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PC muscle

Training the PC muscle (sometimes called "muscles of love" or "muscles of sex" ) is one of the most

simple but also most efficient and beneficial technique what people can get from tantra.This list of the benefits from exercising the PC muscle is already long but it includes only most important )

!tronger pelvic muscles

ncrease the blood flow to the genital area# and so support sexual arousal mechanisms and healing

process. !hutting access of sexual energy to higher parts of the body $ spreading ecstasy

Preventing urinary incontinence

for a man:

Preventing impotence

!tronger and longer erections

%ore control over e&aculation

%ore intense and pleasurable orgasms

'bility to have multiple male orgasms

Prevent prostate cancer

for a woman:

etter# stronger and more frequent orgasms

Control over intensity of the ecstasy feelings

'waening clitoris# * point# breast and other sexual areas

+armonising hormones

,ecreasing P%! and menopause symptoms

-asier childbirth and healing after

hen /ou next time go to toilet with breath in stop urinating. The muscles what you0re using that0s PCmuscle. !quee1e them and relax them 23 times 4 times per day. 5ie with every practice build it slowly.

-very day increase till 43# 63# 73...till you would be able to do it at least for 4 minutes. Keep on the

practice. 's /ou will notice training the PC muscle is not visible for others and doesn0t tae your attention

so its perfect to do in all possible situations ( i0m doing it even when i0m writing this text )

Tips to keep any practice

8. f the practice is daily (breath# pc muscle etc.) put reminders in to /our life. Thin about

something what /ou do every day (lie breafast# brushing teeth# using the tram# etc ). !et up those

moments as reminders so every time they will happen you will start your practice. This would help

you to not forget the practice on the longer therm.2. Convince yourself# your subconscious mind# (ego# your lower self or whatever you lie to call it

). magine within you that your subconscious mind is lie small child what is stuc in it0s habits.

hatever change you would lie to implement in your life you will need to convince this child to

do it with you. t0s not always easy. 9ur subconscious mind would lie to stay secure doesn0t

wanna to ris the change. t would find hundreds excuses to not to change at all. !howing benefits

may help. 'ward yourself for every step you made. /our subconscious mind love to be awarded.

This wors much more efficient than punishment# discontentment etc. %ae it as much playful as

possible. /ou may thin about some game. 'lways eep the dialogue with your subconscious

mind. 9nly by explaining not by forcing implement change (practice) slowly or try it out for oneday or wee : there are many ways you have to choose one.

4. /ou could also as /our higher self (your superconscious mind or guardian angel or whatever

you would lie call it ) to give you strength with eeping on the practice (change)

%editation gives you silence you need to have to mae dialogue between those three parts of you



One gram of practice is worth more than 1000 of theory... +ere are the notes for basic introduction worshop

what i0m teaching. hope they would be helpful. 'nyway best is to attend the worshop with many exercises

between and possibility of asing questions.orshops;lectures;meetings are every %ondays at 23.33 at <alreep

Polderweg 823 'msterdam#by appointment at my home or whatever else i would be invited.

1.What is tantra ?

Tantra is one of the oldest sciences in the world# there is a multitude of ways that it can be defined. ts probable thatthere are more ways to define tantra than there are people that are united through it. t is an ambitious tas to try to

explain or define Tantra. 9ne must experience tantra with the freedom to define its meaning through one0s own

experience. n my opinion# tantra connects our sexuality with our spirituality# our body with our soul# our heart with

our mind# it balances our feminine and masculine energy# one utilises the sacred act of maing love.To mae love

for a higher purpose# not only to fulfill one0s desire but used in a conscious way to raise one0s awareness. hen we

raise our awareness# we strengthen all acts performed in daily life. =aising our consciousness to a greater level

improves our relationship with things of importance and to the sustenance of humanity and planet. %aing our love

sacred# more pleasurable and more fulfilling. Tantric love transforms the sexual act from a short act that ends with

an explosion# feelings of dissatisfaction and the loss of the precious life giving o&as;energy# into an implosion of a

long ecstatic and deeply spiritual experience that feeds us energy. Tantra sublimates intimacy from the bedroom to

our daily life. t transforms the love that we feel within# to the love we give our lover# family > and the whole

universe. Tantra is everything and much much more than will teach you today.

. !o"e is the greatest power of all.

5ove is the greatest power of all and love has the power to overcome many problems that people face in the 28st

Century# so its important to learn to love in every concievable way and the science of Tantra is available to all. 5ove

is the most important experience in life for all of us. ?nfortunately there lacs nowledge about the steps that one

can tae to amplify the love experience. The painful paradox is that while there are many other disciplines that one

may learn while at school# this type of nowledge does not have a place in the coventional education system. 9ne is

rather fortunate if they have experienced unconditional love from their parents. To fill this gap we wrote these

words# we shall read them# and 0m giving this worshop.

#. !oss of semen means loosing energy

9ne of the basic things that we have to learn is to avoid e&aculation# during e&aculation a man loses essential energy

and the only thing that he is capable of doing after this great loss is sining into a state of deep sleep. f one loses so

much essential energy there is a possibility of suffering numerous health problems# quic frustration# quic temper

and a lac of energy &ust to name a few. 5ess than 83 minutes foreplay and less than @:minute vaginal penetration

will leave a woman extremely disappointed. ' woman needs a greater time in length for foreplay to arouse her

excitement enabling her to feel total relaxation and reach orgasm. hen a man thins only of his own desires it will

surely discourage the woman from maing love and may mae her feel used# leading to frustration in the

relationship.

$. %oreplay

Therefore# before we learn to slow down or even halt e&aculation# one should realise the importance of foreplay# it is

the most important part of lovemaing# increasing the time of maing love is what will give a women greater

satisfaction. !o let your lover be the guide when vaginal penetration should start. ,uring foreplay the revelation that



one0s whole body# with a mutual exchange of energy is able to experience ecstasy. Aoreplay is a great time to get to

now your own erogenous map. %outh# breast# genitals are the common places of sexual pleasure# but we are all

individuals# in each one of us are hidden great mysteries what we have to explore.

& 'ntimacy not (ust in )e*

ntimacy and love should not be confined to the bedroom# maing love is not only vaginal penetration but can be

expressed through ind words# hugging# the exchange of loos shared with one0s partner during every shared

moment together. ' very nice habit to learn is to cuddle every time you see each other. ' second one before falling

asleep# cuddle each other in the spoon position# breathing together# synchroni1ing your energies. *iving andreceiving love by doing things together such as dancing# practising partner yoga# Bi gong# cooing dinner together#

reading to each other# taing a course together# activism etc. /oga# Tao chi and Bi gong are complimentary for

tantric practise because they educate one about the flow of energy. This ecstatic energy should spread into all areas

of our lives.

+.,ale an* female energy

<ery often our sexual life may improve if the woman too a proactive role during lovemaing. They are more than

capable to lead lovemaing and it may mae her more content. ...and what man does not want to satisfy his

beloved ?nfortunately not everyone is able to reverse the role. Aor centuries the female sex is suppressed by the

male sex. Patriarchy is a contributing factor of creating wars# climate change# hunger and many problems in theworld. n a matriarchal society destruction does not happen but rather restoration to the natural order of things.9f

course 0m generalising a bit here# we all have feminine and masculine energies# /in and /ang# moon end sun etc. '

balance of the two polarities is a deciding factor for our happiness. ?nfortunately in the educational setting# dogma

encourages men to exaggerate their masculinity and women to exaggerate their femininity# this idea is of course

lopsided. oth polarities must be embraced and understood if we are to be whole again.Tantra is a positive step in

the struggle for both men and women0s liberation# liberation can only lead towards a better society. Therefore# we

must destroy certain stereotypes that have been imposed upon us and allow the man to be emotional and sensitive

being# allow his feelings to be expressed rather than suppressed# and allow the woman to be in touch with her

masculinity. 5et us be ourselves. 5et0s do it for ourselves.

-.!o"e ourself

5oving ourselves is the foundation of real love# when we love ourselves we can truly love others. hen we feel

good about our self we will have the self esteem needed to act in love towards another being. To truly love ourselves

may increase the chance of amplifying the love shared with our partners# family# animals# nature# whole planet and

the universe. Arom birth# everyone expects something from us# whether it is to become someone of status or to

achieve something of great material wealth. *irls are expected to be pretty and never grow old# they are also

expected to be exemplary mothers and wives. 't the same time boys and later men are &udged less by their loos but

what they own and how high they ran in society# the pressure is so high that most people will constantly feel

undervalued. Thousands of billboards and advertisements use psychology subtley telling women how they should

loo# "Dever fulfilled and unnatural ideals ". The ma&ority of women feel insecure# as a result some become

anorexic and some resort to cosmetic surgery. -veryone is beautiful in their own unique way.

Buestion to woman hat are the reasons you want to experience love# is it for your external beauty

which will one day fade away or do you want someone to love you for who you are in the deep recesses

of your heart Buestion to man hat are the reasons you want to experience love. s it for the car you

drive or the numerous material things that you have collected# that will one day become obselete. 9r is it

the position in society you have or do you want someone to love you for who you are in the deep

recesses of your heart

-xercises that one can do to build self love

To achieve this# stand in the mirror every morning (or as often as you can) and en&oy your unique beauty# stroe andcaress every part of /ourselves. atch and love every corner and part of /our body. e thanful for their functions.

The fact that masturbation is immoral or not ethical is another myth that should be overthrown on the way to our

liberation.

!elf pleasuring ritual is not a sin (lie maing love as well ) f you do not end up with losing the semen it is very

good exercise not only for singles./ou can learn how to wor with energies# breath# self acceptance without



interrupting by strong energy of /our beloved. -specialy for men masturbation is good way to learn how to hold

bac e&aculation.

/.Know ourself

t is important to now the sexual anatomy of our body# there is more than one orgasmic point other than clitoris in

the woman0s body# so there more types of orgasm to explore# to mix and to play with.

point is the most nown. ts in front of vagina more less @ cm depth : depends from the woman. E n mans the *

point is achievable mainly through entering the anus or slightly by massaging the perineum between testicles and

anus.F Arom it depth depend the position in which could be stimulated in the best way. n touch feels lie a

button#sponch or a walnut. n this point very often are stored a lot of painful memories that very often are released

during the orgasm. That0s why when a person is experiencing it one of the first times# suddenly may get angry#

scared# sad and she;he may begin to shout# cry etc. ,on0t be discouraged by this. t is revealing healing process.

point 2 &ust below the urinary hole# about 4 cm below the clitoris. !timulated together with point * could give

so much pleasure that can lead a woman to e&aculate.

, Point 2 from the sound of mmmmm... the woman would mae this sound when is stimulated. 't the bottom of

vagina and sensitive mainly after at least one of orgasm.

There are numerous sensitive points# areas lie the lips# anus# perineum# breast# head# ears etc. They are varying in

each woman (man) !ome of them have to be stimulated more often or together or after stimulating other areas. y

mixing stimulation of all of them we can invent our own way of ecstasy. ... -veryone is different so explore

yourself# explore with your lover. %ae good use foreplay and afterplay

3.4enses5earn how to use them during love maing and how to be focus on them.

10. 5cstasy

f we welcome and learn other methods in our lives it may help us expand the ecstasy of our love and elevate it to

greater levels# thus in the end receive more power to experience greater love. 9ne of the main thigs to master is

control# by raising awareness one nows when they are close to the so:called point of no return : that means# the

moment you feel that you are about to e&aculate use the technique of clenching the PC muscles. asic method is

clenching the PC muscle# deep breathing# energy transfer up and down through whole body or;and pressing specific

points.

11.PC ,uscles

PC muscles# (sometimes called "muscles of love" or "muscles of sex" ) are the muscles which prevents the flow ofurine. y tightening these muscles we narrow the possibility of sperm e&aculation and also we send the sexual

energy up. They mae circulation better in the pelvic area and give you the possibility of achieving multiple

orgasms as and when you would lie them to happen. hen a woman uses this technique it it is very pleasurable for

her and partner during love maing.

%ore about at special page further

1. 6reathing

Aor the energy flow it is very helpful to breathe deeply# in general the deeper you breathe the healthier you will

become# the calmer you will be and feeling of being more alive. ith every internal breath we tae we receive

oxygen : the energy of life. ith each exhalation we tae we expel toxins from our system. The deeper we breath#

the more energy we receive# the deeper we exhale: the more we purify our bodies. hen we observe our breathingduring sex# we will notice that it becomes shallow and fast the closer we are to orgasm. Through deep breathing we

can calm our fear# pain and anger. n the same way we can slow down and avoid e&aculation.

1#. 4ynchronising an* mo"ing energy up an* *own

n addition# breathing# synchronising this with the tightening of the PC muscle0s is very helpful to increase the

energy flow. efore we learn to feel energy we have to imagine it# if we synchronise all of these methods with our

partners we are sure to raise our awareness. 'nother technique which is recommended to learn is to place the tongue

on the roof of your mouth# &ust behind our teeth. This will help improve the energy flow# it also helps when one has

a feeling that they are close to the point of no return.

1$.7ealth

Transferring the energy to the sic parts of your body may help speed up the healing process. There is probably nobetter effective and more pleasurable medicine than that of love. 's someone once said# "!ex can be a way to hell or

a way to heaven" : you choose. n the same way sex can give you energy# health and youth when it is filled with

love and when you learn to use this energy. 9n the other hand# by the frequent loss of semen we deprive ourselves

of energy# we weaen our body# and we even speed up the processes of disease and ageing. 's tantra is focused on

spirituality and ecstasy# sexual tao is more focused on health.



1&. Open communication

<ery important in this regard is to be open# to not be afraid to communicate how one wants;needs to be touched#

issed and loved. f it will be easy for us to describe our expectations we will avoid misunderstandings# hurts

therefore gain greater satisfaction# respect and understanding. !exual fantasies and expectations are different and if

both sides agree# no taboos# no religion# social pressures# etc. should interfere in it. Through expression we are

encouraging our partners to do the same# most people feel happier when their beloved is open and communicative.

hen maing love not only are we naed : our soul lays bare# in that moment of intimacy it is very easy to be hurt

by an unpleasant remar. 9nce one is hurt with severe criticism# one tends to emotionally shut down and remain

afraid to re:open. Constructive criticism is the ey here so that our beloved won0t be wounded. -xample# note the

difference between "hy we0re always hurrying 0m not ready yet" from "/our touch is so pleasant here# could/ou continue a little bit longer"

Treat our woman as go**ess an* our man as go*

The world would be a happier and more positive nurturing place if we could learn to love our neighbours seeing

the divine in all people : especially in our loved ones. Treat them lie godesses# gods# not only in our bed but during

daily life. ,eep breath# scream# laugh# and touch can help the energy flow# and at the same time could be a very

exciting expression of our happiness# ecstasy# etc.. There is nothing wrong with love but only the absence of love is

wrong. !o do not be ashamed shouting while you mae love# don0t be afraid that your neighbours will hear you.

1+. Present ,oment

t is very important that we learn with all of our mind to be in the present moment. 5ove is incredibly beautiful#

more so when we are disciplined and commit to it. Try not to waste beautiful moments thining about somethingelse. t is important that our mind is as clear as possible# the cleaner is our own conscience# the more we give love

the more we are able to experience love. 9ur so:called 0!ins0 (those against our own principles of ethics)# affect us

at a greater degree# especially if they relate to our beloved. e will not be able to loo honestly and deeply into eyes

of our beloved if we have betrayed himGher. 9ur love may never be able to spread its wings completely# so it is

encouraged to live in truth and honesty. 'nd here we are closing the circle that a happy life you may receive by

living life in truth.

1-.Closing

This worshop is only an introduction to the basic nowledge and the practise of love. hope that this worshop

encourages you to read more about tantra# sexual tao. 0m inviting you to follow our next worshops that are more

practice based rather than theory. 's with each discipline# the art of love needs patience# practice time and devotion.

,on0t get disappointed when it doesn0t always wor or taes time. =ealise the painful emotions that can be released

on the way of tantric love. 8ela9# /ou are heading in a positive direction and leaving behind those who are afraid to

mae mistaes...

t is worth putting your time and energy into it# love in all honesty is the most important experience for many of us.

+owever# even small hints lie "to first blow# then ticle# then lightly iss# and then touch and lic at the end" can be

very revealing# it is certain that perfecting these simple techniques our beloved will reciprocate. ts good to vary

every love maing session# don0t allow repetition to happen too often. Therefore# use your imagination which in

itself may prove to be a treasure of ideas# if only we learn and dare to use it.

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Tantric !o"e ;cti"ist 8e"olutionTwenty:first century. Time of great change but also the riss and concerns.

Can we survive ould humanity will cope with the mess that has created mainly

during the last century +ow far# how long# what disasters we have to experience that

people would mae the breathrough of their mentality There is still hope that if weact united in all possible ways# we can avoid destruction of our planet# extermination

of generations to come# global warming# water contamination# deforestation or other

consequences of our "civili1ed" life.

There is a power that gives the strength to the hope# gives faith that everything will

be fine. This power that0s love# what especially now we have to distribute in any

possible way and as much as we can. 9f course# we should start with ourselves# our

beloved# then our children# first close and then further family# then all human beings#

animals# plants and entire planet. f we start to love properly# it will not be limited &ust to ourselves# or eventually only to our family. ,eveloped love does not stop &ust

at feelings for our partners# but on understanding that if we would lie to be happy

we have to live altruistically. 4o *o goo* to other people< animals< plants an*

entire planet. -verything in the universe is interconnected. 9ur health is

increasingly dependent on the health of our planet. e can imagine that we letting in

negative energy in to our body by eating every piece of meat# what had to be paid not

only by animal suffering but also by the world hunger# climate change# deforestation#

poisoning soil#water etc.e wouldn0t buy for a child happiness by purchasing cheap Chinese toys# produced

by other children from who0s childhood was taen away.

*iving for beloved heart:shaped chocolates will not pass energy of love if /ou was

aware that to produce it# children were abused at the cocoa plantation.

f we understand good in almost all religions and all philosophical systems they0re

teaching us love. hy# nevertheless# it is still too little of that feeling to save the

planet hy so often still it is &ust selfish feeling limited only to ourselves hy

religions that suppose to spread love to often causes bloody wars e could probablywrite a boo about it but here is not time and place for that. would go straight to the

heart of the problem and the solution. To mae our love mature and altruistic '=m

encouraging you to familiari>e yourself with positi"e tantra# sexual tao# tantric

love which by the fact that would ascend us to higher levels of consciousness will

give us healthy# happy life for ourselves and our loved ones# and eventually will open

our hearts and eyes to the needs of our times. =egardless of religion# philosophical

system#will )ring a feeling an* power of lo"e in e"erything what we *o.

4o why wait ? 4tart to*ay. 4a"e yourself an* the rest. i"e happiness to yourself an* others

7appy life ou get )y *oing goo*

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