seven big mistakes high school students make when picking a college
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College can beuncomfortable…
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What we will cover today:
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- My college experience
- Your questions
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- I’m giving everyone a thank you gift to help your students with their planning.
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My College Experience
‣ I graduated from a top public high school.
‣ I wanted to attend a BIG TEN school.
‣ I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend.
‣ I didn’t want to know people.
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My Miserable Year
X Roommate was not my friend
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X Didn’t get into a fraternity
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X My girlfriend… shot the LDR puppy
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I was depressed, anxious, and felt like a failure…
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Why I Transferred
• My friends from high school went to IU. • My brothers went to IU. • There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me.
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What I Learned
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortable…
NO ONE TOLD ME… College is uncomfortable at times. The websites NEVER tell students the whole truth.
I found my places.
I found my people.
I learned how tobe patient.
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What No One Tells You About College
No one tells high school seniors and parents…
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No one tells high school seniors and parents…
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No one tells high school seniors & parents…
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It’s ALL true…
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Why is it so hard?
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BUT THERE IS ANOTHER PART…
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NAVIGATING TRANSITION IS THE MOST CRUCIAL PART OF COLLEGE PLANNING
Seven Big Mistakes High School Students Make When Picking a College
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College Planning is Missing…
MISTAKE #1Use the WRONG rankings
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College Planning is Missing…
The HIGHEST ranked school might not be the best school
for you.
Use transition to rank what matters most…
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How do you know the best school for you?
Social
Everything outside the classroom
TRANSITION: FIVE areas
TRANSITION: FIVE areas
Emotional
Everything going onbetween your ears
TRANSITION: FIVE areas
Physical
Everything involving your personal space and health
TRANSITION: FIVE areas
Financial
Everything involving paying for college
TRANSITION: FIVE areas
ALife inside the classroom
cademic
Yes, the world’s worst acronym
SSocial
E
Emotional
P Physical
FFinancial
AAcademic
Have students rank the 5 areas of transition1=Most Important, 5=Least Important
USE THESE RANKINGS
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Mistake #2 Assume you know
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You can… • Pretend to know
• Tell people you know
• Or actually take thefollowing steps and you will really know
Don’t Assume You Know…
Places: Locate the places where you canfind answers.
Patience: Give yourself time to find the people and places to find answers.
People: Find the people who are living the answers to your questions.
Don’t Assume You Know…
PEOPLE: For every problem there are at least FIVE people who can offer support and guidance.
People in your corner:
1. People who volunteer2. People you pay3. People you enlist
Don’t Assume You Know…
PLACES: You need at least THREE places on campus where you can find connection, community, and support. Each place gives students access to new people and experiences. Having three places means always having options. Without places a student panics, hates, or hides in his or her comfort zone.
Clubs, Activities, and Organizations
• Academic • Social • Spiritual
Don’t Assume You Know…
✴ Panic
✴ Blame
✴ Hate
✴ Hide
✴ Run
✴ Give up
PATIENCE: Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable means setting realistic expectations. It can take a good year to find your people and places once you’re in college.
Don’t Assume You Know…
Mistake #3 Go where it’s too
comfortable…
Mistake #3: Go where it’s too comfortable
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Comfortable can get uncomfortable…
It’s tempting to follow a boyfriend or girlfriend to college… but you might end up going to school with your ex.
It’s tempting to follow friends so you don’t have to worry about making them… but you might lose a friend.
It’s tempting to go where people tell you to go because it’s too scary to figure out where you want to go… until you’re there and realize youdon’t know why you’re there.
Embrace the uncomfortable…
Life is 90 percent amazing and 10 percent BS. The trick is to never the 10 percent take up 100
percent of your time. How do you do this?
When you face the uncomfortable ask the following questions:
• Who are my people?
• Where are my places?
• How long will it take for me to get comfortable with the uncomfortable?
College Planning is Missing…
Mistake #4Not doing the math
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What does it REALLY cost?Most students will not pay the full price for tuition…
Grants, loans, scholarships, work study, and jobs.
$43,921 room, board, tuition, and fees at private 4-year college
$19,548 room, board, tuition, and fees at public 4-year college
DO THE MATH NOW!
• Figure out what you will need to pay for tuition, room, board, and fees.
• Once you receive your financial aid award, calculate the amount of loans you will need.
• Figure out how much it will cost you per month once you graduate.(source: www.finaid.org)
Visit: https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/
DO THE MATH NOW!
• Figure out what you will need to pay for tuition, room, board, and fees.
• Once you receive your financial aid award, calculate the amount of loans you will need.
• Figure out how much it will cost you per month once you graduate.(source: www.finaid.org)
Visit: https://studentaid.ed.gov/sa/
Use Your Financial Aid Office
• Talk to your advisor
• Talk to students like you• Compare packages
• Ask for more money
• Understand the costs and what will happen when you graduate.
• Before taking out a loan, make sure youknow what you want to get out of this entire college experience.
Mistake #5: Getting Jealous
Mistake #5Getting jealous and
distracted
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When you know what you want other
people’s success isn’t a problem.
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What you see and read is not the entire story. Focus on what
you want and what other people get won’t
be a problem…
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Mistake #6Taking Rejection
Personally
Mistake #6: Taking Rejection Personally
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The best things in my life have started with rejection…
Mistake #6: Taking Rejection Personally
I was rejected by Indiana University
I was rejected by countless women, including my wife
I was rejected by publishers, agents,
and editors…
How did I get where I am today?
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Let me introduce you to the…
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond.
UniversalRejectionTruth
Mistake #6: Taking Rejection Personally
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Your world will change. Life will no longer be about
being wanted, it will be about what you want and
how you can get it!
Mistake #6: Taking Rejection Personally
Embrace the URT and give the world permission to want you…
or not want you
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Mistake #7Expect college to
just happen!
Mistake #7: Expect College to Just Happen
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Make friends
Make connections
Make grades
Make a budget
Make meals
Make yourself happy
Make the first move…
Mistake #7: Expect College to Just Happen
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DREAM AS IF IT’S ALREADY HAPPENED…. Imagine it’s May 2017. What does your life look like?
Who are your people? Where are your places? How long did it take you to get there?
Mistake #7: Expect College to Just Happen
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I don’t know why you’re here…• You might be a first generation student facing new challenges all alone.
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• You might be afraid of leaving the people you love at home.• You might be competitive and scared to compete with the best of the best.
• You might be worried about finding friends and feeling connected.
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1. Mistake #1: Use the wrong rankings
2. Mistake #2: Assume you know
3. Mistake #3: Go where it’s too comfortable
4. Mistake #4: Not doing the math
5. Mistake #5: Getting jealous and distracted
6. Mistake #6: Taking rejection personally
7. Mistake #7: Expect college to just happen
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I’m GIVING YOU 60 MINUTES OF PERSONAL COACHING.WE WILL TALK ON THE PHONE OR ONLINE…
But this offer will end NEXT WEEK!
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