bpw. a¡-fpsS X\-Xmb hyàn-Xzw, kzbw a\-Ên-em-¡Â, PohnX kwXr-]vXn, Ign-hpÅ Ah-Ø, aäp \nc-h[n {]mho-Wy-§Ä FÃmw Xs¶ a¡-fn hfÀ¯n-sb-Sp-¡p-¶-Xn hfsc \nÀ®m-bI ]¦mWv amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä hln-¡p-¶-Xv. At¸mÄ Xs¶, sshIm-cnI {]iv\-§-fmb am\-knI k½-À±w, hnjm-Zw, s]cp-amä sshI-ey-§Ä XpS-§n-b-hbpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS kzm[o-\-¯m Df-hm-Imw. \o≠ p-\n¡p¶ ^e-§Ä D ≠m-¡-¯-¡-hn[w ià-amWv a¡fpw amXm-]n- Xm-¡fpw X½n-epÅ ASp¸w F¶Xv Gsd {]m[m\yw AÀln-¡p-¶p.

IpSpw-_-kw-LÀj-§Ä A\p-`-hn-¨p-h-cp¶ Ip«n-I-fn {]tXy-In¨v Iuam-c-¡m-cn ISp¯ hnjm-Zhpw, amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fp-ambn Dujvaf _Ôw ]peÀ¯n hf-cp-¶-h-cn hnjm-Z-¯nsâ Afhv hfsc Ipd¨pw ImWp-hm³ Ign-bpw. kzb-t_m-[-hpw, IpSpw-_mw-K-§Ä X½n-epÅ ]c-kv]c _Ô-¯nsâ ssienbpw IpSpw-_mw-K-§-fpsS ]pdw temI-hp-am-bpÅ _Ô-¯nsâ coXn-I-fp-saÃmw Xocp-am-\n-¡p-¶Xv IpSpw_ LS-\-bm-Wv. amXm- ]n-Xm-¡-fpsS hfÀ¯Â coXn-bnse hnhn[ hnti-j-X-I-sf-¡p-dn-¨pÅ ]T-\-§Ä sXfn-bn-¡p-¶Xv IpSpw-_-L-S-\-bnse amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS hnZym-`ymkw Hcp Ip«n-bpsS kaq-l-¯nse ^e-I-c-am-Ip¶ Ah-Øsb hf-s-cb-[nIw kzm[o-\n-¡p-¶p≠- v F¶p Xs¶-bm-Wv. hyàn-Xz-¯nse kzm\p-`-h-§-fmb AYhm LS-I-§-fmb hnizm-kw, B{i-b-t_m-[w, ImÀ¡-i-X, t\«w hcn-¡m-\pÅ kaÀ¸-Ww, kml-N-cy-§sf Xncn-¨-dn-bÂ, \o¡p t]m¡v XpS-§nb kt´m-j-{]-Zhpw ^e-h-¯m-b-Xp-amb IpSpw-_-Po-hn-X-¯nsâ A\p-`-h-§fpsS {]tXy-I-X-Ifpw BWv. amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS ssien-bnse {]tXyI kz`m-h-§Ä Hcp Ip«n-bpsS hfÀ¨-bn hsc _Ôw ]peÀ¯p-¶p.

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amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS Pohn-X-ssi-en-bn \n ¶p-amWv Pohn-X-¯n t\tS ≠ e£y-s¯-¡p-dn-̈ pÅ Znim-t_m[w a¡Ä t\Sn-sb-Sp-¡p-¶-Xv. kzX-{´-amb Nn´bpw Pohn-Xhpw Ip«n-I-fn hfsc sNdnb {]mb-¯n Xs¶ Bcw-`n-¡p-Ibpw ]n¶oSv kzb-`-c-W-¯n-te¡v hf-cp-I-bp-amWv sN¿p-¶-Xv. kl-I-c-Whpw t{]mÕm-l-P-\-Ihpw kzmX-{´y-hp-apÅ Hcp IpSpw-_mw-´-co-£-¯n-emWv Ip«n-I-fn Pohn-X-t\-«-§Ä e£y-am-¡n-bpÅ Hcp ]cn-io-e-\-̄ n hf-cp-¶-Xv. X§-fn-epÅ Pohn-X-t\« e£y-̄ n F¯n-t¨À¡p-¶-Xn-\pÅ Icp v̄ {]Zm\w sN¿p-Ibpw e£y-an-Sp¶ DbÀ¶ \ne-hmcw {]m]n-s¨-Sp-¡m-\p-apÅ {]b-Xv\hpw A¯cw IpSpw-_-̄ n-epÅ Ip«n-IÄ¡v e`n-¡p-¶p.

1995-þ HmPm, {]am-Wn¡v F¶n-hÀ \S-̄ nb ]T-\-̄ n amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn ImWp¶ Bdphn[ s]cp-amä hn[-§Ä (\n-b-{´-Ww, A\p-hm-Zw, kvt\lw, Ah-K-W-\, kwc-£-Ww, XÅn-¡-f-bÂ, X§-fpsS Ip«n-I-fn ImWp¶ hyà-amb hyànXz kz`m-h-§fmb i{Xp-X, kzm`n-am-\w, kzbw shfn-s¸Sp¯Â) F¶nhbpambn hfsc _Ô-s¸-«n-cn-¡p-¶-Xmbn sXfn-bp-¶p. am¡v sUmWmÄUpw aäp Nnecpw tNÀ¶v 2006þ \S-¯nb Hcp ]T-\-¯nÂ, amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä \ Ip¶ t{]mÕm-l-\hpw Ip«n-I-fpsS kzm`n-am-\hpw X½n _Ô-s¸-«n-cn-¡p-¶-Xm-bpw, amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fpsS AanX \nb-{´Ww Ip«n-Isf A]-IÀj-Xm-t_m-[-ap-Å-h-cm-¡p-¶-Xmbpw Is≠ -¯n-bn-«p≠- v.

cm{ãob \ne-]m-Sp-IÄ, kmaq-lnI s]cp-am-ä-§Ä F¶n-hbpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn \n¶p-amWv a¡Ä {]mY-an-Iambn kzoI-cn-¡p-¶-Xv.

kmaq-ly-]-T\ kn²m´w (Social learning theory) A\p-k-cn v̈ Ip«n-I-fpsS bYmÀ° PohnXm\p-`-h-§fpw X§Ä¡v e`n-¡p¶ Ah-k-c-§fpw Adn-hp-I-fp-amWv Ah-cpsS s]cp-am-äs¯ cq]-s¸-Sp-¯p-¶-Xv. Nne kz`mh s]cp-am-ä-§Ä ]mc-¼-cy-am-bpÅ s]cp-amä {]am-W-§Ä ASn-t¨Â¸n-¡p-¶-Xn-eq-sSbpw Nnc-]-cn-Nn-XXzw \nan-¯hpw kz´-ambn Xocp-¶p. amXm-]n-Xm-¡fpw Ip«n-Ifpw ]c-kv]-c-apÅ Hmtcm \nan-j-s¯bpw hm¡p-I-fp-sS ]c-kv]c hn\n-abw henb kzm[o\w Ip«n-bnep ≠m-¡p-¶p. \à s]cp-am-ä-̄ n\v AwKo-Im-chpw {]Xn-̂ -ehpw \ Ip-t¼mÄ AXv ho ≠pw BhÀ¯n-¡p-¶p. Ip«n-bn ImWp¶ thsd GsX-¦nepw Hcp s]cp-am-ä-¯n\v amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn \n¶v in£-tbm, Xnc-kvI-c-W-tam X£Ww e`n-¡p-I-bpw, AXv BhÀ¯n¨p e`n-¡p-Ibpw sNbvXm Ip«n {]kvXpX s]cp-amäw Dt]-£n-¡pw. hnIm-c-\n-b-{´Ww XÀ¡-]-cn-lm-c-§Ä, aäp-Å-h-tcmSv CS-s]-Sp¶ ssien XpS-§nb hyànXz KpW-§Ä FÃmw Xs¶ amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn \n¶pw Ip«n-IÄ¡v kzmb-¯-am-¡p-hm³ Ign-bpw.

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fp-am-bpÅ ASp¸w (attachment) Ip«n-I-fn kpc-£n-X-t_m[w Df-hm-¡p-¶p. CXv imco-cnI D]-{Z-h-§-fn \n¶p am{X-a-Ã, Hcp-hn[ sshIn-cnI kpc-£n-XXzw IqsS AÀ¡v \ÂIp-¶p. sshIm-cnI kpc-£n-X-t_m-[hpw Hcp \à hyànXz e£-W-am-Wv.

c£-IÀ¯r-Xz-hn-[-§Ä (Styles of parenting) Ip«n-I-fpsS hyàn-Xzs¯ hfsc kzm[o-\n-¡p-¶-Xm-Wv. Dujva-fX ]I-cp-¶Xpw Kpc-W-]-c-amb \nb-{´Ww DÅXpw Iuam-c-¡m-cn henb {]Xo£ AÀ¸n-¡p-¶-Xp-amb c£m-IÀ¯rXz-coXn Gsd KpW-I-c-amWv CXv B[nImcnI ssien F¶-dn-b-s¸-Sp¶p (Authoritative). F¶m Gähpw tZmj-I-c-amb c£m-IÀ¯rXz ssien-bmWv Ah-K-W-\m-ssien (neglectful/disenaged) ChnsS kvt\lhpw Dujva-f-Xbpw H«pw Csöp am{X-a-Ã, bmsXmcp \nb-{´-Whpw CÃ. IÀi\ \n b-{´Ww \ÂIp¶ A[n-Im-c-ssien (Authoritarian) FÃmw A\p-h-Zn-¡p¶ ssienbpw (Permission) D ≠v. Cu \mep-hn[ hfÀ¯p ssien-Ifpw Ip«n-I-fn AXn-tâ-Xmb ̂ e-§Ä Df-hm-¡p-Ibpw Ah-cpsS hyàn-Xzs¯ Imcy-ambn kzm[o-\n-¡p-Ibpw sN¿p-¶p.

c£m-IÀ¯rXz [mc-W-Ifpw a¡-fpsS am\-ÊnI {]iv\-§fpw

hfsc hnaÀi-I-cmb amXm-]n-Xm-¡-Ä bmYmÀ°y-t_m-[-an-Ãm¯ DbÀ¶ {]Xo-£-IÄ X§-fpsS Ip«n-I-sf-¡p-dn¨v sh¨p-]p-eÀ¯pw. CXv kvIqfn tNcp-¶-Xn\v ap¼p-Xs¶ Ip«n-I-fn henb DXvIWvT (Anxiety) Df-hm-¡pw. A½-am-cpsS "kw]qÀ® XnIhv at\m-`mhw' (perfectionist attitude) a¡-fnse hÀ²n¨ DXvIWvT AYhm BImw-£-bmbn amä-s¸-Sp-¶-Xmbn 2005-þ Iuin-Iv, dmWn F¶n-hÀ \S-¯nb ]T-\-¯n-eqsS sXfn-¨n-«p≠- v. bpàn-c-ln-X-amb {]Xo-£-IÄ a¡-fn amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä h¨p-]p-eÀ¯p-¶-Xn-\mepw sXämb c£m-IÀ¯r-Xz-ssien ]n³Xp-S-cp-¶-Xn-\mepw A¯cw a¡Ä a\-im-kv{X-]-c-ambn A\m-tcm-Ky-ap-Å-h-cmbn amdp¶p F¶v 2002þ \S¶ ]T\hpw sXfn-bn-¡p-¶p≠- v. 2007þ ]T\w \S-¯nb sXÀtKm-¦À, hmUn-¡À F¶n-hÀ ]d-bp-¶-Xv P\m-[n-]-Xy-ssi-en-bn Df-fXpw amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä a¡-fm AwKo-I-cn-¡-s¸-Sp-¶-Xp-amb c£m-IÀ¯rXz A´-co-£-¯n a¡-fpsS DXv¡WvT XS-b-s¸-Sm³ CS-bm¡pw F¶m-Wv.

Pohn-X-̄ n Gähpw hnP-bn-Ifpw Ign-hp-ä-hcpw Bß-hn-izm-k-hp-ap-Å-h-cp-ambn a¡sf Hcp-¡n-sb-Sp-¡p-¶-Xn Gähpw klm-bn-¡p¶ c£m-IÀ¯r-Xz-coXn AYhm a¡sf hfÀ¯Â amXrI B[n-Im-cnI c£m-IÀ¯rssien (Authoritative Style) BsW¶v \nc-h[n Kth-j-W-§-fn-eqsS sXfn-ªn-«p≠- v. hyànXz KpW-hn-ti-j-§Ä Hcp Ip«n-bpsS hfÀ -̈bn X¶n Icp-]n-Sn-̧ n¨v Dd-̧ n-¡p-¶-Xn\v amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fp-am-bpÅ Dä-_Ôw (bonding) hyà-amb kw`m-h-\-bmWv \ÂIp-¶-Xv.

Xnc-kvI-c-Ww, sshIm-cnI Dujva-f-X-bpsS A`m-hw, \nc-́ cw Ipä-s -̧Sp-̄  XpS-§n-bh amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fn \n¶pw t\cn-Sp¶ Ip«n-IÄ hfÀ¶p-h-cp-t¼mÄ \ntj-[n-Ifpw aÕ-cn-Ifpw A]-IÀj-Xmt_m-[-ap-Å-h-cp-am-bn-cn¡pw F¶Xv sXfn-bn-¡-s¸-«n-«pÅ bmYmÀ°y-am-Wv.

Xnc-kvI-c-W-t¯m-sSm¸w henb DXvI-WvT-tbm-sS-bpÅ a¡sf hfÀ¯Â Ahsc Hcp-hn[ ZpxJ-`mhw \nc-´-c-ap-Å-h-cm¡n XoÀ¡pw. amXm-¡-fn \n¶pw Ip«n-IÄ¡v e`n-¡p¶ bpàn-k-l-P-amb in£Ww Ahsc ]n¶oSv \à Af-hn Bßm-`n-am\w (Self esteem) DÅ-h-cm¡n XoÀ¡p¶p F¶pw hniz-kn-¡-s¸-Sp-¶p.

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS a¡sf hfÀ¯Â {]{In-b-bmWv Ahsc kaq-l-¯nepw k`-bnepw \à hyàn-Xz-¯nsâ DS-a-I-fm-¡p-¶-Xv. Cu kXyw a\-Ên-em¡n c£m-IÀ¯rXz ssiensb \ap¡v \ho-I-cn-¡mw.

amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä IqsS Xma-kn-¡p-¶n-sÃ-¦n t]mepw Ip«n-I-fpsS (a-¡-fp-sS) amXm-]n-Xm-¡sf Ipdn-¨pÅ Nn´-Ifpw tXm¶-ep-Ifpw Ah-cpsS hyàn-Xzs¯ _m[n-¡p-¶p≠ v F¶p-thWw a\-Ên-em-¡p-hm³. _p²n-]-c-amb LS-I-§Ä Nn´-I-fn \n¶pw hnIm-c-]-c-amb LI-S-§Ä tXm¶-ep-I-fn \n¶p-amWv Dcp-¯n-cn-bp-¶-Xv.

amXm-]n-Xm-¡-sf-¡p-dn-¨pÅ a¡-fpsS [mc-W-IÄ (perceptions) ]Tn-¡p-hm³ {][m-\-ambpw apXnÀ¶ Iuam-c-¡m-tcbpw buÆ-\-¡m-sc-bp-amWv Kth-j-IÀ D]-tbm-Kn-¨n-«p-Å-Xv. amXm-]n- Xm-¡-fpsS s]cp-amäw Af-¡p-hm-\pÅ a\-imkv{X Af-hp-tIm-ep-IÄ (Scales) D]-tbm-Kn-¨mWv C¯cw ]T-\-§Ä \S-¯n-bn-«p-Å-Xv. Cuhn[ ]T-\-§-fn-eqsS amXm-]n-Xm-¡-fpsS imco-cnI km¶n²yw IqsS-bpÅ a¡-fpsS Adn-hp-I-fmWv \mw a\-Ên-em-¡p-¶-Xv. F¶m amXm-]n -Xm-¡Ä H¸w CÃm-¯ a¡Ä¡pw amXm-]n-Xm-¡-sf-¡p-dn-̈ pÅ Adn-hp-Ifpw tXm¶-ep-Ifpw D≠ v. CXv Af-¶m Ah F{X-am{Xw Cu Ip«n-I-fpsS hyànXz cq]o-I-c-Ws¯ kzm[o-\n-¨n-«p≠ v F¶ a\-Ên-em-¡mw.

c£m-IÀ¯r-Xzhpw a¡-fpsS hyànXz cq]o-I-c-Whpw

hyàn-Xzs¯ hfsc Imcy-ambn _m[n-¡p¶ Hcp LS-I-amWv ssZh-hn-izm-kw AYhm aX-hn-izm-kw. aX-hn-izm-k-§fpw BNmcm-\p-jvTm-\-§fpw Xe-ap-d-I-fmbn ssIam-dp-¶-Xn kp{]-[m\ ]¦mWv amXm-]n -Xm-¡Ä hln-¡p-¶-Xv. ]T-\-§Ä sXfn-bn-¡p-¶Xv s]m Xp-sh, amXm-]n-Xm-¡Ä aX-hn-izm-kn-I-fm-bn-cp-s¶-¦n am{Xta a¡fpw aX-hn-izm-kn-IÄ Bbn-cn-¡p-I-bpÅq F¶m-Wv. AXp-t]m-se-Xs¶

aX-hn-izm-k-§fpw

ANm-cm\m-\p-jvTm-\-§fpw Xe-ap-d-I-fmbn ssIam-dp-¶-XnÂ

kp{]-[m\ ]¦mWv amXm-]n- Xm-¡Ä hln-¡p-¶-Xv. ]T-\-§Ä sXfn-bn-¡p-¶Xv s]mXp-sh, amXm-

]n-Xm-¡Ä aX-hn-izm-kn-I-fm-bn-cp-s¶-¦n am{Xta a¡fpw aX-hn-izm-kn-

IÄ Bbn-cn-¡p-I-bpÅq F¶m-Wv.