sibling r i v a l r y. objectives n parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry n parents...
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- Sibling R i v a l r y
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- Objectives n Parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry n Parents will learn about ways to reduce jealousy of older children
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- Sharing n Did you quarrel a lot with your brothers and/or sisters? n What angered you or made you jealous of your siblings? n How did your parents handle your sibling battles?
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- Conflict Within Families n between children n between parent and child n between spouses In most families there are three general types of conflicts:
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- Lets Brainstorm! Why do your older children feel jealous?
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- Reasons 1 Their basic needs are not being met
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- Reasons 2 They also need attention; may feel ignored because all attention is given to the new baby
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- Reasons 3 Some children need companionship but do not know how to get it from their parents
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- Signs of jealousy 1 - regression n Clinging n Thumb-sucking n Avoiding contact with the baby
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- Signs of jealousy 2 - regression n Verbal rejection of the baby or parents n Regression in toilet training n Food spills n Wanting the babys bottle
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- Signs of jealousy 3 - anger n Playing alone n Resisting bedtime n Temper tantrums n Hitting
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- Signs of jealousy 4 anger / revenge n Biting n Abuse of pets
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- Ways to Reduce Conflict n Let siblings express their feelings n Don't compare siblings with each other n Let your children decide whether they want to share
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- Ways to Reduce Conflict n Try to spend individual time with each child n Praise your children for who they are as well as what they do n Help your children accept their frustrations
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- Ways to Reduce Conflict n Encourage big brother/big sister role for older child n Let him/her share in caring for the baby
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- Solving Problems Through Family Meetings
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- Guidelines for Family Meetings n Set time when all family members can be present n Understand the purpose of regular family meetings n Establish a non- threatening atmosphere n Establish basic ground rules n Promote self-esteem of each family member
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- Family Meeting Ground Rules n Okay to say what you feel n No one has to talk n Everyone has to listen n No one puts anyone else down n Everyone gets a chance to talk n One person talks at a time and does not get interrupted
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- Family Meetings n Explain purpose of meeting n Provide ground rules n Discuss family fun n Give time for others to think of activities n Discuss n Choose an activity n Make a plan n Review the meeting
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- Sample Agenda for Family Meetings n Discuss family issues, concerns, interests, and positive events of past week n Determine priority issue(s) n Clarify the issue to be discussed n Generate possible solutions n Determine the most effective solutions n Make plans to implement the solution n Plan one fun activity for the coming week
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- Conclusion: Communication is the Key n Find time to spend with the children n Really listen and hear n Teach problem solving