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THE NLP META MODEL AND TR’S PRECISION MODEL Understanding the patterns And how to respond

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Page 1: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

THE NLP META MODELAND TR’S PRECISION MODEL

Understanding the patternsAnd how to respond

Page 2: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Distortions

Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”

Response – “How do you know…” Ex. “How do you know I don’t like you?”

Prediction – Recovers the Source of the information.

Page 3: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Distortions

Lost Performative – Value judgments where the person doing the judging is left out. Ex. “It’s bad to be inconsistent.”

Response – “Who says it’s bad?” “According to whom?” “How do you know it’s bad?”

Prediction – Gathers evidence, the source of the belief, the strategy for the belief.

Page 4: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Distortions

Cause – Effect – Where cause is wrongly put outside the self. Ex: “You make me sad!”

Response – “How does what I’m doing cause you to

choose to feel sad?” A counter example is “How specifically?”

Prediction – Recovers the choice.

Page 5: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Distortions

Complex Equivalence – Where two experiences are interpreted as being synonymous. Ex. “She’s always yelling at me, she doesn’t like me!”

Response – How does her yelling mean that she…?” “Have you ever yelled at someone you liked?”

Prediction – Recovers complex equivalence. Suggests a counter example.

Page 6: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Distortions

Presuppositions – Ex. “If my spouse knew how much I suffered, they wouldn’t do that.” I suffer. My spouse acts in some way. My spouse doesn’t know I suffer.

Response – “How do you choose to suffer?” “How are they (re)acting?” “How do you know he doesn’t know?”

Prediction – Specify the choice & the verb, and what they do. Recovers the internal representation, and the complex equivalence.

Page 7: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Generalizations

Universal Quantifier – Universal generalizations such as all, every, never, everyone, no one, etc. Ex. “She never listens to me.”

Response – Find counter examples. “Never?” “What would happen if she did?”

Prediction – Recovers counter examples, effects and outcomes.

Page 8: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

GeneralizationsModal Operators

Modal Operators of Necessity – As in should, shouldn’t, must, must not, have to, need to, it is necessary. Ex. “I have to take care of her.”

Response – “What would happen if you didn’t?” “What would happen if you did?” “Or?”

Prediction – Recovers effects and outcomes.

Page 9: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

GeneralizationsModal Operators

Modal Operators of Possibility – As in can/can’t, will/won’t, may/may not, possible/impossible. Ex. “I can’t tell him the truth.”

Response – “What prevents you?” “What would happen if you did?”

Prediction – Recovers Causes.

Page 10: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Deletions

Nominalizations – Process words which have been frozen in time, making them nouns. Ex. “There is no communication here.”

Response – “Who’s not communicating what to whom?” “How would you like to communicate?”

Prediction – Turns it back into a process, recovers deletion, and reference index.

Page 11: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

Deletions

Unspecified Verbs – Ex. “He/She rejected

me.”

Response – “How specifically?”

Prediction – Specifies the verb or action

Page 12: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

DeletionsSimple Delations

Simple Deletions – Ex. “I am

uncomfortable.”

Response – “About what/whom?”

Prediction – Recovers the Deletion

Page 13: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

DeletionsSimple Delations

Lack of Referential Index – Fails to specify a person or thing. Ex. “They don’t listen to me.”

Response – “Who, specifically, doesn’t listen to you?”

Prediction – Recovers the referential index.

Page 14: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

DeletionsSimple Delations

Comparative Deletions – As in good, better, best, worst, more, less, most, least. Ex. “She’s a better person.”

Response – “Better than whom?” “Better at what?” “Compared to whom, what?”

Prediction – Recovers the comparison.

Page 15: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

Simplification of the NLP Meta Model Uses the fingers as a Mnemonic device to

remember the Model.

Page 16: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

Too MuchToo ManyToo Expensive

Compared to What?

Page 17: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

Nouns: PersonPlaces Things

Who or what specifically?

Page 18: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

Verbs: ActionState orOccurance

How Specifically?

Page 19: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

Should / Shouldn’tMust / Mustn’tCan / Can’t

What would happen if you did?What causes or prevents?

Page 20: Understanding the patterns And how to respond.  Mind Reading – Claiming to know someone’s internal state. Ex. “You don’t like me!”  Response – “How

TR’s Precision Model

UniversalsAllEveryNever

Question the universal…All?Every?Never?