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Thinking Differently About Difficult People
Dewoun M. Hayes, CAPElite Office Concepts,
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Who?What?Why?How?
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Who are “difficult” people?
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Values/BeliefsPerceptionsBackground
What makes us different?DIVERSITY!!!
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Prefrontal Cortex
Deep Limbic System
Basal Ganglia
Cingulate
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Basal Ganglia - “speedometer”Functions
•Regulates feelings/emotions•Regulates motivation•Monitors body’s anxiety levels
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Basal Ganglia - “speedometer”Hyperactivity
•Panic attacks•“Negaholics”•Low motivation•Conflict avoidance•Unable to handle stress•Nervousness
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Cingulate - “gear shifter”Functions
•Ability to adapt to situations•Provides cognitive flexibility•Ability to see options•Ability to shift attention
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Cingulate - “gear shifter”Hyperactive Mode
•Uncooperative – the instant “NO”•Argumentative•Unable to adapt to change•The perfectionist•Grudge holders•Worry warts
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Deep Limbic System – “brain central”Functions
•Sets emotional tone•Modulates motivation•Promotes bonding•Stores emotional memories•Identifies important events
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Deep Limbic System -Hyperactive Mode
•Moody•Negative thinking•Decreased motivation•Social isolation•Not admitting fault
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Pre-Frontal Cortex – “Supervisor”Functions
• Attention span• Critical thinking• Impulse control• Judgment• Learn from experience• Problem solving• organization
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Pre-Frontal Cortex -Hyperactivity
• Disorganization• Procrastinators• Poor judgment calls• Short term memory issues• unable to learn from
mistakes
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Option #1:I QUIT!
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UNEMPLOYED! 16
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Option #2: Knock Some Sense Into Them
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She will go
away soon!!
She will go away
soon!
Option #3 - Ignore18
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Option #4:
Change YOUR
ATTITUDE!"Attitude is a little
thing that makes a big difference."
Sir Winston Churchill
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Productive
Less StressProfessionalism
=YOU! 20
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Acknowledge
Accept
Approach 21
The Steps to Attitude
Adjustment
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I cannot change anyone’s personality, but I can change MY attitude!
I cannot change anyone’s personality, but I can change MY attitude!
I cannot change anyone’s personality, but I can change MY attitude!
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Step #1: Acknowledge
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Step #2: Acceptance
Acceptance is when a person agrees to experience a situation, to follow a process or condition
I am ok with who you are……
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Don’t take it
personal!
99.5% of the time it’s NOT about
YOU! 24
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Step#3: The Approach
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Create an internal agenda!Identify a reason to interact with this individual
Determine a benefit of the interaction
Make it work to your advantage – Keep it short and simple!
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Devise a solution!
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I need to communicate
differently.
Adjust your communication
• Alter current communication method
•Use active listening skills
•Change level of communication
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1. Micromanager2. “Negaholic”3. Unorganized/Procrastinator4. Non-communicative Boss5. Office Gossip6. The Perfectionist
Putting our attitude adjustment to use
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Acknowledge Accept Approach
= Changed Attitude
“A” CHECKLIST
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Harmonious, Diverse
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