struggle to make small talk?
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Struggle To Make Small Talk?
Small talk can be a big problem. I want to be friendly and polite, but I just can’t think of a thing to say.
Here are some strategies I try when my mind is a blank:
1. Comment on a topic
common to both of you
at the moment:
the food
the room
the occasion
the weather(yes, talking about the weather is a
cliche, but it works)
2. Comment on a topic of general interest.A friend scans Google News right before he goes
anywherewhere he needs to make small talk.
3. Ask a question that people cananswer as they please.
It’s useful because itallows people to choose
their focus (work, volunteer, family,
hobby).
4. Ask open questionsthat can’t be answered
with a single word.
5. If you do ask a question that can be answered in a single word, instead of just
supplying your own information in response,
ask a follow-up question.
6. Ask getting-to-know-you questions.These questions often reveal a hidden passion,
which can make for great conversation.
7. React to what a person says in the spirit inwhich that comment was offered. If he makes a joke, even if it’s not very funny, try to laugh. If she offers some surprising information, react
with surprise.
8. Be slightly inappropriate.(I can’t use this strategy, myself,
becauseI don’t have the necessary
gumption).
9. Follow someone’s conversational lead.If someone obviously drops in a reference to
a subject, pick up on that thread.
10. Along the same lines, counter-intuitively,
don’t try to talk aboutyour favorite topic,
because you’ll be temptedto talk too much.
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