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Unit 14Unit 14

Father forgetsFather forgets

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Pre-reading questionsPre-reading questions Background information Background information Structure analysis of the text Structure analysis of the text Comprehension questions of Text I Comprehension questions of Text I Language points Language points Grammatical items Grammatical items Exercises Exercises Comprehension questions of Text II Comprehension questions of Text II Oral activitiesOral activities Writing practiceWriting practice

Pre-reading questionsPre-reading questions

what kind of father you have?what kind of father you have? how do you think a father should treat his how do you think a father should treat his

son or a mother , her daughter?son or a mother , her daughter?

Background information (1)Background information (1)

How can I be a good parent?How can I be a good parent?

Show your love.Show your love. Every day, tell your Every day, tell your children: "I love you. You're special to me." children: "I love you. You're special to me." Give lots of hugs and kisses. Give lots of hugs and kisses.

Listen when your children talk.Listen when your children talk. Listening to Listening to your children tells them that you think your children tells them that you think they're important and that you're interested they're important and that you're interested in what they have to say. in what they have to say.


Make your children feel safe.Make your children feel safe. Comfort them Comfort them when they're scared. Show them you've takwhen they're scared. Show them you've taken steps to protect them. en steps to protect them.

Provide order in their lives.Provide order in their lives. Keep a regular s Keep a regular schedule of meals, naps and bedtimes. If you chedule of meals, naps and bedtimes. If you have to change the schedule, tell them abouhave to change the schedule, tell them about the changes ahead of time. t the changes ahead of time.


Praise your children.Praise your children. When your children learn so When your children learn something new or behave well, tell them you're proumething new or behave well, tell them you're proud of them. d of them.

Criticize the behavior, not the child.Criticize the behavior, not the child. When your chil When your child makes a mistake, don't say, "You were bad." Instd makes a mistake, don't say, "You were bad." Instead, explain what the child did wrong. For examplead, explain what the child did wrong. For example, say: "Running into the street without looking ise, say: "Running into the street without looking isn't safe." Then tell the child what to do instead: "Firn't safe." Then tell the child what to do instead: "First, look both ways for cars." st, look both ways for cars."


Be consistent.Be consistent. Your rules don't have to be th Your rules don't have to be the same ones other parents have, but they de same ones other parents have, but they do need to be clear and consistent. (Consisteo need to be clear and consistent. (Consistent means the rules are the same all the timnt means the rules are the same all the time.) If two parents are raising a child, both nee.) If two parents are raising a child, both need to use the same rules. Also, make sure bed to use the same rules. Also, make sure baby sitters and relatives know, and follow, yaby sitters and relatives know, and follow, your family rules. our family rules.


Spend time with your children.Spend time with your children. Do things tog Do things together, like reading, walking, playing and cleaether, like reading, walking, playing and cleaning house. What children want most is your ning house. What children want most is your attention. Bad behavior is usually their way attention. Bad behavior is usually their way of getting your attention. of getting your attention.


Top 10 Tips For Enhancing That Lovin' Feeling BeTop 10 Tips For Enhancing That Lovin' Feeling Between Parents and Their Childrentween Parents and Their Children

1) Say I Love You1) Say I Love You Tell your child you love him every day -- no matter Tell your child you love him every day -- no matter

his age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child his age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child disagreement, when you don't exactly "like your chdisagreement, when you don't exactly "like your child" at that moment, it is more important than ever tild" at that moment, it is more important than ever to express your love. A simple "I love you" goes a lo express your love. A simple "I love you" goes a long way toward developing and then strengtheninong way toward developing and then strengthening a relationship.g a relationship.


2) Teach Your Faith2) Teach Your Faith Teach your child about your faith and beliefs.Teach your child about your faith and beliefs.

Tell him what you believe and why. Allow ti Tell him what you believe and why. Allow time for your child to ask questions and answme for your child to ask questions and answer them honestly. Reinforce those teachings er them honestly. Reinforce those teachings often.often.


3) Establish A Special Name Or Code Word3) Establish A Special Name Or Code Word Create a special name for your child that is positivCreate a special name for your child that is positiv

e and special or a secret code word that you can ue and special or a secret code word that you can use between each other. Use the name as a simple se between each other. Use the name as a simple reinforcement of your love. The code word can be reinforcement of your love. The code word can be established to have special meaning between your established to have special meaning between your child and you that only you two understand. This cchild and you that only you two understand. This code word can even be used to extract a child from ode word can even be used to extract a child from an uncomfortable situation (such as a sleepover than uncomfortable situation (such as a sleepover that is not going well) without causing undue embarrat is not going well) without causing undue embarrassment to the child.assment to the child.


4) Develop And Maintain A Special Bedtime Ritual4) Develop And Maintain A Special Bedtime Ritual For younger children, reading a favorite bedtime bFor younger children, reading a favorite bedtime b

ook or telling stories is a ritual that will be remembook or telling stories is a ritual that will be remembered most likely throughout their life. Older childreered most likely throughout their life. Older children should not be neglected either. Once children stn should not be neglected either. Once children start reading, have them read a page, chapter, or shart reading, have them read a page, chapter, or short book to you. Even most teenagers still enjoy thort book to you. Even most teenagers still enjoy the ritual of being told goodnight in a special way by e ritual of being told goodnight in a special way by a parent--even if they don't act like it!a parent--even if they don't act like it!


5) Let Your Children Help You5) Let Your Children Help You Parents sometimes inadvertently miss out on oppoParents sometimes inadvertently miss out on oppo

rtunities to forge closer relationships by not allowinrtunities to forge closer relationships by not allowing their child to help them with various tasks and chg their child to help them with various tasks and chores. Unloading groceries after going to the store iores. Unloading groceries after going to the store is a good example of something that children of mos a good example of something that children of most ages can and should assist with. Choosing whicst ages can and should assist with. Choosing which shoes look better with your dress lets a child knoh shoes look better with your dress lets a child know you value her opinion. Of course, if you ask, be w you value her opinion. Of course, if you ask, be prepared to accept and live with the choice made!prepared to accept and live with the choice made!


6) Play With Your Children6) Play With Your Children The key is to really play with your children. Play wiThe key is to really play with your children. Play wi

th dolls, ball, make believe, checkers, sing songs, th dolls, ball, make believe, checkers, sing songs, or whatever is fun and interesting. It doesn't matter or whatever is fun and interesting. It doesn't matter what you play, just enjoy each other! Let kids see what you play, just enjoy each other! Let kids see your silly side. Older kids enjoy cards, chess, comyour silly side. Older kids enjoy cards, chess, computer games, while younger ones will have fun plaputer games, while younger ones will have fun playing about anything...as long as it involves you!ying about anything...as long as it involves you!


7) Eat Meals As A Family7) Eat Meals As A Family You've heard this before, and it really is impYou've heard this before, and it really is imp

ortant! Eating together sets the stage for conortant! Eating together sets the stage for conversation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and versation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and don't rush through a meal. When schedules don't rush through a meal. When schedules permit, really talk and enjoy one another. It cpermit, really talk and enjoy one another. It can become a quality time most remembered an become a quality time most remembered by young and old alike.by young and old alike.


8) Seek Out One-On-One Opportunities Often8) Seek Out One-On-One Opportunities Often Some parents have special nights or "standing dates" Some parents have special nights or "standing dates"

with their children to create that one-on-one with their children to create that one-on-one opportunity. Whether it is a walk around the opportunity. Whether it is a walk around the neighborhood, a special trip to a playground, or just a neighborhood, a special trip to a playground, or just a movie night with just the two of you, it is important to movie night with just the two of you, it is important to celebrate each child individually. Although it is more of celebrate each child individually. Although it is more of a challenge the more children in a family, it is really a challenge the more children in a family, it is really achievable! Think creatively and the opportunities achievable! Think creatively and the opportunities created will be ones that you remember in the future.created will be ones that you remember in the future.


9) Respect Their Choices9) Respect Their Choices You don't have to like their mismatched shirt and sYou don't have to like their mismatched shirt and s

horts or love how a child has placed pictures in his horts or love how a child has placed pictures in his room. However, it is important to respect those chroom. However, it is important to respect those choices. Children reach out for independence at a yooices. Children reach out for independence at a young age, and parents can help to foster those deciung age, and parents can help to foster those decision-making skills by being supportive and even losion-making skills by being supportive and even looking the other way on occasion. After all, it really ioking the other way on occasion. After all, it really is okay if a child goes to daycare with a striped gres okay if a child goes to daycare with a striped green shirt and pink shorts.en shirt and pink shorts.


10) Make Them A Priority In Your Life10) Make Them A Priority In Your Life Your children need to know that you believe they aYour children need to know that you believe they a

re a priority in your life. Children can observe excere a priority in your life. Children can observe excessive stress and notice when they feel you are not ssive stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a parent is not worrying about the small stuff and enjparent is not worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children. They grow up so fast, and eveoying your children. They grow up so fast, and every day is special. Take advantage of your precious ry day is special. Take advantage of your precious time together while you have it!time together while you have it!

Structure analysis of the text (1)Structure analysis of the text (1)

The events the author reports are not The events the author reports are not chosen in a casual fashion. He deliberately chosen in a casual fashion. He deliberately chooses the details to create the characters chooses the details to create the characters ---- an unreasonably harsh and cross father ---- an unreasonably harsh and cross father and a tender and affectionate son, and at and a tender and affectionate son, and at the same time, reveal his remorse.the same time, reveal his remorse.

Comprehension questions of Comprehension questions of Text I Text I

How did the father treat his son most of the How did the father treat his son most of the day?day?

Why do you think the father was so harsh on Why do you think the father was so harsh on his son?his son?

What do you think the son taught his father?What do you think the son taught his father? What is the tone of the father throughout the What is the tone of the father throughout the

passage?passage? If you were the father, how would you treat your If you were the father, how would you treat your

son?son?

Language points (1)Language points (1)

crumple: to (cause to ) become wrinkled; to crumple: to (cause to ) become wrinkled; to fall apart; to collapsefall apart; to collapse

The side of the car had crumpled where it The side of the car had crumpled where it had been hit.had been hit.

The Nazi regime finally crumpled.The Nazi regime finally crumpled.


stifling: very hot or stuffy almost to the point stifling: very hot or stuffy almost to the point of being suffocating; causing a feeling of stulof being suffocating; causing a feeling of stultification, repression, or suffocation.tification, repression, or suffocation.

She can hardly breathe in this stifling hot She can hardly breathe in this stifling hot weather.weather.

The scholarly correctness of our age can The scholarly correctness of our age can be stifling.(Annalyn Swan)be stifling.(Annalyn Swan)

我们这个时代学者的正确性令人感到窒息。我们这个时代学者的正确性令人感到窒息。(( 安纳莱恩安纳莱恩 .. 斯旺斯旺 ))


Stifle: v. to cause differently in breathing proStifle: v. to cause differently in breathing properly; to repress; to keep in or hold back perly; to repress; to keep in or hold back

The fire stifled the firemen.The fire stifled the firemen. It was a most unimaginative presentation anIt was a most unimaginative presentation an

d I had to stifle a yawn.d I had to stifle a yawn.


remorse: a strong feeling of guilt and reget aremorse: a strong feeling of guilt and reget about something one has done bout something one has done

The man showed no remorse for his crimeThe man showed no remorse for his crime Remorse preyed upon her mind when she hRemorse preyed upon her mind when she h

eard the death of her ex-husband.eard the death of her ex-husband.


gulp: to swallow greedily or rapidly in large amounts; to chogulp: to swallow greedily or rapidly in large amounts; to choke back by or as if by swallowing to gulp down a cup of tea; ke back by or as if by swallowing to gulp down a cup of tea; to gulp down a sob; to gulp back tears.to gulp down a sob; to gulp back tears.

snap:snap: (1) to speak abruptly or sharply.(1) to speak abruptly or sharply. “ “ You are late again!” he snapped at the boy.You are late again!” he snapped at the boy. (2) to close the jaws quickly; to bite(2) to close the jaws quickly; to bite The big dog snapped at her ankles.The big dog snapped at her ankles. (3) to break suddenly off or in two(3) to break suddenly off or in two A branch snapped off the tree in the wind.A branch snapped off the tree in the wind.


6. tempestuous:6. tempestuous: (1) of , relating to , resembling a tempest; stormy (1) of , relating to , resembling a tempest; stormy

tempestuous galestempestuous gales (2) (of emotions) very strong and passionate(2) (of emotions) very strong and passionate For decades, the Hollywood couple’s tempestuFor decades, the Hollywood couple’s tempestu

ous relationship made the headlines.ous relationship made the headlines. Word derivation: tempestuously ad. , tempestuousWord derivation: tempestuously ad. , tempestuous

ness n..ness n..


7. sickening: causing or liable to cause a feeling of 7. sickening: causing or liable to cause a feeling of disgust or nauseadisgust or nausea

A sickening stench of bloodA sickening stench of blood The child hit the ground with a sickening thud.The child hit the ground with a sickening thud. Sicken v.: to (make somebody ) feel disgusted or aSicken v.: to (make somebody ) feel disgusted or a

ppalledppalled We sickened at the thought of having to beg for peWe sickened at the thought of having to beg for pe

ace. ace. Cruelty sickened everyone presentCruelty sickened everyone present


8. reprimand: to speak angrily or seriously (to som8. reprimand: to speak angrily or seriously (to somebody who is thought to have done something wroebody who is thought to have done something wrong)ng)

Little Harry was reprimanded by the headmistresLittle Harry was reprimanded by the headmistress for playing truant.s for playing truant.

Her attempts to reprimand him were quickly shouHer attempts to reprimand him were quickly shouted down.ted down.

Note: The text is abundant with words or phrases Note: The text is abundant with words or phrases of similar meaning, e.g. , scold, take somebody to of similar meaning, e.g. , scold, take somebody to task, find fault,task, find fault,


9. atonement: repayment or reparation for a9. atonement: repayment or reparation for an injury or wrongn injury or wrong

True guilt is characterized by a readiness tTrue guilt is characterized by a readiness to make atonement for having done wrong.o make atonement for having done wrong.

atone v. to make amends or reparation for aatone v. to make amends or reparation for an injury or wrongn injury or wrong

The father felt he had to atone for what he The father felt he had to atone for what he had done to his son.had done to his son.


10. resolve n. a strong decision or determina10. resolve n. a strong decision or determination tion

The argument increased her resolve to breaThe argument increased her resolve to break up with him.k up with him.

Resolve v. to make a decision formally or Resolve v. to make a decision formally or with determination with determination

After a day of argument we resolved on / After a day of argument we resolved on / against visiting the frontier.against visiting the frontier.


11. weary : very tired, especially after workin11. weary : very tired, especially after working hard for a long time g hard for a long time

You must be weary after the long , bumpYou must be weary after the long , bumpy fight.y fight.

Be/get/grow weary of = feel bored with Be/get/grow weary of = feel bored with Rose had gone out with the same people Rose had gone out with the same people

to the same clubs for years and she had just to the same clubs for years and she had just grown weary of it.grown weary of it.


Weary v. to (cause to ) be tired or boredWeary v. to (cause to ) be tired or bored Children weary me with their constant inqChildren weary me with their constant inq

uiries and demands. uiries and demands. The children never seem to weary of askiThe children never seem to weary of aski

ng questions. ng questions.

Grammatical items (1)Grammatical items (1)

Explain the meaning of yet in the following Explain the meaning of yet in the following sentences.sentences.

1. There are two hours yet until your train 1. There are two hours yet until your train leaves.leaves.

2.Mr.smith is a very heavily built man yet he 2.Mr.smith is a very heavily built man yet he never gives the impression of being fat.never gives the impression of being fat.

3. Have you heard from your friends yet?3. Have you heard from your friends yet?

Grammatical items (2)Grammatical items (2)

4. The agent is known to have visited the 4. The agent is known to have visited the USA , yet he denies it.USA , yet he denies it.

5. Your assumption is still only a theory, it 5. Your assumption is still only a theory, it has yet to be tried in practice.has yet to be tried in practice.

6. I could hardly believe that he made a yet 6. I could hardly believe that he made a yet worse mistake.worse mistake.

Exercises (1)Exercises (1)

TranslationTranslation 1. When he learnt that his son had been 1. When he learnt that his son had been

kidnapped, a deadly fear swept over him.kidnapped, a deadly fear swept over him. 2. The strict father was very cross about his 2. The strict father was very cross about his

daughter staying out so late.daughter staying out so late. 3. he was severely reprimanded for his chronic 3. he was severely reprimanded for his chronic

laziness and lateness.laziness and lateness. 4. One of the points Wordsworth, an English 4. One of the points Wordsworth, an English

romantic poet, emphasizes is the spontaneous romantic poet, emphasizes is the spontaneous emotion recollected in tranquility.emotion recollected in tranquility.


5. He is a successful leader, for when he shows re5. He is a successful leader, for when he shows resolve, he never fails to dwell on difficulties.solve, he never fails to dwell on difficulties.

6. Little girls often visualize angels as pure and ki6. Little girls often visualize angels as pure and kind children with wings from the heavens.nd children with wings from the heavens.

7. He tried to atone for his rude behavior toward 7. He tried to atone for his rude behavior toward his girlfriend by taking her to the concert .his girlfriend by taking her to the concert .

8. His confession that he had thought of becomin8. His confession that he had thought of becoming a pirate was a great shock to me.g a pirate was a great shock to me.


Fill in the blank in each sentence with a worFill in the blank in each sentence with a word or phrase taken from the box in its approprd or phrase taken from the box in its appropriate formiate form

Atonement remorse snatch crumple reprimand spontaneous infant sacrificial stifling patter shrine penitent


1. Is the _______ enterprise based in Ukraine or 1. Is the _______ enterprise based in Ukraine or Belarus?Belarus?

2. The Prime Minister submitted his resignation as 2. The Prime Minister submitted his resignation as an act of _________.an act of _________.

3. Public officials may be ________ or dismissed 3. Public officials may be ________ or dismissed for failing to perform their duties properly.for failing to perform their duties properly.

4. If someone is referred to as a ________ lamb, he 4. If someone is referred to as a ________ lamb, he has been blamed unfairly for something he did not has been blamed unfairly for something he did not do or for which he is only partly responsible, do or for which he is only partly responsible, usually in order to protect another more powerful usually in order to protect another more powerful person.person.

infant

atonement

reprimanded

sacrificial


5. Rain _______ gently outside, dripping 5. Rain _______ gently outside, dripping onto the roof from the pines.onto the roof from the pines.

6. Impatiently, Darwin _______ up the letter 6. Impatiently, Darwin _______ up the letter and threw it into the bin.and threw it into the bin.

7. William knelt down at his son’s bedside in 7. William knelt down at his son’s bedside in a fit of _________.a fit of _________.

8. Life with his in-laws seems _______ ; he 8. Life with his in-laws seems _______ ; he is thinking of moving out.is thinking of moving out.

pattered

cr

cru

crumpled

remorse

stifling

Comprehension questions of Text II (1)Comprehension questions of Text II (1)

1. why is it believed that “do as you would 1. why is it believed that “do as you would be done by” is the surest method of the art be done by” is the surest method of the art of the pleasing?of the pleasing?

2. why are you supposed to banish the 2. why are you supposed to banish the egoism out of your conversation?egoism out of your conversation?

3. why should you never speak with this silly 3. why should you never speak with this silly preamble: “I will tell you an excellent thing”, preamble: “I will tell you an excellent thing”, or “I will tell you the best thing in the world”?or “I will tell you the best thing in the world”?

Comprehension questions of Text II (2)Comprehension questions of Text II (2)

4. what is the object that women can not 4. what is the object that women can not avoid liking to be flattered upon? avoid liking to be flattered upon?

5. why are little attentions necessary in 5. why are little attentions necessary in dealing with others? dealing with others?

Oral activitiesOral activities

1. Discuss in pairs. Sum up the qualities of a 1. Discuss in pairs. Sum up the qualities of a good parent and discuss how to achieve good parent and discuss how to achieve them.them.

2. Work in groups . Compare Chinese 2. Work in groups . Compare Chinese parents with western parents in their child – parents with western parents in their child – rearing styles. consider their primary rearing styles. consider their primary concerns for their children, ways of treating concerns for their children, ways of treating their children, and their relationship with their children, and their relationship with them.them.

Writing practice (1)Writing practice (1)

Spare the Rod, Spoil the ChildSpare the Rod, Spoil the Child

There has long been a view among Chinese that "Spare thThere has long been a view among Chinese that "Spare the rod, spoil the child". How did this point form and spread te rod, spoil the child". How did this point form and spread through Chinahrough China ＇＇ s long history may cause my curiosity. Hos long history may cause my curiosity. However, what really interests me is whether this viewpoint is wever, what really interests me is whether this viewpoint is still worthy of adoption in our modern society.still worthy of adoption in our modern society.For one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no posFor one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no possibility of achieving the goal of education: the forming of a csibility of achieving the goal of education: the forming of a childhild ＇＇ s judgment on right and wrong as well as the develos judgment on right and wrong as well as the developing of a childping of a child ＇＇ s self-control ability. s self-control ability.

Writing practice (2)Writing practice (2) Children are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books, throwChildren are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books, throw

ing down vases and etc, which will make you feel rather angry. Punish ing down vases and etc, which will make you feel rather angry. Punish them or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichethem or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichever method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only differever method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only difference is that the former one works on childrennce is that the former one works on children ＇＇ s fear of penalty and ths fear of penalty and the latter one on their realization of mistakes. Fears disappearing quickly,e latter one on their realization of mistakes. Fears disappearing quickly, children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish the children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish them. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and m. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and what is banned, the children may avoid making the same mistakes in twhat is banned, the children may avoid making the same mistakes in the future. And little by little, childrenhe future. And little by little, children ＇＇ s judging ability will be developes judging ability will be developed. So in the long run, pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted sd. So in the long run, pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted seem more wise.eem more wise.

Writing practice (3)Writing practice (3)

Similarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode, whiSimilarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode, which somewhat seems a bit violent, harms childrench somewhat seems a bit violent, harms children ＇＇ s growts growth and the forming of their characters. "Many adultsh and the forming of their characters. "Many adults ＇＇ menmental diseases have close relationship with their childhoodtal diseases have close relationship with their childhood ＇＇s penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researchs penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researches. Furthermore, such education mode may result in childres. Furthermore, such education mode may result in childrenen ＇＇ s rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak chas rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak characters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between racters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between two generations. With all these unexpected results, we woutwo generations. With all these unexpected results, we would better think deeply over this education mode.ld better think deeply over this education mode.

That is the end of this lesson.That is the end of this lesson. Thank you ! Thank you !

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