self esteem vs. self confidence
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From self confidence to self esteem ( Fra selvtillid til selvværd )
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FROM SELF CONFIDENCE TO SELF ESTEEM
….EMPOWERMENT OF A HIGH ACHIEVER 2
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Talent coach
Leadership coach
Teacher
44 Married 2 boys
Passionate about • Personal development • Travelling • Hockey
Thomas Friisnæs
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High achievers
Talent-pools
Primadonna’s
Sports elite
Leaders elite
Primary strength is self confidence
Performance driven by self confidence
Highest wish: more performance
Self confidence is fragile
Self confidence is grounded in self esteem
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True drivers
WHY Burning platforms
Overview– priority – focus - decisiveness
Clear goals
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Exercise What have you achieved the past 5 years?
Looking back to April 11th. 2006 and till NOW
Top 3
Positive
Professional – personal
Write it down 4 minutes
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Self esteem Self confidence
What I do Your merits
Dine ”bilkort”
What I am
Position Education House Car Clothes Jewelry Watches Network
Results Fitness Friends Seminars Customers Gadgets Purses, bags Shoes Travels Restaurants
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American Psycho
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DOINGS Your merits
Dine ”bilkort”
BEINGS
Goal (surface) Underlying
Being in the performance Be yourself
Stay in your comfortzone Break your comfortzone (and develop)
External recognition Internal recognition
Pursue others dreams Defines own dreams Constantly towards new goals Present in the now
Always on the move Time for reflection Know best Knows that I can develop
Wants to correct the world Accepts that the world is perfect
Must be perfect Accepts that we do everything we can, with the resources we have
Self esteem Self confidence
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Self esteem
What I can do anything about – I do!
What I can not do anything about – I accept!
Without your own dreams, you accept to become a resource for others – those who have found and live their dreams
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Self esteem exercises - I • Accept your present situation (and move on) • Accept your past - your weaknesses – and focus on your strengths • Don’t be too serious, everyone can make a mistake • Love yourself – you’re unique • Praise yourself when you succeed • Visualize your success – rolemodelling • Set your goals – and reward yourself
• Don’t act to please others • Don’t judge others • Show courage • Break your comfort zone, play without limits • Enjoy your own company, love yourself • Admit that you’re vulnerable • Make your own personal mental contract
Self esteem exercises - II • Meet others with a smile, a firm handshake and look the into their eyes • Show gratitude and appreciation, when you’re recognized • Don’t brag • Don’t focus on probems and negativity in your conversations • See mistakes as a tool to improve and learn • Respon to pressure by increasing your activity level
• Focus on your qualities, take a strength test • Strengthen the faith in yourself • Say no – move from respect to self respect • Prioritize time to meditation • Practice your ability to accept • Take chances – it is OK to make mistakes • Practice your self pep-talk • Learn to recognize at be recognized (for what you are, not what you do) • Say it when you disagree • Show your feelings • Think positive thoughts
Exercise What do YOU dream about doing within the next 5 years?
From today and Untill April 11th 2016
Top 3
And WHY – what will it give you (finding the underlying reasons and true motivation)
Write it down 4 minutes
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DOINGS BEINGS
OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness
USE insight and consciouness/awareness
Self esteem Self confidence
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Exercise
What will YOU do TODAY to get one step closer to your goals?
Specific
Measurable
Attractive
Realistic
Timeframe
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More on motivation
Dan Pink – motivation in another perspektive ted.com – approx. 19 minutes
RSA Animate youtube.com – RSA Animate motivation 10 minute cartoon
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Build your self confidence on a basis of self esteem
Slingshot / boost your self confidence
Perform even more
Find insight
Become conscious
Use consciousness
Find the courage to break out of your comfort zone
Concluding
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