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VERBAL ATEMI A TECHNIQUE FOR
CREATIVE DISRUPTION
Presented by Stephen Kotev
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Conflict Resolution Consultant offering mediation,
negotiation, leadership & conflict coaching, facilitation
services, training and somatic education
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Chair of the ACR Taskforce on Safety in ADR
Certified instructor of Being in Movement® Embodied Peacemaking
Black Belt in Aikido and Purple Belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
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OBJECTIVES:
To provide you with a different way of looking at confrontation/engagement
To talk about an untapped resource in the Japanese martial art of Aikido
To provide powerful examples of creative disruptions of high-conflict situations
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GETTING TO KNOW YOU
• A show of hands - how long have you been practicing/in the field?
• What would you like to learn today/what caught your attention?
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WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU DID SOMETHING TOTALLY
UNEXPECTED DURING YOUR ADR/MEDIATION SESSION?
• Take a moment to reflect
• Find a partner and share what happened– If you are participating remotely – email or text a friend
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Morihei UeshibaFounder of Aikido
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A deeply spiritual man, Ueshiba strove to meld his spirituality with his martial practice.
He created Aikido as a way to transform the notion of warrior: from that of destroyer to protector.
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A SHORT CLIP OF AIKIDO IN ACTION
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• Video Clip here
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Aikido is an untapped philosophical resource for ADR Professionals
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SHARED CONCEPTS AND PRINCIPLES BETWEEN AIKIDO & CR:
• Centered and upright posture• Blending• Relaxed response to attacks• An ethical choice not to do additional
harm to the Attacker• Connection• Irimi• Atemi
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ATEMI
A strike meant to unbalance and
surprise
NOT injure the attacker
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“YOUR SHOES UNTIED”
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VERBAL ATEMI
A creative technique used to disrupt a pattern of intent through unexpected and
unorthodox means
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STORIES OF VERBAL ATEMI:
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CAPITOL HILL, WASHINGTON DCJUNE 16, 2007
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“You have to hit them
with love.”
Clyde Takeguchi
Sensei
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“Moving through the
gaps in your mind.”
Tetsuzan Kuroda Sensei
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OPENING PRESENTS
BY
DAVID CLARK
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THE HOMICIDAL PATIENT IN THE ELEVATOR
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A SOFT ANSWER
BY
TERRY DOBSON
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QUESTIONS?
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VERBAL ATEMI A TECHNIQUE FOR
CREATIVE DISRUPTION
Presented by Stephen Kotev
Stephen Kotev All Rights Reserved 2018