“You yourself, as much as anybody else as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and

attention.”-Prince Gautama Siddhartha

SELF-ESTEEM

strengths

I am a good listenerI have nice teethIm loyalIm friendlyIm kind

weaknesses

My nose is too bigI have a fat faceMy ears stick outIm too tallIm too short

10 STRENGTHS 10 WEAKNESSES

•Sense of belonging• Feeling close to those who provide you with

support.•Sense of purpose

• Recognizing you have value and importance as a person lets you set and reach goals.

•Positive outlook• Seeing the bright side of life reduces stress

and increases your chances of success.•Self-sufficiency

• Having the confidence to make responsible decisions promotes your sense of independence and self-assurance.

•Healthy self-esteem• Having healthy self-esteem helps you accept

and recover from difficulties and failures.

CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MENTAL/EMOTIONAL HEALTH

Your opinion of yourself. You believe setbacks are temporary. You have confidence to confront challenges and overcome them.

Having good self-esteem will also affect your overall attitude and the health choices you make

Beach ball

SELF-ESTEEM

Although how you esteem yourself may RISE and FALL…..

SELF ESTEEM

Self-worth is the inherent value that everyone is born with.

• We are all human beings, we all have worth.

• Everyone has the same amount of worth.

• Can’t be taken from you.

• You cannot lose your worth, but you can lose sight of your worth.

• We are all unique individuals with unique talents.

• We all have something to contribute and we all have faults

SELF WORTH

What you’re really worth never changes!!!

SELF WORTH

WHAT ARE REASONS OUR SELF ESTEEM MAY FALL

I am not what I think I am

I am not what you think I am

I am what I think you think I am

SELF ESTEEM

Self-Esteem is a combination of self-image, ideal self, and Pygmalion-self

Self Image: what we perceive ourselves to be Ideal-self: how we want to bePygmalion-self: our perception of what we believe

other people think of us.

I am not what I think I amI am not what you think I amI am what I think you think I am

SELF-ESTEEM

Self talk + others opinions = self

esteem

SELF ESTEEM IN A NUTSHELL

#1 ICEBERG

90% of mass lies beneath the water.

What lies beneath?

Dreams fears guiltshame hopes

Habits concerns insecuritiespersonality failures

accomplishments

Top 10% is what we want people to see could be inaccurate (labels, stereotypes, images

Social MirrorWhat others say about you

Based on comparisons to others

ExternalComes from the media

Where you are today

Your mistakes

True MirrorThe real youBased on personal best

InternalComes from conscience and self awareness

Your potential

MIRRORS

The Social MirrorHow others would describe me

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The True MirrorHow I would describe BEST myself

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MIRROR MIRROR ON THE WALL ACTIVITY

Social mirrorCompare yourself to the latest teen celebrity or boy/girl at school and hate the way you look, you don’t measure up

True mirrorBe comfortable with how you look and focus on your better features

GETTING READY FOR SCHOOL MOMENT

Remember how many times others have teased you about your shyness

Remember the times you were outgoing and friendly

FEELING INSECURE MOMENT

Social MirrorThink about how much more talented everyone else is

True MirrorFocus on your strengths and the price you’ve paid to be prepared

COURAGE MOMENT

The social mirror is unrealistic. Media sells us that looks are everything. Others opinions

The social mirror is always changing. “Who are you” said the caterpillar. Alice replied, rather

shyly, “I hardly know, Sir, just at present ---- at least I know who I was when I got up this morning but I think I must have changed several times since then.” Alice in Wonderland

The social mirror isn’t accurate. You are so much more than the opinions of others!

CRACKS IN THE SOCIAL MIRROR

The encouragement or criticism you give yourself

The Law of Positive Self-Talk states: “You can change who you are by changing what you say when you talk to your mind.”

The way you currently think is a collection of mental habits you have practiced all of your life. A LOT were picked up from other people and may not even be accurate.

Story of girl on swings (two sisters)

#2 SELF TALK

Reading assignments

IMPORTANCE OF SELF TALK AND THE BRAIN/BOD

We are not good enoughNot thin enoughNot smart enoughNot nice enoughNot rich enoughNot handsome enoughNot beautiful enough

The list can go on and on……………………HOW DO WE REPLACE IT???

NEGATIVE SELF TALK

AFFIRMATION

Good FriendsFocus on the positive aspects about yourselfSupportive self-talk….AFFIRMATIONSWork toward accomplishments rather than perfectionMistakes are learning opportunitiesTry new activitiesSet goalsExercise regularlyVolunteerAccept that which you can not change.

WAYS TO IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM

True Mirror/Social Mirror Activity

MASLOW'S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS

We are motivated by our needs.