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To achieve any worthy goal you must To achieve any worthy goal you must

overcome significant problems.overcome significant problems.

There is no greater goal than to help and There is no greater goal than to help and lead our family members to heaven. lead our family members to heaven.



There is no greater goal than to help and There is no greater goal than to help and lead our family members to heaven. lead our family members to heaven.

The development of the character and faith The development of the character and faith of an individual is a goal that any honest of an individual is a goal that any honest person would find them selves wanting. person would find them selves wanting. (Judges 13:8)(Judges 13:8)



Judges 13:8 (NKJV)Judges 13:8 (NKJV) - Then Manoah - Then Manoah prayed to the LORD, and said, “O my Lord, prayed to the LORD, and said, “O my Lord, please let the Man of God whom You sent please let the Man of God whom You sent come to us again and teach us what we shall come to us again and teach us what we shall do for the child who will be born.”do for the child who will be born.”



As I raise my children I often think of the As I raise my children I often think of the challenges I presented to my parents.challenges I presented to my parents.



There will be no greater reward for me than There will be no greater reward for me than to give my family and myself to the Lord to give my family and myself to the Lord for eternity! for eternity! (1 Sam 1:11)(1 Sam 1:11)



1 Samuel 1:11 (NKJV) 1 Samuel 1:11 (NKJV) - Then she made a - Then she made a vow and said, “O LORD of hosts, if You vow and said, “O LORD of hosts, if You will indeed look on the affliction of Your will indeed look on the affliction of Your maidservant and remember me, and not maidservant and remember me, and not forget Your maidservant, but will give Your forget Your maidservant, but will give Your maidservant a male child, then I will give maidservant a male child, then I will give him to the LORD all the days of his life, him to the LORD all the days of his life, and no razor shall come upon his head.”and no razor shall come upon his head.”



Many think that if you “marry the right Many think that if you “marry the right person” then there will be no problems.person” then there will be no problems.



Many think that if you “marry the right Many think that if you “marry the right person” then there will be no problems.person” then there will be no problems.

You can make a wreck of your home at the You can make a wreck of your home at the start by marrying one who is not a start by marrying one who is not a Christian. Can you seriously have heaven as Christian. Can you seriously have heaven as your first goal and do this? your first goal and do this? (1 Cor 9:5)(1 Cor 9:5)


overcome significant problemsovercome significant problems..

1 Corinthians 9:5 (NKJV)1 Corinthians 9:5 (NKJV) - Do we have - Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as no right to take along a believing wife, as dodo also the other apostles, the brothers of also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas?the Lord, and Cephas?



Will Christians face problems? Of course, Will Christians face problems? Of course, but they have a God that will help them but they have a God that will help them together. You can seek God’s way together. You can seek God’s way regardless of what you mate may do.regardless of what you mate may do.



If you want to build a biblical faith in others If you want to build a biblical faith in others you must constantly be seeking God’s you must constantly be seeking God’s ways that will lead you to difficult paths ways that will lead you to difficult paths when confronting problems. when confronting problems. (Heb 11:24-(Heb 11:24-27)27)



Hebrews 11:24-27 (NKJV) Hebrews 11:24-27 (NKJV) - By faith - By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, 25 be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, 25 choosing rather to suffer affliction with the choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, 26 esteeming the reproach pleasures of sin, 26 esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt; for he looked to the reward. Egypt; for he looked to the reward.



27 By faith he forsook Egypt, not fearing 27 By faith he forsook Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king; for he endured as the wrath of the king; for he endured as seeing Him who is invisible.seeing Him who is invisible.



A biblical faith in us is defined by how we A biblical faith in us is defined by how we solve our problems!solve our problems!

The Lord Places the Responsibility The Lord Places the Responsibility upon the Manupon the Man

How should a husband be head of his How should a husband be head of his home? home? (1 Cor 11:3; Eph 5:23)(1 Cor 11:3; Eph 5:23)


1 Corinthians 11:3 (NKJV) 1 Corinthians 11:3 (NKJV) - But I want - But I want you to know that the head of every man is you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman Christ, the head of woman isis man, and the man, and the head of Christ head of Christ isis God. God.


Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV) Ephesians 5:23 (NKJV) - For the husband - For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the the church; and He is the Savior of the body.body.


He must make understanding a priority. He must make understanding a priority. (1 Pt 3:7)(1 Pt 3:7)


1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) - Husbands, likewise, - Husbands, likewise, dwell with dwell with themthem with understandingwith understanding, giving , giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as and as beingbeing heirs together of the grace of heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.life, that your prayers may not be hindered.


As a husband I put my wife’s needs before As a husband I put my wife’s needs before mine. If she is unhappy and hurting I look mine. If she is unhappy and hurting I look and examine the kind of head that I am.and examine the kind of head that I am.



It is easy to ignore a problem and even find It is easy to ignore a problem and even find reasons to stay away. Too many churches reasons to stay away. Too many churches and homes have these kinds of “men.” and homes have these kinds of “men.”



It is easy to ignore a problem and even find It is easy to ignore a problem and even find reasons to stay away. Too many churches reasons to stay away. Too many churches and homes have these kinds of “men.” and homes have these kinds of “men.”

What some men call headship, Christ has What some men call headship, Christ has never put a woman under.never put a woman under.


One cannot submit to one who wants them One cannot submit to one who wants them to disobey God. (Ex. Study with lady to disobey God. (Ex. Study with lady whose husband wanted her to attend his whose husband wanted her to attend his denomination.) denomination.) (Acts 4:17-20; 5:28-29)(Acts 4:17-20; 5:28-29)


Acts 4:17-20 (NKJV)Acts 4:17-20 (NKJV) - But so that it - But so that it spreads no further among the people, let us spreads no further among the people, let us severely threaten them, that from now on severely threaten them, that from now on they speak to no man in this name.” 18 So they speak to no man in this name.” 18 So they called them and commanded them not they called them and commanded them not to speak at all nor teach in the name of to speak at all nor teach in the name of Jesus. Jesus.


19 But Peter and John answered and said to 19 But Peter and John answered and said to them, “Whether it is right in the sight of them, “Whether it is right in the sight of God to listen to you more than to God, you God to listen to you more than to God, you judge. 2 0For we cannot but speak the judge. 2 0For we cannot but speak the things which we have seen and heard.” things which we have seen and heard.”


Acts 5:28-29 (NKJV) Acts 5:28-29 (NKJV) - saying, “Did we - saying, “Did we not strictly command you not to teach in not strictly command you not to teach in this name? And look, you have filled this name? And look, you have filled Jerusalem with your doctrine, and intend to Jerusalem with your doctrine, and intend to bring this Man’s blood on us!” 29 But Peter bring this Man’s blood on us!” 29 But Peter and the and the otherother apostles answered and said: apostles answered and said: “We ought to obey God rather than men.“We ought to obey God rather than men.


A man who is a harsh head will be judged. A man who is a harsh head will be judged. (Eph 6:5, 9; Col 4:1)(Eph 6:5, 9; Col 4:1)


Ephesians 6:5 (NKJV) Ephesians 6:5 (NKJV) - Bondservants, be - Bondservants, be obedient to those who are your masters obedient to those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in sincerity of heart, as to Christ;trembling, in sincerity of heart, as to Christ;


Ephesians 6:9 (NKJV) Ephesians 6:9 (NKJV) - And you, - And you, masters, do the same things to them, giving masters, do the same things to them, giving up threatening, knowing that your own up threatening, knowing that your own Master also is in heaven, and there is no Master also is in heaven, and there is no partiality with Him.partiality with Him.


Colossians 4:1 (NKJV) Colossians 4:1 (NKJV) - Masters, give - Masters, give your bondservants what is just and fair, your bondservants what is just and fair, knowing that you also have a Master in knowing that you also have a Master in heaven.heaven.


Even with a harsh head submission is not Even with a harsh head submission is not removed. removed. (1 Pt 2:18)(1 Pt 2:18)


1 Peter 2:18 (NKJV) 1 Peter 2:18 (NKJV) - Servants, - Servants, bebe submissive to submissive to youryour masters with all fear, not masters with all fear, not only to the good and gentle, but also to the only to the good and gentle, but also to the harsh.harsh.


Woe to the man who treats his wife with Woe to the man who treats his wife with condescension and contempt.condescension and contempt.


Woe to the man who treats his wife with Woe to the man who treats his wife with condescension and contempt.condescension and contempt.

If a man allows his own parents to be head If a man allows his own parents to be head of his home, he is a coward.of his home, he is a coward.

There must be a willingness to learn There must be a willingness to learn and changeand change

One who is truly a Christian should One who is truly a Christian should understand the need to have an open heart understand the need to have an open heart and to seek the Lord’s way. and to seek the Lord’s way. (Lk 2:34-35; Heb 4:12-13)(Lk 2:34-35; Heb 4:12-13)


Luke 2:34-35 (NKJV) Luke 2:34-35 (NKJV) - Then Simeon - Then Simeon blessed them, and said to Mary His mother, blessed them, and said to Mary His mother, “Behold, this “Behold, this ChildChild is destined for the fall is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against 35 (yes, a which will be spoken against 35 (yes, a sword will pierce through your own soul sword will pierce through your own soul also), that the thoughts of many hearts may also), that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.”be revealed.”


Hebrews 4:12-13 (NKJV) Hebrews 4:12-13 (NKJV) - For the word of - For the word of God God isis living and powerful, and sharper than living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things hidden from His sight, but all things areare naked naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must must givegive account. account.


It takes real faith to open your heart to learn It takes real faith to open your heart to learn with a desire to change.with a desire to change.



Did you exhibit these qualities while Did you exhibit these qualities while dating? What has changed?dating? What has changed?



Did you exhibit these qualities while Did you exhibit these qualities while dating? What has changed?dating? What has changed?

There must be a strong seeking after God’s There must be a strong seeking after God’s wisdom. wisdom. (Prov 1:7; 24:3-6)(Prov 1:7; 24:3-6)


Proverbs 1:7 (NKJV) Proverbs 1:7 (NKJV) - - The fear of the The fear of the LORD LORD isis the beginning of knowledge, the beginning of knowledge, ButBut fools despise wisdom and instruction.fools despise wisdom and instruction.


Proverbs 24:3-6 (NKJV) Proverbs 24:3-6 (NKJV) - Through wisdom - Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is a house is built, And by understanding it is established; 4 By knowledge the rooms are established; 4 By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches. 5filled With all precious and pleasant riches. 5

A wise man A wise man isis strong, Yes, a man of strong, Yes, a man of knowledge increases strength; 6 For by wise knowledge increases strength; 6 For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, And in counsel you will wage your own war, And in a multitude of counselors a multitude of counselors there isthere is safety. safety.


Lazy and foolish people will rely on Lazy and foolish people will rely on “instinct” and what they learned from their “instinct” and what they learned from their parents.parents.


Lazy and foolish people will rely on Lazy and foolish people will rely on “instinct” and what they learned from their “instinct” and what they learned from their parents.parents.

We along with every member of our family We along with every member of our family are different and we are constantly are different and we are constantly changing. We ought to be humbled greatly changing. We ought to be humbled greatly to ask help of God. to ask help of God. (James 1:5-7)(James 1:5-7)


James 1:5-7 (NKJV) James 1:5-7 (NKJV) - If any of you lacks - If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord;that he will receive anything from the Lord;


When God is the focus of our wisdom, then When God is the focus of our wisdom, then we can escape the pressures placed upon us we can escape the pressures placed upon us from our family to give them what they from our family to give them what they want.want.

Some common family problems to be solvedSome common family problems to be solved

Fighting and fussing in the home. Fighting and fussing in the home. (Eph 6:4)(Eph 6:4)


Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV) Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV) - And you, fathers, - And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.admonition of the Lord.


I have sadly known of many families that I have sadly known of many families that accept as normal “outbursts of wrath”, accept as normal “outbursts of wrath”, grudge holding (hatred), and open fighting. grudge holding (hatred), and open fighting. (1 Jn 3:15; Gal 5:19-21)(1 Jn 3:15; Gal 5:19-21)


1 John 3:15 (NKJV) 1 John 3:15 (NKJV) - Whoever hates his - Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.murderer has eternal life abiding in him.


Galatians 5:19-21 (NKJV) Galatians 5:19-21 (NKJV) - Now the - Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,


21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told just as I also told youyou in time past, that those in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.kingdom of God.


How can you beat this problem? What does How can you beat this problem? What does God’s wisdom teach?God’s wisdom teach?


How can you beat this problem? What does How can you beat this problem? What does God’s wisdom teach?God’s wisdom teach?

Stop the fighting and talk it out. Stop the fighting and talk it out. (James 1:19-20)(James 1:19-20)


James 1:19-20 (NKJV) James 1:19-20 (NKJV) - So then, my - So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.righteousness of God.


Learn how you are communicating! Learn how you are communicating! (Prov 15:1)(Prov 15:1)


Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV) Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV) - A soft answer - A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.anger.


Content of wordsContent of words - 7% - 7%


Content of wordsContent of words - 7% - 7% The tone of voiceThe tone of voice - 38% - 38%


Content of wordsContent of words - 7% - 7% The tone of voiceThe tone of voice - 38% - 38% Non-verbal, body languageNon-verbal, body language - 55% - 55%


Content of wordsContent of words - 7% - 7% The tone of voiceThe tone of voice - 38% - 38% Non-verbal, body languageNon-verbal, body language - 55% - 55% How often do people seethe with anger, but How often do people seethe with anger, but

then try to deny it?then try to deny it?


Depression and gloominess of a member of Depression and gloominess of a member of the home. the home. (Psa 142:1-4)(Psa 142:1-4)


Psalm 142:1-4 (NKJV) Psalm 142:1-4 (NKJV) - I cry out to the - I cry out to the LORD with my voice; With my voice to the LORD with my voice; With my voice to the LORD I make my supplication. 2 I pour out LORD I make my supplication. 2 I pour out my complaint before Him; I declare before my complaint before Him; I declare before Him my trouble. 3 When my spirit was Him my trouble. 3 When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, overwhelmed within me, Then You knew Then You knew my path. In the way in which I walk my path. In the way in which I walk They They have secretly set a snare for me. have secretly set a snare for me.


4 Look on 4 Look on mymy right hand and see, For right hand and see, For there there isis no one who acknowledges me; Refuge no one who acknowledges me; Refuge has failed me; has failed me; No one cares for my soul.No one cares for my soul.


Many depression issues go back to the Many depression issues go back to the home. It can be a form of buried anger! home. It can be a form of buried anger!



When depression is ignored, it gets worse.When depression is ignored, it gets worse.



When depression is ignored, it gets worse.When depression is ignored, it gets worse. Consider some indications of chronic Consider some indications of chronic

depression.depression.


An unreal view of the world and people. An unreal view of the world and people. They have their own reality.They have their own reality.



They become ego centered. All things are They become ego centered. All things are viewed by how it relates to them.viewed by how it relates to them.




There is a strong desire to withdraw. There is a strong desire to withdraw.




There is a strong desire to withdraw. There is a strong desire to withdraw. There is a strong desire for escape. (Eating, There is a strong desire for escape. (Eating,

shopping, drugs, alcohol, “binges”, spending shopping, drugs, alcohol, “binges”, spending all spare time on recreation)all spare time on recreation)


There are physical changes. There are physical changes.


There are physical changes. There are physical changes. There can be thoughts of suicide.There can be thoughts of suicide.


When this problem is ignored, then it When this problem is ignored, then it becomes likely that the children will learn becomes likely that the children will learn this angry approach to life! (“I will this angry approach to life! (“I will not be like my mother!”) not be like my mother!”) (Prov 22:24-25)(Prov 22:24-25)


Proverbs 22:24-25 (NKJV)Proverbs 22:24-25 (NKJV) - Make no - Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, 25furious man do not go, 25 Lest you learn Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul.his ways And set a snare for your soul.


The depressed person can be very The depressed person can be very manipulative and deceptive. Many manipulative and deceptive. Many depressed mates actually run the home! (Ex. depressed mates actually run the home! (Ex. Liberalism’s appeal)Liberalism’s appeal)


The depressed person can be very The depressed person can be very manipulative and deceptive. Many manipulative and deceptive. Many depressed mates actually run the home! (Ex. depressed mates actually run the home! (Ex. Liberalism’s appeal)Liberalism’s appeal)

It can be very difficult for the depressed one It can be very difficult for the depressed one to genuinely seek help. Intervention is a real to genuinely seek help. Intervention is a real challenge.challenge.


Problems with the children. Problems with the children. (Prov 22:6)(Prov 22:6)


Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV) - Train up a child - Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.old he will not depart from it.


How can we mold our children to be like How can we mold our children to be like God?God?



We must be listing and involved. God will We must be listing and involved. God will help us if we ask.help us if we ask.



We must be listing and involved. God will We must be listing and involved. God will help us if we ask.help us if we ask.

Money problems. Money problems. (1 Tim 6:6-9)(1 Tim 6:6-9)


1 Timothy 6:6-9 (NKJV) 1 Timothy 6:6-9 (NKJV) - Now godliness - Now godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into brought nothing into thisthis world, world, andand it isit is certain we can carry nothing out. 8 And having certain we can carry nothing out. 8 And having food and clothing, with these we shall be food and clothing, with these we shall be content. 9 But those who desire to be rich fall content. 9 But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into temptation and a snare, and intointo many many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition.destruction and perdition.


How are you facing and solving your How are you facing and solving your problems?problems?

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