Psalm 15:1-5 (A Psalm of David)1 LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle? Who may dwell in Your holy hill? 2 He who walks uprightly, And works righteousness, And speaks the truth in his heart; 3 He who does not backbite with his tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend;

Psalm 15:1-5 (A Psalm of David)4 In whose eyes a vile person is despised, But he honors those who fear the LORD; He who swears to his own hurt and does not change; 5 He who does not put out his money at usury, Nor does he take a bribe against the innocent. He who does these things shall never be moved.

Psalm 15:3 (New Living Translation)3 Those who refuse to gossip or harm their neighbors or speak evil of their friends.

Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about personal or

private affairs of others. It is the spreading of dirt and misinformation.

Proverbs 18:8 The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles, And they go down into the inmost body. (same as Proverbs 26:22)

Proverbs 18:8 (New Living Translation)Rumors are dainty morsels that sink deep into one’s heart.

Backbiting is malicious talk about someone who is not present.

Harming some ones reputation without offering them any

chance of defense.

Back-stabbing the action of criticizing someone in a

treacherous manner despite pretending

friendship with them.

Slander is making a false, negative, malicious, and defamatory statement or report about someone.

Tattle tale (talebearer) One who reports the wrong-doings

of others to an authority, usually with the intent of getting them into

trouble, and not to resolve a problem.

Leviticus 19:16 You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of your neighbor: I am the LORD.

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

1, When casual talk/sharing of information without demeaning anyone

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

2, Sharing about a certain experience that may include what others said/did

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

3, Assessment of an experience or evaluation an individual or situation

professionally

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

4, Seeking to get a matter resolved (Matthew 18)

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

5, When addressing a matter where there is sin, wrongdoing, failure, etc.

(James 5:16; Galatians 6:1)

WHAT IS NOT CONSIDERED GOSSIP

6, In exposing wrong so that people will not be led astray (Ephesians 5:11; 1 Timothy 5:20)

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

1 Corinthians 12:26 And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it.

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

However, all of these must be done in a honorable manner,

without the wrong ways of gossip, backbiting, slander, back-stabbing, or tale-bearing.

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

2 Corinthians 12:20 For I fear lest, when I come, I shall not find you such as I wish, and that I shall be found by you such as you do not wish; lest there be contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, backbitings, whisperings, conceits, tumults;

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

1 Timothy 1:5,65 Now the purpose of the commandment is love from a pure heart, from a good conscience, and from sincere faith, 6 from which some, having strayed, have turned aside to idle talk,

COMMON SITUATIONS : Community Gossip

1 Timothy 5:13 13 And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not.

COMMON SITUATIONS : Workplace Gossip

COMMON SITUATIONS : Socialmedia Gossip

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

1, Time spent in gossip is unproductive and time wasted

“idle talk”

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

2, Gossip erodes trust as a person's reputation is marred

and character assassinated

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

Proverbs 11:13 A talebearer reveals secrets, But he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

3, Increases anxiety and demoralizespeople by spreading

inaccurate information

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

4, Causes discord, strife, hurts feelings, ill-will

and destroys relationships

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

Proverbs 16:28 A perverse man sows strife, And a whisperer separates the best of friends.

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

Proverbs 25:23 The north wind brings forth rain, And a backbiting tongue an angry countenance.

Proverbs 25:23 (New Living Translation)As surely as a north wind brings rain, so a gossiping tongue causes anger!

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

Proverbs 26:20 Where there is no wood, the fire goes out; And where there is no talebearer, strife ceases.

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCS OF GOSSIP

serious emotional impact of gossip

Cyberbullying (http://cyberbullying.us)

March 2015 TED Talk, by Monica Lewinsky "The Price of Shame"

NO GOSSIP

Psalm 50:19-2119 You give your mouth to evil, And your tongue frames deceit. 20 You sit and speak against your brother; You slander your own mother's son. 21 These things you have done, and I kept silent; You thought that I was altogether like you; But I will rebuke you, And set them in order before your eyes.

NO GOSSIP

Proverbs 6:16-1916 These six things the LORD hates, Yes, seven are an abomination to Him: 17 A proud look, A lying tongue, Hands that shed innocent blood, 18 A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that are swift in running to evil, 19 A false witness who speaks lies, And one who sows discord among brethren.

NO GOSSIP

Proverbs 10:18 Whoever hides hatred has lying lips, And whoever spreads slander is a fool.

NO GOSSIP

Romans 1:28-32, puts gossip (backbiting) in the same list as murder, immorality, etc.

NO GOSSIP

In essence, gossip, backbiting, slander, back-stabbing, tale-bearing are things we must not engage in.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

A, Rise above the gossip

don't participate in it, don't descend to their level and engage in

gossip

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

A, Rise above the gossip

Psalm 34:13 Keep your tongue from evil, And your lips from speaking deceit.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

A, Rise above the gossip

Psalm 39:1 I said, "I will guard my ways, Lest I sin with my tongue; I will restrain my mouth with a muzzle, While the wicked are before me."

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

A, Rise above the gossip

Psalm 139:4 For there is not a word on my tongue, But behold, O LORD, You know it altogether.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

B, Confront lovingly if possible

address the matter with the person engaged/involved in gossip or spreading

rumors.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

C, Let it die out

Don't fuel gossip. Allow for the gossip to die out.

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

D, Pray

Psalm 31:13-1613 For I hear the slander of many; Fear is on every side; While they take counsel together against me, They scheme to take away my life. 14 But as for me, I trust in You, O LORD; I say, "You are my God."

HOW DO YOU HANDLE GOSSIP?

D, Pray

Psalm 31:13-1615 My times are in Your hand; Deliver me from the hand of my enemies, And from those who persecute me. 16 Make Your face shine upon Your servant; Save me for Your mercies' sake.

Let's be a community of people who have zero tolerance

for gossip, backbiting, slander, back-stabbing, tale-bearing.

Gossip, backbiting, slander, back-stabbing, tale-bearing –

these will not exist among us!

Gossip is a weed that troubles and chokes

God's beautiful garden, the church.

Let’s create a culture and develop self-discipline

that keeps His garden weed free.